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Ok, I know that I should already have the answer to this. I am wondering Am I being dumb? Am I being played?
My husband of 8 years told me three months ago he had been cheating on me for a year. I was pregnate with our son when he started. Actually he started two weeks before I delivard him. I have kicked him out. Everyone says I should leave him. But he seems to want to come over when the kids are not home to be with me. He has started calling me a lot during the day. He even planned a family trip while are oldest is on spring break. I feel I am getting mixed signals. I know he is still having sex with her. He tells me he still loves me.. I have started not taking his calls, because why should I. I thought I should try and move on. I ended up kissing some guy at a neighbors house, he found out and was really pissed. He went up to the guy and said some not very nice things. I just dont get it. Do I just give up? My heart says see if we can work on it. But my brain says you kicked him out for a reason.. Please help
Mellys
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In your case, I would normally say to think long and hard about trying to make it work being that you have 8 years of marriage behind you and a child but if it is true that he is still sleeping with this woman, you need to think about whether or not this shows you he has true remorse for his actions despite what he is saying to you now. If he truely cares for you and the life you've built together, he will put necessary action behind his words to show you that. If he does not, it will happen again.
If you're saying that you know he's still sleeping with her because you are (understandably) suspicious of him then you really need to ask yourself a few questions before you consider making an attempt to work things out. If you take the steps toward reconciliation then you need to realise that there will be work on your part too. You'll need to learn to let go of the hurt and the suspicions to begin on a clean slate. That is the only way it will work and knowing whether or not you are capable of that is the only way you will know whether or not it is a good idea for you to stay.
Let me say that cheating is not as black and white an issue as alot of people would like to believe. There are alot of factors, unique to each relationship, that need to be taken into consideration. We are not perfect and marriage is not easy. It takes alot of work all the time to keep it together. People will make mistakes both big and small in life and everyone has their opinion on which mistakes are unforgivable and which are not. You can get all of the advice in the world but at the end of the day, only you can decide that for yourself.
Keep these things in mind. Either way, it won't be easy so make the decision that will ultimately make you happiest in the long run.
Good luck<3
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Hey ok well i think you should leave him, he has cheated on you in the past nd he will do it again.You need to ask your self whats best for you, but if you still love him tell him if he realy loves you he will stop seeing the outher women nd come back to you, but it all bolis down to what you want nd what will make you happy. If he is just playing with your emoutions then leave him but if he is serious about leaveing the outher women and nd you will give him a nother shoot then do it, but in the end it all boils down to what will make you happy hope i helped
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Mellys you neeed to seriously leave this man!hes hurt you once and hell do it again i mean you were pregnant and ready to deliever!hes ment to b waiting on you hand and foot at that time.he knew exactly what he was doing and for a year?the man has no conciounse!once a player always a player sweety you need to move on no need to hold back because he is just going to hurt you again.some times men just cant help themselves with these things.there are just soo many reasons you should leave him.you make it clear to your husband that you dont want to be with him.i mean who knows, he may have cheated on you before and just never told you about it.some guys just cant stop and i know its easier said than done but youll b better off without him..its less sleepless nights and less tears and less pain that way sweety..hope this helps
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