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Unhappy
15/f.(freshman)
i'm unhappy with the way i am and how im basically wasting my life sitting around doing nothing. i'm shy, so i don't have many friends that i actually hang out with. my 2 best friends are basically the only people i hang out with. one of them plays sports all year round, so every day after school she's busy until 5:30-6. sometimes i hang out with them on fridays, but sometimes i dont. and saturday & sunday...forget about it. maybe like 3 times a year do we hang out on the actual weekend. i feel like such a loser. i dont have anything else to do so ill be on the computer all day. im so lazy, yesterday i stayed in my pajamas all day. i hate it. so i need new friends, and i talk to some people in school. but im soo shy and its hard. and im not at the point where i hang out with them. my one best friend, the one who does sports all year round, has made a lot of friends from it (i havent played any sports but im doing volleyball in the fall) she has all these new friends right, but she doesnt even introduce them to myself and my other best friend. maybe if she made plans with them plus me and my other friend, we could start talking to them. but she hasnt done that. my other friend who doesnt play the sports feels the same way. and my younger brother is mr.social lately, so i feel so stupid. like i dont do anything. i hate itttt. and before my brother was telling me i have no life. like that really got me sad. cuz its partly true. =[ ugh help!! pleaseee <33 sorry for the length
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Hey!
Well this is a tough situation, this was my first year of highschool this yar and I had trouble meeting new people because alot of my friends go to the same school as I do, so I didn't feel the need to branch off and find new friends. But There are so many new people at my school who I don't hang out with and seem so great that I'd love to make friends with them. So about half way through the year I was thinking about what friends I have made this year and I realized that I really hadnt made any so that got me into gear. I made friends by joining clubs I wouldnt usually think to join, because I talked to people who were experienced and they sorta helped me out. I said hi and waved to people in my classes as I walked down the hall, it doesnt make you best friends with the person, but it helps you to meet new people because if they're walking with someone and the person asks: "who was that?" they can tell them your name. It also builds the friendship between the two of you. At the beginning of a new class, turn to the person on either side of you and give them your email address and say that you either are super good in this class, or suck at it, and then tell them that you should talk and help each other out.
If you don't feel comfortable doing that, just turn to them and say hi tell them your name and kinda make a small conversation.
Sit with different people at lunch. That a hard one, but don't pick some cheerleaders who look all stuck up, pick people who look inviting and seem to smile when you say hi!
Try joining some of the things that your sporty friend does because you can still hang out with her and make some new friends. OR/and talk to her and see if she will introduce you to some o her new friends. BE honest and say that you want to make some more friends but you're having trouble and you'd love it if she could help. try and buil on your existing relationships to an extent where you can invie them over to hang out, and even if you dontthink you're at that point, you probably are, and just dont know it.
As far as your little brother, he's a little brother, they're like that, and he probably is like in the middle of his school right like grade six or something where he's been with his friends forever, well thats okay, because you're in a totally different situation and he wont understand until he's in highschool.
I think that should give you a few other ideas, but if you need any more let me know! Lots of love, and don't sweat it, you'll make more friends dont worry. LOve ya,
Angie91
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k, sometimes i feel the same way, your brother should shut his face b/c the younger you are the easier it is to make friends and if boys have one common interest they become best friends, and its much harder for girls to make good friends. If i were you i'd definitly join a club or something. maybe if you go to chruch you can join youth group and meet some people. you said your best friend does sports after school. how about you and your other friend go after school a couple of days a week and watch her practice and cheer her on. she'll get a positive feeling from you and you would get a chance to meet some of her sports friends. for your boredom i used to do the same thing so i picked up some hobbies and now i have tons of stuff today. everyday i go running for a little bit, sometimes i practice soccer outside, i started archery, i started teaching myself the guitar, and i wrote poetry and im writing a book. now i haave so many things to do, im almost never bored. bu don't forget to give yourself some relaxation time. set some time aside for just laying down on your lawn and staring up at the clouds, or laying on your bed and concentrating on relaxing each part of your body. i read a lot too and thats always fun. sometimes i finish a book a day and i love to read. so here are some ideas. i hope i helped.
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