E-mail: abnoel1029@aol.com
Gender: Female
Location: sc
Age: 18
AIM: abnoel1029
Member Since: May 15, 2009
Answers: 6
Last Update: May 16, 2009
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There is this guy I’ve been with for almost two years now, and our relationship has been kind of bumpy… We’re very different from each other, until we come across these little things that remind us both how similar we are… But anyway, the differences between us have started some very big fights and we have been fighting since six months into our relationship. About a year into our relationship, he broke it off because he said we fought too much and because we were so different… That crushed me, but things started to build up again, and before we knew it, we were celebrating our second valentines day together again. I’m in love with him, crazy about him, and I thought things were starting to improve between us, But this past February, he broke it off again after another big fight… He said he couldn’t take the fighting anymore and he was tired of hurting me, etc. etc… But he wanted to remain friends… I wasn’t so lucky this time around and he’s been trying his best to stick to just being friends… He doesn’t kiss me anymore, he doesn’t tell me he loves me, and I hardly get to spend time with him anymore… And I’ve tried, but it’s hard and it hurts to not be close to him anymore, and I guess that because of that, we’ve been fighting way more than when we were together… It’s probably immature and stupid, but the fact is that I can’t pretend to just be his friend when I’m crazy in love with him… And I’ve told him all this, and a while ago after another one of our fights, I told him I couldn’t take it anymore, that I’ve been too depressed trying to be his friend, and that we fight too much and that I couldn’t take it anymore and I told him that it was best if we didn’t see or talk to each other ever again… He cried and he begged and he kissed me and he said he loved me too much to loose me forever and he asked me to please try harder to be his friend… So seeing him so hurt, made me give in again and I tried again, but the fights came back, and a couple of days ago we went trough the same thing again… I told him I hated fighting with him, cause it was hurting both of us and I told him I loved him, but that I couldn’t pretend to keep doing this… I was a bit more firm this time, but he cried again and that was that… I erased his number from my phone, but the next day he called me back over and over again, until I eventually gave in and answered… He told me he loved me and couldn’t live without me and that he needed me by his side (just not as his girlfriend), he cried a lot and begged and said he would kiss me if I wanted and that he would spend all day with me together and we could make love and do everything we loved doing when we were together… and I gave in again, and yesterday, Friday we did just that… But at the end of the night I cried again because I knew that when the day was over, we were going go back to just being friends… And that’s what happened and here I am, depressed again because I can’t have the guy I love… BUT technically I do have him… So my question is, should I wait until he’s ready for a relationship, or should I let him go, for real this time… And if he loves me so much, why doesn’t he just want to be with me, am I missing something? Any advice would be appreciated,
I think I’m going crazy. (link)
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Well that is not a fun place to be. My honest thoughts are he is being a bit selfish. It just seems like he wants to eat his cake and have it too. You have to do whats best for you and i dont think trying to pretend you can be his friend when you oviously can't is good. You just need to explain to him that you do love him and you have come to terms with yall not being together and that if he loves you like he says he does then you would appreciate some space. Tell him you hope that you can be friends one day but right now you can't there are just to many feelings going on.
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ok, so heres the rundown.. me and my girlfriend of almost a year, ill go ahead give names and ages.. (as bad as that sounds.) shelby-14 and daniel-16 (me) i konw you want to quickly judge us based on age, but we love eachother.. we do. as much as i do love "getting some" that is not why im with her. im with her because i love her, we laugh, cry, joke, and we sometimes argue a bit. anyways, we had sex, in a public bathroom, and well... her mom found out. she knows we used pretection.. but.. she wants to not let us see eachother.. i mean.. i went to cozumels for cinco de mayo (cozumels is a mexican resturant) and her family was there... they saw me and they immidiately left... (they didnt order yet).. because of me... i mean.. i have to see her. i will wait the full 4 years if i have to.. but i cannot allow that to happen.. we will both spend 4 years of misery.. and i wound like to intervene... somehow.. i sent her mom a long txt.. nothing too personal, just telling her about me loving her, and that i want a long realationship with her... didnt work. needless to say i only sent 1 txt.. i mean, i dont wanna harrass anyone.. anyways.. help plz?.. just any suggestions im up for.. (link)
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Sex changes the whole dynamic of a relationship and i also had sex at a young age and i like yourself didnt think having sex should stop me from seeing my boyfriend! I am not saying you were or werent ready only you know that but going threw it it i learned sex is a adult desicion that should be treated accordingly...I think that if you have to have sex in a public bathroom then you probably shouldnt be doing it. Sex is something special and a public bathroom is not where i would want to share that experince with someone i truely love! As for her parents they are doing what they feel is best and you just have to respect that. To them your just a kid that took something from there daughter and are just trying to protect her so the best you can do is hope they will understand and stay true to your word best of luck
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I asked my fiance if he masturbated, expecting him to say no because he knows that I save myself for him, and never please myself unless he's there. He said around once every two weeks, in the shower. I think he's probably lying about how many times he does it because when he saw I was upset he said only four times since we've been together. We've been together for a Year and a half. It just doesn't add up. Not only that but I feel so hurt that he would rather do that than me. I can only think that he's in there fantasizing about other women. I feel like I can't satisfy him, and sex will never be the same. What do I do? (link)
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I understand where your your coming from at the same time i dont feel like masturbation is something bad. It is healthy for guys. You might feel like he is thinking about other girls but more than likely he is thinking how good you are in bed. Guys enjoy getting that release it brings it mellows them out and makes them happy and i promise you its not because you cant satisy him masturbation does not even compare to how good sex is.
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Well, I have a boyfriend. We have been dating for about a year now. And he's moving away August 12th.
Just recently, I met one of his best friends. And I guess it's pretty safe to say that I have feelings for him. And now I"m at the point where I'm a little confused.
Help please!
A.K. (link)
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Long distance relationships are really hard and if your heart is not in it then it is doomed to fail just make your choice wisely make sure your just not Infatuated with the idea of having something new i also would not advise the best friend well atleast not for awhile it in my opion is a disreguard of his feelings and the last thing you want to do is mess up a friendship
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I was friends with this guy last year, but he got into drinking and stuff, which I don't do, so I stopped talking to him. Then, one of my closest friends started dating him, and naturally, we started talking again. He had stopped drinking and doing bad stuff. We became good friends and I told him a lot about myself, especially about my family problems. He would always text me and one day, he asked me to hang out at his house. We hung out before, without his girlfriend before, so I didn't think it was a big deal. I even talked to her about it, and she was fine with it. That night when we hung out, he kept trying to hook up with me. He was flirting and tickling me and I kept telling him to stop, but he wouldn't listen. He was kissing my neck and stuff, and everytime I mentioned his girlfriend, he said he'd just kiss me more. He also told me how his girlfriend was only a "2 out of 3" because she hasn't given him a blow job. He kept touching my butt and my chest and pretty much everywhere else. I knew it was wrong, but he wouldn't stop. Honestly, it was the first time in a while that I felt wanted, and when he tried to hook up, I did for a second. I pulled away and said it was wrong, but he kept kissing and touching me. I still don't get why I did it, but he just kept pressuring me. Afterwards, he acted as if it wasn't a big deal even though he cheated on his girlfriend, also my friend. He told me not to say anything, butI told her a week later because I was too scared to tell her right away. She was really upse, but she seemed more mad at him than me. Her sister pretty much hates me now. The guy hates me too, but I don't care because I hate him too. However, his girlfriend and him are on a "break" and she's forgiving him. I don't understand why because he doesn't truly love her. I'm afraid he's gonna hurt her again. I just don't get why I'm not being forgiven too when it was both of us. Also, I think it's more of his fault than mine. They were some of my closest friends and now I'm depressed, lonely, and don't have anyone. (link)
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Well i think when your boyfriend cheats on you it hurts no matter who it is....but when it is your close friend its hurts a lot worse! It might have been more of his fault in the begining but yall were equally at fault when you were hooking up you could have left at anytime. Girls typically get more mad at the friend because your the person she goes to when she has a problem with him or anything else. I do think you deserve something for telling her about it because most girls don't they would rather take it to there grave! You should just let her know how sorry you really are and not make it out to be more his fault it just seems like your making excuses. Also you are right if he is going to cheat on her she really must not love her but on the other hand she is most likely thinking your not a very good friend if you will hook up with her boyfriend. But a true friend will always forgive you it just takes time. So give her some space and if she is a real friend she will forgive you and yall can move past this and if not you can always make new friends
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hello, im 15 f, and im cuban.
my boyfriend is 18 black and mexican.
heres the thing, my parents just recently found out that me and him are dating, and they fliped out. they say im nasty for liking a black guy, and that im only putting myself down and that im too pretty and light skined for him and etc.. i really dont know what to do cause i like him alot and i dont want to loose him over something so dumb like his skin color. and he isnt even that dark! hes like chris brown dark. and he dresses very nice, and is a good kid. i have to talk to my parents today. how can i convince them to let me be with him? oh and my dad was saying things like what would people think? and how it looks bad for someone whos white to be with someone whos black. (link)
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well sweetheart i just want you to know that i completly understand what you are going threw i am 18 and white my boyfriend of three years is black and when i told my parent i was not suprised to here that they were not having any part of it. They were very mad that i would even consider doing someting like that! I was really uspet so i decieded to talk to them in a mature manner and explain that times have changed and its not a big deal anymore i told them that i dont think its fair to limit my options by only dating people that are the same color because i could be missing out on a really great guy and that i wouldnt want someone not to date me just because i was white! At the same time you have to realize most people who feel like that its because it was how they were raised and its really hard to change something like that! So let them know you understand its hard for them to deal with because it not comfortable to them. I convienced them to atleast meet him and they agreed. They thought he was a really nice guy but still wished he was white! Eventually they came to except it and they turned out to really like him once they got to know him and not what they thought he would be like because of his color dont give up it will get better! I had to realize that at the end of the day you have to do what makes you happy and base you choices on what you want! I know your 15 so you still have to respect your parents so do the best you can and hope for the best sometimes they will surprise you
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