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Location: Texas
Member Since: July 11, 2005
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Last Update: October 23, 2005
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OK...
My friend has been seeing her boyfriend for just over a month now. For two weeks they didn't even hold hands, they were so shy, but all of a sudden they kissed in the cinema and suddenly they are 'so in love' and on the same day as they kissed, they went to third base.
Last week, they had sex (in the WOODS!) and my friend is pretty sure she is pregnant. However, she is sayign she is 'bored' of her boyfriend and wants to 'move on'. I'm sorry but this is so stupid!! You don't sleep with someone you're 'bored' of and never really liked in the first place!!
She also wants an abortion.
First of all, I am angry at her for the whole 'oh I'm bored with you let's shag!' thing. I am also REALLY angry with her about the abortion because I am really against abortion in about 90% of cases, this one included. She wants to kill her own baby because she thinks she'll get 'bored' with it too, and because she made a mistake. She is 'making up' for that mistake with murder.
Now, I'm her friend and I am SUPPOSED to stand by her whatever, but this puts me in a HUGE dilemma because I do not agree with what she's done and what she is planning to do (split up with her boyfriend, have an abortion, not ever tell him she got pregnant). I'm really really angry at her right now and I can't talk to her, but I know she really needs my support at a time like this. How can I push my anger aside, how can I ignore my own stance on abortion and help her?
I need to stand by her...she needs all the love and support she can get, even though she doesn't deserve it. I was very tempted to slap her and run off when I found out but I realised that it's not my place to forgive or condone or accept or hate what she is doing, just to be there for her.
Please help...how can I get over my anger and resentment at what she is doing and be there for her? And don't just say 'talk to her' - if you have to, help me out on what to say!
Thanks for any help and sorry for the length. (link)
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You can be mad all you want. You can be suportive, but you shouldn't be. She shouldn't be allowed to kill her baby because she made a mistake, you're right. Tell her that you will be there, but not during the abortion because of your beliefs. Don't change your views because you are someone's friend. YOU should tell her boyfriend she is pregnant. He deserves to know. I mean, after only 4 weeks they had sex, it's her fault. I would tell her you don't support her at the moment, but you will help her get through it. Also, if she's under 18, she has to have parent permission to get the abortion, so, good luck. I hope this all works out.
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hey everyone i want to become a singer but i cant sing so is there a way i can learn? (link)
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Voice Lessons. Also, join chior, they will help you.
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OK ive been friends with this boy for a while now, and i think i like him. I'm pretty sure he only wants to be friends. Hes never had a gf, ive never had a bf. This is weird but ... i dont think i would ever have a shot of going out w/ him, cus he wants to be a priest and is really catholic, and so am i, thats the major thing we have in common. How can i like, get over him? Should i get over him? idk what to doo !!!!!! (link)
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You should go for it, because he might feel the same way. And, if he doesn't, you can get over him because you know that there is nothing there. I hope it all works out. GO CATHOLICS!
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is jessica simpson a real blonde?? (link)
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she is a light brunette but gets higlights that make her look more blonde.
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I've had an eating disorder for lets say longer than a year. (anorexia) I finally got over it this summer. I'm worried about school though and how my friends will react because i wasn't eating lunch all last year. Will they make a big deal out of it and will i end up starting it ALL OVER AGAIN????? I RATE HIGH (link)
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If they know about it, they won't. They probably wouldn't anyways. They might say something to the effect of, "You're eating!", but they might just be surprised. Don't worry though, I think it will all be fine. You won't start all over again if you had good rehab. I hope it all works out.
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Do you think that it is wrong to talk to an ex while dating someone else? I am with this guy right now and he doesnt trust me so he went into my cell and checked my text messages and found that an ex had been text messaging me. We are in a big arguement now about weather or not its ok to talk to an ex. Please help (link)
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Ask long as you are not still hung over your ex. As long as you're just friends. Also, your boyfriend needs to learn boundary issues, he should not go to your cell phone. I think it's perfectly fine though, as long as you are jsut friends.
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0k so i just got back from the beach with 3 of my friends and our other 3 guy friends were there too. we hung out with them alot. one of the guys (lets call him Jimmy) has a girlfriend and they've been going out for like 10 months. i know his girlfriend pretty well and stuff. then one night me and Jimmy were in the lobby while all our other friends were in the bathrooms. we were both on the couch and he leaned it and we just started to make out. hes soooo hott and i wasn't thinking so i just gave in and didn't pull away until like i dunno like 10 seconds? lol yeah so now i feel reallly guilty cause his girlfriend has no idea he did this and they are like in love. i don't want to tell anyone cause it would like RUIN me cause his girlfriend has a lot of friends and so yeah. i dunno if i should tell anyone?? please help! (link)
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Ask him about it, because he either had a spur of the moment reaction, or he doesn't love his girlfriend. Also, if they do break up, just be there for her. She will be okay. 10 months is a lot shorter than 10 years.
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i was outside for a while a couple nights ago and now my body is covered in mosquito bites. how can i stop them from itching and make them go away and not scar? i got bitten like this last year and my legs were covered in scars for a really long time. i have a ton on my feet and my feet scar wicked easily. (link)
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Witchazel works well to stop the itching. I have a TON of scars from damn mosquitos, so I know. Also, if they start to itch, slap them, and they stop.
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Yesterday my boyfriend and i had sex and i bled on him, we thought that it was jusy my period coming because i am late...but it wasnt my period. He said that it could be possible that i contracted a std from my previous relationship or i could be pregnant. Im not sure what to do or what to believe~Im going crazy because i dont have anyone to talk to about this and if i do have a std he'll probably leave me...and i dont think that i would want to live without him; i'll be better off commiting suicide. (link)
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Don't commit suicide. Go to a gynocologist, and take a test.
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this will be very long..sorry! well me and my boyfriend have been going through a lot lately..and hes been wanting to me to prove to him how much i love him cause sometimes he wonders! so i went out of my way and paid my friends sister to take me to the mall so i could get him a bracelet he wanted carved with our names on it! so i spent like $74 on that and then i found the cutest card ever! well then since last night he has been acting kinda distant..like we couldnt really talk or anything! well then today he had to go help his grandpa so i thought no big deal ill talk to him when he gets home! well i looked at his buddypic thing and he took my name off and just put he had a girlfriend and added some other girl on there too which scared me! so i texted him and said something..no response! so then i called his house and he talked to me and said hed get online in a minute! well then he tells me hes going on vacation, he just got a job, and hes doing modeling so we wont really talk anymore so he thinks its best for now if we go on a break and i prove to him how much i love him! and he said after i send him his stuff he will read it all and think about it! and he said he cant talk on his cell cause his aunt wont let him and now he cant get on the computer either for like a week! it kills me so much cause ive never felt this way in my life..hes supposably bought me a promise ring and everything else! well i IMed that girl that was on his buddypic and seen what was up and i guess shes in love with him or something! and he was talking to her with me and i found out another girl says she loves him too and im so scared that he will move on although he keeps telling me he wont and those girls are too good of friends! i wanna believe him but its so hard! well i have his password for everything n he has mine too..well then he decides hes gonna change his AIM password and now i dont know what to think..im so scared something might be going on! i just dont know what to do! i have done nothing but cry since i found out! he told me after i send his stuff he will write me a letter back and i guess thats how we have to talk for now! i really dont know what to do cause im use to talking to him all day..it kills me so much! and i dunno what to do! do you have any cute ideas i could do with his card and bracelet that i can send through the mail? thanks so much! (link)
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Well, he might be cheating on you with this other girl, because it seems like he is. Also, get a really cute bag and everything, and wrap the present and card, and mail it to him. Right now, he seems like he needs air. But I'll tell you this, what he means by "showing how much you love him" is sex. And, I personally think it's a bad idea. All you can do is give him his space. Mail the present and then don't do anything else, because there is nothing you can do. It's okay to cry, because something might be going on. When he comes back, give him a day or two, and then ask him what's going on. I really hope this all works out.
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do you know any cute websites to have besides xanga, myspace, and livejournal (link)
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Blogger.com
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I'm 14/f
I think im fat and I wanna lose weight. I don't eat breakfast or lunch and barely dinner. All my friends are worried about me and try to get me to eat but I just say i'm not hungry. My question is, is this that serious and that unhealthy? Thanks! (link)
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yes. EXTREMELY. You need to eat. If you are worried about your weight, excersize. Don't starve yourself. Believe me, it is not worth it. Your friends are just looking out for you. Don't continue your eating pattern, you will hurt yourself a lot.
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My friend is really fake. She used to be nice, but recently she has changed for the worse. She always talks about people, and I have told her to stop, because how do I know she is not talking about me behind my back. I want to be her friend, but it is getting ridiculous. I am so fed up with her, cause when I tell her how I feel she tries to turn it on me!Please help, I am going crazy here. (link)
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Honestly, you shouldn't be friends with her anymore. I mean, if she won't take in to count your feelings, than she's not worth it.
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My mom keeps on intruding on my life. Heres a perfect example: Im sure some of you have an AOL screen name right?? For instant messaging? Well, I have it. And it has something called a log manager whice saves all of my conversations. So anyways, She READS MY MESSAGES I SEND TO PEOPLE. And then shes like, "YOU SWEAR TOO MUCH YOUR BANNED FROM IT!" And ITS SO GAY. AND IM FURIOUS. SOMEONE HELP ME! (link)
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Delete the log manager after you finish. My mom used to do the same thing. Also, put a lock on your door and tell her she is inturding, and don't let her say any of this "It's because I love you" stuff. Hope it works out
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OK.. so i know.. online romances are dangerous.. but this is different. Hes my friends cousins friend! Ive never met him personally but I talk to him online and hes sooo sweet. Hes always telling me how nice i am and that he wished i lived in his town. We joke around and when i talk to him im so happy. we're both 14, and i dont know what to think. we were talking and he said i wish i could see u right now so said me too.. lets run away.. (this whole running away thing was just a fantasy for BOTH of us.. we're not really gunna do it).. and we said we were going to vegas together. and we both plan to go to collage in FL, and if we go to the ones we both want, we'll be kinda close.. miami and tampa. and i really really want that. but idk what to do. should i tell him how i feel?.. if i should .. how do i do it?.. im usually very outgoing.. but with this im kinda shy. and wow.. so please just give me your honest opinion on the whole situation. I rate high for advice I like, and i dont rate at all if i dont like it.. i dont like lowering peoples ratings for one question. Thanks in advance! (link)
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Well, you can't count on college being the time you meet. Ask your friends cousin to bring you a picture, and you give one to your friends cousin, (have her exchange them) and then y'all would know a little more about it. Online romances are dangerous. I don't knw where he lives, but find out how he feels. Maybe y'all can meet one day. I thnk you shouldn't tell him exactly how you feel, because if you never do meet, you will be hurt, and you didn't even get to meet him.
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ok well my friend told me this:if your around alot of poeple who are on there periods, then your body reacts and thinks that its supose to be to and you have your period, even if its not the right time. is that true or what? (link)
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If you hang around that person A LOT. It is true somewhat. You won't get it the exact same time, but just around the same time.
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Ok i like this dude we call Mouse. My "friend" Gail is totally obsessed with him and loves him to death and has for like 4 years. The thing is, they have never went out, and he can't stand her! he told me and all his friends earlier that he can't stand her cuz she tries to control who he likes and who he dates and she freaks out on anyone he likes or dates so that they get scared off. then he told me on the way home that he likes me and yea i defenitly like him ...a lot! and anyways, Gail said that she isn't going to stop me if i wanna go out with him and that she won't get mad at me. but Louann says that since Gail is my friend I shouldn't go out with Mouse. and that if I did go out with Mouse then she (Louann) would get mad at me and either hurt me or not talk to me (unless its yelling) ever again. but yea, i really really really really like Mouse.....how can i get Louann to accept that me and Mouse wanna go out??? (link)
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Louann is just jealous probably and looking out for her friend. If Gail gave you permission, which she did, then you shouldn't be stopped. Also, tell Gail what Louann said. Hhope it all works out.
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My boyfriend is super nice. He is always telling me I'm hot, im sexy, im pretty, im cool, when I don't really think i am. He says he loves me way too much and its strating to get a little annoying. I basically just met him and don't know him as well as I would like to. I feel like hes rushing things, but still hes super nice and he loves me and hes really obsessed with me.....
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Uh, just tell him you think things are moving too fast. He'll understand. He probably just really likes you like you said. I'm sure he'll calm down though. Hope it all works out.
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how do i post an entery in xanga (link)
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Sign in. Click go to my site. Click post a weblog entry. Type, then click post.
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how everyones mean to me and i rate them 5 because i think its funny when there mad lol!!! like.. people who said im ugly. i didnt mean it like im think im pretty i was being carcastic.
FREE 5S! (link)
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Thank you for the 5's.
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