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Hey. Pretty much all you need to know is that I love giving advice. And no question is too out there, as long as it is serious. So ask away! =]
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I need advice on this guy that I like... The problem is that my other friends all like him and he basically flirts with every girl he meets. So what should I do? Forget about him? Still like him? Or ask him out? Or.. something else...?
Okay i have been through this before. Consider this: Are you a sensitive person?
If you were to date him and he were to be one of those guys who breaks up with you after a few weeks( which he kinna sounds like to me) would you be heartbroken or not? It's important to think about this when it comes to guys like these.
And are you looking for a fun fling or a serious relationship? If your looking for a relationship i would look into this boy more. How many girls has he dated? Do his relationships tend to last long?
There always is a chance that even if he is one of those guys who can hardly hold onto one girl, you can be the girl who makes him realize he wants something more than that. And if you really have feelings for him you could try asking him out and take that chance. Just know boys can let you down. Then again, maybe he wont =)
hope i helped
i really want to do something different to my hair beside straightening it EVERYDAY!
but i was wondering if anyone knows how mary kate and ashley olsen get there hair to do this
http://pub.tv2.no/multimedia/slideshow/88561/7.jpg
help?!
okay well the person before me mentioned scrunching. which is alwayss a great thing.
and what i do.. if scrunching doesnt give much of a result, is scruch it at night and then sleep on it. it may look really frizzy and/or messy in the morning but dont worry! just put your hair up and bring it down, layer at a time. use, ohh 3-5 layers depending on the thickness of your hair. take a curling iron and curl each layer. use a large curling iron for loose curls. and a small one for tighter curls. i hope this works!
ok so i want my butt and was wondering if exercising that area will make it bigger? and if so are there any exercises that i can do at home that dont make it obvious that im flexing my butt.
http://exercise.about.com/cs/exerciseworkouts/tp/butt.htm
this is a website that lists 10 great exercises for that area.
and i'm not sure that excercising this area will make it bigger, but more muscular and fit, which is a great thing and i'm sure looks attractive to men and women alike. some people just naturally have a lot of fat in that area which makes it large. but i think muscle looks a lot more attractive than fat.
hope this helped
um yeah this may sound stupid but here it goes... um me and my gf (im 14/m) were woundering is it safe to eat lube that is flavoured like not to just like eat it bottle after bottle but like rub it on her vagina or my penis and lick/ suck it off? any ansers will help thanx!!!!
Well if it's flavored, then you can assume it's safe to taste. Manufacturers most likely wouldn't make a toxic flavored product. With any other types of lube tho.. i'd read the bottle. hope i helped.
I like this guy who likes me back. Only problem is, he has a girlfriend. He cheated on her with me, and we were hooking up for a couple weeks. Then we talked about it all and he said "im confused, because i mean i love my girlfriend but then i see you, and i like you too. i dont think we should hook up until i know whats going on with her." so i left it at that. i was really upset for the next few days. we still talk, and i saw him the other night and he was standing behind me with his arms around me. little things he does makes me know he cares. but i dont know what to make of it. he tells me he misses me, and he was sad today when he said that he doesnt think i still like him because i dont call him or IM him all the time. i told him i dont want to be a pain. i miss him so much, and i know he misses me. but whats the deal..? sorry this is so long
Okay. First of all, you should tell this boy that he needs to end it with his girlfriend if he even wants to consider being with you. Obviously he doesn't love her if he has these feelings for you.
You should let yourself be off limits as anything more than a friend to him until he ends it with her...
or else:
a)hes gonna think its okay to continue cheating like he is now, which isn't good for you or his girlfriend
b)there is a chance you'd get caught with him and it could get out to his girlfriend and you never want to be known as "the girl who my boyfriend cheated on me with".
Hopefully he will understand where you're coming from and find a way to break it off with this girl.
I would take into consideration, however, the fact that he is cheating in the first place. Think about it. If he did it to her, isn't it just as likely that he could do it to you as well? Just think about it.
I hope i helped!
what are some good, cheesy, songs to lipsync to, for a 16 year old girl? (something like Britney Spears, Spice Girls, or Christina Aguilera)
okay okay okayy
Crush by Mandy Moore
If you wanna be my lover by Spice Girls
Genie in a bottle by Christina Aguilera
Lucky by Britney Spears
i think these are all fun ones haha hope it helped somewhat
If people say making out is not something that should be done in public, where is a good place to do it?
I'm still young, and I don't think my mother would like it if I went up to my bedroom with my boyfriend and just closed the door. =/
help?
ohh there are so many places. i personally hateee PDA. and i get by somehow.
your basement
his basement (just be alert for parents and
siblings)
the movies (sit in the back and try not to be too
loud. or see a movie a long time after
it comes out so there will be none or
a very little amount of people in the
theatre. you can always sit there a
little longer than the movie lasts)
a neighborhood park at night time (at a legal time)
in your/his backyard at night time (can be soo
romantic in the summertime)
hope that helped somewhat!
Im sorta a shy person when it comes to doing sexual things w/my boyfriend..like i wont make the first move because i dont want to look stupid. Right now we do nothing more than make out in just our underwear. i want to do more but i dont know what to do, how to start, or even when to do it. im not talking about sex because we are not ready for that but just other things.
like the person before me said, hands are essential.
pay attention to where he's putting his hands. and if he tends to be moving them around a lot, its a sure sign that he probably wants to put them somewhere. i mean come on. hes a teenage guy. so dont worry about looking stupid.
try grabbing his hand and placing it where you want it to go. for example, try sliding it up to your chest. if you don't want to be too forward then just slide it up right before it hits your chest and then let go and see if he gets the hint. if not, just put his hand right on there. try doing this while in the straddle make out position. guys tend to like this.
this way, if he knows that your interested in more than just making out, he may try to make the moves from now on. hope i helped!
my boyfriend and i were together for 6 months and i liked him for a year(it took us a while to go actually become a couple) well, i broke up with him a month ago because we fought too muchand when we first broke up i thought i should go out and have fun and flirt so i kissed two other guys and when i did i kept thinking about him and how much better of a kisser he was, how much nicer he was, etc..and ever since then its been off and on missing him insanely..to not wanting to talk to him(thats only when he wants to talk about stuff about him missing me and stuff though)to feeling like i absolutely love him..weve hung out since we broke up and on impulse i ran up and hugged and kissed him and felt SO HAPPY and i still find myself wanting to be with him..and other guys just dont seem to compare to him and i still always wanna call him when im sad and need someone..but sometimes i dont even think about him much and after the breakup i wasnt even that devastated..just felt empty..is this love or something im mistaking for love? im sorry its long haha i go into detail too much i gotta fix that i suppose
i really feel that love is this:
you think about this person all the time, and are content with just thinking about them, rather than feeling the need to always be with them.
you don't even have to ask yourself if you love this person. you know.
if someone asks you if you love this person, you don't even have to consider it. its always yes.
i suppose it shouldnt be complicated. you shouldn't have to consider many things. you should just know. and i really think that's love.
My friend has a cut on her face. I asked her how she got it, but she refused to tell me. I asked her a few more times after that but gave up because she said she couldn't say.
What I am scared is that she's cutting herself, or that her parents are abusive. I can't think of anything other than that, that would be so bad you wouldn't want to tell anyone (or be allowed to). I first thought it was her cat that scratched her but I think she would have told me.
OR.. maybe its really nothing bad and she's just looking for attention. But aside from all of that--what should I do? I am really worried about her and wish I knew why and how she got the cut. (Its a scrape, on her face)
Well i'm not quite sure on the abusive parents subject.. but i doubt she is cutting herself.
usually when people do this, for real or for attention, it would be in a more common place like wrists, or even neck. but not face. i suppose it could be possible that she is doing it for attention but if its on her face then she must be very naiive on the subject.
i would really try sitting her down and talking to her. tell her that you really care about her and that you deserve to know what is going on. if this doesn't work after several attemps, consider seeing a counselor about it. i hope this helps.
is it possible to make out w/ out french kissing?
i suppose when most people think of making out, they think of french kissing. making out is pretty much just open mouth kissing which i'd imagine would get quite boring after a while. usually this leads to french kissing which to most people, is a lot more interesting. so i suppose you can make out with out actually frenching, but most of the time it turns into it.
Okay. so i wash my hair at night. i wake up, straighten it, and put this thermasilk leave in straightenin cream. but lately my hair has been just so flat and peicey? are there any products i can put in my hair before i blowdry or before i straighten, or even after i straighten?
i think if i put anything in before i blowdry then i just sleep on it, and when i wake up, it doesnt help any.
so pleasseee just give me a routine that i could follow!
thanks!
well i have been using this stuff lately that makes my hair so smooth and shiny and nice. but i have thick hair so im not positive that it'd work the same on someone with thin hair. The brand is Aussi and its called "3 minute miracle". you use it as a conditioner in the shower and don't rinse it out for 1-3 minutes.
There is also a product called Biosilk that is heat responsive that you put in your hair before you dry it. This also makes it smooth.
As for products that will make your hair not as flat, i know i've seen commercials for shampoos and conditioners that are for special types of hair. I know Herbal Essences has a special line. Try that!
hope i helped
K. Where to start? Well, I had known my ex-boyfriend for about 3 weeks before he asked me out. We went out for 2 weeks, and even though he was a shy and inexperienced boyfriend, I was completely happy with him. Anyways, he ended up breaking up with me after his friends had been pressuring him to do it. He also found out he would be moving a city away and felt that he couldn't handle a long-distance relationship.
Anyways, instantly after he broke up with me, he got really jealous. He would see me hanging out with other guys, and he would get so jealous that he'd make up stories of hooking up with girls to get back at me. In fact, he avoided me completely for awhile. Then, this past weekend, I ran into him and we ended up talking for hours. He got really flirty and for the past few days has been talking to me a lot and acting like he did when we were going out.
I still like him ... but I don't want to get hurt again. I was just wondering if anybody thought they could decipher his intentions, and if so -- if I should consider taking him back or not.
Hmm. It sounds like this guy has trouble thinking for himself. It seems to me that he probably really liked you and never intended to break up with you, but because his friends pressured him into it, he went for it. He obviously still likes you and probably never stopped from what you said. The pressure of his friends and the distance probably all built up and put him in freak out mode.. causing him to break it off.
I really think you should try talking to him about it. And if you're not comfortable mentioning this in person, then try it online. You can usually get a lot more out of people that way. Ask him way he even broke up with you in the first place. I personally would tell him that i would consider taking him back if he learned to think for himself, rather than doing what his friends told him to do. But that's just me. You can choose to be more subtle.
It doesn't seem to me that he has any wrong intentions, especially considering the fact that he isn't very experienced. Just talk to him. You can get advice from 1000 people but in the end its what he says that matters, as long as its truthful.
Hope i helped!
ok.. the kid i'm hooking up with makes no sense.. everytime he calls me i can't pick up the phone cuz i happen to be busy. so he'll leave a message ranting about how i never pick up and yet he never picks up when i call him..
and also i have a stalker so my hook up agreed to help me get my stalker away so everytime i text my hook up i'll say "help me" and he just types back.. "ok"... and does nothing. yet whenever i see him he is soo friendly.. but when we're communicatinig through texts or email.. he only types one word.. i'm lucky if i get a sentence once in awhile. i don't know what to do.. i don't know what to say and i don't know what he wants.. what should i do? HELP ME!
okay i see 2 possibilities for this boy.
either he's just a jerk, like the other girl said, or hes just a normal, confusing boy.
ill notice a lot of the time when im with a guy in person he'll be so sweet and absolutely perfect. but when im talking with him on aim or through texts, like you said, he uses one word answers. he may just be trying to act cool and hard to get. even though to us he just seems to be acting jerkish. boys are stupid that way. find a subtle way to tell him that you wished he talked to you more through e-mails and texts. and be nice about it.
and maybe this guy isnt the best person to help you get this stalker away. this sounds like more of a best friends job or something. im sure u and a friend could have fun with that. a lot of times when a guy who likes you is involved in a situation that includes another guy who likes you, he gets uncomfortable. deff work this out with just a friend, girl or boy. but JUST a friend.
and about the calling thing, if you call him and he doesnt answer, then try to say nicely in a message or whatever that you would like him to call you back because you want to talk to him. dont rant on like he does. this way he'll know that you want to talk to him. and maybe he'll realize that he was being a bit of a jerk.
i hope i helped, good luck!
I had no idea what kind of category to put this under but here goes my question...
ok now,
I watch porn videos at night to get me horny but I see a lot of girls and I think they're hot. 13/f by the way, and whenever i see like a pretty girl or something ill be like "whoa theyre hot" in my head. but then during the day when i see a lot of guys im like "omg hes so hot." or "whoa hes gorgeous" am i bi? am i lesbian? am i straight? is this normal?
hm this is a toughie. a lot of straight girls throughout their lives can look at other girls and think that they are attractive. but ask yourself this: would you want to have a relationship with one and can you see yourself having sexual interaction with these girls?
if you see yourself answering yes to these questions then it could be a possibility. but your still young and have a long time to figure out your sexuality.
hope that helped!
i just had sex with my boyfriend for the first time last night. now im bleeding. is that normal? and how long will it last?
hmm well i dont know too much about this so im not gonna try and play doctor. but i do know that its normal to bleed right after, or during sex for the first time because your hymen has been torn. however, im not sure if it is normal to bleed the next day. like the last person said, are you sure you're not just getting your period?
hope that helped somewhat.
14/f
I really want to get in shape. I'm not fat or anything, I'm actually a size 0, and only 88 pounds. But I have alot of body issues. I never feel thin enough and I hate wearing tight clothes, because when I was younger, I used to be a little chubby. I've heard that if you have been on the overweight side once, that you always feel like you're overweight, even when you're not. Well here's my problem, food totally dominates my life. I can't go more than an hour without thinking about it. And sometimes when I'm alone, I totally binge, and eat ever single thing in sight. Or sometimes I will eat one cookie, and I flip out on myself. So I think to myself, "Well I ate one cookie, why not just eat the whole bag?" So I give in and end up eating alot. Then later I beat myself up [emotionally] for it.
People tell me that I should eat and not worry, but I can't. This has got to stop. I eat like a million things within an hour. I think I'm an emotional eater, because I've been really stressed lately. Does anyone have any advice on how to control my emotional eating? (Please don't say "work out" because I already do, about an hour a day.)
okay well i feel a need to answer this question because you sound a lot like me. i used to be on the chubby side as well. and now, even though im not overweight, i look at myself at times and feel like i am. everyone says im crazy for thinking it. but its hard for me to believe them.
it seems like the problem your having is that you hardly eat and then binge at random moments. this is probably one of the worst things you can do. i actually used to have this problem and thats why i used to be chubby.
here are some tips that i have used to turn my eating habits, and life around:
dont eat much when you come home from school.
if you have anything nutritious, this would be perfect. an apple, apple sauce, or even a cheese stick or something like that. its important not to eat much at this time because then when you eat dinner youll be hungry for it and will get the proper nutrients that you need. this way, you wont have to eat anything right before you go to bed (which is the worst time to eat stuff).
i also do 50-100 crunches every night. it sounds like a lot but its really not. and trust me it will tone your stomach like you wont believe!
finally, make sure that you eat somewhat of a breakfast. even just a breakfast bar or something, because this speeds up your metabolism allowing your calories to burn faster the rest of the day.
and remember: its OKAY to eat a few cookies! as long as you dont eat a bunch everyday and get the proper amount of exercise like you said you do.
i know thats a lot of info. goood luck and i hope i helped!
please try these things!
y am i attracted to pretty much every guy? i check out almost all of them even ones i dont even think are cute. and i cant stop liking other guys. i've been with my bf for 10 months and i love him soooo much, but y cant i stop liking other guys? i dont want to i want to be like fully commited to one guy or whatever. y cant i? and hes saying next time i do that he'll leave me. i cant blame him though because ive liked like 9 other guys while ive been with him. the reason i think i do is because my parents have always told me its ok to like other people. but that cant happen i love him too much. how can i stoppp?
this all goes with the saying "you always want what you can't have". since your with someone itd make sense that you look at other guys and are attracted to them. its a weird thing. but its the way we work sometimes. when we've been with the same person for a long time (and 10 months is deff a long time) we start to look at other options around us. even though we may love the person were with. id be lying if i said guys didnt do the same. its just your hormones.
just think about how much your boyfriend means to you. and why it is that you've been with him for as long as you have. obviously hes important to you and its only fair that you try and see past the other guys and focus on the great guy right in front of you. many times we dont realize how lucky we are to have such special people in our lives, and once they are gone, they're gone. so keep in mind why you love him so much and how ud feel if he was out of your life.
hope i helped!
so i pretty much just have some questions; any help would be awesome. is second base supposed to feel good for the girl? if i'm moving my hands around and go "down there" but don't want to do anything more then just touch and kiss, will he get the wrong idea? should i stay away from there altogether until i want to go farthur? is it better to unhook your bra or go over, and if he can't do it should i?
thanks for the help, i now its alot of questions!
Okay. All girls are different. Some think it feels good and some don't. A lot of the time the guy tries to fit more fingers in than he should. If he tries this just make a slight noise like your in pain. A quick "ow" should give him the hint.
The second question is harder. Different guys will interpret this in different ways. If he makes a motion to unbutton his pants or tries to get you to, and your not ready, then just move your hand away to his head or something and keep kissing him.
im not sure what you mean in the last question by "go over". so if u want me to answer that please explain what you mean to me and ill be happy to respond.
hope i helped!
My boyfriend got me a neclace for Christmas. I got him a neclace for Christmas too. He told me on the phone he got me a Teddy bear for Valentines Day. I HAVE NO CLUE WHAT TO GET HIM!!! he has a new watch and I cant just get him another neclace! Guys or girls, what do the guys want? what can I get him for Valentines day?
i think its always appreciated when you give someone a gift that took time and effort for you.
rather than just handing him a necklace, you could make him a blanket. i know a lot of my friends have done this and the guys have lovedd it! everyone loves a warm blanket. you could just go to a store that has fabric and get his favorite sports print or favorite color. it's easy too. you dont have to know how to sew or anything. and you could make it as big or small as youd like, depending on your budget.
http://www.justmommies.com/articles/no-sew-blanket.shtml
basically you just take 2 pieces of fabric and tie the ends together in a bunch of knots. easyy!
itll end up looking like this
http://poseableplace.com/temppics/ebay/B20395.jpg
you could even use this fabric to cover a pillow or something. whichever you choose, itd be a great, personal gift and he will appreciate the fact that you took time and effort to make it!