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scared and worried for my friend
My friend has a cut on her face. I asked her how she got it, but she refused to tell me. I asked her a few more times after that but gave up because she said she couldn't say.
What I am scared is that she's cutting herself, or that her parents are abusive. I can't think of anything other than that, that would be so bad you wouldn't want to tell anyone (or be allowed to). I first thought it was her cat that scratched her but I think she would have told me.
OR.. maybe its really nothing bad and she's just looking for attention. But aside from all of that--what should I do? I am really worried about her and wish I knew why and how she got the cut. (Its a scrape, on her face)
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If she was cutting herself, she wouldn't be cutting her face, she would be cutting her wrists, arms, legs, and chest.
If her parents were abusing her, they wouldn't do it in such an obvious place like her face, they would be more secretive about it.
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Its so nice that you care about your friends. It is possible her parents are abusing her. But, the only thing is try not to get so involved. Try to get some more information out of her. Call her and see if her parents call her and you hear something unusual just listen for little things like that...if that doesnt help im really not to sure of what else you can do!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
AliciA
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It wouldn't be her cutting herself, that's for almost sure.
I used to cut myself-- but I did it on my arms and thighs. Cutting your face is not only really noticeable, it's odvious that's what it is.
When you cut, it's usually [NOT always, though] a straight line, from left to right and it's deeper than a scrape. Scrapes don't break the skin, cutting does.
It sounds like something her cat could've done. If you've noticed something like that before I'd be more concerned about it. The next time you stay at her house, observe the way her parents act around her.
Are they agressive sounding or anything of that sort? That might give some kind of clue.
If you see it getting worse or her getting more of them, tell someone you trust [your mom, your teacher, school nurse, older sibling, anybody you know you can talk to.]
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I think this is probably one of the hardest things a person has to do in their lifetime. A friend is like a dear relative. They're there for you to lean on when you can't hold yourself up anymore. I know you don't want to lose your friend, so at some point in time, you'll have to tell someone. If you don't do anything, nothing will change. Try some of these things:
1. Try talking to her again. Remind her that she's important to you. Tell her you're not trying to hurt her--you're trying to HELP her. If that doesn't work...
2. If you seriously believe her parents are the ones harming her, tell someone right away. I think you shouldn't quickly go to the authorities, but do tell someone.
3. If she is cutting herself or trying to get attention...once again, tell someone. There may be some online or over the phone help services too.
I hope I helped in some way. I wish you the best of luck, I know you'll do fine.
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Well i'm not quite sure on the abusive parents subject.. but i doubt she is cutting herself.
usually when people do this, for real or for attention, it would be in a more common place like wrists, or even neck. but not face. i suppose it could be possible that she is doing it for attention but if its on her face then she must be very naiive on the subject.
i would really try sitting her down and talking to her. tell her that you really care about her and that you deserve to know what is going on. if this doesn't work after several attemps, consider seeing a counselor about it. i hope this helps.
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well if her cat would have done it i think she would have told u it could be to get attention though because i had a friend and one day he came to school and he had cut up his whole arm and he lied to me and said that the knife slipped but i was later told that he was cutting himself and he just needed someone to talk to and be there for him so she might just need you to be there for her. what type of people are her parents do you think that they would abuse their child? Is she the only child?
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You could either ask her and if she does tell you MAKE SURE TO TELL SOMEONE. if she is suicidal you NEED to tell someone because if you dont your friend could actually do it and she would be gone forever. she might be seeking for attention if that the case tell her that its a serious deal, and you shouldnt be worrying me by just trying to get attention. thats what i would do. but if she doesnt tell you then thats her problem, because you cant make her tell you.
i hope i helped
--natalie.
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