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nervous and insecure....
i get nervous really easily especially when i have to speak in front of a large group of people and i start sweating like crazy on my face hands feet and armpits and a lot of times my face turns red when a few people's attention is on me... and i just feel self consious and uncomfortable in front of a large amount of people... how do i stop this?? is there anything i can do or think of mentally so i stop feeling nervous and shy and start being comfortable and confident instead??? thanks!!
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Believe in yourself and always tell yourself it will all be over in a few min.
If it isn't going to affect you in 5 years ... why worry about it?
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A successful public speaker is a PREPARED public speaker.
1. How well do you know your subject? If you know your subject well enough to answer questions with correct information, that will provide you with a good level of confidence.
2. Who is your audience? Speeches should be age specific. Children? Use words they understand and keep it lightly entertaining. Teens? Whatever the subject, try to make it relate to them. Adults? Again, try to have your subect relate to them, but it is better to not read word for word to adults. It can feel slightly insulting. Better to have a list of items to speak of and give them more eye contact.
3. Where will you be speaking? If you are in a classroom setting, make sure the people in the back row can hear you. You most likely won't have a microphone. Auditorium or outdoors - make sure there is a sound system available to you and in working order. Try to get run through time beforehand. This avoids all kinds of problems and gives you time to solve any you should discover. The rule always applies - make sure everyone can hear you.
4. Are you giving a Reading or a Speech? A reading is when you present, for example,a poem or an excerpt from a book or an essay. When giving a speech you should never read word for word off of a piece of paper. List your subjects and talk about them in a proper order. This will allow you to look at your audience and connect with them. Start with the back wall and work your way to people.
5. Practice with friends or family. They'll be your toughest and most honest critics. The more you practice the less nervous you'll be.
6. Choose suitable clothing. Nothing too tight or inappropriate. Cotton and lots of deodorant go a long way! If you're female, wear a shoe with a heal you can walk in and a non slip sole. If you're male, non slip is the rule.
7. Speech time - if you prepared you should have little to worry about. So take a deep breath, sweep the room with your eyes and a smile and give a sincere "hello". Establishing eye contact is key to taking control of the audience. They'll return the favor by paying attention to you. If you still feel insecure, start with a small group and work your way up. Have confidence in yourself. Besides - they're just people like you!
Good Luck!
L.C.
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