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Hurt by Masturbation
I asked my fiance if he masturbated, expecting him to say no because he knows that I save myself for him, and never please myself unless he's there. He said around once every two weeks, in the shower. I think he's probably lying about how many times he does it because when he saw I was upset he said only four times since we've been together. We've been together for a Year and a half. It just doesn't add up. Not only that but I feel so hurt that he would rather do that than me. I can only think that he's in there fantasizing about other women. I feel like I can't satisfy him, and sex will never be the same. What do I do?
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I understand where your your coming from at the same time i dont feel like masturbation is something bad. It is healthy for guys. You might feel like he is thinking about other girls but more than likely he is thinking how good you are in bed. Guys enjoy getting that release it brings it mellows them out and makes them happy and i promise you its not because you cant satisy him masturbation does not even compare to how good sex is.
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Personally, I am against masturbation and I don't like doing it and I will be extremely hurt if my wife masturbates when I get married. Coming back to you and your husband, if you are expecting your fiance to behave in a certain way, at first, you need to behave the same way with him. As you say you save yourself only for him, honestly speaking, in my opinion, that is a very good thing about your chastity. It only goes to show you truly and purely love your husband. Since you save yourself for him it is not at all unfair that you expect him not to masturbate and you felt hurt when you came to know he masturbates. Now you need to be careful here. If you just keep on thinking that you are not enough for your husband that is not going to make the situation better. You need to judge the situation from a positive perspective as well. Look how easily he admitted to you that he masturbates. I guess it show his honesty and love towards you. He could have denied this as well if he did not love you. You just need to take out some time and talk to him on this issue. First tell him how much and how deeply you love him. Tell him he is the only man your life and he alone is enough for you. Let him know you live him so purely that you do not need to involve yourself in an artificial sexual activity (masturbation). Although most people believe masturbation is healthy but I believe it goes against our moral principles (and as religious as well if you believe in one). You should tell him since he is enough for you and you don't need to imagine anyone else in your fantasies you also expect him to do the same for you. If you can convince him rationally and wisely and he truly loves you I am sure he will make a sincere effort to leave this habit of his and develop a healthy and pure relationship with you. Finally, I pray to God that He fills your relationship with true and pure love. God bless you.
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Your guy isn't masturbating because you're not enough for him.
In a way, it's a way for him to keep in touch with his body. I asked my fiance about why he does it, and he said that it's not sexual in the slightest. Just a bodily function, really. They don't get the same relief from masturbation that they do from sex.
Also, he's very likely fantasizing about you when he does it. If you two have been together for a year and a half and are engaged, you're his dream woman!
Don't worry about it, and most of all don't get upset with him over it. He will just be forced to hide this activity, which you can make yourself a part of. Ask him why he does it. Ask him what he's thinking of when he does it. Get... involved (trying to think of a way to keep this PG). Masturbation is as normal and healthy for adults as it is for teenagers.
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