Hi my name is Sabrina. The worst thing in the world is dealing with a problem on your own. It may lead you to confusion and even leave you without a solution. It's always better to hit up someone else's opinion on things and help you see that there is light at the end of your problem. I have been through alot of things in my life, many more than you could probably count and I am only 18. I have learned alot from my expierences and still deal with some of the issues that I have before. I know how difficult life can be, it puts so much stress on you trying to be as perfect as you can. But you have to know that being you is as perfect as you can be, it just takes a while to finally notice yourself for who you are when your so distratcted by life. Anyways, anyone feel free to contact me I am just here to listen and hopefully shed some light on your problems. It's my passion to make people feel better about themselves.
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I move around alot, bouncing from Dad to Mom to Dad and back to my Mom ... once again I want to move back to my dad's but it is so much different this time here are some of the major reasons why:
1.My dad's Cancer, I feel so horrible not being there taknig care of him
2.My depression; Up here I thought I would be happier but I'm missing so much of my life that is going on down there my depression meds aren't working anymore becuase my depressions getting worse
3.All my friends are down there ... I can't make friends up here, I've been here for 6 months and I haven't made one friend ... I jsut don't want to becuase I only want my friends from CT I know everyone who is reading this is prolly like "If you try then you'll make friends don't give up" but I have tried and ... I just want you all and not some fucking Redsocks loving, black people hating, homophoboes that are up here
I know thats only three things but here are the reasons why I'd stay up here:
1.my mom's feelings
I just can't do things to make others happy anymore if it makes me depressed ... I'm growing up, I'll be gone off to college soon and I just rather be a happy person going off bymyself knowing I have friends right back at home then going and being depressed and not remembering social skills to make friends becuase honestly ... ever since that bastard Adam "hypnotysed" me under his spell I have lost all sense of myself and I have been trying to get it back since I broke free ... I just want to be happy
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Well this is a tough situation. As for your dad, I think you should try and spend time with him. Cancer is a scary thing, I have lost someone close to me with cancer before. Spending time with the people you love is key. It lets them know you care and are there for them in their time of saddness. Your dad probably needs you right now, needs your support and love while he's dealing with his cancer. As for your mom, tell her you love her as well. Sit down with her and explain to her why you need to be with your dad right now. Tell her you will call her alot, etc etc. Go and visit her as often as you can. Just because you can't be with her all the time doesn't mean you don't love her.
As for your depression, try talking with a psychologist. Tell them your meds aren't working, and instead of just jumping on medication take out time and talk to someone about how you feel. Get to the root of the problem, you deserve to be happy. It is also key through all this to try and do something good for yourself, dont get caught up in everything just to only lose yourself in the long run. Maybe the reason why your sad is because of your parent's split and other things in your life, there is always hope and always happiness to come in everyone's life you just have to really be determined to grab hold of it. If you want Id be happy to talk with you further on this, I am passionate about giving advice on familt situations, my email is Aquarius8715@cs.com, hope to hear from you sweets, take care.
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Ever since I was little my family has always gone to church. Now that I am a teenager and I have thought long and hard and researched about our faith... I have found that I don't believe in anything that our faith says to believe in. My parents don't know that. However I want to tell them that I don't want to go to church anymore and I have tried once to tell my dad that I think I am old enough to make my own decisions and he just shot back at me "I DON'T THINK YOU ARE"
So my question is how can I tell my parents that I don't want to go to church anymore? (link)
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Well, if you feel you don't believe in it then no one can make you believe in it. Religion is a choice, you shouldn't have to be forced into something you don't agree with. However, don't be so rushed with this. Your parents only want they think is best for you. Since they have those beliefs they would love if you shared those with them. It's hard for parents to accept a consious choice of their sons/daughters that isn't what they believe in. If you are younger and under the age of at least 18 I believe your parents do have a right to enforce rules, but there is a line where you know what you truly feel you want for youself. If you want to join a different religion suggest that to your parents, just set them down and talk about your beliefs, show them how serious and real you are about this.
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are you like really skinny?, cause i am. I eat a ton buy i just cant gain weight. i have a really fast matbolism. im 15 5'0 and only weigh 74 pounds. I dont have a eating disorder of any kind i just cant gain weight. i dont know if that has anything to do with the leg problems though. (link)
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Yeah I am skinny. I am 5'5 and weigh 100 lbs. Sometimes eating a ton isn't the solution to stop those leg cramps. It's not how you eat, it's what you eat. Try and get more protein in your diet, potassium, and vitamins. I went to the doctor for mine, and he said I had a huge deficieny in those categories. I am also a vegetarian so I knew I wouldn't have any protien which played a big part. All those things help in regulating your body. So try eating bananas(potassium), lean meats(protein), nuts(protein), milk n yogurt(calcium), fruit and vegetables(vitamins, all this should help regulate your body. The deficeny in those things causes your muscles in your body to eat at themselves which is most likely what yours in doing, since your muscles arent getting enough vitamins they are slowly eating themselves or as you could say rotting and becomming weak. I have alot of problems when I walk, I get weak and tired alot because of this as well. Just try and eat healthier.
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need ppl to notice me oo and easiest ways to lose weight and look slim??? (link)
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The key here is never feel like you have to impress anyone, if you want this do this for you, don't change for the better of someone else.
Ways to lose weight should be done in a healthy manner. Try cutting out alot of breads and carbs, but don't think cutting them all out is the answer. You do need carbs in your diet to keep you energized. Eat alot of fruits and vegetables, lean meats, keep low fat milk, cheese and yogurt in your diet as well. Also exercise, you don't have to overcommit yourself either, just 20-30 minutes a day. It will make you feel alot better about yourself in the long run. Also deprivation from foods you love like chocolate and stuff dont have to be avoided, just make sure you dont eat alot of it. Say instead of a hershy bar treat yourself to a hershy kiss. It has less calories, but still satisfies your chocolate craving. If you deprive yourself fro mthose foods youll end up binging on them later. Remember to eat in portion size, small amounts of food at a time.
You can make yourself appear slim by wearing black, or finding clothes that bring out your figure in a good way. I would say find out your body type, you can always email me at Aquarius8715@cs.com and I can give yo ua list of those body types and clothes for them if you want. Try a new hairstyle, color, or cut. That is a good way to get noticed.
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My name is Alexa and i am 15 years old. Ever sense i can remember i have gotten these sharp shooting pains in my lower legs and ankels. The only thing that helps is motrin,tylenol,advill, ect. i get them about once a week or sometimes more. I dont know what causes it, and docters dont know either.i get it mostly when i have been on my feet a lot that day, but sometimes thats not the case. all i know it is very painful and it wakes me up for hours at night every once and a while.Im scared that taking to much medicen will hurt me in the long run. Does anybody else have this problem or know what it is. Will i outgrow this???
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It could be your not getting enough potassium in your body. I have these too, mine aren't often as yours, but mine is due to lack of vitamins and potassium. Try and include more vitamins in your diet. Try, if not already, eating healthy. Relax and just go easy.
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i know this guy and i think he is hott but he is one of the ones that you might not want a relationship with. But this has turned into a life or death situation. Today in 9th pd. he was all like "shit, ive been turned down way too many times and its pissing me off. I cant wait till i get home so i wont have to live this fuckin' life ne more." those were his exact words. Im sorry if they are a little... how would you say... explict? ne wayz. there was a point not too long ago that i was considering telling him i would go out with him. that feeling passed. but i dont know if i should go out with him or not. We are like bestfriends and i really dont want him to kill himself! I rate hi! (link)
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He has issues, and they most likely aren't just about being turned down by girls. Suicide is very serious. If you think he might be considering it, talk to him about it, don't date him out of pity. Because if he found out you only are dating him so he won't kill himself that will make it worse. Get with him and try and get the the problem, tell him that he will find someone for him soon. Just be encouraging, that's what he needs from you.
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Hey everyone. I'm kind of stuck in a situation that I don't know what to do with, please help. Recently my friends have been noticing alot of changes in my mood, such as it changing every few minutes; Like from excited to depressed in 2 minutes. My friend's dad has Bipolar Disorder, and she says that I may have it too. Well I'm really tired of being like this, because I just want to be happy, without the feelings of sadness all of the time. I want to ask my parents if I can go see a doctor about this, but my parents never take me seriously. I'm 15 years old and they still treat me like a 10 year old. If I were to ask them then they would laugh in my face and say nothing was wrong with me; 'It's all in my head' would probably be a response. Can someone help me with my problem? I don't want to be in so much pain anymore, I want to be normal. Without any help then I can't live like I once did. What should I do? Thanks so much ahead of time. (link)
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This is exactly like me. I am suffering from this now. One minute Im hyper, happy, and talkable, then next Im depressed, mean, and often suicidal. The best thing to know is your not alone in this. Many people suffer this way. I am not sure what it is called, but right now I am seeing a therapist and working on it. It's hard to live through because you have no idea when your mood will change. My mood often changes like every 30-45 minutes. It is really hard around friends and family too because you don't know if you'll regret what you did in that mood or not. My parents are like yours too, they find everything funny and find it hard to take me seriously. They get concerned about someone else, but for me it's like 'oooh your just saying that because YOU want attention.' I think I am far past wanting attention, I am 18 years old and have been this way for 4 years, I think I would know if I have a problem or not especially since it's lasted so long. You need to tell your parents everything, explain to them how your feeling. Tell them you want help badly, this is serious. Even though my dad still makes stupid comments, I know I am on the right track to recovery with therapy and all. You should talk to a close friend or counseler, someone, anyone who will listen and get you help.
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is there any way i can get a guy to like me kinnda fast ..like give me some tips on how to get him to like me
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The best way to get a guy to like you is to approach him. Most guys like it when a girl comes up to them and shows she is intrested in talking with him.It shows you have confidence and guys love a girl with confidence and a girl who isn't shy. So go up to him and start a conversation or just simply say hello and how are you. You don't have to go overboard, just make eye contact with him and smile at him when you pass him. He should get the hint sooner or later if you attempt these things.
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wats it mean to masterbate.... and y i sit bad to do it on your period(my friends were talking about it (link)
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Masturbation is just a way to rid yourself of sexual feelings, pleasing yourself. It is safe to do on your period, if you masterbate and have an orgasm it is actually good because it eases the cramps.
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is it bad to blow-dry your hair everyday? like i shower everyday in the morning, and for school i blowdry my hair so it lies flat- is that damaging for my hair? (link)
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Yes, that is damaging. I used to do the same thing. I would wash my hair every morning then blow-dry it afterwards. The heat from the blowdryer does dry your hair out which causes it in the long run to break off and start splitting at the ends. Also washing your hair everyday is hard on your hair, it dries it out too. Your hair has natural oils that make it shine in it and sometimes if you wash it too much it washes those oils out which leaves your hair dull and dry looking. Maybe you should try and wash your hair every other day, or if you can't stand that wash your hair and let it air dry, or if that isnt good enough get a blow-dryer that has a cool dry on it, its a button that lets you dry your hair with cool air. It is a little better than with the heat on it all the time. Also find a shampoo that protects against breakage/ split ends, I use infusium 23 shampoo and conditioner and leave in conditioner after I blow dry and it really corrected my hair, also garnier fructis is good. Make sure you use a really good conditioner though, it helps repair the damage you have caused. Also another thing is after you wash your hair let it air-dry for a few minutes, and then blow dry it when its damp, not soaking wet.
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I usually dont eat much. I eat maybe one small thing for breakfast and half of my lunch. I usually dont eat dinner. I usually exercise everything off if I eat a huge lunch or a huge dinner. I constantly worry about how much i weigh but im too scared to weigh myself cause im scared of the effect itll have on me. I usually exercise regularly. I run a mile a day, 30 pushups, 5 minute wall sit, and tons of other things. I'm also involved in Cheerleading so that kind of also is an excuse for me to exercise more often and burn off any fat. Ive been getting sick easier lately and idk why ive been sick for like 2 weeks now. Am i anorexic or what?
Oh also ive noticed my legs are smaller and so are my arms.. and ive noticed other things but i need oppinions i rate 5s. kthanxbye! (link)
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I think if you don't stop this behavior now you could be on the road to anorexia. You do have some of the symptoms of anorexia nervosa. For a doctor to diagnose anorexia nervosa there has to be physical symptoms of it, the biggest one is dramatic weight loss, amnorehha(loss of period), ireegular heartbeat, etc etc, there is alot more. But what your describing is just getting deeper and deeper in, and everyday you let it pass it just gets worse. Trust me, I have dealt with anorexia before and have been treated. The best thing to do is talk to someone about it, don't be ashamed. You could have soe sort of chemical imbalance in your brain, an eating disorder is usually never purposely brought on by the person, it is triggered, but something in the brain is usually the case. Also people who tell you anorexics dont eat, they are wrong. Anorexics do eat, the just eat very very little, and then they will do anything in their power to exercise it off or they might try another method of keeping it off such as laxatives. Anorexia isnt about just starvation, its about your body image and how you make yourself feel inside. Anorexia is a form of self-mutilation, and you can die from this. Your worth more than what you might think your worth. You weight isn't half of what makes you you. I want you to be safe, please get help before it's too late, I know how it feels to be trapped under the disease. If you want to talk more with me feel free anytime to email me at Aquarius8715@cs.com.
xoxo
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my friend's (were not real close.. shes close friends with my friends) boyfriend and her have a real open raltionship. she told him she didnt care if we kissed as long as he told her. so we did kiss, but he never told her, but she found out from someone else. so she got pissed and took a break with him, but got back with him about 2 weeks later. that was about a month and half ago, and recently we kissed again, but i didnt think it was big deal as long as we told her right away. but it was and she got soo pissed. she dumped him and now shes way mad at me. i said i was sorry and how horrible i felt but she didnt even care. i dont know what to do to show her how sorry i am and how stupid i was. i dont think theres really anything i can do for now, but i could use advice anyway. (link)
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Okay, whether your close or not it still hurt her feelings. She should have never said that you and her boyfriend could kiss unless he told her. That wasn't right, but again it wasn't right of her boyfriend to kiss you. If he truly loved her and respected her he wouldn't kiss any other girl because he only wants one girl and thats her. She could have lined up a million girls in front of him and told him to kiss them, but if he loved her enough he wouldnt. I know a guys first instinct is to do that, but sounds like he doesnt have much of a brain to think about things beforehand. Maybe she told you and him that as a test to see if he would do it, to see how easy it would be for him to get with someone else. I know you feel bad, and you thought she wouldnt care because she said so, but the best thing you can do is talk to her about it. Mention she told you that it was okay as long as you told her, and then mention how sorry you are for even doing that with someone else's boyfriend, because again if you respected her you would have thought it to be wrong in the first place to kiss someone else's boyfriend. But sorry is the only thing that can cut it, there really is nothing else expect to talk, call her up and tell her what I told you and stuff. She probably shouldn't be with that guy again anyways, he sounds like a jerk if he would buy into something like his girlfriend giving him permission to kiss someone else, I don't think that is common in a relationship.
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Hey. I have no idea how to spell Ouijji board so just bare with me. lol. okay well i was wondering i play the ouiji board with my friends & its pretty freeaky. Like some things we asked actually came true and it seems so real. Does anyone know if its actually spirits or Our minds?? Has anyone had freaky experiences with them?? & do you think its safe to play it? thx tonsz' xOx (link)
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I believe in Spirits and such, sometimes I do have my doubts though. There are so many explanations out there for this stuff, it really is just based on opinion and your own belief. I know there is no facts that they do exsist, but then again there isn't any facts that they don't exsist.
As for the Ouiji board, I personally have never played it but I watched my Aunt play it in her home. It was very strange. She asked if anyone had died in her house, and they said yes. She asked their name and they gave it to her, etc etc. Alot of weird things happened to, the power went out, the candles blew out, and then the stove burner flipped itself on.
I do believe though that the Ouiji board is a mix of our mind and spirit. Our mind can play so many tricks on us, and if we believe that it will come true and then see something actually happen we automatically get scared and think it could be a spirit when it's only a coincidence or our minds tricking us.
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ok i dunno know this would go under but latley on minute i'm really really really happy then the next i really wanna cry and curl up in my parents arms. It's not close to my pierod or anything so i dunno like what up? can i "fix" this? (link)
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I am this same way too. I completely understand what is going on. It's hard to find an explanation for someone that doesn't know or understand this. But one minute I can be fine and laughing and the next I'll be depressed and feel suicidal.
It could be your hormones changing or a chemical imbalance. I currently started seeing a therapist about this for myself. I am so scared that when I am in my depressed state I will kill myself, it literally goes that far.
I suggest you see someone about this or at least talk to your parents about it. It's always better to have someone know about it rather than keeping it under wraps and suffering yourself. There are various things it could be, I have not yet been diagnosed with anything yet from it, but just talking with my therapist helps alot. It could be depression/ some kind of personlity disorder.
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any ideas how i could overcome my shyness? i've researched and looked at /many/ websites... and it's not very helpful to me.
it's really pathetic. i say i'll do something. i promise to kiss or hug or just do something..
but i end up not doing it. i freeze up and worry if i'll do it wrong. and by the time i've stopped thinking that... it'd be too late.
it's making me feel worse and i keep telling myself that if i dont do anything... my girlfriend will break up with me and i'm sure she will. that somewhat motivates me to try. (link)
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Wow, that is alot like me. I am not shy but I understand where you are comming from. It is hard for me to be dominant in my relationship too. I'm always afraid of doing something wrong or saying something wrong to my boyfriend. He is the one always having to hold my hand first and kiss me first. I want to do it so bad and he even has to ask me if I will first, but I am so afraid even when he asks. I have never been much on that kinda stuff anyways, but the best thing I ever did was tell my boyfriend how I felt. He used to get mad that I wouldn't do things as such, but when I told him he tried to understand. It's a hard thing to get over. Shyness can be caused by alot of things in your life.Just talk to her about how you feel, that you want to but everytime you do you freeze. If she understands or tries to that lets her know she really does care for you. The way you are is the way you are and if she doesn't like that then she doesn't know what your really worth. Shyness isn't overcome over night. It takes a long time to be able to be dominant and go for what you want instead of slamming the door in your own face everytime you want to do something but let your own thoughts hit you hard. Just relax and talk to her.
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Lately I've been thinking I'm depressed and I've been very unexpected with my moods. I was talking to my boyfriend either and this is what was said:
Me: I don't understand myself sometimes..
Him: honestly, i dont understand you sometimes either
Allowing myself to say it and then hear him say it feels so different. It hit me hard when he said that. Would anyone else be not offeneded, but confused if your boyfriend said that to you? It hurts so much more hearing it from him rather than myself... (link)
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I know exactly how you feel. My moods are always changing, I all the sudden all the time think of anything bad and I get so depressed. Sometimes I'll be all fine one minute, laughing and carrying on then literally the next minute I am down and depressed. It's so strange, but my boyfriend says the same thing. And you know what he is telling the truth. Maybe he doesn't understand you because you won't tell him everything about ho wyou feel. Have you been holding back certain things? He probably can't understand because your not being honest with him. It's how I always feel. My boyfriend will ask me how I feel or ask me what is wrong and I try to hide from him, only saying a few things but really wanting to pour my heart out. Sometimes its very hard to express your feelings to someone you love because your afraid of what they might think and you don't want to sound pitiful. But your not pitiful, if it's how you feel then it's worth stating. Don't be afraid to talk to him and tell him what's on your mind. In exchange make it a conversation about your moods and depression, get him to understand you. He can also join in a tell you how he feels at times. If he loves you alot then he will try to understand if you explain it to him. I know it's hard to hear things from him like that, and the reason you can say it about yourself is because you believe that only you believe that about yourself, you expect your boyfriend to say something that will make you happier, but it's the ones we love who hurt us. But if the hurt is the truth then it's better that way. He only means well and from what he said it sounds like your not telling him much or you have made it confusing for him to understand.
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hiya
recently i feel like ive been loosing my self.
ive beeen moody, snapping at my parents and self harming, ive also been considering suicide because i dont see any reason why i can continue to live. my parents split up about a month ago, im overweight, and i just feel useless. i lost my first love over ago because i realised how much i wanted to be with him after he left. i just dont know what to do any more. im 16/f and i just feel like ive lost my life already. i dream about love falling asleep under the stars with the person i love but i cant find that person to be with.
any ideas why im feeling like this and how i can stop it will get 5's.
thanx
emma
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Hi Emma.
You have not lost yourself in whole because you know how you feel. If you have some sort of reasoning left then there is hope to your problem. Trust me, I have felt the same way you have before. It's never easy being caught in the middle of a split between your parents. Your parents are supposed to love each other and be there for you, which is something you may feel they aren't doing. But in retrospect they are still there for you whether you notice it or not. Just because they are not together anymore does not stop them from loving you. You are afterall a result of love that they did share for each other, but their split has nothing whatsoever to do with you. Marriage can be a difficult thing and their problem can root back a long time ago before you even came along. Just feeling down and agrivated all the time is understandable within your situation. Your moody and always snapping at your parents because you feel you have no control over the situation. You feel lost and wish there was some way you could bring your parents back together. In reality you can't force them to be together, but it doesn't mean you have to feel you have no control because you do. You have control of your own life. You must be strong and live for yourself and for your parents. You are important no matter how good or bad your life gets. Everyone is here for a reason and just because a few wrong turns in your life have come by doesn't mean you should give up and down yourself all the time it will only lead you into downing yourself more and you will feel miserable all the time. As for the whole situation I think you should take time out for yourself, discover who you really are as a person and get to know yourself, make yourself happy because you deserve it. I know it's not the easiest thing to do to finally appreciate yourself, it took me a long time to find myself and I am still searching. But if you can never love yourself you can't love anyone else. Maybe the reason you snap at your parents is a hidden anger you have because of their split and you can't seem to get over it. The best resolution would be to talk to your parents about how you feel because if you continue to do what your doing youll end up making the situation worse. Just because your parents are apart doesnt mean you should lose respect for them, they only did what was best for them at the time, which doesn't seem fair to you but somehow it is fair. Their split is fair to you in that it saved you a lifetime of hearing them bicker at each other which is something you don't need in your life. I really do hope I have shed some sort of light your way. If you ever need anything else please don't hesitate to contact me.
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