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ok, i'm looking for a site that will sell colored contacts the aren't prescription. I don't know what the "power" thing means on every website I find, but I think that means they have to be prescribed. I have perfect vision, I just want a different color :] thanks!
What you are looking for is what is called cosmetic contact lenses. here is a link to a site that sells them, just click on the first link on the web page that is listed as Cosmetic Lenses
http://www.1800color.com/
-CalamitySami
I'm going on birth control very soon. I have made an appointement with the doctor and I have to speak to her for a half hour. witch questions will he ask me? and also, whats the best kind of birth control out there?
thanks
Well, there isn't a set 'Best' BC. it varies for each person. Your doctor will probably ask you a few questions about your period, such as do you have cramps, and do you get a heavy flow... ect. The BC will help reduce all the normal icky-ness of your period, reducing: flow, cramps, days it lasts, fatigue and bloating
(for most people that is. Before i was on BC, i had a really light period that lasted two days, never got cramps and/or bloated. But after having taken it it really messed me up, and now i have horrible cramps, my lower back hurts while i'm having my period. it lasts for what feels like forever and i get really fatigued. and this is all even after i've stopped taking the BC, so just beware)
If you tend to be an already emotional person, i'd suggest asking for something with a lower dosage, because yours moods will be really crazy for a while, it takes up to 6 months for your body to get use to BC.
Talk to your doctor about the different kinds, and make sure to ask questions, some BC's may not be right for you.
Hope that helped some
-CalamitySami
15/f.
i just recently applied for a job at wegman's.
my first question is where can i get working papers [they are needed if i am called back for an interview]. my second question is, if i am called back for an interview what should i wear? and is there anything specific i should know or say? what about the training process to be a cashier? this is my first job ever and im really nervous. if anyone can give me some basic info thatd be reall great =] thanks.
Getting the working papers that you are talking about depends on the state that you live in. so I can't really help you so much with that.
Your second question however:
If you are called back for an interview
- You always want to dress formal/semiformal -presentation is everything - make sure to be a little modest.
- Don't fidget with your fingers or anything while they are interviewing you
- Ask questions, it shows them that you are interested in them and the business
- If you don't have a resume already, have your mom or dad help you make one. Put on there things that would show that you have people skills, and you are able to deal with money. Even though this would be your true first job there is still alot someone your age can put on a resume. Babysitting, Things that you have organized for school, Volunteer jobs you've done. Anything that can relate to what you are applying for.
Handing your interviewers a resume before you start the interview gives them a great first impression, and already they will be impressed with you, before you have even opened your mouth (this applies to how you dress as well)
- If they ask you what flaws you have, make sure to point out something that can be turned into a good thing. such as... if you are a prefectionist. then that can be a bad thing if you focus on that too much, but when you learn how to control it, it can be really good. ect.
-CalamitySami
Hope I was of help! Just remember to be confident and try to stay a little relaxed.
I have really bright, blue eyes. I was wonderin if anyone has any tips or knows of any websites that have makeup tips on how to really play them up, so they're really noticeable.
when you have blue eyes, you want to wear as little eye make up as possible. I'd suggest finding a really nice black eyeliner, use it right underneath your eyelashes on your top eyelid, and a little on the bottom eyelid, not thick, VERY thin, and just get some good mascara. It will really make your eyes 'pop' without making it obvious that you are wearing makeup.
(remember less is more)
by the way: I'm jealous, i wish i had really bright blue eyes... instead mine are bright green :/
hope i was of help!
-CalamitySami
im getting my naval pierced and i was wonder if anyone who has gotten it like how bad does it hurt? and do you lay down when they do it?
also if someone could send me maybe a good website or something about the risks involved thanks
I got my belly piercing when i was... 12 i think, it didn't hurt for me at all, but i also have a pretty high pain tolerance. but because i was also worried about the same thing, i would use my nails to kinda pinch where the piercing would go so i would be able to gauge how much it hurt.
After you get it done:
Buy a bottle of saline solution (its usually used for people that have contacts)
each morning and night for about three months, take a shot glass, fill it about half way with the saline solution, lean forward and put your belly piercing on the shot glass, and then stand straight up and lean back, a bed is easiest. and kinda shake the shot glass around a bit, this cleans it out and prevents it from getting infected. you shouldn't have any problems with it if you do that.
just make sure that where ever you get it pierced, they are credited, and use clean equipment!
-CalamitySami
my question is my period started on feb. 12th...it was over by the 18th. I had unprotected sex with my husband on the 20th and he cummed in me ...what are the chances of me becoming pregnant and when can I take the test, on what date. We did this once before had sex right after my period and he cummed in me.....and I didn't become pregnant. So please and advice would be greatly appreciated.
Well, the riskiest time to get pregnant is when you are ovulating. so for you, the riskiest time would be still in a few days/ a weeks time, you most likely aren't going to get pregnant if you have sex right after your period is over, because your body hasn't had a real chance to get the egg into your uterus. (know however there are cases of the sperm traveling up the Fallopian tube and penetrating the egg.)
You can take a pregnancy test in early march though, around the 8th... that would really be the earliest time that the pregnancy hormone would show up in your system.
If you want to see when you are going to be the most fertile ect, I'd suggest using this website and putting in your basic info here:
http://www.babyhopes.com/ovulation-calendar/
-CalamitySami
Okay, right after I shave down there. Its always really itchy and I get alot of little red dots on the side of my thigh, what wear people get bikin waxed. A few monthes ago, the same thing was happening, so I stopped shaving. And, the itchiness dissapeared, along with the dots. I dont want to stop shaving, cause, you know....But, any advice on whats happening and what I should do?
thanks
Well, this is most likely just razor burn. If this is a continuous thing, then I'd suggest trying using waxing or some other method to remove the hair other than shaving. You can also use conditioner when you shave as your shaving cream, it softens the hair, so its easier to cut, and it's not as noticeable when you miss a hair or too, and it sooths your skin and allows for a closer shave.
-CalamitySami
14.Female.
My like best guy friends name is Cole, and he is awesome. He always makes me happy and unlike other guys I don't act diffrently around him --at all--. Id eat like a pig infront of him and not care, laugh my normal laugh. It doesn't madder he's just like my BFF Becky. I know she's not gudmental so and he's the sameway. Well the Christmas dance was coming up and he asked if I wanted to go. It was a hardcore What?? Completely unexpected and I said no. And explained to him that I don't like him like that and he was like Ohh. And thank god it didn't effect our relationship.
Well he flirts with me all the time and sadly I do to...[[sucha bitch I KNOW]] But I can't help it I Do Like Him. But the reason is so stupid I wont even explain it.
Well his sisters in another state right now checking out colleges with her boyfriend and a Sunday I was talking to Rhiannon about Cole. He's so sweet, and soo hot and funny and everything I lovee. Like one time he was making fun of himself and I was like Cole! Your adorible, whatever people say they can go to hell because I love you exactly the way your are.
Then it kinda clicked Oh Shit did I just say? Im soo dumb. He said something else thougha dn i was like Why do you only make fun of yourself infront of me?? and he was like Because I know you'll say otherwise. I was like awwwww
Listen, this isn't your battle to fight. It's his. And most of the time the hardest thing to do is sit back and let your friends handle their own lives. But you can talk to him about a few things.
So, this it what I have to say:
Concerning Cole hitting Ashton about what Ashton said about you, and the popularity thing.
Most likely, Cole was so defensive to what Ashton said because he has seen his father say negative things towards his mother, and while he can't always stop his father from saying nasty things to his mother, he can defend you. The fact that he got so upset with Ashton probably is rooted in the fact that his father is abusive and he can't do much about his father. And at this point, you shouldn't be worrying about what people are going to say about him liking you. He likes you for the real reasons. Not the shallow reasons that everybody else is using for why they like somebody. That is something special, make sure to hold onto that, and let go all of your worries about what the other kids are saying.
No kid should ever have to face the difficulty of abuse. But sadly, a lot of us do. I speak from experience. And while most people will tell him to immediately get himself out of there, you can't always just leave. That can aggravate things. And it is a lot easier done than said.
Talk to him about the need to leave. Has he talked to his mother about his father being abusive? Like really sat down and talked with her about it? Its hard to do. Sometimes, like in my case, the mother won't believe the kid, because they don't want to face the fact that they put their kid in danger. But he'll find that if he sits down with her and talks to her, and brings to light that if his father isn't afraid to hit him, they what about his sister/brother thats going to be coming into the world, he probably won't think twice about hitting the baby either. Making his mother really see the danger that she is putting her kids, and herself in.
Let Cole know that you are there for him, and that as hard as it is for you to tell him, or really show it, you do care about him, but have just been scared to tell him. Let him know that when things get rough he can come over and talk with you. Or at least make him promise that if his father is drunk or something, he needs to get either everybody out of the house and avoid confrontation or lock him out of the house. Its no use to talk to someone that is drunk and mad.
When he gets a chance, he should also talk to his father, when he is sober. Or if it is too difficult to talk to him. Write him a letter. Most times the adults around us don't realize what a huge impact their effects have on us. I would often go to school, and purposefully get myself in trouble, so i could feel in control of something in my life. And that may be another reason Cole reacted the way he did with Ashton, because he felt more in control about letting Ashton know that it wasn't okay for Ashton to say that about you, versus when he is at home and watching his father verbally and physically abuse him and his mother.
If Cole talks to his parents, and nothing happens for the better, he does need to leave. Either tell a school counselor who will be obligated to notify authorities, and remove him from his house hold (which is incredibly traumatic, I can't begin to describe the feeling of having to talk to detectives about what happens in your house, knowing that they might take you away from the people you love)or tell your parents, and see if you can arrange for him to stay at your house for a period of time. till things are fixed and it is a safe environment for him to go back home again.
-CalamitySami
(ps: I'm sure there is more that i forgot to write, but this is something i know a lot about from personal experience, so please email me if you have any other questions or if he tries something and the situation gets worse)
so, do ALL nail polish, no matter what kind, strenghthen your nails? or is just the kind that says its a nail strengthner? cause i use a clear sally hanson, and it dosent say it will strenthen. thanks alot!
When you have a layer of nail polish on, yes it strengthens your nails, it makes your nails thicker (that is if you are buying good quality nail polish, yes sally hanson is very good polish)However, when you use nail polish remover, it breaks your nails down because of the acetone in it.
So if you are trying to strengthen your nails, don't worry so much about the nail polish as how much polish remover you are using when taking nail polish off.
Buy the polish remover that has the label "no-acetone" and that will help your nails get stronger as well.
-CalamitySami
Hey, I need to keep a blog of my vacation so my friends can see it. I want to use hi5, I think that is the easiest way. But I need to keep my profile private, and I don't want everyone to have to sign up to see my page. So can I just make another account, and give all my friends the user name and password? That way they can all just use that to sign in? Thanks for the help.
I would suggest using www.blogger.com
With blogger.com you have a website with your own url, that you can blog on, but unless someone specifically knows the url, then they cant get to it. so its private in a way, but your friends don't have to sign up to see your entries.
I'd really advise that you don't ever give out your password, and username, it could end up being in a messy situation with friends if you do that. Even if you believe you can trust them, people change what you write ect.
OR
if your friends and you have myspace, put them on your preferred list, so that way only they can see it.
-CalamitySami
Ok so ive been on my period for about a month now- my problem is im on this shot called depro provera its a birth control shot that makes your period barely ever come, and i havent had one in about 6 months. Well i am sexually active with my boyfriend of 9 months. Recently when we have sex i bleed, and now it just stays like that, and its hurt the hole time when were having sex and doesnt even feel good. What should i do? I have an appointment with the gyno soon, but what do you think could be wrong with me??
I don't think its too serious. However it is a good idea to go see that doctor. One of the side effects of these birth control shots, that they conveniently forget to tell you, is that when you do have your period, it will be longer, and a heavier flow than usual.My best guess it because your body still needs to get rid of the same amount of blood as it would if you had your period each month, its getting rid of it now.
But please do talk to your doctor, just in case it could be a very serious and dangerous thing
-CalamitySami
If you are two months pregnant, would that show up on a pregnancy test even if you take it nowhere near your period (not right before or after)..I just took one and it said negative, but I have what looks like a little pouch in the front of my stomach, along with possible symptoms. Basically, are all pregnency tests 95% accurate no matter what time of the month it is?
Yes, they are accurate no matter what time of the month you test for. Pregnancy tests test for the pregnancy hormone, also called human chorionic gonadotropin (hCG). So if you are Pregnant, it will show on the test no matter what time of the month it is.
As for the symptoms. Pregnancy symptoms are similiar many different, you could be getting close to your period, or just bloating, or getting sick. If you are still unsure take another test (you normally want to take two for extra measure. First response is a pregnancy test that contains two tests in the box for that specific reason) Or go see a doctor who would do a blood test to tell you.
-CalamitySami
I think i am fat, and i think i am ugly and i dont want to think that.
How can i lose weight without giving up on it and what are good hair and makeup techniches i can use that will make me feel better about myself?
and what are some ways guys can like me and i can flirt with them?
If you want guys to like you, you need to be comfortable in your own skin. So if you are really self conscious about how you look, and your weight, it will be noticeable.
I suggest, that each day, write down five things about yourself that you like. It can be about your appearance and your personality. Five things, not four, or three. But Five.
This will help build up your confidence, and that is the sexiest thing a woman can have. Now thats a start.
Also remember that You are always going to be your own worst critic. While people may look at you and think that you look pretty, or cute, or beautiful. You may not always feel the same way as people see you.
So if you want to wear make up, make sure to find a brand that works well with your skin. Less is always more! so don't layer it on.(and I'll let you in on a secret: Guys love it when girls don't have to wear make up. They think girls look so much more beautiful with out it.(guys also like it when your hair is down)
Learn to not be so critical about your self. the more positive you think, the more it will show in how you carry yourself
-CalamitySami
I got my period a year ago during Thanksgiving Dinner and I've been wearing pads since then. However, summer is coming and all my friends are already using Tampons. There is no way I am going to miss out on swimming during the summer!
So, I was wondering...
Do Tampons hurt? Does it take a while to get used to?
Once you learn to use a tampon correctly you don't feel it when it is in. Its very comfortable. That is one of the reasons there is a TSS warning on the instruction pamphlet in the tampon box, because some women do forget that they have put a tampon in, towards the end of their period and it can result in TSS. (If you want to know what TSS is, feel free to email me)
And yes, it does take one or two times to get use to putting it in, and how to put it in ect. but it is fairly easy.
-CalamitySami
I have always had naturally long finger nails, but I cut them about a month or so ago... and now they aren't growing back! They have always grown back before!!! Does anyone know why they arent growing back or how to make them grow back??
Your nails probably are just growing very slow, this would most likely be due to your diet. When your diet lacks in calcium and iron, your nails tend to grow a lot slower. So make sure be getting enough minerals in your diet, and they should begin to grow back faster.
If you aren't sure what foods contain the minerals you need, buy some mineral vitamins at the store that you can take each morning.
-CalamitySami
I've known a guy for several years now (well, ever since the 3rd Grade) and I've never really paid attention to him. We tease each other and laugh at each other all the time. We've both had relationships come and go over the years, but our "friendship" hasn't broken yet.
Well, lately, I've been thinking about him more and more. And no, its not because we have EVERY SINGLE PERIOD together, its because he has a sweet smile, good sense of humor, etc.
Nobody knows about my little crush on him, even my closest friends. The problem is, we've been picking on each other for so long and I don't know how he'll react.
So, the question is:
1) Should I really be chasing after him? After all these years?
2) How can I show him I like him without him or anyone else making fun of me?
Pull him aside when you have a chance, and ask him if he has ever thought about it. Don't come on really strong, just ask him if he has ever thought about you. And I'm sure that if he doesn't feel the same as you, you can ask him to not mention it to his friends.
You are two friends having a conversation, it shouldn't be too big of a deal. and Hey, you'd be surprised how many guys fall for their girl best friend. They just tend to be too scared to say anything first.
-CalamitySami
Well my teeth are not so white , as to what i feel comfortable with. I have a very pretty smile but i feel sort of out of place when i do smile because my teeth are not what i want them to look like . Is there anyway i can make my teeth whiter with out going to the dentist , i heard something about baking soda , but i dont know how to use it with my brush. Help please.
If you don't want to spend any money on whitening strips (which don't work as well as advertised) or on special toothpaste then yes you can use baking soda as well.
Take a plate and put some baking soda on it. (about one to two teaspoon full)
Then take a few drops of water and add it to the baking soda.(you don't want to add too much, you want it to be like a thick paste, but not too little either)
Then you just use your finger and put a thick-ish layer on your top and bottom teeth. (Mind you that this won't taste so great, but after a few minutes you get use to it)
Leave it on for as long as you'd like. (you'll probably want to keep adding a little more to it every now and then, because you will end up swallowing a little bit of it)
It truly does help though. My teeth use to be pretty yellow, but i just did that every night for a few months, and every now and again and my teeth are incredibly white. Just don't expect incredibly noticeable results after the first time you use it.
If you want to use it as a toothpaste as well, just make the paste like i said before, and put it on your tooth brush.
-CalamitySami
so this guy who im practically in love with
fingered me for the first time a few weeks ago
and like it hurt but i thought it was cause he was using 2 fingers
but that night i realized that i could fit my whole finger inside me
did he pop my cherry?
i don't recall blood though
No, your cherry isn't popped. There would definitely be blood if it did pop. It only hurt because he was Stretching you.... If he keeps fingering you with two fingers it eventually won't hurt anymore.
-CalamitySami
My boyfriend and I are both 20 years old, have been together over 2 years and we were each other's firsts, and about 4 months ago I started on a birth control pill, Yasmin, because we both decided it would be safe for us, but even though I am on the pill, we still use condoms for extra security.
Over the 4 months I noticed a big change in personality, I cry a lot for no reason, get depressed for no reason. Go from being o.k. to really mad. I also have gotten a major rash all over my body, and some smaller ones. my skin has also become dry and itchy. sometimes my arm or leg feels like i have to stretch it, like it is tingly, and doesn't go away. I am tired no matter how much sleep I get, I am very irritable and anxious. I also seemed to have lost some interest in my bf all together, as well as sex.
I have a feeling it is from the pill, and I have heard of other girls having strokes, major blood clots, and mood problems from being on Yasmin and I am considering going off of it.
The thing is, is do I stay on this pill, and deal with these problems and other potential ones, or do I go off the pill, but worry about getting pregnant by just using a condom? I just don't feel like me when I am on these pills and I want to go back to my normal self. But I hate the stress of thinking something can go wrong while just using a condom. I really don't know what to do. He wants me to go off of them for the sake of my health, i'd like some opinions please!
Thank you!
Some Birth Control can be a real pain, because it seems like there's more negative affects than good ones. I'd suggest going off of Yasmin and talking to your doctor about getting a birth control thats has a smaller dosage.
The first birth control i took gave me major side effects, and i would literally have a break down everyday around the same time. When I talked to my doctor we figured that the birth control i was using was too high a dosage for my body.
If you are willing to deal with these side effects for the next 6 months or so, your body will get use to it and get back to how you normally felt before the birth control.
Otherwise.... I'd say go see your doctor and talk to him/her about other BC's that have less side effects.
-CalamitySami
I'm tired of changing clothes and getting "you look pregnant" comments. I gain so much when I'm bloated. How can I fix this? I was thinking of going on another birth control pill. Would that help?
Water does not help. I've been drinking *only* water for 2 years. so seriously, is there some secret out there?
Along with taking the Midol that has the diuretic in it, get one of those Spanx things to wear under your clothes.(You can get them at any store that sells lingerie or type Spanx into the Google search bar) it's pretty tight and kinda looks like bike shorts, but when you are wearing it under your clothes, no body will ever know that you are bloated. It works Magic for me, and makes me feel a lot better when i look in the mirror.
- CalamitySami