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Hey everyone. My name is Caleb, and I am a 16 year old male. I really enjoy helping others with problems they may be having. If you have a question about anything at all, just ask, and I'll give you the best advice I can. Thanks.

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Ok well theres this guy i work with and hes younger then me but really cute, and i kinda like him. Anyway he talks to me a lot but i find he talks to the other girls as well. I know its weird but i am the jealous type and i was wondering how i would determine if he likes me more then the other girls he talks to. So here are some things i can tell:

We've worked the same hours toghther almost for a week and everyday he finds some way to talk to me, either its to ask me something or joke around me, and every night before he leaves he tells me good night.

-He kinda makes fun of me jokingly about how i should bag faster and that he must faster then i am.

-He was collecting shopping carts all alone one night and he asked me to come and help him (just the 2 of us) i dunno if he meant it romantically though or if he just wanted help, lol

-i have caught him checking me out but how do i know he just isn't a "guy" and that he does this to everyone?

I guess i am unsure of his signals due to the fact thats he younger and i don't know how to determine his signs. So any help on this topic will be helpful. Thanks in advance. P.S I rate all 5's

Ok, I'm a 16 year old guy, and I'm dating a girl who's about to turn 18. So, I know how the younger guy older girl thing is. This guy sounds like he likes you. I mean if I like a girl then yeah, I'm nice to her, but I joke around with her too. It's just part of it. Being able to laugh about each other's qualities takes pressure off of the tension between you two. I think you should ask him what he's doing this weekend and see if he wants to do something with you. He's probable a little weary of the fact that your older and that you may not like a younger guy. You asking him out wouldn't be a bad thing if he says yes, which if he acts like you say he does, then he'll probable say yes. I think you should go for it. Well, I hope I helped. Peace out.

Burnie Mac

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I have known this girl since kindergarden right. Now we are in 8th grade and for some reason, this year i really seem to like her. I mean she is nice, funny, smart, and very beautiful. How can i not like her. But the problem is, i have trouble finding the courage to ask her out. I am good with girls in the sense of friendship, but when it comes to love life, im a mess. I am 14 and she is 13. i am 11 months older than her but i really dont see that as an issue. But i always get nervous when i tcomes to askig a girl out nd i did it once, she said ye, than rejeted me the next day. (that was a different girl). Is it normal to be that nervous? Oh and one more thing, what do you ask when you want to ask her out. I really am not good with "pick-up" line. Thanks

Ok, so here's the deal. I'm 16 and I've asked girls out before. The best thing to do is just talk to her. Get into a conversation. Don't hit on her too much, just talk about anything. Then when the moments right just say, "Hey, I was wondering if I could get your number and maybe we could talk a little more." Then if she gives it to you call her and just talk. Just ask what she's doing, how her day was, all that good stuff. Talk to her a few nights on the phone, and then if it's going well, ask her if she wants to go to the movies or something. It's normal to be nervous, but eventually that goes away with time. Go for it brother. Good luck.

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im 16 year old gurl and i think i might be bi-sexual because i went to this party last weekend and i made out with a gurl and she told that she likes me and now i kinda like her back too
but i still like guys of course.

Aight, well, I mean, I'm straight, so I don't really know about any bisexual feelings. I mean that just depends on what you feel I suppose; if you like her like that then do whatever blows your skirt up, whatever floats your boat, whatever blows your hair back, whatever toots your flute, well, you get the point. I say do what you feel like is the best, and only you can know that. I hope I helped you out at least a little. Peace out.

Burnie Mac

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I am 5'1" & I weigh around 139 to 143 lbs. I am not happy with this at all..I am a lil pudgy around the middle and want to loose this! I have tried and tried with the crunches everynight but that hasn't seem to help so now I am at a loss of what to do next! =[ One of my friends can loose 10 lbs in a week by just drinking water...maybe I can try this! If you have any suggestions then PLEASE let me know ASAP!!

I have lost a bunch of weight before, almost 60 pounds to be exact. The key is to watch what you eat and exercise. Crunches alone won't do it. All they do is help for toning your abs and strenghthening them. Running, swimming, and a little weight lifting is the best way to get rid of that extra "pudge". If you stick to a good exercise program and watch what you eat, then it will come off, and don't do crunches every night, that doesn't necessarily help a whole lot. Well, I hope I gave you some good ideas. Good luck to you. Peace out from Burnie Mac.

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I'm 14 and desperate to make a move on a girl. I've never even done so much as 2 make out. I'm kinda popular and have had about 6 or 7 girlfriends, all of which would have been willing 2 make out. But i j/ get so nervous when i know it is the right time to MAKE A MOVE!
Up until i started high school i have never been nervous abouit this situation. But now i feel like everyones passing me by. I'd reely love 2 hear from u! THX

Aight pimpin,

Making a move is difficult; no doubt. But, you know when the time is right; you can just feel it. Look into her eyes and then lean in. She'll send signals that will let you know she's willing.
Like if she touches you a lot or often and if she makes eye contact with a lot, most likely she'd be willing. As for being nervous, it takes that first time to get past that. Don't think about it so much, just go with it. I mean there is no formula for making out, it just happens, and it's great. This is something that you just can't sit there and worry about so much, because if you do, you have a higher chance of messing up. Just think to yourself, "You're man; You got this. This is nothing." Try not to picture her as being above you or better than you; just act on it when you know it's the right time. You'll get it done; I know you will, and then you'll be a pro. Well, good luck, dude.

Peace out from Burnie Mac.

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ok i dont know how to word this but i will give an example like today i got some headphones from around the house to see which would have the music come out the loudest from my ipod and like i took these pair of headphones from our family room and my dad started yelling at me saying im not supposed to leave the room with the head phones when i didnt and and so he was like i thought i told u to put them back when he never did so i yelled back at him so he came like running over to me and like almost broke my finger and he said if i did it again he would beat the $h!t out of me and a couple of times he has hit me and i dont know what i should do cause my mom never believes me when i tell her this and when he hits me it never leaves any bruises and he says if he goes to jail for beating me at least he would have found the enjoyment in it

I'm soo sorry that this is happening to you. The best thing to do is to tell your mom that you really need to talk to her about something in private. Then when it's just you and her, tell her what goes on. If she doesn't believe you and it continues or worsens, then the only thing left to do is get in touch with another adult (family member who you trust or teacher at school) and tell them. If it comes down to it and it's really bad, then the police may have to get involved. This is a touchy situation, and it happens to many, many kids everywhere. I'll pray for you, and if you're religious, I would suggest that you pray about it as well. I hope that this works out. I've been in an abusive home before, and I know that it's not cool; trust me. I've been in that environment. I am glad that you asked me about this, and I really would like for you to tell me how it works out if you want. Good luck and God Bless you. Much love from Burnie Mac (Caleb)

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13/F
My friends and I call making out hooking up. Well anyways, I've never done it. I wanted to know how to do it? I've been close to doing it but never done it. If I had braces and the other person had braces would we get stuck together? Tell me how to make out with a person...

It's not as hard as you think; after you do it once, it will come a lot easier; trust me. Really and truly you just go with the flow. Not a whole lot of skill involved, but don't think about it too much, because then you may put too much pressure on yourself and make the experience not be as fun as it should be. Well, I hope I helped you out. Peace out.

Burnie Mac

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I'm creating a project that requires that I glue tennis balls together. Has anyone does this and can you recommend the best glue that will hold them together?

Thanks

Never done it before, but Gorilla Glue works perty good with a lot of stuff, and it lasts.

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I'm relatively new here and I quite enjoy visiting this web site, but I can't get over the fact that at least half of these people could not form a coherent sentence with decent spelling to save their lives!

What can be done to help everyone realize that proper grammar and spelling is the key to communication, which, in turn, is the key to not stumbling around blindly in life? I really do fear for our generation sometimes.

It's just a web site. I mean people don't come on here to take English class; they come here to talk about their problems with others who are of their generation that may have at one time or another gone through the same problems as they are. So, if they want to type like that, then I don't see what the big deal is. It's not one of the major problems in today's world.

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I was just talking to my boyfriend about how he makes me feel; wonderful, amazing, incredible, and how I wanted to make him feel that way too. Well, I got something I totally didn't expect. He told me sometimes I make him feel unwanted. I never knew this. My heart is in my stomach. I'm getting chills every other second. What do I do? How can I make him feel more wanted?

I'm a dude, and I just want to say that the answers so far have been perfect. There is no way to show that you care about him other than what these people have said. I just thought I'd let you know that as a guy, I completely agree with what these girls had to say. Peace out.
Caleb

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I use the words: incredible, awesome, beautiful and amazing all the time. I was wondering if you knew any words that mean basically the same thing, but are different?

Yeah, I do. ~radical, marvelous, splendid, spectacular, grand, gorgeous, gnarly, etc.~
I hope I helped. Peace out.
Caleb

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ok i had this boyfriend for 6 months and i thought everything was going good. But after we did some stuff and my mom found out about it he broke up with me cuz he was scared. but he was my first love and i had never felt this way about a guy before. But now i think he likes another girl and i still love him. he told me we would probley go out agian but i am scared that he will hert me agian. what should i do with all of these emotions. everyone tells me i am to good for him but i always want him back. I really love him and hope he likes me agian. but what should i do???

please help! thnks

Honestly, if he's not giving you the time of day anymore, then I think that you should do your best to move on. Get out there and talk to other guys and take your mind off of him. Eventually you'll get over him, or he may get jealous and want you back, but if he did come back to you, I don't think you should take him back so easily. I mean apparently, and I don't want to be so blunt, he doesn't see you like you see him. Love doesn't work if it's only coming from one person; you need someone to love you back. I hope that I helped. Friendly advice from Caleb.

Burnie Mac

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Hey there.. I rate fives no matter the answer..

so yeah dont laugh but i am a slut. I know i am.. i sleep with anyone with a penis and now i'm pregnant for the 2nd time but im not going to have an abortion and i cant tell anyone becuase i live on my own on a street corner.. so yeah i dont have enough money for like a DNA test to see who the father is.. but i really want help or a place where i can go to help me and the new baby.. Babysafehaven isnt working for me. I've already tried.. thanks a bunch!

love,
worried mom

As the other answer said, if you can afford to get to a computer, then I am assuming that you have things that maybe you're just gonna have to cut back on. There are places to go for young mothers who can't take of their babies. As for you, I don't think I need to lecture you; I'm sure you know that what you're doing is wrong and that if you keep up you'll wind up with aids or some other form of std. I hope you wake up. God is the answer. Jesus is the way. Friendly advice from Caleb. (Concerned)

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my boyfriend's friend keeps hitting on me even tho he know im in a relationship with his close friend. the other day we were at this party and he pulled me up to this room and he raped me. he grabbed me and touched my body. im really scared and he hurt me. i feel strange. i couldnt do anything hes a football player and he held me down and i couldnt stop him. he shove something in my mouth so i couldnt scream. wut do i do?? i cant tell my boyfriend or he will kick the living shit out of him.the guy said if i tell anyone he will do it again. i know i can get some reasonable advice here.

HELP

Ok, this dude is one of the biggest perverts ever. You must go to your parents and then to the police. If you let this coward get away with this, then he will only think he can do it to others, and he will. I am soo sorry that this happened to you. You have to do something though to protect those who may be future victims of this loser. Please help yourself and others by getting this guy punished. Don't be afraid. I hope you do this. Friendly advice from Caleb.

Burnie Mac

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Last year i went out with a girl that i loved so much and she broke up with me for another kid. Lately i find myself liking people but then not liking them when they like me back. i feel permanantly scarred from this girl who did this to me but i dont know how to get myself back on my feet. Any of you have some advice for me?

I seem to have that problem too. I mean it's like when I like a girl and I see that she's interested in me maybe, I seem to lose interest in her. It's weird. I really don't know what you can do to help this out; sorry I don't have an answer; I just wanted to let you know that I too have that same problem. Well, if you find out something, let me know.

Caleb
(Burnie Mac)

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I love this guys and he loves me too. Hes so incredibly perfect for me and i want to be with him so bad. The only problem is he lives 2000 miles away! I dont really want to go out with anyone at home but i also dont want to be single for the rest of highschool..i dont think hed every get into a relationship with me because of the distance either. i dunno what i should do..and if i decide to have a bf how do i tell him?

Well, first of all, remember, you're in high school. You don't need to be so tied down to someone, especially someone 2,000 miles away. You should probably just date people that are closer to where you are, it's much more fun I'm sure. If you do decide to do that, then just tell him. Don't beat around the bush; tell him that you're gonna date other people that are closer to you. He'll understand I'm sure. He'd probably agree with you too. Anyways, it's up to you; I hope I helped. Friendly advice from Caleb.

Burnie Mac

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Hey guys, i like to read a lot, and i've read many famous books like To kill a mocking bird, Catcher in the Rye, Harry potter, and so on. Anyways does anyone know any really really good books, and authors for when i go to the library next time? And i dont want books that you have heard sound good, but actual books you guys have read and really enjoyed, like an "i never want to put it down" kinda book if that makes sense. Thanks luv ya!

Hey, it's good that you like to read a lot; you prolly be really smart when you grow up. Anyways, I do not read a lot, but I did read a book called The Transall Saga, and I loved it. That is a very good book with an awesome plot. It's an adventure story and it has a wee bit of science fiction in it. I hope I helped. Friendly advice from Caleb.

Burnie Mac

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I'm a hugeeeeeee tomboy. I always wear t-shirts and long shorts, my hair is always pulled back, and i dont wear makeup. I mean, im not fat, just bulky and muscular. I dont wanna change any of this. But i've never had a boyfriend, and maybe its cus i act too much like a guy. I really want a boyfriend, but i dont wanna change. What type of guy would i go good with? WHAT SHOOD I DO!!!

Well, I guess most guys are just a little apprehensive about going out with a girl who is a tomboy, but there is always someone who would love to. I mean if you don't want to change yourself, which you shouldn't, then don't. Just let what happens happen. That way when you do get a guy, he'll want you for you, and not someone that you're not. Be yourself and good things will happen. I hope I helped. Friendly advice from Caleb.

Burnie Mac

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well theres this guy & he tells me he loves me & flirts all tha time but i think he's caught up on my friend & my friends say he likes me but is scared 2 "settle" with me should i wait on him or just forget about it? plz help if u can.

Ok, if it's true this dude is scared to "settle" with you, then forget him. Do you want someone to be with and think of it as settling. I'm pretty sure when you say settle that you mean he's saying that you're not his top choice. If this is true, then you don't need to waste your time with someone who sees being with you as settling for second best. I hope that I understood your mentioning of the word "settle". I hope I helped. Friendly advice from Caleb.

Burnie Mac

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ok wel im trying to lose 40 pounds and most of it over the summer. i do 500 crunches in the morning and at night and i eat good and i swim alot. what should i do.?
ill rate high if its good.

Ok, I did this last summer, and I know a lot about fitness. I went from 210 pounds to 155 pounds. Ok, the crunches you're doing, will not help you to lose that much weight; you're doing too many believe it or not. You should never do 500 crunches in a single day; that doesn't help. Crunches are fine, but you need to only do that about four times a week, and only about 150 crunches tops. Too much ab work will actually make your abs show less if you overtrain them. What I found to be the best weightloss exercise to be is running. Running raises your metabolism unlike crunches, and it burns WAY more calories. Many people said eat small meals, and about six a day and that's how you should do it. Trust me, I've been there and done that, I know how you can lose the weight. Running is big. Swimming burns the most calories and is supposedly the best exercise; other types of cardio and aerobic activities help as well. Cut down on the crunches, start running, and eat right. These are the best tips that I can give you from personal experience. P.S. I hope the hand gets better. Friendly advice from Caleb.

Burnie Mac

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