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Well, let me start off by saying me and my best friend camaran have been best friends forever. Well, over the years her mother, Tara, has been having some prblems. She is overweight, smokes, and drinks. Well, about a month ago she got into a car accident from "Drinking Under the Influence". The police scheduled her to have a court day yesterday. But with her illness symptoms, she couldn't make it show she wrote a letter to the judge. Obviously they didn't care and had her arrested for not going to court. She was in jail all last night, but was let out this afternoon. Now they're rescheduling her court date sometime in January. After court she is going to be arrested and go to jail for "Drinking Under the Influence" and causing harm to another person. (she hit the other car when she was drunk and the person who she hit had to go to the hospital) (link)
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well...thats a pretty tough thing to live with. she is probably just insecure with it right now that her mom did that and doesn't really want to talk about it. just see what happens and if she talks to you about it, then talk to her, and tell her, but don't put pressure on her right now cause i'm sure she is under a lot already
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(btw, we're 15, hes almost 16)ok well my bf and i have been going out for 14 months and recently his mom went to arazona to live and he moved in with his dad. lets call him..."Bob". ok so bob's dad doesnt like me very much. and we've had a long-distance relationship pretty much. and i never really got to see bob. well now his dad says that we're getting too serious and now he can only sleep over for one night ever OTHER weekend. like this wasnt hard enough. now i'll bairly get to see him. i used to cut too and bob is the only reason i stopped. now if his dad takes him away from me...i wont be able to handle things much anymore and i'll start doing it again. i really dont want to. but its just to much. so bob's dad is going to call my parents and talk about it (my parents were together since they were 15&16) but bob's dad is really stubborn. i dont know what to do. i really love "bob" and we really want to be together. i really dont want to lose him...but i dont know what to do... (link)
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you just wrote me back...don't worry. i'm telling you that i'm 100% sure that things will work out. don't cut yourself over a guy that you've been dating for as long as you have. a lot of people kill themselves every year just because of a relationship not working out. there is a reason why this is happening. just turn back! good luck
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omg :( my mom just died 3 hours ago and i'm a reck! i just dont kno what to do! has ne1's parents died? i'm 14/f and i do have a column here and mostr people hate me but its -- P4TH3T1Cx1426 -- and please help! even if yu hate me! i just dont kno what to doo! (link)
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everything is going to be ok. don't worry your mom is in a better place now. i havent had parents who have died, but i have had really close friends and relatives that have. everything will be ok just don't get to down about it and do what you think your mom would want you to do. life is not all what it seems.
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my cat is verry wild. she never comes when she is called .she always gets hurt and im scared shell get killed out in the woods behind my house.what should i do to keep her safe?
thanks, sk8r gurl 12 (link)
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she is a wild cat. you can't tame her. don't worry about her. she has instincts that tell her what to do if she does get into a hairy situation
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im a 15/f .. over thanksgiving i did some stuff with my boyfriend. i told one of my really good friends and she is really mad at me now. its not like i had sex with him or anything, and i was ready for what i did. i dont want to have sex w. him either because i want to save that for marriage. and ive told her that many times. but she is still pissed at my actions and doesnt trust me. what can i do to make her see that im not ganna go further then what i feel im ready for, and so that she is not mad at me anymore? (link)
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tell her that she needs to trust you and that you did it cause you were ready. if she doesn't accept that then tell her that everybody makes mistakes and if she still doesn't take that then just point out a few mistakes that she has done. don't over do it now.
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So, i've been thinking about but not really knowing if... I mean it's not that I want to commit suicide... I guess i'm just depressed and no I don't want to go on medication cause it's not like my brain is screwed up... it's just that I dunno I feel ugly I feel bad and whenever I tell anyone it doesn't seem to be relevant to them... and yes I know by posting this there will be people (stupid) saying that "YA U SHOULD U WORTHLESS PEICE OF ****" and I really don't care cause I probably should... I know that you guys probably don't care whether I live or not cause I mean it'll just mean one less mouth to feed and one more room to fill...
Basically the reason why I am depressed is that cause I'm gay and i've told people but not everyone... and I just want to have someone to be able to love me back and someone to be able to cuddle with on winter's cold... I've tried online chatting (no not AIM) but actual sites that are serious and no respons... I guess it's cause I'm ugly... but I just feel... *sigh* (link)
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don't feel depressed. i don't think that you are a worthless piece of ****. so what if you gay. there are plenty of people out there who are gay. i have gay friends that get along with life each and everyday just as if they were straight. the only thing is, is that you just have a differnt life style that people just don't feel comfortable with. but as long as you feel comfortable with your lifestyle then who cares what people think. and dont' put yourself down about your looks. i'm sure that you were wonderfully made and you were made to also fulfill a perpose in life. don't put yourself down. everyone has something to say about themselves, but someone out there likes you just the way you are
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um hey one of my friends is having a party at this place where our friends go for dances. i love going there, but (the dances are held twice a month) i have no beat and no rythem and usually i dont dance because im afraid people will laugh at my poor skills. i also dont know what to wear. im pretty much broke and my mom is pretty srict about what i wear. if anyone could help me. that would be great! thanx! (link)
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ok well just go and have fun. dont be afraid if people laugh at you...just tell them at least i'm out there having fun. dont' not just go also because of your clothes. just wear something that you wear to school or something kinda nice, but not to dressed up. like a pair of jeans and a nice shirt. it will make your night worthwhile, and i'm sure that nobody will laugh at you, and if they do just laugh with them...and say yep thats right i have no rhythem but o well. hope you have fun!
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Ok...well there is this boy that I love a lot. We aren't dating at the moment but we were before. The only reason we broke up is because we didn't talk a lot and that was about a year ago...now we talk every day on the phone way more than once and we talk in school. He always goes Mahryah...I love you...but I don't know if I believe him and I tell him that. He says well then why else would I say I loved you if I really didn't. I always want to say well if you really like me then why don't you want to go out with me, I think that if he wanted to he would have asked by now. He always talks about us doing stuff together but he has never really like 'forced' me into it. I would be willing...only if we were going out though. I don't know what to say next time I talk to him and he says that. I mean I say it back but I mean it and he says he does but I'm not sure. Do you think he would just be saying this to get something from me...?? Anyone have any ideas? Thanks so much! Love..Ryah (link)
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well...he could mean it. nobody likes to hear something that isn't true. and if you really mean it and if he really means it just give it time. don't do anything that you don't want to do unwillingly. and always use protection. but if your afraid that he is just saying that just to get with you then your best luck is not to do it
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Is it possible to change certain characteristics that you don't like about yourself? Recently there have been things that I've done that I normally wouldn't do that have made me and my bf get into fights. They're little fights, and we always end up resolving them, but in the end I feel like a complete idiot for making such a big deal out of certain things. I want to change the way I react to things, and the way I think about certain things. Do you think that's possible?? Any suggestions? (link)
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yes it is very possible. lets say that you are hanging out with the wrong crowd of people...that can be something that changes how you act that makes your friends or friend get mad at you. don't change yourself to be cool cause then you'll just look like you said you feel "stupid". its never fun. just be yourself and have fun
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Hi,
I don't know where to begin. At the moment I am in a state of flux, I seem to be either terribly depressed and generally fed up, or just downright angry. I've been with my partner for approx 8.5years, and like most we've had our ups and downs. He's a good deal older than me, however i've never saw that as an issue, apart from when his kids have tried to split us up. All his kids are now over 16, however he has one adult son, who's now 30, who for want of a better phrase is just a bad lot. He is periodically in and out of jail and until a few months ago, his father had little if no contact with him. However his girlfriend has just had a baby and it's all changed, again i seem to have been pushed aside and I resent it like hell, particularly when the baby has now been taken into care and the son has been proven to be up to his old tricks again. I can't cope with this, I just feel so unloved and miserable and constantly seem to be picking fights with my partner. It's stressing him out, it's stressing me out and I think I'm turning into an alcoholic to boot. I hate him (the son), it's irrational and nasty but i can't help it. He tried to split us up years ago and I just can't understand why his father can't see through him and understand how I feel. I try to tell him but just end up losing the plot, going off on one and then berate him (my partner) for even breathing. I think if he would just take me away for a few days and just get us out of this enviroment it might help, but it's like talking to a brick wall trying to get through to him. We don't even get 5mins alone at home as his 16 year old has moved in after getting into bother whilst living with his mum. I'm just sick of it all and realise I'm pushing my partner away but don't know what to do to stop myself from doing it. we've just had a noher fight and I've said some terrible things and to be honest I think this might actually be the last straw for him.
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don't give up, only a couple of more years and his son will be out of the house. i think that he really does love you, but its hard right now when his kids are acting up. don't get depressed. just go out and see your friends and family a couple of times a week. just don't pay any mind to him or his kids and see what happens. he will want to come back to you and ask you why you acting this way and when he does just say "o you actually noticed?" and then talk to him about it. dont' lose hope in him. don't turn to things that can also ruin your life and your relationship with him. you can learn how to do so many things. like sewing and new receipes. i hope ya'll relationship gets better!
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Ok im a 14 year old teenage girl. Im so in love w. this kid that ive known for 3 years. We've been together off and on for the past 2 years, but hes put me through so much pain . But now the only time he talks to me is when he doesn't have a girlfriend or there arguing. A weekend before thanksgiving (when him nd his girlfriend had been broken up for 2 months) he told me he loved me nd he was sorry for all the pain he had put me through and he told me i was the only one he wanted to be with. He said he was glad he had someone that loved him nd always stuck by his side whenever he needed someone. We hung out for 2 weeks, talked all the time on the phone, told each other we loved each other ( which really i thought we did, i mean i really do love him) but then he stopped calling, and when i saw him he acted like nothing happened. Now we got into the biggest arguement nd he's back together w. his girlfriend. I love this kid so much - i would do anything for him nd he knows that. He knows he's the only thing on my mind 24/7. What should i do, should i give it time nd just let things work themselves out or should i just move on?? Please help !!! (link)
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ok well a lot of guys do tell s all this stuff like "i love you" and just everything like that. don't fall for it. don't tell a guy how you feel about them because it will scare them away. its like hunting...guys always want to go after the prey...to guys we are like the prey. don't tell a guy how you feel. if you really think your in love with him...let him follow you. don't just try to do everything you can to get with him cause then it will lead to unless if it has already come that far. just act like it doesn't bother you and see what happens next! good luck
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