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Moving, divorce
I move around alot, bouncing from Dad to Mom to Dad and back to my Mom ... once again I want to move back to my dad's but it is so much different this time here are some of the major reasons why:
1.My dad's Cancer, I feel so horrible not being there taknig care of him
2.My depression; Up here I thought I would be happier but I'm missing so much of my life that is going on down there my depression meds aren't working anymore becuase my depressions getting worse
3.All my friends are down there ... I can't make friends up here, I've been here for 6 months and I haven't made one friend ... I jsut don't want to becuase I only want my friends from CT I know everyone who is reading this is prolly like "If you try then you'll make friends don't give up" but I have tried and ... I just want you all and not some fucking Redsocks loving, black people hating, homophoboes that are up here
I know thats only three things but here are the reasons why I'd stay up here:
1.my mom's feelings
I just can't do things to make others happy anymore if it makes me depressed ... I'm growing up, I'll be gone off to college soon and I just rather be a happy person going off bymyself knowing I have friends right back at home then going and being depressed and not remembering social skills to make friends becuase honestly ... ever since that bastard Adam "hypnotysed" me under his spell I have lost all sense of myself and I have been trying to get it back since I broke free ... I just want to be happy
Please Help,
Gizmo
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i say follow your heart, have you talked to your mom about why you want to move. since your dad has cancer i think it would be a good idea to spend as much time with him as possible. i understand about the whole friend thing, when i was young my parents moved me away from the only place i knew and i was resentful for a long time, i am still in that place and now that i am an adult i have learned to adapt, but it is hard as a young adult to sart all over with trying to make new friends, i think you should go where you feel comfertable.
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You should difinitely spend some more time with you dad. I think that you should move in with him until he gets better that way you have nothing to feel guilty about.Your friends are there and it also seems like your happier down there. Wait and see what happens with you dad while your staying with him and hopefully things will work out. Hopefully after you dad gets better then you can move back with your mom but in the meantime I think that your mom will understand if you decide to move in with him. The only thing that would make her sad is if you forget about her and don't call or visit her once in a while. I hope that I helped you but if not you can visit me at my column.
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Well this is a tough situation. As for your dad, I think you should try and spend time with him. Cancer is a scary thing, I have lost someone close to me with cancer before. Spending time with the people you love is key. It lets them know you care and are there for them in their time of saddness. Your dad probably needs you right now, needs your support and love while he's dealing with his cancer. As for your mom, tell her you love her as well. Sit down with her and explain to her why you need to be with your dad right now. Tell her you will call her alot, etc etc. Go and visit her as often as you can. Just because you can't be with her all the time doesn't mean you don't love her.
As for your depression, try talking with a psychologist. Tell them your meds aren't working, and instead of just jumping on medication take out time and talk to someone about how you feel. Get to the root of the problem, you deserve to be happy. It is also key through all this to try and do something good for yourself, dont get caught up in everything just to only lose yourself in the long run. Maybe the reason why your sad is because of your parent's split and other things in your life, there is always hope and always happiness to come in everyone's life you just have to really be determined to grab hold of it. If you want Id be happy to talk with you further on this, I am passionate about giving advice on familt situations, my email is Aquarius8715@cs.com, hope to hear from you sweets, take care.
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