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Hey, i'm a young teen who leads a normal life, or about as normal as it gets. i love to help people and hope to some day become a psychologist. You're welcome to ask me anything you want and i'll answer the very best i can.

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what does poser exactly mean?

poser is tha same thing as a wanna-be. trying to be something but your just not.

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at night i cant go to bed!! my mom wont let me take any medicines cuz im only 13. "happy thots" no longer help. is there any programs or something i can get to help me sleep. i got this sleeping cd to help u sleep but i get scared still..ive had this my whole life and i get scared SOO much!

i would go see your pediatrician and let them prescribe you something or go see a psychiatrist. its not for crazy people only. millions of americans are insomniacs, its not that uncommon. i listen to harbor mist when i go to sleep, its got waves in the background and then classical music. it also might help if you do a little yoga or meditation before bed. it might sound stupid but its not. Breathing exercises can do wonders for you. And while counting sheep may not be great count as high as you can in your head with your eyes closed in your bed at night and it will make you tired. no sweets before bed and no caffeine after i'd say 7:30. don't read or watch tv a half hour before bed because you mind is focused on the topic and you wont be able to sleep with your mind thinking about it. before you go to sleep try just laying in your bed and staring up at the ceiling, counting your breaths. i don't really understand what your afraid of, but your never too old for a night light if you need one. thats not dumb either. everyone has different sleeping conditions, you just need to adjust to yours.

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i need a website that i can download fonts from. anyone know any good websites?

& what`s the actual link for photo shop?

i dont know about photoshop but i get all my cool fonts from dafont.com its pretty good.

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how do i motivate myself? my appetite to overeat seems to outweigh my desire to be skinny. but then after i binge i get so depressed that i'm not skinny.

i think its more of a problem of filling your schedule with something other than eating. its okay to eat, just have smaller portions, but NEVER skip breakfast, it will make you gain weight. since there is no food in your stomach you body starts to consume muscle which ultimately slows down your metabolism. try filling your schedule with something other than eating. try putting on some running shoes and just running for atleast ten minutes a day. find some activity that you love doing. its good for you and it will take your mind off food. if you want something, go for it, you'll be glad you did.

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hey. how do you apply eyeliner on your lowerlid? usually, i carefully line the pink part (right above my eyelashes) and that is usually what looks best, and that's what other people do. but this one girl, whose eyeliner always looks smudged & bad, said that you put it UNDER your lowerlashes cause if you put it on the pink part, it will cause eye diseases. is this true? if it is, how do you put eyeliner NEATLY under your lowerlashes without looking like you're wearing a whole lot of eyeliner? i only put it on the bottoms and not in my corners, and just continue a little bit at the top (if i don't wear mascara that day). is it okay to wear eyeliner in the corners? i feel like i look better with them, but i stopped for a while cause of my allergies. help?

ok, dont listen to her, she's full of it. i dont know where she got her information from but dont listen to random people. and if you really want reinsurance i would go to a make-up counter at a nordstroms or something like that and ask them, they are make-up experts. but trust me, there is no way to really keep under-lash liner completely free of smudges unless you buy like way high end make-up and sometimes its still doesn't work. i wouldn't worry about what she says. she isn't rite. just keep doing what your doing and you'll be fine. she as in the girl who told you that if you put it on the pink part you get eye disease.

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Well I need this answered quick, because its already April Fools Day. So I would really like some good pranks that I can use on my family. Any one that are hilarious would be great!!


Thanks.

put saran wrap over a towlet bowl or a doorway or you could duct tape shut every toilet in your house and put an out of order sign on them.

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ok there is this kid, lets call him josh for example. Well josh definitly likes me and there is no doubt about that and well i cant decide if i like him or not. he's a great friend and he listens to me and he cares about me and he doesn't think im pathetic when i cry and get depressed. He's a really nice guy but i can't see myself being intimate with him. He's not very attractive and sometimes he can be really dorky and he is also obsessed with the army which i am not so i don't know what to do. He has really small lips and they are sort of curved inward so i can imagine kissing him. Any advice as to what to do would be greatly appreciated.

im afraid if he asked me out i woldn't know what to say. but lately he's always on my mind and i want to see him all the time. I'm so confused. Please help me.

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15/f.(freshman)
i'm unhappy with the way i am and how im basically wasting my life sitting around doing nothing. i'm shy, so i don't have many friends that i actually hang out with. my 2 best friends are basically the only people i hang out with. one of them plays sports all year round, so every day after school she's busy until 5:30-6. sometimes i hang out with them on fridays, but sometimes i dont. and saturday & sunday...forget about it. maybe like 3 times a year do we hang out on the actual weekend. i feel like such a loser. i dont have anything else to do so ill be on the computer all day. im so lazy, yesterday i stayed in my pajamas all day. i hate it. so i need new friends, and i talk to some people in school. but im soo shy and its hard. and im not at the point where i hang out with them. my one best friend, the one who does sports all year round, has made a lot of friends from it (i havent played any sports but im doing volleyball in the fall) she has all these new friends right, but she doesnt even introduce them to myself and my other best friend. maybe if she made plans with them plus me and my other friend, we could start talking to them. but she hasnt done that. my other friend who doesnt play the sports feels the same way. and my younger brother is mr.social lately, so i feel so stupid. like i dont do anything. i hate itttt. and before my brother was telling me i have no life. like that really got me sad. cuz its partly true. =[ ugh help!! pleaseee

k, sometimes i feel the same way, your brother should shut his face b/c the younger you are the easier it is to make friends and if boys have one common interest they become best friends, and its much harder for girls to make good friends. If i were you i'd definitly join a club or something. maybe if you go to chruch you can join youth group and meet some people. you said your best friend does sports after school. how about you and your other friend go after school a couple of days a week and watch her practice and cheer her on. she'll get a positive feeling from you and you would get a chance to meet some of her sports friends. for your boredom i used to do the same thing so i picked up some hobbies and now i have tons of stuff today. everyday i go running for a little bit, sometimes i practice soccer outside, i started archery, i started teaching myself the guitar, and i wrote poetry and im writing a book. now i haave so many things to do, im almost never bored. bu don't forget to give yourself some relaxation time. set some time aside for just laying down on your lawn and staring up at the clouds, or laying on your bed and concentrating on relaxing each part of your body. i read a lot too and thats always fun. sometimes i finish a book a day and i love to read. so here are some ideas. i hope i helped.

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i did this graffiti thing on my wall in acryllic paint and i dont like it anymore but its huge so i dont know what to do about it! i cant paint over it because i cant get the paint. what can i do?????

put pictures, drawings poetry, writing, posters on your wall. i covered a wall where my paint got messed up with my own drawings and posters from a movie, it worked great

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Last night I cut my self shaving by accident and there was like three cuts and they bled a lot. Like.. The blood soaked through a tissue and a bandaid and now around the cut its like purple.

What should I do ? Like why is it purple?

tell your mom and ask he to take you to a doctor to get their opinion, my sister cuts herself a lot and a couple times she needed stitches, if it stopped bleeding then you should be ok but it is still a good idea to get it checked out.

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i just wanted to say you were a great help for my debate today i used exactly what you said for my closing statement and they didnt even have any idea how to argue it back. it went over really well i just wanted to say i really apprectiated it.

no problem i am glad you did well. just let me know if i can ever help you with another debate.

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okay the debate is on "Nature Vs Nurture" nature means you were born evil and nurture means you were taught how to be evil by like enviromental influences and media and such. well i got put on the side of nature, and i dont agree with it all that much and ive found little research to back myself up and i dont want to look stupid arguing over something i have no idea about. i need some factual information and if you have any please help!

ok, i think what you might want to focus in for the sake of this argument is psychosis. people who suffer from psychosis or as we like to call them, crazy have no sense of right or wrong. you can technically base your argument on values and moralities but there are facts and moralities to this arguement. ok so to start let me explain crazy people's actions. people who suffer from psychosis often act in ways that are unacceptable in our society or commit actions that are against the law and could be viewed as evil. This is where values and morality comes in. because it depends on the definition of evil you want to use and it depends on who's sight this is in. harmful or tending harm is one definition of evil, so if you look at it this way, if i am harmful to someone by teasing them, does that make me evil. and are so called "evil" actions ever justified like in self-defense situations where i may harm someone to keep them from harming me. the next part of this debate that is based on facts is that someone who suffers from psychosis fears no consequences of their actions and cannot understand that they have done something wrong. so this could be a natural sense of evil for someone who does another harm and feels no guilt about it what so ever. "evil" people don't develop their evil qualities, they may just be mean, but is meanness evil? we need to ask ourselves this question. how can you determine who is evil and who is not? its a question that may never be answered and people who suffer from psychosis that fit one definition of evil are a strong example of evil by nature. i hope i helped and good luck, i'd love to know how you do.

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okay i have to do a debate in class tomorrow over the "nature vs nurture debate" and im on the nature side only im going to have a lot of trouble defending myself when i dont even know what to say. can someone please take the time and give me some ideas! thank you sooo so so much

ok, i a debater so i have two options for you. one, you can ask me a question on my column and explain the topic a little further because im not sure i understand the concept and i can help you out OR you can go to www.youdebateit.com and submit the topic of debate and then go back to the site later and see what arguements people all over the country have on that topic. hope i helped.

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13/f. for the past 2 years i have been playing softball. this year 4 of my friends are doing it also, and i get left out sometimes. now since they are doing it, i don't know if i want to do softball. plus, one of them is taking my spot(pitcher). i was thinking about trying track because i am a decent runner, but i dont know anyone whose doing it.

soo, should i still do softball and probably get left out? or try track?
please help soon, tryouts are this week

well track is a great way to meet new people if you don't know anyone but also you shouldn't let your friends run you out of a sport you love. you're there to ply not to socialize so if they are socializing during tryouts and your working hard you would probably get picked over the, besides there is no reason you can try out for one sport and if you dont make it try out fir the other one.

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I'm just wondering what other people think...
How you feel about the United States potentially having it's very first female (Hillary Clinton) or African American (Barack Obama) president?

i feel it would be a great step in our society showing that women and blacks are as important and capable in our society as white men. and honesty im tired of seeing all these old white dudes running for office. support hiliary girls!

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Do you think our government sacrifice human life with indifference when it comes to war? Why or Why not?

I think so because if you look at George Bush's previous actions he indifferently throw aways lives in his futile attempt to rebuild Iraq, and according to mtv news about one third of two-thousand dead soldiers are between the ages of 20 and 21 so the government obviously holds no value for human life. you could easily find the iraq fatality rate by sifting through document on google. But here is something to think about only congress has the power to declare war, which they did not declare war on iraq so now you think ok war on terror that means bush declared war which is not allowed in our government but he never declared war technically but then if you look at the definition of warit says- a state of armed conflict between 2 different nations or states or different groups within a nation or state. So if you follow this definition of war we are at war with iraq and the government is throwaing away lives and refuses to withdraw.

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how can i be hyper,outgoing,and funny? like this WHOLE summer,i want to make myself something in THIS town. i dont know how to though. like,no one wants to hang out.i have "SCHOOL" friends. i don't know why. i know i can change,im determined. is it a good way to get to know a lot of people by joining a activity? like,i was thinking, Drama,Volleyball,Photography and stuff like that for extras NEXT year. I'll be in 9th grade.Also,how do i learn how to play a sport,like soccer or cheerleading? i really follow my own path,but lately,no one seems to like me. im just a "quiet" person on the outside.i REALLY want to change that. I've picked one group over the other,i know its low,but if they knew me,we would connet really well. i know it. im just so quiet and i dont know why,what do i do? Help!

a really easy sport to learn would be track, b/c really it only involves running but im not a track star i like soccer i picked up on it in 6th grade and i love it. softball is also pretty easy. i suggest you join a recreational team. umm also, there really isn't any reason you should change yourself and there are ways to be hyper but most of them are illegal and besides people should like you the way you are. if you do more exercise it can give you a natural high of endorfins to the brain. i think its endorfins anyway. some people are more mellow and others are really hyper. it depends on you. but definitly join all the extra curricular activites you can, they look great for college and they are a great way to meet new people.

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Hey..my boyfriend and i are pretty serious. we have a 13 month history..took a couple month break but we are good now. we are both 18. just today we saw a WWE wrestling show and of course the beautiful divas were prancing around in basically nothing with theit whole thongs showing. my bf was lovvvving this..took pictures, he got the S.I Swimsuit edition today, likes his porn videos,and tonight after the show asked how i would feel if he went to a strip club! i feel weird about it.he says its normal and i guess it is..i guess its ok..its not like hes cheating..any input?

ok, technically he's not cheating and maybe its normal for him but not for you. if it makes you uncomfortable then you should tell him. he is your boyfriend so you should be able to tell him if something is bothering you. i honestly don't agree with his logic. he has a girlfriend so he should stay true to you and not go to a strip club just to get off. i personally feel that strip clubs are for single people, but then again you don't want to piss him off by telling him what he can and cannot do and where he can and cannot go, so i advise just telling him that it makes you uncomfortable and you'd really prefer if he didn't go.

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I hate to brag but popularity is in me. So this really hot guy asked me out who is like the most populariest guy in the whole school. But we hang out in different social circles, so its even harder to make my choice. We barely talk just say hi. I play hard to get around him because I have liked him for long time. He invited me to a soccer game of his, and so did I. Not sure about going. But I really need to know what to do. Also hate to say this but were both magnetic boys like me, girls like him. Its challenging. I cant bear this crap. Help! Also any ideas of what to do?
And I said I'll tell you later when he asked me out today.
♥KASSIDY

go to the game, its just one date and it will mean a lot to him that you went to support him, and because its only one date oyu can make your decision based on that, and you can choose to not go on a date with him anymore or go on one more date. your hesitant so dont rush into anything, take it one date at a time.

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Hey =) well for spirit week we have class color day on the last day of that week (that Friday) and my class color-freshmans 2010-is green, my fav color! well my friends and I are putting sayings on our shirts but I don't know what to say. I'm looking for a simple, clever, and good quote for my freshman '10 [green] class...thanks!

rhyme's are always catchy, how about:
gradutating 2010,
can't wait til then

In 2010 we'll rock this school
because we are super cool

if none of those sound appealing to you think of one sentence and then go to www.rhymezone.com and type in the last word in the sentence and they'll give you rhyming words, usually im ood at making good rhymes but im tired and its early. lol

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