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Hey everyone, I have been giving advice on this site since I was 16 and have always been honest with the askee. I just feel that there is no point in lying as I would hate to be lied too and thats why I always tell it like it is. I also feel that when people lie - it causes more hurt than good. Anyone after honest advice - feel free to send me a question!!
Also if you EVER need additional advice just send me an email and I will get back to you :)
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Does anyone know where I can buy the movie "James Dean" starring James Franco.

I tried looking on Amazon, but it's too expensive. I want it on DVD. Anyone have an idea? (link)
Its quite cheap on Ebay Just checked.
Good Luck,

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OK, I'm in high school and I don't have any friends, or a boyfriend.. and my family pretty much hates me and my mom and dad are convinced that I'm not gonna get anywhere in life. And they make sure to keep telling me that. So now I kinda breakdown everyday. Even for the stupidest things.. Like I start crying all the time. And I feel so.. incomplete. I sit down and try to study but I always feel like something is missing.. and I can't concentrate. Also, I'm always worrying about what others are saying about me.. (my class is FULL of bitchy snobby girls).. I think about it all the time. Like I literally spend half my day thinking about what they say about me and how mean they are to me.. And I keep wondering how I can make it better. Am I really just full of self pity or am I seriously losing my mind? (link)
Hey hun,
U r not losing ur mind what you seem 2 b is depressed. I went through something similar and ended up going 2 see a therapist, this helped me a lot. the other option for me was anti-depressants but I personally am not a big believer in these. I think what you should do is make an appointment with your doctor and explain how you feel, dont b embarrassed - they will listen and give u ur options. On the bitchy girls - try and ignore them, I know that its hard but the more you ignore them the quicker the bitchiness will stop, that is if they are talking about you, sometimes when you are down you can convince yourself that everyone is talking about you but in the end they arent. In the case of family they shouldnt b telling you that your not going to get anywhere in life, but in this case what you have to do is prove them wrong - figure out what you want from life and go after it, the only one that can change your life is you no-one else has that right. On the point of not having friends - I had fake friends in high school and only just met my true friends when I went to college, on the point of a boyfriend you will meet someone eventually probably again in college, someone who will make you forget all your problems and make you feel like the most magnificent person ever 2 walk the planet.I hope this advice has helped even a little and that you feel better soon.
Let me know how it goes....
Good Luck.
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Paige...I have this crush! i dont know if he likes me tho!!!we have been talking al lot on facebook!!!I am sooooooooooooo shy to tell him that I like!!!lik...his friends,his brother,AND a lot of other people say he likes me...But i dont believe them!!! He has to tell me!! Everyday I wake up sobbing because Of him!!! I miss him if i m not around him for more than1 hour!!! i cant believe I am tellin u this because i am so popular I am soooo hard to get too.But with him I feel...I fell so different!!!When he talks to me I cant help giggle ing!!I cant help a smile when I am around him!!! he is the hottest guy in school!!!What should I do???I m heart broken when he is not around me!!! Please wright back to me!!!tell me what should do...PLEASE!!! (link)
Hey there hun,

I have been through something similar to this before so I get the missing him and the feeling down because u dont feel you can be with him. What you could do is invite a group of your friends and a group of his out then this way you wont feel so self concious and it gives you the chance to show him the side of you that he perhaps doesnt get to see through facebook!! A thing which you should also do is maybe try and get something to keep you occupied like a new hobby, or even try keeping a diary - they may be percieved as old fashioned but they will help balance out your feelings as the way you feel about this guy is very intense and you need to balance it out or it will drive you crazy!!
Another thing which you could do is over time try and distance yourself from him - as absence does make the heart grow fonder!!
Good luck hun, and dont listen to certain advicenators who are telling you u are being 2 needy!!
Hope I helped!!
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15/f

It's kind of a long story. I started dating this guy. Still had a crush on another guy. This other guy is my friend. Still talk to him..and I still like him. He just turned 18. My boyfriend is 16. Just extra info.

So I'm kinda confused what to do because I love my boyfriend. But you know how it is, you're attracted to other people. I found out my boyfriend liked another girl too. We ended up talking about it. Fixed it. And its fine. But it still kills me.

This other guy, we've been friends for about 2 years. Friends with his sister, so I mean, we're pretty close. I know he's into me and all that. We wouldn't really do anything about it anyway though. So I'm not planning on leaving my boyfriend for him. Cause I'm not planning to get with this guy. He's 18 and I'm 15, almost 16. The thing that gets to me though is that he compliments me alot and flirts and is a pretty good friend. My boyfriend is better though. I don't want to leave him at all..I just don't know what to do.

I don't know what is the best to do in this situation. I mean, I know alot of people have dealt with this before. Just when it happens to you, you get really confused. Maybe you can see it from a different view and give me some advice here.
If you don't mind me inboxing anyone let me know. Cause I think I'm gonna need someone to help me with this. Thanks so much! (link)
Hey huni,
Well you've answered your own question lol your happy with your boyfriend so you stay with him and keep your friend who you also like and if things do (hopefully not) break down with your bf then at least you have your friend 2 fall back on. He will make you feel better when your down and maybe one day in the future you guys will get together!
About your bf liking another girl - like you say when your with someone you can b attracted 2 others its human nature!
But when you finally find the one guy for ever (it may b mr 18 or mr 16) then eventually he wont b able to think of another girl without comparing how much better you r than them - like you have done with mr 16 and mr18!!
You can message me if you want - if you like my advice that is!
Good luck hun!
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My "best friend" seems to get in the middle of all of my relationships,crushes,men,etc.I guess its shame on me for staying friends with someone like this,but we've been friends for 6 years so it's hard to just drop someone and she hangs out with the same people as me.But ,one time while i was sleeping she hooked up with the guy i liked (we werent dating) and ofcourse i was younger and immature,and it made me feel like crap but i got over it.Then this year,there was this kid i liked.He wasn't very good looking but i still liked him and he liked me..i talked to him almost everynight and we started to hangout and stuff. I would bring my best friend (val) and he then started flirting with her! She took no interest in him,but she gave him her number and he'd text her all the time.Instead of just not responding,she would respond ALL the time and hangout with him..and he got the wrong idea and thought she liked him ,but she continued to talk to him anyway and he stopped liking me..for her.i was mad,but again ...got over it because i got over the boy. My current ex (went out for 3 months and broke up 2 weeks ago) is the new issue.While me and my boyfriend were dating,i had a little party at my house (ofcourse everyone was drunk..) i fell asleep upstairs and the next day,my boyfriend confessed to me that him and my best friend were flirting and she sat on his lap etc.etc.they didn't kiss or anything but SHE never confessed any of this to me.He cried to me and begged me to forgive him and that he wouldn't want to lose me over her.i accepted it,because he told me the truth and even had the guts to cry.He broke up with me ,2 weeks ago..because he needed some space and was just with me way to much.We are still VERY good friends though ( obviously i still like him and i dont know how he feels about me ) we still hangout and chill and stuff.but my best friend seems to be getting closer with him.I have a class with him and so does she. She told me today that they were talking the whole class period and he asked her to hangout and that he "kinda doesnt want to get into anything " with me anymore (besides just friends..)She flirts with him all the time and he says he thinks shes annoying and a hoe and whatnot but in front of my face,he flirts with her sometimes too(idk if he does that to make me jealous or what).So it's two faced on both sides!I'm still crazy about my ex boyfriend and i feel as though ive lost his attention because he's already "been there,done that" kind of thing.We are all in the same circle of friends because i brought him into our group and we will all hangout probably this weekend.I basically want him back ,but i need tips on how to get his attention.I was gonna try ignoring him and then letting my friend just annoy him so he realizes that he lost me.I don't know what to do because it's hard to avoid hanging out with him ! help! we are on good terms too so idk what to do! (link)
Hey hun,
Okay firstly - I know that you dont wanna hear this but your friend is not trustworthy at all!
She has went with two guys you like and your recently ex - wat was she playing at? You know that you agree, because no true friend would have done that. The first thing I always say to people I am giving advice 2 is take yourself out of the equation. Now read the question as though for the first time and you are gonna advise this girl what would you tell her?
You would tell her never ever- leave her in the same room as any guy u like! and when your out don't let her get to him because if he sees that shes interested he may end up getting with her. But if you get there first and say hi smiling your sweetest smile then maybe go and flirt with another guy checking (discreetly) if hes watching. If he is then he's still interested, if shes flirting with him then (time to b harsh) its time to never trust her as a friend with secrets and sorry to say but you need 2 set him free hun. Its a true saying you've got to let what you love free 2 see if it comes back 2 u! and you never know maybe in time when your happy with someone else he will come crawling back and you will be able to make the choice!
I hope I helped hun!
Its a crap situation for anyone - sorry your living it!
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okay well lost my virginty to my ex well ii was a virgina and he wasnt and now that me and him are broken up what do i do hes mad and hes saying a bunch of things about me and know what do i do (link)
In this situation I think that the best thing to do is laugh off all comments and don't retaliate!!
I know that you will probably read this and think what ????
But in the end you will be seen as taking the high road and he will be seen as scum!!
Ignorance is bliss and also it will really P*** him off!!
Which I am sure will be a bonus!
Hope I helped!!
Good Luck!!
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This guy, Carson and i went out for about a year. We were so amazing together, but ofcourse we fought once in a while....i loved him, and still love him so much. Everyguy that i have ever been with does not compare to him at all. This guy named Justin and I have been talking...we have been talking about going out maybe cuz we kind of like each other.....for about a year, carson and I didn't talk...he would prank call me or talk shit about me to my friends...yeah, you guys are probably thinking that this is so fucked up..true, but i think he was only trying to get my attention....so anyway....we are talking a little bit..nothing big, just texting...and he wants to write a song together and record it....he knows how much i love singing..and i feel like he is using this to see me.....he asked me if i wanted to chill after we record the song and i told him i couldn't, so he told me we should just do it another day...i think he was mad, but at the same time he wants a day when he can record and chill with me....he jus doesn't want to record only....but i miss him so much :(...i love him more than a can say....i know that someone else better will come in the future...but for now i only think about him....and with justin, i don't know what to do...we are going to hang out and everything...and i'm just scared that if i say yes to justin, carson is going to want me back....it would be nice to be with justin because he is a nice guy really...but i'm inlove with carson...all i wanted to see is what you guys think about the whole situation.....but another thing i wanted to ask about is this....so i'm known to take forever when i text people....i did that to carson....and he does the same thing to me...and it drives me nuts....i just do it back...example would be him texting me in the morning...then i text him back around eleven..then he will text at five..and then i text him before i go to bed and he texts back....sometimes we wait a whole day to write each other back...its driving me crazy....this probably makes no sense but tell me what you guys think about it...is he doing it on purpose like i am? or is he busy? or what do you guys think? (link)
This Carson guy seems to be your first big love and thats so awesome that you have experienced that but I think that maybe and dont hate me for saying this but maybe you should concentrate on this Justin guy and see how that goes and if that doesnt work out then if Carson is still around you should then take it as a sign. I guess what I am suggesting is that you leave it up to fate - if you and C are meant to be then you still will be after a few months or how long you and J last. In the case of the texts I think that he was just doing it on purpose and the thing about the song was obviously meaning you!
But in the end you know what your heart needs and I would say follow that instinct!
Good luck whomever you chose!
Sorry I wasnt much help!
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Guy 1: Hates guy 2, I think he likes me and I like him and we have a lot in common.

Guy 2: Just my friend. Hates guy 1. Has a crush on me. Knows I like guy 1 and does NOT like it AT ALL!

Both are single

How do I handle this situation? (link)
If guy two is a true friend then he will realise that even although you love him as a friend you like guy one better. In the case of guy one I say if you find out for sure that he feels the same as you do then go for it and guy one will if he is a good friend live with it. In the end if they don't put aside their differences then you need to talk to them both together and give them an ultimatum!.I know that this isn't the best advice but good luck!!
Hope I helped and good luck!!
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Just to warn you guys, this is gonna be long.
15/f
On tuesday me and my boyfriend broke up. On tuesday night we were emailing eachother and he told me that i wasn't listening to him and that the point of the convorsation was not to break up, but to tell me he didn't think we were in love yet. I know this is not true because the first thing he said was 'i know this might come as a suprise to you, but i don't see us going far in a relationship'. Sounds like a breakup to me. He told me i was the most amazing thing and that he wanted another chance. i told him i didn't know and that i'd talk to him at school on wednesday. Meanwhile i was emailing a few of his friends and they told me that he broke up with me because he wanted to ask this girl paige out. Apparently he tried some wierd scheme to make paige breakup with her boyfriend but it backfired and thats why he came back to me. So then wednesday came around and he was waiting by my locker to talk. i said hey but then didn't say anything immediately. He stood there for no more than 20 seconds while i put my bag in my locker and he said 'well i guess your too any to talk so i guess i'll just leave you alone'. Then he didn't talk to me for the rest of the day. Now his friends are calling me and telling me there are several people he wants to ask out. But he keeps emailing me saying that he really cares about me and that they're lying. He says he only wants me and would never lie. Today is thursday and i was sick today and can't go back to school until monday. I'm scared he really is going to ask out these girls while im not around. I want him back to but i don't wanna be to late. I also don't know if i should take him back. I trust him, but i don't think so many people would lie about something. Anyone have any ideas?
XXXOOO,
Lonely_girl (link)
Hey honey,
I am so sorry that you are in such a crappy situation!
But I think that you know that you should just let him go, he is obviously not worth your attention or even worth your thoughts!
He thinks about other girls and you know that, my friend recently went through the same thing and she realised that she needed to just let him go and although it was a little hard she felt better for it!
Guys that play the field like to have someone there that's comfy and that's all that you'd be sorry if that's harsh but you don't need that!
Love will happen you just have to get rid of him, get past the hurt and then you will realise that this guy was so not the guy for you and when you do finally find the right guy he wont even think of another girl because he will have you and these guys do exist!
Also your friends must be really awesome to tell you what he has been saying and hanging with them will get you past all this crappiness and on to MR RIGHT!!
If you hate this advice then try and take yourself out of the situation and imagine that its one of your friends that is going through this and ask yourself what you would tell them to do?
Hope I helped!!
Good Luck!!
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I'm obsessed with Twilight! Of all the things I never thought a book/movie could change my lifestyle SO much. I so want to find an Edward of my own and if he looks like Rob Pattinson- BINGO!! UGH!! I just need to come back to reality. But its just so difficult. I refuse to meet guys now because at my last date all I was thinking was how much the guy looked like Taylor Laurent!! Please tell me how do I get over this stupid obsession before I lose my sanity!! (link)
Okay I know that this doesnt help but, I say that you enjoy it whilst it lasts normally I would say keep a distance from the books/ movie but I have the same symtoms and they arent going away!!
sorry I cant help!!
Good luck !!
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20f
I've been dating this guy for about three months and he has a problem with not calling me. He doesn't have a cell phone (I do) and I really hate calling his parents house to reach him and bug them or leave it up to them to relay a message. I've told him a few times I have a problem with him not calling me when he goes five or seven days and he got better.
About two weeks ago he got kicked out of his parents house (long story) so now he is staying with his grandparents, and he didn't call me for ten days! He finialy called yesterday but we didn't say much, I told him I felt like braking it off but that I wanted to talk about it later (he said okay).
I know he's not in a good place right now (mentally) and isn't thinking about calling me every few days but on the other hand I feel like I'm just making excuses for him.
I have some friends that say dump him and others that say let him have one more chance. I know its my choice/desision.
But I wanted an outside opinion on the situation.
Any ideas? Thanks. (link)
Hey hun,
This is a tough situation to find yourself in, but if it were me I would determine how much more of all this nonsense that I could take and also how much I liked him. I understand that he is going through a hard time but does that mean that you have to get brought down with him and that is whats happening he is making you question yourself and whether you are being to hard on him. When in actual fact if the situation were reversed he would probably have dumped you by now. If none of this is convincing then take yourself out of the equation and ask yourself what would you say to your friend if she was going through this?.
If its meant to be then its meant to be chic.
Good luck with whatever you decide!!
Dxxxxxx


ok so i have a bf whose unexperienced when it comes to dating hes only had one other gf whose super pretty but she cheated on him cus he "never did anything" not even a kiss so i am like his "guinea pig" he even mentioned that he just wants a gf in high school to have practice and doesnt plan on going further than high school and when we first started making out he insisted on making out every day and every time we hang out idk if he likes me or jus using me to "practice" i dont wanna waste my time but i read tips or w/e and he does look into my eyes alot and he tells me how much he likes me but i think im paranoid or somehting? does he like me? (link)
Hey chic,
Okay when you got with him he did tell you of his intentions so in the begining he was defo just stringing you along. But this does not prove anything its similar to the whole friends with benefits situation sometimes what starts as a fling of sorts can turn into a lot more. Although hun if I am being honest the only way you are gonna find out is if you ask him, but I get that maybe you cant and thats fine so what you can do instead is go with it. If he does like you then you'll still b together but if not then you have to prepare for the worst hun and enjoy it whilst it lasts.
Also even if you guys do split as planned, this doesnt mean that he doesnt like you, would you kiss someone you didnt like every day??
Good luck chic, I hope that all works out and if not then dont let it get you down you will meet someone one day that will sweep you off your feet and you wont even see him coming!!
Hope I helped!!
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i have had some problems with friends in school latley and i got my unch period changed so i wouldnt have to be with those girls any more. the counciler wants me to tell him their names so we can all have a talk but my mom already tried and nothing worked. we asked him not to but he says he really wants to. they'll just make fun of me for telling on them because thats the way they are. even so the counciler wants us to do this. space fem, what should i do? (link)
Councilors huh? In this case you should just stick to your guns and explain that you understand that he has a job to do and that he feels that this would be a good idea, but that you and your mom have already tried this to no avail and if you were to give their names you feel the trouble would get worse. If this doesn't work hun then I'm sorry that your friends are being so sucky, but just remember he cant force you to tell and if you really do feel that its in your best interest not to then good luck I know what like "friends" like that can be and I hope that it either gets resolved or you find new better friends!!
Good luck and I hope I helped even if the advice was a little rubbish!!
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Okay, let's see if i can get this right. i am 15 and i am female. ive liked this one guy for a long time, almost two years now, and ive like him the whole time (even when ive had other relationships and other crushes). at one point in time we were extremely close but never dated, meaning, we were always together and flirting and whatnot. After a few weeks, he asked me out, and i said no because "i didnt want to ruin what we had", which i extremely regret now. Anyway, we kept flirting and doing things even when we werent going out. He even told me once that he loved me and i completely believed him. He was always there for me and when my grandfather died he was the one that gave me a shoulder to lean on. Then my friends starting hating me because my whole world revolved around him and no one else. Eventually i realized that i wasnt the only one he was flirting with and "loving". When winter came around, his sports picked up and i never heard from him anymore (although i saw him in school). I hated him so much, he had actually told me one day that he didnt have time for me and i would have to wait until summer (you can just imagine how crushed i was). after that i refused to talk to him and he would stop me in the hallway and he just didnt understand why i hated him so much.

Recently, ive started talking to him again. For some reason i cant get him out of my head and honestly, i love him, even after the heartbreak and all the tears. I just dont know what to do. On one hand im happy again after so long of faking it, then again on the other hand, i know he is just gonna do the same thing to me again.

Please help me. (link)
Hey chic,
here's the thing what i am gonna say is gonna make you unhappy either way but, I think you need to drop him from your life all together because as you say your happy now that you don't need to falsify your feelings but again as u say he WILL do it again and you WILL get hurt. In the greater scheme of things you need to decide would you rather get hurt now and spend the next few months with heart ache and sadness until something better comes along. Or are you gonna wear your heart on your sleeve and tell him how u feel, then hopefully have a few months of happiness before the heart break. The choice is yours and I don't mean to be cheeky when I say this. But this is what I can offer advice wise.
What I will say is, good luck and no matter what happens keep the faith if you guys are meant to be it will happen. If you guys aren't then it wont, but if you guys aren't then someone better and that will worship the ground you walk on will turn up when you least expect it!!
Hope I helped!!
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I was friends with this guy last year, but he got into drinking and stuff, which I don't do, so I stopped talking to him. Then, one of my closest friends started dating him, and naturally, we started talking again. He had stopped drinking and doing bad stuff. We became good friends and I told him a lot about myself, especially about my family problems. He would always text me and one day, he asked me to hang out at his house. We hung out before, without his girlfriend before, so I didn't think it was a big deal. I even talked to her about it, and she was fine with it. That night when we hung out, he kept trying to hook up with me. He was flirting and tickling me and I kept telling him to stop, but he wouldn't listen. He was kissing my neck and stuff, and everytime I mentioned his girlfriend, he said he'd just kiss me more. He also told me how his girlfriend was only a "2 out of 3" because she hasn't given him a blow job. He kept touching my butt and my chest and pretty much everywhere else. I knew it was wrong, but he wouldn't stop. Honestly, it was the first time in a while that I felt wanted, and when he tried to hook up, I did for a second. I pulled away and said it was wrong, but he kept kissing and touching me. I still don't get why I did it, but he just kept pressuring me. Afterwards, he acted as if it wasn't a big deal even though he cheated on his girlfriend, also my friend. He told me not to say anything, butI told her a week later because I was too scared to tell her right away. She was really upse, but she seemed more mad at him than me. Her sister pretty much hates me now. The guy hates me too, but I don't care because I hate him too. However, his girlfriend and him are on a "break" and she's forgiving him. I don't understand why because he doesn't truly love her. I'm afraid he's gonna hurt her again. I just don't get why I'm not being forgiven too when it was both of us. Also, I think it's more of his fault than mine. They were some of my closest friends and now I'm depressed, lonely, and don't have anyone. (link)
Hey chic, this is a really sh*ty situation uve bn put in, youre right he shouldnt have tried it on with you!! He was so in the wrong for this and yes as you know you shouldnt have kissed him back even for a second but you felt wanted and stopped to begin with when you realised how wrong it was, But you also shouldnt have slept with him, you were the one that told her and he was the one that was a coward so you shouldnt be the only one thats punished for this!! What you should do is try and get her alone and talk to her explain how sorry you are and ask her why she can forgive him but not you!! If she doesnt answer and still treats you the same explain that whilst your sorry and you realise why shes angry you,you do worry that he may cheat again!!
I know that this advice may seem rubbish and probably not what you want to hear but you may need to join a group or find new friends at least until she realises what an idiot he is or that she needs you more than him. Try speaking with her but before you do you need to come to terms with the fact that she may still not yet forgive you but she will one day!!
Hope I helped and I really hope that you two can work it out!!
Good Luck!!
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Alright, ill just cut this short and get to the point:



Well i am 15 years old, my boyfriends 15 years old. We both go to the same school. Started going out about 7 months ago + have been since then. We have one of the best fricken relationships i have ever witnessed in my life. I do NOT know what i would be like without him in my life. I love him with all my heart, so much that no one can understand that except me + him. But i have been grounded and havent gotten to see him on the weekends at all for about 3 months now. (Except i see him at school, but still) And usually if that happened with someone else, they would have broken up with me cause they cant wait for me to be ungrounded. But him, no, he has been with me through this all and has stuck with me through it, and still loves me and acts like he always does. And it just makes me so fricken happy that hes like that. Cause of him, i am able to trust people more, and i dont know..i just get this wierd feeling thinking about him all the time..but a good wierd ;) And it feels SO good to know that he loves me and that i have nothing to worry about with him, cause i havent been with him on the weekends cause i usually always am. But in the past, my ex-boyfriends have cheated on me, lied to me, and almost every bad thing you could think of. And thats where i got my trust to dwindle down to almost nothing. So when i met him, (Dominick) I thought this would all happen again and i didnt trust him AT ALL. But once a week or so into our relationship, i got a big wake up call; I realized that he was the only one i could trust and that he was just the right one for me. It was so wierd though, cause i just got this really good feeling and i just realized all this. It was actually kind of cool if you ask me. Like i realized that he was the one i want to spend the rest of my life with + i just love him SO MUCH! But yeah, my real question is..would you call this love? I KNOW im in love but i just wanted some opinoins out there.
Thanks for taking your time to read this + sorry for the length. But thanks ahead of time! (link)
Hey huni, Hell yeah i'd call this love some would say that ur 2 young but tbh I think and I am sure that you'd agree that love is ageless. So good luck and I hope that you 2 last. I am glad that you have been lucky enough 2 find someone that can make you trust again!!! That is very rare!!
I luvd your story btw, good luck and I hope that you guys last forever and ever!!
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My boyfriend and i were together 11months, we were in love and everything just seemed perfect. We were best friends before we started going together and then we did, things just started to slow down kind of, i think we wanted to see what else was out there as 11 months is a long time. Since then he's kissed other girls n tht at clubs but i've not. Thing is when we're out we still act like what we did when we were together just without the sexual part of it. At his 18th when i said goodbye to him he told me he loved me and naturally i said it back.I hate it becuase i feel like we're in love and want to be together but we're only 17 so have like live our lives. But i really do feel we're meant to be and when we are out together we just act like normal with no awkwardness.
However i don't no if its just me that feels this way or even reli what i'm feeling. I'm too scared to ask him incase he doesn't feel the same or if he does i don't want to get my hopes up about getting back together.

Any ideas what i'm thinking or whether i should talk to him and what i should find out about him?

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Aww Hon,
Thats a real crap situation your in!! Okay well I think that the only thing that you can do in this situation is talk to him, this will help you realise how he really feels!! If you both sit down and perhaps discuss exactly what you feel for each other then hopefully from this you can also work out how you feel!! However it might also be an idea 2 find out if he's dating anyone else before you go in there and ask how he feels!!
Also just because of your age doesn't mean that you cant be in love, love is ageless so if he isn't dating anyone else, do what your heart tells you and don't b ruled by your head alone!!
He has told you that he loves you so this is positive!!
Give it chance if he does love you and you never no you guys could live happily ever after!!
Good Luck either way!!
Hope I helped!!
Dxxxxx


I recently went to an interview with Vector. I initially thought it would be a great place to work since their base pay is 15 dollars. It sounded like a nice job.

During the interview, she said you only earn 15 dollars per appointment. You'd be selling knives. I thought wow, how lame. Then she mentions for a starter pack it's $140. I even had one friend who went through vector and said it's not worth it.

Also, the manager was a total B***h. When I asked questions, she got sarcastic with me. And when we had to write down notes during the group interview, she noticed I wasn't writing down something, and got sarcastic with me, asking if my pen was broke. I was like, "wow."

The group interview lasted two hours. The manager said she liked me so she hired me. But I am very indecisive on whether I should take the job or not. So what should I do?

Anyone here who went through Vector? Or anyone who will give me a mere suggestion would be great. (link)
To be honest with you I dont have a clue about this company however although I cannot answer this for you what I will do is say this-
You have to sit down and think how badly do you need this job?
Can you risk the 140 dollars?
Do you trust ur friends judgement?
If you answered not much!
No and yes to the above then I think you should just keep looking and find a job that you feel will be best for u!!
Hope I helped!!
Dxxxxxxx


My friend went to jail , but there is a injuction thats saying I cant talk to him till im 18 cause hes overage . Do I have to wait till im 18 inorder to write him a letter or anything ? (link)
Hey there,
The letter writing shouldnt be a problem I mean peoples parents get put in jail and they write to them.
Also as long as you dont write anything about sex etc then it should b okay to write to him!! Sometimes teh letters do get read if they think that there may b drugs in them etc!!
I am taking from the fact that u cant visit that u dont hav an adult that will go with you?
But hey keep the faith and write to him and just count the days till you can see him again!!
Dxxxxxx


everytime i have a problem my friend A always asks me whats wrong and stuff but i always avoid her when i have a problem since i dont really wanna talk about it and she says"you always do this but its okay, i wont give up on you" what is she trying to say?
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Hey there
All A is saying is that they wont stop asking you, and that they will b there when your ready to talk. So like if you ever need to talk about anything then they will be there no matter what!!
A is defo a keeper!!
DXXXXXXX




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