Gender: Female
Age: 19
Member Since: February 24, 2009
Answers: 35
Last Update: November 22, 2010
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my boyfriend has lost his motivation to do like anything and hes never allowed to go out anymore because hes been soo lazy and never does his chores and homework anymore and he knows that if he doesnt he wont be able to see me...i feel so bad that he has this but then again i feel bad because im not a good enough motivation to do a couple simple chores...i talked to him already...what should i do to help him? (link)
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well anxiety or depression is a very hard thing to deal with. I know about anxiety. People who arent going through it dont understand. You should just try to be as understanding as you can. He said he doenst know why he is experiencing this anxiety. Maybe seeing a therapist is an option. He has to realize his problem and want to get help for it. If therapy wouldnt be an inconvenience, you should maybe suggest it to him and let him know that you want this for him so he can get better because you care about him. But I know that therapy may not be something he will initially be willing to do, maybe he might think it is for people with problems and he feels he doesnt have a problem. Or he may think its for weird or not normal people, or whatever.. If the therapy isnt going to be the option, you can just try to help him by continuing to let him know how much you love him, and accepting his lack of motivation. And dont take it personally, its not that you're not enough motivation for him to get chores done. Andjust encourage him to talk to you about his feelings.
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17.
male.
this is long; forgive me.
so.
i started dating my current girlfriend, julia, back in september. a month later, i went to six flags with a bunch of my guy friends, a bunch of her girl friends, but not her; she had to work. one of her friends, emily, was very obviously flirting with me, and i told everyone that i was not flirting back.
emily and i were talking on facebook the other day. she told me that she had been purposefully flirting with me back then and that she had feelings for me.
remember how i said that i didn't flirt back?
i did.
and i know; it was wrong.
back then, i legitimately thought that i should have waited on asking julia out - it had only been a week since i even met her when i did - and maybe given emily a bigger chance. i told myself that maybe that would have been the right thing to do. but i gave it some time, and then i fell in love with julia, and we're still dating.
however, what i feel right now is tearing me apart. emily told me she still has feelings for me, and i honestly wish i could say i didn't feel the same way; we've spent a ton of time together and, although she says we're just "best friends," i feel like she keeps trying to be more than that.
let me clear this up:
i would NEVER cheat.
i could never do that to my girls.
but i have no idea what i should do.
julia and i are really close, and i truly do love her; she's fun, hilarious, beautiful, and everything else that makes a girl perfect. but emily has totally slid into my life and made me wonder if julia and i are right for each other.
thanks for reading/advising/etc. (link)
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that is tough. I hate it when people say they want to be friends, since you are taken and they cant be with you. But they know damn well that they want to be more than friends. So what they do is start a just-friends-relationship, but all the while they are trying to convince you to be with them instead of who you are with. You cant really just be friends in this situation. I dont want to say cut her off and stop talking to her all together, but if she likes you she is just going to keep trying to turn what you have into something more than friendship. She may plan on doing that from the start; or she may not, and just find it happening. If you want to stay with Julia, and you honestly would like to keep Emily as nothing more than a friend; maybe it would be best if you could hang out as couples.. You and Julia, Emily and a date...... I hope you appreciate my input.... goodluck with your choice =]
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I am 18 years old, female, and to this day, I have never even had my first kiss. Is it just me, or is that weird?
And no, I don't consider myself unattractive. I have lots of friends, both boy and girl. I'm of average build and (I've been told that) I'm "good-looking". Even though I've had lots of guy friends in my life, I have never had a relationship come out of any of them. They, and my girl-friends tell me that I'm too much like "one of their buddies" for them to consider it.
I'm in university studying music. This year I would like to try and start making friends with guys who could could be my boyfriend. Any suggestions? (link)
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if it's any consolation, i haven't had my first kiss til i was 18, almost 19.
I'm often told that I am attractive,.. but i've never been in a relationship until a few days ago. I've been 19 for 4 months. since my first kiss that was like a month before my 19th birthday, I've kissed 3 guys.
Now I don't feel like a loser anymore =] yay..... But honey, don't feel like a loser. If you have more than a month before you turn 19 you can prove to be less of a loser than me.lol.. But don't worry about it too much. It will happen hun. I used to obsess over it and really want to be kissed and had never known what it was like. But i think you will be fine. Try being a little more flirty girl...lol. But actually, the first guy I kissed was 22 and i had met him on myspace and he lived, like, close to my college and he came to pick me up and my first kiss was a mad intense make out session.. well, ... i am not really recommending that you meet a guy on myspace. you have to be careful about that. But maybe it would be fine if you did, and met in a public place. be careful, dont, like get in his car or go to his house or anything... just to make sure and be careful. And it is usually easier to meet guys on myspace because guys will find you and you dont have to do anything but weed through them. and if they live close you can arrange a meeting at, like, the mall ... go eat... go see a movie...w.e... lol ...
well,...anyyyway... I wish you luck hun with your kiss and your boyfriend =]
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So sometimes when I see ANY boy I know that I see outside of school (or even just when I make eye contact) my heart flutters. Even if it's like the nerdiest, ugliest, weirdest (etc...) boy from my school, my heart still skips a beat. It's so weird and annoying! I don't know why this happens! I know I can't exactly stop it from happening, but can someone at least explain why this happens?? Thank you very much! (link)
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idk... are you nervous about boys looking at you who might be attracted to you?
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I unfortunately fell for someone who doesn't like me... in a relationship way.He told me were just friends... and I REALLY love him. I can't get him out of my mind!! I really need to get over him. I told him how I felt...he said he just likes me as a friend nothing more. So... I'm heart broken. I can't find anyone else... I really want someone special in my life. I can't find anyone who likes me . I don't understand why... can someone give me some tips on how to get over him? How can I find someone that likes me back?? Please... anyone give me some advice. Uh...I am 13...if that matters.
Thanks!! (link)
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oh hun, you're 13... when you're that age you sometimes think you're, like, rreally in love and you can only see yourself ever wanting that one person. but it will pass and you will feel like that about someone else... and you will realize that it wasnt really real love.... but honey, you're 13 an you have lots of time to find someone special and realtionships will be much more meaningful when you're several years older =]
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Hello, i was wondering if i could have opinions :]
..do you think its wierd for 14 year olds to have sex? cause thats all people talk about on here & i just wanted to know what people think about the subject.
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i think it is terrible for 14 yr olds to have sex. I think 17 is, like, the best earliest age to lose ur virginity. It is always better to wait and find a special person with whom you're in a special relationship with, and to be ready. And 14 isnt ready. 14 could be horny, but not ready
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Okay! ( This is sorta long...SORRY! )
I've been liking this guy since the beginning of the school year. His name is Matt. At , the beginning it was like a crush, but now... me and him are friends. Were , pretty close. We have been texting a lot recently. Well... I told him I loved him , and he told me he had a girl friend. He said he likes me as a friend nothing more . Well... before I told him that I loved him... I REALLY thought he was interested. He looked at me A LOT during the week. Now , he doesn't. I don't understand that!! Does anyone know why he stopped? Like, I REALLY still like him. Also... just recently I asked him if he thought I was pretty. He said "Yea." Do u think that means ANYTHING?! My friends think that he might be lieing.... what do you think? Should I get over him? I DON'T want to ... I still LOVE him. He's so nice to me. I talk to him at school sometimes.. hardly ... because he's in 8th grade and I am a 7th grader. Do u think that matters?
Well... PLEASE... anyone help!
Thannnkkkksss!!! (link)
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i dont think it should matter that you are in 7th grade and he's in 8th. maybe it might matter to him... i dont know... what grade is hs gf in? It could be that. that matters to some people. he might like you... he said you were pretty, and he likes being with you. But maybe it was because you said that you loved him that got him a little weirded out. Or, if he really only likes you like a friend right now.. then you cant do much about it right now, while he is still with his gf. But if/when you have a chance.. work on him girl... lol .. i think there could be potential to make him think of you as more than a friend.... but i hope things go well for you honey
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ok.
so, i really want to be a model.
i have wanted to be one since 3rd grade.
but more like a hannah beth/ audrey kitching kind of model.
i wanna stand in weird positions.
and wear horrible ugly things but make it look like art.
i wanna make people question their sense of style.
im a site model for multiple layout myspaces.
but do you think i can cut out for the real deal?
i'm 5'1, and well, i kinda have a big butt and boobs.
but im skinny. i weigh 102 lbs.
Pictures:
http://i41.tinypic.com/2iuf794.jpg
http://i44.tinypic.com/esm1zr.jpg
http://i44.tinypic.com/i6f1u9.jpg
http://i42.tinypic.com/2pshi09.jpg
http://i44.tinypic.com/ehn5o8.jpg
http://i43.tinypic.com/2pyxdmu.jpg
http://i41.tinypic.com/96ky8j.jpg
http://i40.tinypic.com/jskfh0.jpg
i know, alot of pictures.
most of these are me with my friends.
and some of them im making a weird face.
lol. sorry about that.
i just wanted you to get an idea of my body type.
thanks so much.(:
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girl, you ain't got no damn big butt. lol ...an what's ur bra size?...lol ... I think you could do it; if you wanna be a model i think it will work for you. good luck =]
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i havn't had a BF in like forever. my mom was uneasy with the idea of me having one in the first place and now is putting down the foot and completely disagreeing. i really want to have one and i don't know how to tell her i want one without hurting her feelings or just so she still thinks i'm still her litte girl. she also thinks that all my freinds with BFs are stuck up so that complicates things. (link)
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I say your mom doesnt need to know about your bf. I am 19, and my parents have never known of any account of me even meeting with a guy. Not that I have thaat many meetings with guys that i'm keeping secret from them. i have never really actually had a bf tho. I've met a few guys, and my parents dont and wont know about that. And i'm an "adult"! I dont know how old you are, but you have to be younger than me and you're still a kid. But, i would say, your mom doesnt have to know everything, especially if she's not one of those moms you can talk to. But, I advise you to be smart about what you do. I wouldnt know if you are a virgin or not, but these are wise words: be careful about sex. If you want to do it, it is best to wait. Make sure that you have been going out with the guy for a whiile, and be 100% sure that he truly cares about you before you do anything with him. Something has happened to me, where a guy was talking about how he would treat me how i deserve to be treated and i would be his "queen",.. but I did someting orally for him... it wasnt the wisest decision.. he used me. So just make sssssure that the guy you are trying to be with won't just get what he wants and then lose interest in you. And I would say, that as long as you are sure to make good decisions, your mom doesnt need to really know, if you want to secretly see somebody...
Maybe i should be a responsible "adult" about answering your question, but that is my advice... but just remember what i told you honey. =]
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This may seem like a dumb question but i am very ugly. how can i become prettier? if i need to add a picture i will. (link)
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hun, if you want to email me a pic at sairess119@yahoo.com , I can see if you're actually ugly, or one of those girls who just thinks she's ugly. (like me, I get told I'm pretty, but I am not very confident about myself)... but hun, don't worry, I'm pretty sure you look fine or are not a hopeless case. But let me see how I can advise you....
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I'm 22/M, average looking, and only had 1 real relationship in my life
I live in Centerville now but graduate college in 4 months, and move to Akron
Names and Towns have been changed.
Cora lives in Town B where I move to. She's kind of a player, but she likes me (has kissed me when I visited last time, I know she likes me) and talks to me online quite a bit. Kind of a drama queen and pretty wild. But I'm really attracted to her and her personality.
Kris lives in current town A. She's the exact opposite, really shy, kind of a different lifestyle than me, but just super sweet and nice (very similar to my personality). Much easier for me to talk to in person than Cora.
Basically I like to party a little too, but I fall right in the middle of Wild Cora and Boring Kris. I don't want to move and have something fall apart with Cora and never have tried anything with Kris. I also don't want to fall for Kris and then move, plus I'm pretty sure I'll hurt Cora's feelings if I get into a relationship.
I also don't want to sit here idly. I'm 22 and have had one hap-hazzard relationship while my friends are already getting married. So I want to try something. It's just weird because I have feelings for both girls. What should I do/Who should I go for? (link)
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I know you wanna go for the wild party girl. But the sweet, shy girl might be a keeper. In the end, you might be better off with Kris. I know you know this, that Cora may not be the type of girl that's good for a relationship; but you don't want to miss out on the excitement of being with a girl like her. Maybe you could see Cora, and be sure that she knows that you arent trying to get too involved. and dont let yourself get too involved either. Satisfy your need for Cora before you get serious with Kris. ... Maybe even just being more intuned to how you're feeling about these girls will help you decide. You want both of them, but maybe you may find that you miss or crave a certain one more than the other. then you will be like "but i like the other one too....", but you should go with your initial feelings.
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I HAD a problem. since i was 12 i started cutting. I dont know how to explain it to people that dont do it becuase its something you have to have gone through to understand. its like a drug i was addicted for 4 1/2 years, slowly killing myself. anyway everyone found out and i had to stop.
the question is like what am i supposed to replace it with. Ive tryed running writing (which is my passion) and everything in between. I just need some good advice as how to stop.
Please help, anything will be appreciated. (link)
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i guess i know how u feel. i have anxiety issues,...like...really bad, and low self confidence. And that often has to do with embarrassing situations i end up in. And I guess i blow it out of proportion, and I end up hhhating myself. Like, "why did i do that?!".. or "why did i say that?!".. or "why dddidnt i do or say that?!".. and many times I get dissappointed in myself and I feel like I deserve to be punished; I have to give and receive the punishment. But how would that make me feel better? I dont know, but sometimes i would just like to make myself bleed. I never cut myself. I've tried to bruise myself,..I've trrried to "cut" myself with things like pen caps, and I'd leave marks, like ones that would stay for like a week. But never successfully drew blood and never with a knife. But all of that is detrimental to your well-being. that's dwelling on miserable experiences that made you want to cut yourself in the first place. I don't know if you've ever tried to kill yourself,.. but I suggest finding your purpose in life. whatever you wish to be, with passion.... whatever you rrealllyyy want to do or be, even if you think it can never happen.. you should focus on that. because the truth is, it CAN happen. All that is required is your believing. and you can not everrrr stop believing that it can be true one day. Remind yourself that you will be that admirable thing that you want to be, constantly. And say to yourself that you have that to live for and to look forward to. And if you have anything else to focus on, make sure you do that, as long as it is positive. Because negative thoughts only bring more negative experiences into our lives.
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My best friend is a guy, and we are incredibly close. I love him SOOO much...in a friend way, like a brother. But...he likes me more; like a 'love'. Like a girlfriend. And he WONT STOP TRYING TO GET ME TO GO OUT WITH HIM! He knows i only like him as a friend, but every single day he continues begging me to "give him a chance". I have explained to him MANY times that the only feelings I have for him are FRIEND ones. But he just wont stop, and now I feel bad. I have tried EVERYTHING. What more can i do? I mean, this guy is my bestfriend, he means the world to me, and i love him unconditionally. but like a friend. So what can i do to finally get it through to him that i wont date him cuz i only like him as a friend? (link)
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constantly refer to him as "brother". Call him "little brother" or "big brother"; which ever is appropriate, and see how he reacts to this
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last week i went on a school trip, skiing, and there i met this guy; nothing happened. but now, i can't stop thinking about him!!! and theres no way of contacting him or anything. but i can't get him out of my mind!!! do have anything you think i could try to get him out of my head? (link)
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focus on finding another guy to be thinking about... one that u could see again
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Does anybody know why KoRn titled their band "KoRn"?? (link)
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I was watching program on vh1 was it??.. but I believe that a member from the band was explaining that they just came up with this random, silly name just because "it was the stupidest name for a band [they] could think of"...... =]
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