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overcome shyness?
any ideas how i could overcome my shyness? i've researched and looked at /many/ websites... and it's not very helpful to me.
it's really pathetic. i say i'll do something. i promise to kiss or hug or just do something..
but i end up not doing it. i freeze up and worry if i'll do it wrong. and by the time i've stopped thinking that... it'd be too late.
it's making me feel worse and i keep telling myself that if i dont do anything... my girlfriend will break up with me and i'm sure she will. that somewhat motivates me to try.
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Hi, just tell her that your a wee bit shy. The whole point in having a relationship is to be honest. Hope that helps. Daniel.
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maybe you should tell your girlfriend your gonna make an effort to be more outgoing but explian to her that its hard for you
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Wow, that is alot like me. I am not shy but I understand where you are comming from. It is hard for me to be dominant in my relationship too. I'm always afraid of doing something wrong or saying something wrong to my boyfriend. He is the one always having to hold my hand first and kiss me first. I want to do it so bad and he even has to ask me if I will first, but I am so afraid even when he asks. I have never been much on that kinda stuff anyways, but the best thing I ever did was tell my boyfriend how I felt. He used to get mad that I wouldn't do things as such, but when I told him he tried to understand. It's a hard thing to get over. Shyness can be caused by alot of things in your life.Just talk to her about how you feel, that you want to but everytime you do you freeze. If she understands or tries to that lets her know she really does care for you. The way you are is the way you are and if she doesn't like that then she doesn't know what your really worth. Shyness isn't overcome over night. It takes a long time to be able to be dominant and go for what you want instead of slamming the door in your own face everytime you want to do something but let your own thoughts hit you hard. Just relax and talk to her.
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talk to your gf and explain to her, its hard for you to be dominant in the relationship because you dont want to make her feel pressured at all..so let her know that she can take it as far as she likes...and she can be the dominant one..she might enjoy that lol and theres no reason to be shy hon...the reason shes with you is because she thinks your cute & likes you...so dont be shy...show her what a great guy shes with*
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