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I ruined my friendship with three people. I'm so alone.
I was friends with this guy last year, but he got into drinking and stuff, which I don't do, so I stopped talking to him. Then, one of my closest friends started dating him, and naturally, we started talking again. He had stopped drinking and doing bad stuff. We became good friends and I told him a lot about myself, especially about my family problems. He would always text me and one day, he asked me to hang out at his house. We hung out before, without his girlfriend before, so I didn't think it was a big deal. I even talked to her about it, and she was fine with it. That night when we hung out, he kept trying to hook up with me. He was flirting and tickling me and I kept telling him to stop, but he wouldn't listen. He was kissing my neck and stuff, and everytime I mentioned his girlfriend, he said he'd just kiss me more. He also told me how his girlfriend was only a "2 out of 3" because she hasn't given him a blow job. He kept touching my butt and my chest and pretty much everywhere else. I knew it was wrong, but he wouldn't stop. Honestly, it was the first time in a while that I felt wanted, and when he tried to hook up, I did for a second. I pulled away and said it was wrong, but he kept kissing and touching me. I still don't get why I did it, but he just kept pressuring me. Afterwards, he acted as if it wasn't a big deal even though he cheated on his girlfriend, also my friend. He told me not to say anything, butI told her a week later because I was too scared to tell her right away. She was really upse, but she seemed more mad at him than me. Her sister pretty much hates me now. The guy hates me too, but I don't care because I hate him too. However, his girlfriend and him are on a "break" and she's forgiving him. I don't understand why because he doesn't truly love her. I'm afraid he's gonna hurt her again. I just don't get why I'm not being forgiven too when it was both of us. Also, I think it's more of his fault than mine. They were some of my closest friends and now I'm depressed, lonely, and don't have anyone.
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Well i think when your boyfriend cheats on you it hurts no matter who it is....but when it is your close friend its hurts a lot worse! It might have been more of his fault in the begining but yall were equally at fault when you were hooking up you could have left at anytime. Girls typically get more mad at the friend because your the person she goes to when she has a problem with him or anything else. I do think you deserve something for telling her about it because most girls don't they would rather take it to there grave! You should just let her know how sorry you really are and not make it out to be more his fault it just seems like your making excuses. Also you are right if he is going to cheat on her she really must not love her but on the other hand she is most likely thinking your not a very good friend if you will hook up with her boyfriend. But a true friend will always forgive you it just takes time. So give her some space and if she is a real friend she will forgive you and yall can move past this and if not you can always make new friends
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That's a really tough situation. Even though you were telling him no, you should have gotten up and left. You knew he was with your friend, and you knew it was wrong. If it was a situation where you absolutely could not get out of it, tell your friend that. Tell her that you kept telling him to stop and that he wouldn't. Let your friend know that you're extremely sorry about it and that you won't even hang out with him again. No matter what, things are going to be awkward now between you, her and him. It's just an awkward thing. Make sure your friend knows that you don't have any feelings for him, but that you just got pressured and caught up in the moment.
If your friend doesn't forgive, remember that there are plenty of other people to be friends with. Try hanging out with people that you're friends with now more often. They could very likely become your best friends instead of just casual friends. If your friend realizes that you are sorry and that you know what you did wrong, she should forgive you sooner or later. Just make sure that she knows that you understand why she's upset and that you wish it never happened.
Darby(:
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Hey chic, this is a really sh*ty situation uve bn put in, youre right he shouldnt have tried it on with you!! He was so in the wrong for this and yes as you know you shouldnt have kissed him back even for a second but you felt wanted and stopped to begin with when you realised how wrong it was, But you also shouldnt have slept with him, you were the one that told her and he was the one that was a coward so you shouldnt be the only one thats punished for this!! What you should do is try and get her alone and talk to her explain how sorry you are and ask her why she can forgive him but not you!! If she doesnt answer and still treats you the same explain that whilst your sorry and you realise why shes angry you,you do worry that he may cheat again!!
I know that this advice may seem rubbish and probably not what you want to hear but you may need to join a group or find new friends at least until she realises what an idiot he is or that she needs you more than him. Try speaking with her but before you do you need to come to terms with the fact that she may still not yet forgive you but she will one day!!
Hope I helped and I really hope that you two can work it out!!
Good Luck!!
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