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Alrite I need some help. Basically here's how it goes. My bestguy friend and me are very very close. We hang out like everyday cause we are practically neighbors. And I've known him 4ever. Alrite so lately I notice that he has been like touching me & my bestfriend alot. Not really sexually just putting his hands on us(if you know what i mean)He has touched me before though on my leg and touched my boob on 'accident'. So whenever he goes to touch me, even if its somethin small I tell him not to put a finger on me. He will always go why, why, how come other guys can touch you? So I just needa know if the problem is like me getting older and beingm more 'touchy' about this kinda thing, him going threw puberty, or he might kinna like me! pLeAsE hElp if yOo caN! thanks ;)

Okay well for 1 no means no and if u tell him not to touch u anymore. He better stop. Hmm.. this is a lil tricky though. See its kinda the same with me... I have this friend at church and he is like my best friend too. We went to Kings Island together and on the way home i fell asleep leaning on him. but when i woke up he had he arm around my waist and was putting his other hand up my shirt... so it was a lil more extreme than u but i understand wut ur going through. Guys just are that way. Your a girl so they wanna touch u and as u get older it gets more extreme. *Jennifer*

Okay-- there is this kid.. who liked me for about a year now. Every time he's signing off. .he says *iloveyou* an if i dont say it back, he gets all pissed and says stuff liek "Wat you dont love me anymore" so then i feel like i have to. Cuz one time, he cut himself because he heard that i had started to like someone else. hes one of my best friends.. but idont want anything more. And i reallly REALLY dont want to hurt him. .. help.

~ dont wanna *love*

Hmm... your in a really tough spot here. You know that you do love him for being ur friend, its just u dont *lovelove* him. And thats ok. this is not ur fualt, just try and tell him u only love him as a friend nothing more. And for ur friend, if he is cutting himself because of it, he needs to get some help. *Jennifer*

hey ive got a question. if you really like someone, i mean like your not obbsessed with them but you would like for them, and your not quite sure if they like you back what should you do? i mean saying like youve already gone out with this person twice but both times they were really really short, should you keep liking this person? i mean there goin out with someone else and im pretty sure that theyre gonna last for a while. should i give up on her? i mean shes the most amazing girl ive ever met and i really dont want to lose her.

Well if u really like her, hold on to her. Dont let her fly by to someone else. When shes single ask her out, theres never harm in trying that. And this person she is with... u say they will last a long time. Nothing lasts forever. Im sure they wont be together for a very long time. But still just ask her when u get the chance, if she says no its not going to be the end of the world. And if u choose to still like her thats ur choice. Just tell her how u feel im sure everything is gonna be ok. *Jennifer*

0k well 2morrow i`m going to my crush`s house with a couple of other people and i`m pretty sure we are going to ho0k up but there`s one problem! I have a huge pimple like really close to my lip and i dont want him to be like grossed out or anything! How do i get rid of it and fast?!

Well try and pop it... when that doesnt work, or if u get to scared. Use cover up. no one can tell after that.

Im sorry this is gross but I really dont get how to put a tampon in...i keep trying but i cant do it....what is wrong with me?
*pulls paper bag over head*

If it hurts when u try to put one in... Stop! that means something isnt rite and ur doing it wrong. On every box of Tampons they give directions. Follow them it mite help. and If not i kno this sounds weird but ask ur mom. im sure she would be glad to help. *Jennifer*

i dance alot (about 12 hours a week) .. does this have anything to do with my not having my period yet because of heavy exercise?? that's what my friend said and i want to know if it's true

Everyone starts at different times... u could start when ur 11, 12, 13, or 14 its normal and ok... I kno this sounds weird but talk to ur mom about it. Shes been through it and she will kno. Talk to her dont believe wut ur friends say... sometimes they cant be true at all. *Jennifer*

one night i got really drunk and i was talking to this kid justin (who wasnt drunk) then i feel asleep and i wake up and im naked and hes ontop of me on the bed and hes naked and as soon as he saw me wake up he ran into the other room...i dont no what happened really...i try to ask him and he tells me that he was just touching me he didnt like rape me or nething....but i would no if we had sex right? or if we didnt nething more...i no he put it in my mouth bc i had the taste in my mouth..but i would no rigth? please help meee

PLEASE HELP!

Tell ur mom... this is not normal at all. He shouldnt hav done that. its wrong.

i didnt kno wut to put this under... since it kinda has to do with sumthing my parents hav to deal with i put it under familyz. well you kno how when u have ur period that that first daii iz the worst and that you go to sleep and stuff of coarse you have a thingy on and stuff but how do you not stain your bed? i alwayz hav trouble with that and i had to throw away a thing of sheets becuz of it. sum1 plz help. iz there like sum secret to it? help!

Its simple... just be careful... be sure b4 u go to bed to change w/e u wear ((pad or tampon)).if u dont change them there going to fill up fast and ya u mite stain ur bed. u just gotta be careful! *Good Luck*

omg ok i know school is about to start and all but i REALLY want a boyfriend...i mean all my friends have had um n stuff but me. and its very intemidating when they do and talk about them and stuff...i mean this past summer it seems like guys look at me n stuff and seem to like me but never ask me out or n e thing. and i mean im deffiantly not the type to just go up to someone and just ask um whats there name or w/e so someone pleae tell me a way!

I kno u want a boyfriend but, DONT rush anything! It will make you sound really desprate, and u dont want that, flirt with some guys... let them kno u like him by the flirt. just dont rush anything. your time will come for someone. Just wait. *Jennifer*

Is it good or bad to be sensitive?

It can be good and bad. over sensitive is can just get annoying with urself, friends, and family. Just try to keep it on the low side with the sensitivity. *Jennifer*

ok..see, i put in sub posts about being through puberty and being called names and stuff and theres another thing bothering me! i dont really have guy friends..like i have friends that are guys that i say hi to like every 2 weeks. i really only have about 3-5 guy friends that i can actually talk to. all the rest are girls! i dont know why i dont have guy friends. maybe its because they all think im gay (im not though). (IM A GUY BY THE WAY)

Well im kinda the same way, but with girls... I seem to hav more guy friends than girl friends. And thats ok.. Its a good thing that u have a mixture of friends. Im sure they dont think ur gay. I hav the same problem i always think that girls just dont want to be my friend bcuz of my Rep. but just dont let it bother u. Go on in life and just try to meet more guys to be friends with. *Jennifer*

Well me and my ex boyfriend Kevin just broke up yesterday....well today someone called me and was like you dont know me but i am one of phylicias friends and do you care if her and Kevin go out so i sed no...nut i really do care alot...Phylicia is like my BEST friend in the world and i still like kevin but i dont know? What should i do?

Tell ur friend how you feel, if she is really ur friend she will think about wut she has done and how it doesnt make u feel to great, tell her u still need time to get over Kevin before she does anything. So tell her how u feel. it should go ok. *Good Luck*

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i got my 1st GOOD hicky from my best friend (which is a girl) but we are really close...we were on the way to someones house w/ her and her boyfriend and she was showing me the hickys' that her boyfriend gave her and i was like hey i want a hicky!! and she gave me one...is that wrong for ur best friend to give u a hicky!!??

*I AM NO BI!*

Ok well for 1 if ur friends a girl and she gave u a hicky thats a lil odd. I would be a little nervous. To answer ur ? YES it was wrong to let ur best friend give u a hicky. ok thats sick! I think u should talk to ur friend.. ask her why she would do that. *Good Luck*

ok i've never worn a tampon and i kinda want to but its a little weird knowing that that will be going...there. and what if i put it in wrong? any advice on like what kind to use for the first time? or anything like that...

Ok well I have the same problem. I've always been scared to use a tampon. I've tried them b4 but they just dont seem to work for me. I know it can be hard, when ur friends want to go to the pool and u cant. I've been there. I know this sounds odd, but ask ur mom for some help. I did and she really helped me. And if that doesnt work maybe u just arnt ready to use them rite now and thats fine. Because I still dont use them. *Good Luck*

i have gotten really close to my guy friend mike and we talk all the time. i have strong feelings for him and i DID tell him that i do like him. i think i put him in an akward position. did i do the right thing by telling him how i feel?

hmm... well thats very strange. cuz thats the same at my church. I like this guy name Mike and this other girl liked him as well. And i would get very jealous. Well one of Mike's friends Jeff knew that i liked him and he wanted me to go out with him, so he told Mike. So mike finally knew about it and i was so embarress. but nothing changed between us. he still acted the same around me. Well then one day with our church we went to Kings Island. he asked me to go on the rides with him. I was so excited. So i went on all of them and he held my hand everytime. But still nothing happened. Then the next week the fish fry came. I worked with him at every game. Then that Saturday I found out he liked me. Then Sunday nite at Bible Study he asked me out. And we hav been together 4 a month now. See, if u kno any of his friends... and ur friends with them too. tell them how u feel. and maybe they can get something to happen with u and this mike.

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