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17/f
I always seem to like one guy and completely ignore every other guy that comes after me; I don't want to commit to anyone if I know I like someone else more. I'm single right now, tried seeing a couple of guys unofficially, but I really do just like one guy that I know I'm never going to be with. I'm not religious, I don't think it is immoral to have sex before marriage, although I do want to be in a serious relationship with the guy I lose my virginity to. Perfectly intelligent and good looking guys like me but I can't get my mind off of the guy I like.
Next year I'm moving away to university. I know there will be lots of new guys and I'll move on, but I don't want to get tied down by a serious relationship right away. That would mean I would remain a virgin (since I wanted to lose it in a serious relationship) and I don't really intend on doing that. I will be an adult, I know how to be safe and take care of myself emotionally, that is not the problem here.
It seems I'm in a bit of a difficult situation. I just want the first time to be something special, after that I'm okay with having a little (safe) fun. If I don't find myself in a serious relationship by the time I leave for university (not good to get into one right before I move anyways) then what is my best option for next year? I know I'm over thinking this, but if you've been in this situation, what did you do? Would it work to be in some sort of serious relationship but still be able to see other people? That just sounds like cheating and besides, I wouldn't commit myself to someone unless I really, really liked them.. and in that case I wouldn't want to see anyone else. Sorry if this has been confusing, thanks for your insight!
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It seems like you have answered your own question. You don't want to have sex unless you're in a serious relationship, but you don't want a relationship so close to leaving for college. I guarantee you won't be the only virgin in school. What's important is that you don't do something you're not ready for. When you meet someone who makes you feel you're willing to take that step with you will know. In the meantime, if you just want some safe fun you can always try masturbation. It is a perfectly normal and natural thing to do. Or you can make a small investment in a vibrator. There is nothing wrong with using one and it's 100% safe. No std's and no pregnancy! And the big plus about it - YOU CONTROL WHAT HAPPENS. There is no hurry with sex. It's up to you. No one else. You are the one who should always decide what happens to your body.
Whatever you decide to do - be safe and have a wonderful college experience.
Good luck!
L.C.
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