I have a lot of life experience - good and bad. I've chosen to learn from them and use them to help others. I believe we are the products of genetics, environment and choices. It's up to us to make the best of it. In helping others, we help ourselves.
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Location: Florida
Occupation: business owner
Age: 42
Member Since: December 2, 2008
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Last Update: October 18, 2009
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Ok i have Vocal Tourettes so i make noises, and have hiccups 24/7, I hate it, ppl look at me all the time and sometimes laugh. How do i deal with it?? its hard sometimes (link)
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It's important for people with Tourettes to have an environment that is supportive and flexible. Those with TS frequently, especially kids, have problems because they are teased by peers and misunderstood by others. It's important to educate friends, students, the teachers, and others in contact with you about the disorder. When people don't understand something they fear it. Unfortunately, some people deal with fear by being mean. The more people know about your condition the less likely they are to act the way they do. You might even find that through understanding friendships may develope. There will always be someone who doesn't get it. That's just life. Just remember that no one is perfect and everyone has something that they have to deal with. We just don't always see it as easily. There's a great book titled "Tic Talk, Living with Tourette Syndrome", written by Dylan Peters. It talks about tolerance and acceptance and may help you by giving you a point of view from another person with TS.
Good luck!
L.C.
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Ok, so first of all...I have this really comfy awesome sweatshirt that was red, oversize, had SANFRANSICO on it, and had the golden gate bridge on it. But I lost it. I really loved that sweatshirt. Im about to cry sorry. Does anyone know where I could get a red San fransisco sweat shirt with the golden gate bridge on it or anything remotly close to that? Any help is very greatly appreciated! (link)
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No receipt, either? What a bummer. There is an online store - www.cafepress.com. They have a lot of shirts with SF logos and GG bridge pics. Hope you can find something you like!
Good luck!
L.C.
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Is there away to retake my driver license photo? (I live in New York). And are there any like fee's or anything like that? (link)
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Unfortunately, unless lose your license, you can't just go for a new photo. You can renew a driver license no more than one year before the expiration date, or no more than two years after the expiration date. The expiration date of your driver license is your date of birth. If you fall under either of these two conditions, in order to update the photo, you have to apply at the DMV in person. There might be a small charge. Probably no more than $20.00. If you just want a new photo you'll have to wait til one of the two happen. Check here http://www.nydmv.state.ny.us/index.htm for more information.
Good luck!
L.C.
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ok what is thirteen reasons on the-n??????????? (link)
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The only thing I can imagine is Thirteen Reasons, the group, has a link for the sale of their new cd on The-N's website.
Hope that helps!
L.C.
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14/f
i really like this guy. lets call him j.
j is in one of my classes.
i really like him, we used to be partners but now we aren't. its hard to go up and talk to him. i dont know if he has a gf or not but i really want to know. he stares at me a lot. i mean a lot. does this mean that he likes me?
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The only way to know is to ask. Try just saying "hi J. How's it going?" one day and see how he reacts. Maybe he's afraid to talk to you, too.
Good luck!
L.C.
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Wednesday night, I had the stomach virus and started throwing up at 9:00 so I missed class Thursday and Friday. I'm now doing better but I have these stomach cramps and still a little bit of nausea. Do you think that's normal? (link)
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Were you still vomiting Thurs and Fri? Two days of that and you're going to have stomach cramps. If you stopped vomiting, but still feel a little bit nauseous, sounds like you're getting better. If you have no improvement in a couple of days you should see a doctor to eliminate any other possible causes. In the meantime you can ask a pharmacist about over the counter remedies. Also, ginger ale and crackers, chicken soup, lots of liquids. All helpful home remedies.
I hope you feel better soon! :(
Good luck!
L.C.
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Can some make list for me foods that don't have eggs in it.. becouse i have food allagies with eggs. I been having chess pain off and on and headaches alot last couple years. i relzie maybe not just my sinus or other things been making me sick. i was thinking sometimes i eat alot something have alot eggs i get bad headace or chess pain. so anybody knows any thing i know fuit and stuff like that. but just few things anybody give me ideas. :) thanks. boy i really hate it becouse i love oreos and noddles but now i know i probly give them up if i want to feel good.. (link)
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Have you had an allergy test? If you haven't, how can you be sure you're allergic to eggs? Maybe it's gluten or something else. I suggest you make a week long diary of everything you eat and how you react immediately and within a 24 hour period. Show this to your family doctor. After some tests you may be able to pinpoint what bothers you and you may not have to radically change your eating habits. FYI - gluten allergies are sometimes related to breathing problems - hence chest pain. It's best to see your doctor and be safe.
Good luck!
L.C.
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17/f
I always seem to like one guy and completely ignore every other guy that comes after me; I don't want to commit to anyone if I know I like someone else more. I'm single right now, tried seeing a couple of guys unofficially, but I really do just like one guy that I know I'm never going to be with. I'm not religious, I don't think it is immoral to have sex before marriage, although I do want to be in a serious relationship with the guy I lose my virginity to. Perfectly intelligent and good looking guys like me but I can't get my mind off of the guy I like.
Next year I'm moving away to university. I know there will be lots of new guys and I'll move on, but I don't want to get tied down by a serious relationship right away. That would mean I would remain a virgin (since I wanted to lose it in a serious relationship) and I don't really intend on doing that. I will be an adult, I know how to be safe and take care of myself emotionally, that is not the problem here.
It seems I'm in a bit of a difficult situation. I just want the first time to be something special, after that I'm okay with having a little (safe) fun. If I don't find myself in a serious relationship by the time I leave for university (not good to get into one right before I move anyways) then what is my best option for next year? I know I'm over thinking this, but if you've been in this situation, what did you do? Would it work to be in some sort of serious relationship but still be able to see other people? That just sounds like cheating and besides, I wouldn't commit myself to someone unless I really, really liked them.. and in that case I wouldn't want to see anyone else. Sorry if this has been confusing, thanks for your insight! (link)
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It seems like you have answered your own question. You don't want to have sex unless you're in a serious relationship, but you don't want a relationship so close to leaving for college. I guarantee you won't be the only virgin in school. What's important is that you don't do something you're not ready for. When you meet someone who makes you feel you're willing to take that step with you will know. In the meantime, if you just want some safe fun you can always try masturbation. It is a perfectly normal and natural thing to do. Or you can make a small investment in a vibrator. There is nothing wrong with using one and it's 100% safe. No std's and no pregnancy! And the big plus about it - YOU CONTROL WHAT HAPPENS. There is no hurry with sex. It's up to you. No one else. You are the one who should always decide what happens to your body.
Whatever you decide to do - be safe and have a wonderful college experience.
Good luck!
L.C.
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what should i sing when i audition for the play "little shop of horrors" any tips. songs? (link)
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Well it depends on which role you are auditioning for. If you're female I'd suggest "Somewhere that's green" sung by the lead character Audrey. If you're male you have more to choose from. Little Shop of Horrors has more male than female roles. Again depends on which character you're going for. "Feed me" is a great song if you're auditioning for the role of Audrey II (the people eating plant). Which I think is really the most fun character to play in that production unless you really dig the crazy dentist, Orin.
If they allow you to use a partner you could sing "Suddenly Seymour" - the duet between Audrey and Seymour. It's appropriate for auditioning for either of the two main roles and would show the judges your harmony skills.
I hope you pass your audition! Little Shop of Horrors is a great production and a lot of fun!
Good luck!
L.C.
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i need a mostoriuzer, something that doesnt leave you with a greasy or oily feel, but that mostrouizes your skin leaving it feel soft, and has Vitamin C in it. but something i can get at lke wal-greens or wal-mart, not something i have to order. and that will help with lines, not like old lady lines, but fine lines that you can get from tanning like under your eyes or on your forehead. im 17 (link)
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1. Figure out what your skin type is. Dry, normal, combination, or oily? The right moisturizer will blend into your skin without making it feel greasy.
2. Look for the word non-comedogenic if you have acne or blackheads. Non-comedogenic moisturizers are labeled so because they have tested on human volunteers with oily skin.
3. Look for the word hypoallergenic if you have sensitive skin, or are allergic to harsh fragrances. Hypoallergenic usually means that the product does not contain the most common potential allergens. However if you suffer from eczema, read the ingredient list very carefully. See the resource section for choosing a daytime moisturizer if you suffer from eczema.
4. Look for a sun protection factor of 15 or above. Also look for a product that claims protection from both UVB, and UVA, or broad spectrum protection. Most SPF products do a decent job with UVB protection, but only certain ingredients such as avobenzone, and micronized titanium dioxide help shield against the longer wave UVA rays that are primarily responsible for wrinkling and age spots.
5. Look for a moisturizer that also contains antioxidants. Antioxidants help in making sunscreen more effective, by preventing new damage on the skin. They also help in healing damage that has already been done on the skin. Look for ingredients VitC, VitE, Coenzyme Q10, green tea, etc.
Res. ehow.com and Neutrogena.com
Good luck!
L.C.
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okay so on monday i started to feel a little under the weather, just sniffles and that kind of stuff. It got worse and by the end of tuesday i had started to lose my voice. I dont have my singing voice at all and my talking voice fades in and out and is scratchy. I dont have a sore throat, I dont have a fever, and I really dont even feel very sick besides the runny nose and that I'm tired. When im not talking it doesnt feel like im sick but when I begin to speak it just doesnt work. I need my voice back by monday but I dont know whats wrong with me and I haven't had time to visit a doctor. I was wondering if anyone had lost their voice before and what they did to get it back faster. I've been resting it, trying to speak as little as possible but its not showing any improvement. Thanks! (link)
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Sounds like your vocal chords are a little stressed. But there may be many reasons why a person's voice goes away. The best thing to do is to MAKE TIME to see a doctor to rule out serious problems. Most likely you'll be ordered to rest and gargle. But it's best to be safe and have it checked so you don't inadvertently hurt it more by using it too soon.
Good luck!
L.C.
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Ok well I really need help. My dad is all the time mentally abusing me. He has said I dress like a slut, act like a slut, wishes he never had me cause my actions come off as slutty. He has a daughter as a slut. All of this he has said to me. Also he has stuff like I will never make it when I grow up, and saying that I am sloppy, and filthy, etc. Plus my older brother is all the time bullying me, saying stuff like how "fat" I am, when I know I am not. Plus recently, he smacked me across the face and sprained my wrist. I have gotten into fist fights with my older brother (who is 17 btw, and I am 15/f) And its just, I dont know, its so unbearable. I can live with my mom in yanceyville, but I would have to go to a different school, but my best friend whom I am very close to lives here as well as my boyfriend who I have been going out with for 7 months. It's just I dont know. My life is here, and I cant handle moving. What do I do? If I tell then my dad will just deny it, and it will be his word against mine, and of course he will win as always, then it will be worse when we get back home. What do I do? I have to stay here, but I cant handle all the abuse. Thanks so much in advance. (link)
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Have you told your mother about this abuse? Talk to her and be honest. If this doesn't work talk to a school counselor. Your safety is the most important thing and your friend and boyfriend will understand that. No one should be in an abusive environment. If you should be hurt again, and let's hope not, have your friend take pictures and report it to your counselor and your mom. Never keep quiet about abuse.
Good luck!
L.C.
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Well my teacher always jokes aorund and I know that teachers always tend to poke a little with students for jokes and mean no harm but I am very sensitive and it hurts really bad.
Well my teacher decided to just joke around by telling the class "Wow you should really stop smoking! Everyone, whenever you see her, tell her to stop smoking; it's really bad!". I was just a little offended by the little poke but he's my favourite teacher and I know that he didn't mean any harm so I just smiled and just let it off.
Well, we got our yearbooks today and THREE classmates from that class signed their name and wrote STOP SMOKING, which hurt me deeply because first of all, what is my dad going to say when he reads this? And second of all, I'm secretly a perfectionist and smoking is DEFINITELY against my morals so it didnt' matter at first but now that people actually ENGRAVED it onto paper and it will be there permanently, I just don't know what to do.
Thsi is going to..haunt me! How can I get over this, suck it up, and let it go? I'm in highschool but I feel like i have a heart of a baby! What do I do? What CAN I do? (link)
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Sometimes trying to be funny doesn't work, as evidenced by your teacher's comments. Stand up for yourself. Tell the teacher in front of the whole class that you are NOT a smoker and don't appreciate being called one. There's nothing wrong with that and it would clear the matter with everyone at once. Not to mention it would give you a great feeling of empowerment. It's not disrespectful to defend yourself to a teacher. It's the right thing to do. It doesn't matter what kind of authoritative position a person has. You always have a right to defend yourself. Especially when what they say slanders you and hurts your feelings. If you don't feel comfortable saying this in front of the class, ask to speak to the teacher after class and tell your teacher how the comment made you feel. Most likely, the teacher didn't mean to belittle you and would appreciate your honesty and probably would apologise to you in front of the class. If this doesn't work I suggest you speak to your counselor and your dad. I'm sure they will help you.
Good luck!
L.C.
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As a girl, are you supposed to shave "down there". And if yes, to what extent? (as in everything or ect...) Thanks. (link)
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You're not "supposed" to do anything like that if you don't want to. The hair "down there" is a perfectly natural part of your body. If you feel uncomfortable, like pulling from the elastic in your underwear, trim away what bothers you. Unless you're sporting a bikini you really have no reason for a bikini wax. If you feel the need to be completely hair free or just want to know what it would be like, just know that if you shave, it will be very itchy when it grows back. Gross, but true! Bottom line - your body, your choice. Do what makes you feel comfortable.
Good luck!
L.C.
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Im into equestrian(horses) and im getting a lettering jacket for christmas. And the place im getting it at doesnt have very many choices of stitches/logos. Like all i can do there is have them put my name on it and my mascot. I'm looking for a horse logo kinda like a letter or just something so i can buy it separatly and have the store put it on my jacket for me. So im looking for like any horse logos, letters, stitches, something tht i can buy separatly like on the internet or at a store so i can put it on my jacket. But I'm having trouble finding them on the net. I'm an english rider, but anything horse related is fine. Please give me the urls and the websites. Thnx! =] (link)
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Most embroidery stores will accept art in the form of a computer file or they may even scan a picture and reproduce it. This may be a little expensive because they will have to first produce a template. If that option isn't available to you try Emblem Enterprises - www.eeiemblems.com. They may be able to help you.
Good luck!
L.C.
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I actually didn't want to put any of this up here at first. I thought I could handle it, I thought things would get better. I thought I didn't need help. But now I see I do because I'm the only one seeing this and it's hurting me so bad watching. This is a very long story and I appologize but I will try to make it as short as possible, so bear with me:
My brother, sixteen year old, has a screwed up life. About 7 months ago, he started dating this girl. None of us, the family, really knew her at first. He just talked about her a lot and she came over once or twice, but even then they just went back to his room and didn't pay any attention to us. Back then, he still had a little bit of life in him. He was getting better little by little until the manipulating started. She actually began talking to the family. She'd come in and say "hi" and give me and my two younger sisters a hug. Of course, my dad had her figured out from day one. He's in this with me, but he doesn't have as much insight because in addition to being my brother's friend, he's also his dad. And with that position comes authority, something my brother tends to stray away from. Anyways, he knew what a manipulative person she was because we could see what she was doing to him. She'd begun calling our dad "dad" and he decided to stop responding so it wouldn't feed her mannipulative needs. He'd just smile and nod. Eventually, she figured him out. So, she'd come in the room and act the usual hyper-ey "hey!"'s and then completely ignore my dad. Of course, he didn't care. So this was the first indicator of how manipulative of a person this girl was. She completely altered my brother's life forever. Next, she got my brother to get her a job at the place he worked. Of course, my brother did so and we thought that having to work with this annoying person 24/7 might show him the light. But no, he continued on even getting closer to her. Then the secrets started coming out. I, being one of his best friends, was told everything. How her father supposedly raped her, how her step mom was "clinically insane". I know her parents were screwed up because she was too, but I didn't know if all of this was true or not. One of this girl's neighbors had told me she was a pathological liar. I know, I know, "how would they know?". They wouldn't. I didn't believe them either. I just saw her as an incredibly manipulative person.
Well, like I said, a month ago, when my brother had 3 weeks left of probation, they packed up some stuff and ran away in his car. Of course, when I heard this, I couldn't help but to cry and look for information. When my dad found no clues in his room, I took a look. I turned his room over and found a few phone numbers. I also found a password to something, but I didn't know what. I gave it to my dad and he tried this girl's email account. Wrong. Then he tried my brother's email account. Wrong again. In a last attempt, he tried their myspaces and what do you know, it's this girl's myspace password. For some reason it was on a piece of paper in my brother's room. Well, my dad and I read all of her recent messages and there was one of them that caught my eye. It was to another guy. She said things like "Why did you break up with me?" and "I still love you!". This message was unread when we read them so we came to the conclusion that she was cheating on my brother, the person she had manipulated enough to love her. By this point, I abbsolutely hated her. I thought when she and him came back, the first thing I would do was to scratch her eyes out. I still hate her. And with good reason. She does more.
It wasn't really a secret that my brother and her "messed around". Almost everyone knew, even my dad who had told him not to. Well, after a while, this girl finally decided she was pregnant. I say she decided because I completely doubt that she was in the first place. Why? If anyone of you ladies has ever had a miscarriage, you know how heart breaking it is. You just lost your child, the one you spent about 9 months living for, living with. The one you were looking forward to. I appologize if this brings back unfriendly memories to any of you, but it has a purpose. This girl, as manipulative as she is, had one. She claimed she fell and it killed the baby. Now, that's not a reason to doubt the pregnancy other than the fact that it must have been a pretty hard fall that left no bruises. However, here she was, a week later, perfectly happy and wanting to try again. She hadn't even grieved the baby's death. My mother had a miscarriage, and she didn't have another baby for 2 years afterwards. This little stunt planted the idea of "fatherhood" in my brother's head and a month after the so-called "miscarriage" she was pregnant. For real this time. How do I know this? Because they went to the doctor's together. In Wyoming. Which is where they ran away to. He called 2 weeks after he had been gone to tell us she was pregnant and that they were fine. He had a strange definition of the word "fine".
He came back alone on Sunday. I was the only one there and I was hoping that he would have changed. Everyone said he would have changed, that this would make him grow up and open his eyes. Wrong. His eyes were still closed. He was completely the same as when he left. Probably worse. He was still with this girl, but he decided it would be better to come home and face his consequences and leave her in wyoming where she was "safe". He told me he was glad he "saved her life". I told him he screwed up his own. Then he says something that proved to me he hadn't changed. He said "not anymore than it was". I felt like slapping him. He had a home, a loving family, 2 fabulous parents, a million friends, and a FUTURE. He had everything and he was willing to throw it all away because of this girl. He can't see how she's changed him. I talked to him just now over myspace, and had a major melt down. I sent an extremely long message to him and we talked. I told him how many people cared about him, how many people he'd hurt. How amazingly manipulative this girl was. At this point, I didn't care if he got mad at me or not, as long as I told him the truth about everything. In almost every reply he said "I really don't care anymore". He told me she wasn't the manipulator, he was. He said he manipulated her and he loved her, which I don't know how you could manipulate the person you love. He said it's complicated and hard to explain. Then he had to go. I just can't take this anymore. When he was gone, I used to just randomly call his cell phone, just to see if he would pick up. Of course, he left his cell at home. The first time I called it, my dad picked up after the first ring and he was already crying. Of course, I was too and we cried on the phone, not saying anything. It just hurts so bad to see that my brother has completely given up on living. His only strand of hope seems to be this girl and their baby. He doesn't care about anything. And it's pushing me into a deep depression watching. But I can't walk away now. I keep feeling like I can help him, but everytime I try he does something stupid and throws himself farther back into the system. I don't know what to do anymore. It's like he can't see anything. I feel like he knows he's dying so he's trying to hold onto everyone he was already close to, but not trying to make it all better. He doesn't smile any more. He doesn't laugh. He doesn't respond. He just....dies. And I don't know what to do anymore. Please help me out. I appologize for the length, but every answer is accepted and will be rated. Thank you for taking the time to read. (link)
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It sounds like your brother has been suffering from some type of depression and this situation just made it worse. At this point the best thing you can do as a family is to get professional counseling. The benefits of family counseling are tremendous. Depression affects all of you. You seem like a loving family willing to do what it takes. Look for family counseling in your local area. Also, when properly diagnosed, insurance may help cover expenses.
Good luck
L.C.
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i get nervous really easily especially when i have to speak in front of a large group of people and i start sweating like crazy on my face hands feet and armpits and a lot of times my face turns red when a few people's attention is on me... and i just feel self consious and uncomfortable in front of a large amount of people... how do i stop this?? is there anything i can do or think of mentally so i stop feeling nervous and shy and start being comfortable and confident instead??? thanks!! (link)
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A successful public speaker is a PREPARED public speaker.
1. How well do you know your subject? If you know your subject well enough to answer questions with correct information, that will provide you with a good level of confidence.
2. Who is your audience? Speeches should be age specific. Children? Use words they understand and keep it lightly entertaining. Teens? Whatever the subject, try to make it relate to them. Adults? Again, try to have your subect relate to them, but it is better to not read word for word to adults. It can feel slightly insulting. Better to have a list of items to speak of and give them more eye contact.
3. Where will you be speaking? If you are in a classroom setting, make sure the people in the back row can hear you. You most likely won't have a microphone. Auditorium or outdoors - make sure there is a sound system available to you and in working order. Try to get run through time beforehand. This avoids all kinds of problems and gives you time to solve any you should discover. The rule always applies - make sure everyone can hear you.
4. Are you giving a Reading or a Speech? A reading is when you present, for example,a poem or an excerpt from a book or an essay. When giving a speech you should never read word for word off of a piece of paper. List your subjects and talk about them in a proper order. This will allow you to look at your audience and connect with them. Start with the back wall and work your way to people.
5. Practice with friends or family. They'll be your toughest and most honest critics. The more you practice the less nervous you'll be.
6. Choose suitable clothing. Nothing too tight or inappropriate. Cotton and lots of deodorant go a long way! If you're female, wear a shoe with a heal you can walk in and a non slip sole. If you're male, non slip is the rule.
7. Speech time - if you prepared you should have little to worry about. So take a deep breath, sweep the room with your eyes and a smile and give a sincere "hello". Establishing eye contact is key to taking control of the audience. They'll return the favor by paying attention to you. If you still feel insecure, start with a small group and work your way up. Have confidence in yourself. Besides - they're just people like you!
Good Luck!
L.C.
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so im 14/f and i live on long island in new york. i really wanna try to be a model. i weigh around 105 lbs and im about 5 feet 4 inches...i know im a little short but still. what are some good websites i can go on to get into auditions and actually have a chance at getting jobs...lolz thank youhh (link)
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If this is something you really want to do the first thing is to talk it over with your parents. If they're on board, together you should look for a reputable agency that focuses on education first, then career. High fashion has strict height requirements. You have to be at least 5'9". With that in mind, there are other types of modeling. A good place to start is John Robert Powers Long Island. www.jrplongisland.com. You can get a lot of useful information there and it's in your hood!
Good luck!
L.C.
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