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I just got just peachy from baby lips medicated line. Well, on my skin color it's is not applealing at all. It looks like my lips out ashy lol. Anyways, how can I use it so it's not so ugly on my skin or could I make it into a different color. Any other ideas much needed! Thanks!😋 (link)
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You may be able to blend this color with another and make a cool effect. You could heighten the ash by using a silver eyeshadow brushed onto the lip with the sticky lip color holding it on or make it warmer using blush to add pinks or bronze.
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I had a boyfriend when i was 17 it was my first and we've been together for 5 years then we got married and after 2 years of marriage we got divorced. Now i'm 25 and after my divorce i hadn't been in any kind of serious relationship.. its been like this for two years now and all of them was like im with them for 2 days and the next day my feelings are gone,i can't maintain in a relation more than 2 days and i don't know why?
I want to love someone but something is wrong with me im trying again and again but no vain.
now there's this guy at my work im working with him almost for 6 month, he's a good guy and he takes care of me without any return except my love for him we started something and after 2 days as usual i said to him i don't want you anymore he insisted insisted and i began to feel boredom of him,then he brings some girl at work and i'm all jealous so my friends told me that if you're jealous then u feel something so we started again and today i woke up and it's all gone..now i dont have the guts to tell him all that bla bla again,,im thinking im not a good person anymore i want to runaway but again all im doing is runaway from my problems my past ..i know i have issues but the problem is i dont know what i have ,every morning i woke up with depression nothing makes me happy except my paintings nothing else ,,maybe im not a relationship person but i dont want to be alone,i think the best solution is to go at some kind of physiatrist,i feel lost and my heart always beats fast and im not ok.. (link)
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You might want to read about how puppy love skews our perception of feelings. The intensity you felt for your ex husband when you were 17 was at the height of your hormonal intensity. You may not have such intense feelings like those you've had for your husband ever again.
That's not a bad thing, intense feelings weren't enough to keep your marriage going, and lasting feelings of romance aren't the most important thing for a marriage. Look beyond your emotional hue and look at the values the other person brings to the relationship and cultivate friendships that make you feel like a person of worth. You may be overlooking one or many great potential partners because you are immersed in guilt, boredom, and thoughts of the past. You have to find a way to forgive yourself for past mistakes so you can make the right choices now.
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So during resess, my friend n, not real name, but I won't actually name him, was mad at my other friend,p, again not the real name. So I was joking around and said "Oh punch her in the face," and I started laughing at my joke. P is like "if your a real friend then you wounding have said. So many your not my friend at all." The rest of the day she gives me the silent treatment and I say sorry a million ways and compliment her. She hates my guts! And I'm thinking P be mature cause we play a game we are both out and I'm on one side and she moves to the other. Can u at least pretend and she tells everyone I said to N to hit her. girl get a joke because last year she kicked my head and punched me when I was on the floor. (link)
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Often the best move is not to label someone else's frustration as a silly little thing. Think of times someone belittled your anger in that way, it invalidates your feelings. Friends assume their friends feelings are legitimate, try to see it from her side and let her know you're working on that, even if you don't ultimately agree, you can say you're trying your best to understand her point of view and that you want to act in a way that makes her feel respected. Good luck!
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I am almost turning 14 and everyone else has breasts. It is always awkward changing for P.E. And I look horrible in swimsuits. What do I do? (link)
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Clothes look much better on you than you imagine, fashion models are all flat-chested! I was super distressed as well by how much later I got breasts than my peers. I'll tell you what my mom told me back then, the bigger they are, the further they descend later in life! (Sorry to the large-breasted women out there, but you know what she was talking about!)
Forever21 and Love Culture often sell one-size-fits-all padded sports bras for $10 or so in the back by the fitting rooms, I've seen some recently at Old Navy for $16 if those are sold out. Then you don't have to expose yourself in gym and it'll give you a little shape, if that's what you want to do to feel confident.
I usually wear a one-piece to go fast, but actually think a sporty 2-piece does the best job of giving the illusion of an hourglass, especially if it's in a shiny or light-colored fabric. Many swimsuits come with thin pads to hide nipples and they can add a little bit of dimension.
How you carry yourself matters a lot, walk upright and elegantly like a ballet dancer (generally also flat-chested). One of my best friends is always swarmed with guys asking her out, and she doesn't even fill an AA cup, but she's flirty and has really great hair, and many, many guys don't notice. If it's girls giving you a hard time, maybe they're having their own body image insecurities. It's a tough time with lots of change at all different paces, but you will get through it.
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So this girl, lets just call her c. We've been friends for a long time, and she knows i really, really like her, but she's dating someone else. I feel like ever since she started dating another guy, I feel like my love for her is poison to our friendship, and we are drifting apart. I don't want to lose her, but I don't want to hurt her feelings either. I love her, but the more I love her, the harder it is for our relationship to work out. Then, there is another girl I'm good friends with, I recently just met her. lets call her k. K likes me, I can tell, and I think I like her too, but my feelings with c are holding me back from k. I don't ever want to hurt k's feelings, and i feel like i am making k like me more without meaning to. Even if kate and I worked out, it would be an online relationship, like instagram and skype you know, and C and I live next door from eachother :( I just need help, please, from a girl. someone who is good with this stuff... (link)
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So I'm guessing C knows you like her? If that's the case, she chose someone else and you shouldn't hold out for her. Your friendship probably is poisoned because she's using you to make herself feel good, but she has to toe a line now so her boyfriend doesn't suspect she's getting this ego boost in a once-flirtatious way. At least you know K really likes you, but you don't have to start a relationship if you're not ready to move on yet. Good luck and be careful!
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Hey everyone, 18/f here
Background:
So, the cliche "best friend is in love with me" story happened to me. He's been my bestie for about two years, almost three. He's heard me out when I ranted about other guys, when I cried over getting cheated on, when I was stressed because I had to keep my grades up, and everything else. These past two months we talked more than usual, and I ended up catching feelings for him. I thought he just saw me as a friend but he confessed to having feelings for me for about a year. All our mutual friends knew except me, go figure. So we're dating and it's been great.
There's just one little problem. He's such a gentleman in so many ways and I love that. He wants to get married, buy a house, settle down. He believes that sex should only occur after marriage and while I think it's amazing that there's still men who think this way, I'm not sure I agree with him. He's catholic, not extremely religious but his beliefs are very old-fashioned. I am atheist, and I don't believe in marriage. While we're just teenagers, it seems like that could bring problems in the future. He knows what I am, and he's never said anything negative. The point is, I can't stop thinking about him in "unpure ways". It makes me feel silly to put it that way, but I keep having weird dreams and daydreams about him a in sensual/sexual way. It's starting to become a little obssesive. I mean, he doesn't even touch me other than holding my hand sometimes but that still makes me get all hot and bothered. We're both virgins, but I've had sexual contact with my ex. Could this be way I can't stop thinking about my boyfriend this way? (link)
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There's nothing perverse about your desires, they are completely normal for someone your age, regardless of your experience. I've known plenty of sex-obsessed virgins with NO experience whatsoever.
I would personally hit pause, however. If he can ask you to wait for sex, you can ask him to wait for marriage, which is a MUCH bigger deal, in my opinion, with legal and financial ramifications. Consider doing some pre-marital counseling before you get too serious to see whether you have the skills to work through the many obstacles marriage can bring.
Do you and he have a way to support yourselves? What were your good grades for? Weren't you thinking of going to college? Would you marry him first and then go? If he's Catholic on this issue, he very well may be tied to the idea of no birth control, and from experience, I can tell you having a child while going to school is extremely difficult, and more difficult if you don't have solid finances, which would be unusual for 18 year olds.
What's more, although I respect adviceman greatly, his great experience isn't the norm. Coming from different religious worldviews and marrying at earlier ages are both correlated with a greater incidence of divorce. Picture what your vows to be together mean to each of you. For you, they end at death, for him, he probably expects you to be part of his afterlife. If your boyfriend becomes worried for your soul, will you go through the motions for him, otherwise, how will he feel when you reject his life-or-death concern as a superstitious fairytale?
You're probably right that there could be problems in the future. This sounds like a fantastic love story, with fantastic lessons you're learning about kindness and respect, but not all love stories end with the couple staying together for good. There are serious areas where you'll either need to grow together, talk about, or even possibly ignore and suppress.
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At home there is a small drawer with a razor blade that we use to scrape crud of the stove. One day I was getting some dishwasher capsules and I was holding said razor blade. A little later, I saw my dog and he was growling at me and once I put the razor blade back in the drawer, he stopped. Can my dog be telling me something? (link)
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Maybe the scraping noise bothers him and he doesn't like it when people use the razor blade to scrape the stove.
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Me and my boyfriend argued alot so when me an him sawveach other her just took control.... I wanted it but he didnt want to go buy condoms so we did it raw. He pulled out before he cummed but i think i might be pregnant its been five days since we had intercourse and it stings when I peen i have a lot does that mean im pregnant?? (link)
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Stinging pee is much more likely a sign of an STD than pregnancy, you should get screened for sexually-transmitted infections at a doctor's office or clinic. What he did was a violation of your right to consent to what happens to your body, he disrespected your right to safety and protection from disease, he endangered you with pregnancy against your wishes. This is not the kind of person you want for a boyfriend, and if you have sex with him again, you very well might get pregnant; is this really the kind of man you want to be the father of your child?
He yells and argues all the time? He disregards your rights and wishes? What does he do for a living? If he's stressed and angry now, how would he feel if he had to support a child? Would he pressure you to have an abortion? Would he help pay for it? Since it sounds like has raped you (put his penis into your body in a way you didn't want--raw), you should not make him think his behavior is ok by continuing to be with him.
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up to 15 or 16 age my wife didn't get matured so her mom taken to near by gynecology hosp she gave some tablets then she got date .. later also she used tablets for getting date till now she didn't got naturally only through tablets ... kindly tell me now she can get pregnancy ????? (link)
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That's a question for a doctor. If she's not getting her period except through some kind of proscription hormones, it might require a different set or dosage of hormones to get her pregnant, if that is actually possible.
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If a boy have a Std and he eats you will u get it (link)
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It is totally possible, yes.
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I raped someone I want to turn myself in immediately. Tell me what I need to do. I need to be punished. I will not say how it happen and why. I can't make up any excuses. I was drunk but it doesn't change anything. The person who was hurt doesn't want to do anything and prefers to just forget and move on, but I can't . I need to be punished and I want to turn myself in. The person wouldn't have to worry about trial or publicity. I just need to know what I have to prepare for. (link)
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If you go to the police, they can accept a confession without the need for a trial or publicity, trials are only for defendants pleading "not guilty." If you confess (and not recant it later), you're going to automatically skip to sentencing rather than trial. Sentencing is usually lighter for those who turn themselves in than for those that make the state go through the expense and mess of a trial, in fact, the state tends to charge defendants with lesser crimes when they "plea bargain," but look to your jurisdiction for any kind of mandatory minimums. In most cases, I'd tell someone facing the criminal justice system to find a lawyer, but most people are trying to avoid punishment and you are not. A lawyer will probably attempt to dissuade you from your plan, because most lawyers are also trained to help people avoid punishment and stigma, but I think there's something to be said for soul-cleansing punishment in cases like this. Consent is sacred, don't ever violate it again.
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My husband and I's one year anniversary is coming up in a few months, and so is a very close friend's wedding, her wedding date: our one year anniversary. I'm at a loss of what to do. My husband wouldn't be able to come with me to her wedding, and my friend would be extremely hurt if I didn't go. What makes the situation awkward is I knew when picking my wedding date that my friend would be getting married that same day. I had no choice however (my husband is military). I reassured and promised her since she got engaged that I would be there at her wedding. In fact, as soon as I got the wedding invite, I texted her and let her know I would be there and how excited I was. My husband always knew I'd be going, but I guess it just clicked for him I'd be missing or first anniversary. He's very upset, anniversaries are very important to him. I tried reasoning with him that we could celebrate another day, but he's not having it. What do I do? I will always pick my husband over anything, but shouldn't he be more understanding? Should I be present for the most important day of my close friend's life and hurt my husband? Or be there with my husband for our one year anniversary and risk losing my friend? (And I have very few true good friends) (link)
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As another military spouse, I can promise you you'll miss a lot of anniversaries, so don't get too hung up on any one date. You're being flexible in living that lifestyle with him, he ought to try to be flexible about the fact you had plans over a year ago on this date, before you two were even married.
Try to figure out what it is this in particular represents to him, because I've never met a couple in the military who got to celebrate the actual day every time, or even most times. Maybe he would see that as making it more important you two celebrate the exact day, but what matters is your ability to work through things together, not the day on the calendar. You can use the gregorian or Hebrew calendar, or celebrate love and marriage at your friends wedding together.
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This guy likes me and keeps talking to me and I want to make sure I'm not accidently flirting with him. Can you tell what not to do? Thanks (link)
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Psychology has shown thinking about what NOT to do leads to the wrong result (don't think about an elephant! First thing you think of? Elephant). Instead, think about how to be forthright. Tell him you're not ready for a relationship or not feeling any sparks, because otherwise you're most likely just delaying the inevitable. He will assume anything is a sign of
hope--talking, civility, cheer, basic kindness--it's human nature. Men are more prone to interpreting benign smiles as encouragement: http://m.livescience.com/4876-clueless-guys-read-women.html
Be as gentle as you can without being unclear, unless you like the attention and might want to consider dating him in the future. If that's the case, let him know where you stand. Most likely, though, if you don't feel it now, you won't feel differently later and it's better to let him go. Good luck.
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Can your boyfriend tell if you have sex with someone else if the other person has a bigger dick than your boyfriend? (link)
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I agree with dragonfly magic, but I have to add that I laughed out loud when I read your subject line because I pictured a vagina "feeling different" being one that feels guilty and sad with downcast eyes and shuffling shoes.
The fair thing to do is to be honest. Your boyfriend shouldn't be limited to monogamy if you don't want to be held to that standard, whether or not he can tell you've done it. If you communicate at all, your vagina isn't what will give you away, it'll be your avoidance or sketchy approach toward him. If the sex is more important to you than an honest relationship, you really should let this guy go.
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Hi again, so yesterday I asked about how I could possibly make my boobs grow, and this great user answered with a stupendous response that sprouted hope in me. One thing he said was that I was a late bloomer. (and if you're the user, please answer this (:) I'm not sure about that because, when I was 12, my hips grew, and I got pimples, and I got my period when I was 11. I passed through all those things... but my boobs didn't. Am I still a late bloomer? (link)
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Puberty comes unevenly for most people. My boobs didn't come in until I was 17 and one of my best friends got huge boobs 4-5 years after she got her period. I remember being so worried about it until it happened and I sported a padded bra so my clothes would look better but there was no way I'd ever let anyone see me topless after gym! Looking back, I wonder now why I thought I needed them, it was just that I thought I was "supposed to" have them because it was what seemed to be the normal thing and I thought I'd get made fun of. In reality though, women come in all kinds of different shapes and sizes and they can still be gorgeous and still find partners who delight in what they've got. I met a woman who got breast implants for her modeling job, but it didn't end up earning her any more money. She gets the same amount of attention and the number amount of jobs, just of a different style with different clients. She regretted it because she felt she looked fitter and younger with smaller breasts. One of the most beautiful women I know in real life is a AAA cup and is constantly being fawned over by men and women. Really think about why you need them before you take any drastic steps to get them. They're easier to put in than take out, from a surgical perspective. Besides, chances are good they'll show up on their own in a few years.
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I've been dating a guy for 3 years and I recently lost about 20 pounds. I am still in the normal weight range for my height and I feel overall healthier and happier and I have more energy and I wouldn't take it back for anything. However my boyfriend feels that I am too thin and has been "crushing" on this other girl that apparently looks like me but is a little heavier. He's trying to get me to gain weight but I really don't want to but I don't want to lose him. He's talking to this girl that he says is "harmless" but he's into her and it bothers me. What should I do? We're also 23 if that makes a difference.. (link)
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I love that you say you wouldn't take it back for anything, so definitely don't! Telling other people to gain weight is a form of body shaming and it's not acceptable. It's your body. I'm super angry on your behalf right now, sorry if I'm about to get riled up...
If he is putting pressure on you to change, especially in ways that make you feel sluggish and less happy, you really need to start asking how much he really values YOU. Truly valuing you would require him to put your health and well-being before his ideal way of objectifying women. Being 23 does make a difference. If you are looking for a life partner, you're now entering the age of, "is this really what I'm looking for?" You say you don't want to lose him, but really start to evaluate exactly why, what purpose are you keeping him for? You've been with him for 3 years. Is this your future spouse? Chances of marriage begin to go down when it hasn't been discussed by the 3-year mark. When I found that statistic, it drastically changed how I approached dating. You may enjoy being around someone, care deeply about someone, but also realize that you're not going to be happy married to that same person. So what are you really doing with that hypothetical someone?
Maybe you have thought about it, but it might suggest something of how he thinks about the commitment if he feels he can entertain harmless crushes and suggest changing you in ways that make you worse off... You're still young, so it's not like you have to decide who you're going to marry right now, but it is about time to start practicing thinking about what you want.
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19/m
So I posted this question a couple weeks ago. I tried some of the suggested methods, still I haven't made that many friends and I feel like I'm going through a lot right now so it doesn't help.
I want to make more friends here at college. Right now I have some friends, I'd say 5 or 6. I don't really consider them friends like I consider my friends back home that are still in high school or graduated but left for a different university.
I think I have social anxiety, I hate going up to random people and starting a conversation because I never know what to say to people. I honestly never know. I hate when people tell me just say hi and ask them something, this doesn't work for me. I will never know what to ask, and even if I do, I won't know what to say after that question has been answered by the person.
I struggle with talking to guys, and especially girls. Also lately I have been having a hard time with depression and my school work. I have been feeling very down lately so all of this is adding up. I have been thinking about going to see a counselor or a therapist because I have been feeling very down in the dumps. I know some of it comes from my lack of friends/relationships with people here at college. So far I hate college and regret coming because of everything adding up.
Anyways enough of the depressing stuff... I need some good ideas to help me meet people, or to have people more directly talk to me to get me and become friends or have some relationship with them. I know once I connect with someone I am a good friend and never shut up with them. It's just getting past that part of being scared and not knowing what to say.
I also would like some advice on talking to the girls here. I feel like I am a decent looking dude but the girls here are gorgeous, literally I cannot believe how many good looking girls are here. I feel very insecure talking to them.
Any advice would be helpful as I feel pretty desperate to make some friends, and it just adds to my problems that I think I need to go see a professional for. College has definitely made me question my existence on the planet but I know I need to fix my stuff to be a happier person and get on with my life.
Thanks guys. (link)
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Going away to college is one of life's most disruptive life experiences. That's why colleges have such great counseling centers in general, so take advantage of the resources while you have them. I loved to go to my university's counseling center's workshops on meditation and organization and have met great friends there--it makes everyone a little more approachable when we are all coming together to admit we're not perfect.
As far as the girls being too perfect, it's an amazing and fleeting period in a woman's life. Most 19-21 year old women are gorgeous for all kinds of clever biological reasons. They hold a lot of power over young men (and some old men who haven't learned their lessons yet). At the same time, there's also a bit of tragedy to it. I was a beautiful co-ed and I put a lot of value on that, maybe to the detriment of other skills and lasting values I could have cultivated. I just left my 20s and have ridden the crest to MILFdom, so I'm very lucky I have a spouse who values me as an individual and is still convinced I'm beautiful, because we can't afford Real Housewives style youth-clinging. Each of those women on campus who are impossibly beautiful now will become more and more invisible every year if all they have are their looks. Look at the person underneath the hot girl exterior and get to know the person who remains. In other words, get past the looks, they all inevitably will.
Back to the important point: It is incredibly hard to leave all your friends and start over, I don't know that you're giving yourself credit for how brave you are. Also, though, it means there are lots of others around you going through the same experience and your kind greeting could really save them, too.
Look at the events calendar on campus and try to do something every single day--a lunch talk, a volunteer opportunity, a gallery tour, an ice cream social on the quad, a recruiting event, a choir, a chess club, a newspaper team, a sport or intermural event. Resist the temptation to go home and talk to your friends back home or watch Netflix. We all have a genuine need to interact daily with people, honor that and keep trying. It will take longer than you realize to really build meaningful friendships. You don't have the luxury of having grown up with these people. If the superficial chats aren't filling your need, try to spend a little time in nature, too. Being in green spaces can help lighten your mood and make it easier to approach others. Counseling on campus can help too to make sure you're approaching these challenges with the right attitude and with kind thoughts toward yourself. Next semester will be much much easier.
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Someone asked the question, why would a married man want to cheat with a married woman. I read the tale of a married woman having an affair with a married man. She's tried everything to get her husband to turn on but nothing has worked. She is in love with the married man who claim he won't leave his wife, but says he loves his lover. Long story short, these lovers are IN LOVE WITH EACH OTHER AND THEIR MARRIAGES ARE OVER. Until the truth is faced head on, you will suffer. Don't listen to people who say it's wrong. They know nothing. They are preaching but don't know what it's like to be in your shoes. (link)
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I love adviceman49's column and he's spot on. Truth is the big issue here, as you say, and facing it is certainly advisable. The hard truth is that so long as these people are still legally married and not taking active steps to dissolve their marriages, their marriages are not, in fact, over. There's no "claim" he won't leave his wife, it's simply a fact if he hasn't left his wife and isn't making any move to do so. Most married men who want to sleep with married women are looking to have sex. The fact that the partner is also married gives him some security that she won't change the status quo; she also has something to lose from being indiscreet. If you really believe he's only bluffing he won't leave his wife and that he loves you, though, you are probably now more risky than he was originally intending vis-a-vis discretion/not interfering with his family.
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Boyfriend of two years broke up with me started dating someone a week later and then came crawling back 4 months later. I took him back but we've been fighting so much lately that I question if I even should be with him. I know I'm still angry with him and that is the reason why I keep trying to find reasons to get mad and leave but he doesn't make it easy. Last night we were talking about trying to have sex again and I asked if he slept with the girl he dated and he got quiet and I told him to answer but he wouldn't. He said it shouldn't matter but it matters a lot to me cause I couldn't even think of another guy let alone have sex with someone. I said it mattered to me and he just got up and went home. He didn't even try to talk about it or reassure me. In fact the last couple days he just makes everything a joke and doesn't take any of my feelings seriously. I think it's time to move on but I just spent almost 6 months being sad over someone that I wanted to come back so bad but now I'm not sure if that's what I want anymore. Any advice? (link)
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You describe your boyfriend as someone who doesn't respect your feelings, came "crawling back" and you're not sure you want anymore. You're finding reasons to be mad and he has made it easy by dating someone within a week of breaking up with you (presumably she was waiting in the wings and he was looking to throw away a two year relationship in the hopes of trying out something new with this girl). He isn't communicating and it sounds like you've already done the grief, you're just now left in wonder that all that sadness was really over someone you don't really like that much anymore. If you're over 23 or so, you should know by the end of two years if this is someone you could commit to. He's shown you he really can't. And your gut seems to be saying you don't want to. If you're under 23, even more reason to bail. Very very few relationships begun below that age work out, especially when there's been a breakup already, so you might as well save yourself months of constant fighting and another 6 months of being sad. Hold out for someone who is a good enough friend to communicate honestly and caringly.
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I am 20 years old girl.2 years ago I met a boy (23 years) on facebook.He was from the another city of my country.I never add unknown people. Actually I was searching someone from his company. And I sent friend request to him. But after chatting I came to know that he was not the one. I decided to remove him. But from his old status I came to know that he lost his mother last year. I really felt bad. And decided not to remove him. We became friends. We used to chat for long time. He shared a lot of things with me so did I. He was a nice boy. He cared for me. I forgot to take my medicine. He asked me everyday that I took my medicine or not. He asked my opinion about his business card. I mean he gave me priorities. But after 2 months don't know what happened he started to change. He didn't reply me back like before. I didn't ask why. And I started to realize that I like him. I felt bad about it that how I fall in love with someone on internet. I decided to move on and not to talk to him anymore. But that time it seemed very difficult to me. I decided to remove him. One night I knocked him and told him something about my family and then told him that I am going to remove him. He said please tell me the reason. I told him and removed him.but still I used to message him and he replaid me. That time I came to know from other source that he hided things from me. He didn't told me that his father got married few days ago. He told me that he had a girlfriend for one year but he never loved her. But I came to know that after that he also had a girlfriend almost for 3 years. But he didn't tell me anything about it. After one months I added him again. He accepted friend request and talked to me like nothing happened. Everything became normal again. I gave him my number. We started to chat on whatsapp. Almost like before. It was my birthday. I asked for gift. He asked what I want. I told as your wish. He told me to ask for something. I told him that you won't be able to give me. He asked me what. I didn't want to tell him. But he forced me and requested me to tell what I want. I told him that I liked him seriously and I really wanted to spent my life with him. He told me that we didn't meet each other ever so we shouldn't think about it. One night I asked him,won't you ever love me?He said "you are a very silly girl,stop this childish,it will be good for you and relationship are really trouble thing for me". On reply I said I will wait for you because I am unable to love anyone else.He didn't say anything.One day I called him and we talked for the first time. That day he told me about his father marriage. We talked for 20 minutes. And he was nice. After that we used to talk. His birthday was coming I decided to send him a gift. I asked for his address but he refused to give it to me. But I knew his addressed already so I sent the gift. And he accepted it(There was his another female friend. She also liked him. She also send him gift but he didn't accept it.I came to know from someone.) And on his birthday he called me and said that I am crazy. But he was happy.Every thing was going well. One day I knocked him on whatsapp and after sometime he replaid. Like he always does. But I felt something is wrong. Don't know why!!! But my mind telling me that something is wrong. I felt that he was not replying me. Someone else was doing it. And the person talked to me little rudely. I knew that he couldn't talk to me like that. I end the conversation. I was so upset that he allowed someone to reply me by his phone. After 7 days I knocked him and asked about the matter. He told that it wasn't he. I asked who it was. He told it was his colleague. But he didn't tell the name. I got very angry. He tried to explain me that it wasn't intentional. But I didn't pay any heed to his talk. I asked him how could he allowed someone to message me. He said that his colleague borrowed his phone for some work and I knocked that time and she replaid. She also deleted the message but told him what she wrote. And she did it for fun. I was so angry. I shouted at him. And told him not to contact me ever. At last he also got angry and told me that I was just a facebook friend to him nothing else and he never thought about me.
After that I found out the girls name. She is 1 year older than him. She also proposed him. But he said no. I contacted him again almost after 3 months. He also did. One day he called me we talked for so long. And the next day the girl tried to commit suicide and admited into hospital but he didn't even go to see her. When I heard about it I really felt bad.I come to know that the girl is back in his life.They talk to each other.But they are just friend. He never tells me anything about it ever. I found it out from another source. I also ask him that if he has any problem to talk to me he can tell me directly I won't contact him again. But he says he has no problem to talk to me.
We don't talk like before.He never knocks me. I don't knock him much. I still have that feelings for him. I still like him. But it doesn't hurt me anymore. I am doing okay in my life. I call him sometimes(like once in a month/months) . And he talk to me nicely like before we used to talk. I wonder he still remembers little things about me. I talk to him like a friend. I never talk about my feelings and all this. But last time when we talked he asked me,do I have a boyfriend now? I said,no. He asked,why? On my mind I was telling,because I told you that I will wait for you. But i didn't tell him that. I told him that you know the answer but may be you don't remember it.I was a little angry.
Should I move on?Should I cut contact with him?
And yes I always feel that he has some feelings for me. May be its not love,but its special.Did/does he have?I accept the fact that he would never love me. But I still love him. And I am okay with that.
Tell me what to do now? (link)
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"I will wait for you because I am unable to love anyone else." You ARE able, yet you are CHOOSING instead to maintain an unhealthy fantasy relationship with someone you don't actually know--you don't know his friends, his family, his colleagues, what he does all day, how he walks, his scent, his annoying habits (does he make noises while eating or talk to himself on the way to work?). Everything you idolize in him is something you have constructed. It is imaginary. He has said you don't mean anything to him more than a Facebook friend. He is telling the truth about that. He only talks to you because it feels good to be admired and adored and you stoke his ego. He spends time talking to you because it makes him feel important. The fact he would accept a gift is not a reason to put all your hopes on him. He is seeing other people and not telling you about them.
The issue isn't whether to talk to him or not, the issue is how to spend this precious time you have on earth while you are young! You are wasting energy and hours of time that could be spent pursuing projects: work you are passionate about, volunteering and helping others, and love and friendship from people who will treasure you and share their real four-dimensional lives with you. There are people you could be spending time with in real life, knowing their habits and their foibles and caring for them in ways that allow you to know their families, their friends, their REAL lives. So he's nice and did a few caring things. You can get that pretty much anywhere, it's not that soecial. What's more special is someone who will integrate you into his actual life and be clear that you are a priority for him. Don't waste so much time online, don't waste your love waiting for someone you have basically invented, there's a life to be lived and it's quickly passing! Here's a video that illustrates this: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=BOksW_NabEk
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