Dragonflymagic answered Wednesday February 4 2015, 6:37 pm: If the male is a carrier of the herpes I, which is the cold sores outbreak around the mouth, you can catch that. Most people while having a herpes outbreak find it painful enough to not want to kiss or have intercourse depending which one they have so its rarely passed on at that stage, its passed on earlier when there are no signs. The virus travels up the nerves from where it sits in limbo for some time and once reaching the surface of the skin, the virus can be transfered if contact with the invisable virus occurs between the two. A person can be a carrier of the herpes virus without ever having an outbreak in their life. I have on 3 different occasions asked different Drs. if their STD screening included checking to see if I am a carrier for herpes. I was told, no they don't check because at this point, the majority of the population have it, or rather are carriers and keep transfering it more people without ever having their 1st outbreak of sores to know they have it. I asked to have the test for it anyways and it came up positive that I am a carrier. My husband is a carrier for the oral version. So we pay close attention and if our skin feels even just irritated or sore or a chafed feeling before an outbreak, we wait two more days to see if anything developed. Most people don't pay such close attention to their bodies.
So even if someone you decide to have sex with has had screening to be clear of STD's he could still be a carrier for Herpes unless he actually asked to be tested for it. Theres no way for you to know. And yes, you can get other STD's from just oral. I knew a couple who tried swapping partners for the first time and they already had reservations when meeting the other couple, never did anything but oral sex and developed an STD they got treated for . The girlfriend told me sine I was divorced and now dating and wanted me to be informed to be safe. The only 100% safe way is for both partners to have total testing done, including for herpes beforehand. [ Dragonflymagic's advice column | Ask Dragonflymagic A Question ]
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