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18 years old...and never been kissed.
I am 18 years old, female, and to this day, I have never even had my first kiss. Is it just me, or is that weird?
And no, I don't consider myself unattractive. I have lots of friends, both boy and girl. I'm of average build and (I've been told that) I'm "good-looking". Even though I've had lots of guy friends in my life, I have never had a relationship come out of any of them. They, and my girl-friends tell me that I'm too much like "one of their buddies" for them to consider it.
I'm in university studying music. This year I would like to try and start making friends with guys who could could be my boyfriend. Any suggestions?
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Smile more. Flirt. Encourage guys to talk and give them positive responses.
If you find yourself attracted to a specific guy, throw compliments at him. Jokingly compliment his ass, that kind of thing.
Being one of the buddies means, in the most simple terms, as you don't come across as a woman who has sex on her mind. Sexuality is an attractant, its mostly about body language.
Making purposeful eye contact shows confidence and interest. Smiling lets people know you aren't repulsed by them. Complimenting people lets them know you notice things about them. It works pretty much the same with both sexes, the point here is to create openings and get attention. You have to give attention to get it.
On that note, talk to people. Strangers. If you can't hold a competent conversation with a complete stranger, start trying and figure it out. Guys take it as encouragement when a girl continues talking to them. If you can keep the conversation going, it gives us more opportunity for the hints you drop to seep into our heads.
Lastly, be a little more physical. The easiest way is with teasing. When you tease a guy poke, hit, flick, pinch, etc. You send the message "hey, she doesn't mind being in physical contact with me. This is a good thing!" Give hugs when appropriate.
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if it's any consolation, i haven't had my first kiss til i was 18, almost 19.
I'm often told that I am attractive,.. but i've never been in a relationship until a few days ago. I've been 19 for 4 months. since my first kiss that was like a month before my 19th birthday, I've kissed 3 guys.
Now I don't feel like a loser anymore =] yay..... But honey, don't feel like a loser. If you have more than a month before you turn 19 you can prove to be less of a loser than me.lol.. But don't worry about it too much. It will happen hun. I used to obsess over it and really want to be kissed and had never known what it was like. But i think you will be fine. Try being a little more flirty girl...lol. But actually, the first guy I kissed was 22 and i had met him on myspace and he lived, like, close to my college and he came to pick me up and my first kiss was a mad intense make out session.. well, ... i am not really recommending that you meet a guy on myspace. you have to be careful about that. But maybe it would be fine if you did, and met in a public place. be careful, dont, like get in his car or go to his house or anything... just to make sure and be careful. And it is usually easier to meet guys on myspace because guys will find you and you dont have to do anything but weed through them. and if they live close you can arrange a meeting at, like, the mall ... go eat... go see a movie...w.e... lol ...
well,...anyyyway... I wish you luck hun with your kiss and your boyfriend =]
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dont worry sweeety its completely natural..i knew a guy who was 20 completely normal and never had a gf before or kissed a girl before but know his with my best friend and theyr soo inllove..trust me patience is the key for everything.what you can do is try not to become tooo buddy buddy with your guy friend if you like him dont treat him like a friend just casually flirt with him and give him suttle hints you like him..use eye contact and give him alittle more attention from the other guys.Im not sure how you dress up but mayb youd liek to dress up alittle feminine like wearing a dress of some tight jeans..be sweet and flirtatious and always b there for the guy when he needs you.b a listener and itll get you a long way..dont rush things because if your patient things will come to you when u least expect it trust me it will happen for you..and i think its sweet youv never been kissed i rekon the guy you go out with will think thats attractive.
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