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Q: okay so my old friends are stupid so im making a new clique or a new group of friends. but what is IT that people like about the LEADER of the clique?

when i talk about the LEADER of the clique i mean like the head person. the person everyone wants to be around. how do you become that person?

i need the most help i can get. please help meeeee. thanks in advance :)

My suggestion is not making a clique, but to be friends with everyone, its so much more fun because you have all these friends and you dont get into many fights. and if your are in a fight with someone you will always have another friend. i know thats not what you wanted to hear, but i think its a good idea becaue thats what i did and im much happier now.

hope i helped some

--natalie

Q: well usally theirs steps in a relationship and you usally tell your bf/gf that you want to go to the next step in a relationship as in my case french kiss or make out. but this person lives in another state. when they come to visit i'd like to take this step. so i was gonna tell them i wanted to make this step. but is that a good idea because i hardly ever see this person. i dont want to go to far and then not see them for a while and reck our relationship. any advice? thanks

call them and talk to them and ask them their opinion. I'm sure their on the same page as you. I know it may come off to you as emabrassing to ask them where they are but in the long run it will help!

-natalie

Q: i always feel terrible about myself i draw pictures that make me look huge and like i feel like im a waste, iv been hospitalized 3 times and i dont know what to do ;[

Don't put yourself down like that! You're a beautiful person. Go out and live life loud, if you don't you'll regret it. Live your life how you want to! Be happy. You're only a child for once! Dont waste it!

--Natalie

Q: Ok well me and my boyfriend have been together for 7 months on tuesday. I love him so much and he loves me. Me and him argue almost everyday on the phone. We argue everyday unless we see eachother. But sometimes when we see eachother and he goes home we will talk on aim and get into an arguement. they are silly arguements and don't last very long. I always get mad at him but he has probably only gotten mad at me once or twice in our 7 months. We are so close and have gone prety far so i dont know if that imformation was improtant. But we argue almost everyday. And me and him are on the phone right now and havent spoken for a good 20 minutes because of an arguement. We will get over it soon. He probably already has and im just not the one talking. Anyways im going to ask my question... Is it normal for a young couple such as our selfs to be argueing about stupid stuff everyday?

thats pretty abnormal. you shouldnt argue. dont waste your time with someone you cant be happy with. he might not care enough for you to stand a second or two to actually be happy with you. if i were in your position i would break up, but thats just me because i cant stand fights. he might be using you if you said had "gone far." and if you still stay together and go farther just imagine having his baby. he would leave you in a second because someone who argues so much is immature and cant handle a baby.

Q: i cant get comfortable with some people! like people make an effort to be my friend, but sometimes i dunno why.. maybe i just dont feel comfortable or something but its a little hard to be myself. im a nice person, who will always give a hand, and im really outgoing once you get to know me, and im comfortable around you. but i'd like to be more like.. lighthearted or whatever, so i can get into relationships faster.. because some people may get bored or something because of me being kinda shyish because im not really used to them being my friend. what do i do????????? i dun like dis.

I cannot give you the formula for success, but I can give you the formula for failure--which is:
Try to please everybody.

that is a quote, it has helped me because you dont have to impress everyone else. everyone loves a person who has there own personality and if you dont care what other people think your personality can shine through and more people will be around you.
hope i helped

--natalie

Q: I am going out with a guy named dustin and he is cool and all but he tells his friends he is going to kiss me and invite me to the movies and stuff and he hasnt yet. It has been 3 weeks and we havent hung out or anything. We dont really have much to talk about and he doesnt like hugging. I kinda like him still but then this other guy came along..josh. he is soo sweet and weird (like me) and HILARIOUS! he is really easy to talk to and we have "chemistry". What should i do? Should i break up with dustin? What is the best way to break up with guys?

thanks in advance!

i think you should break up with dustin. if hes not gonna make a move and you "like" him then you should move on to the guy who has a personality like you and you have chemistry with him, and thats a big focul point in love. the best way i would say is, i like this other guy, and its not really you that i dont like its just we havent moved in the relationship.
i would say that if i was you.

--natalie

Q: sometimes it seems they seem to favor the more popular, outgoing, and prettier kids more. I mean I know I'm pretty too, I have friends, and I'm outgoing when I'm in a good mood. and so are alot of other people, I'm sure. but like in my spanish class, my teacher always favors these two girls and always ignores me and my friend. it is so annoying. when she is picking people she usually also picks everyone else except for me and my friend. we sit like near the back, but the classroom isnt all that big, and she can still see us. and like i'd raise my hand and she'll look my way and pick one of those girls probably. like she always uses them (also some others.. basically she doesnt like us. even one of my friends said that) for examples and stuff. and in woodshop today.. it was our first day since its the new marking period and all the popular looking kids my guy teacher kept like talking to them and saying little thins and was like "i'll have to remember your names" and such. ugh.. i can already tell how this is gonna be. and last marking period my art teacher, like i was in this table where 2 girls kept making fun of this retard kid (the 2 girls the woodshop teacher kept refering too. there was another girl too) and whenever the art teacher would come by the retard kid will tell the girls to shut up and the art teacher will only get mad at the boy. it was so dumb.. and the girls will never misbehave with the art teacher right there. im kinda friends with one of these girls, so i didnt know whether to like just tell them off for being so dang annoying.. just leave the poor kid alone, because like everyone else picks on him like all the time too, but i dont feel its right.. for some reason, idk why but im not into "bullying people". and well.. yeah. what should i do? sometimes im annoyed by teacherly "favorites". or maybe im just jealous.. because i like being one of the favorites.. since im a pretty good kid i guess, and alot of teachers like me too for that. maybe im just jealous that others are getting attention while im not, since i like getting attention sometimes. but its just unacceptable in that spanish class.. ugh.

i see signs of jealousy but i know what your saying. like i think of teachers to not judge people and to indclude everyone. but really if you think about it teachers are just like us so they have favorites and what not and sometimes its not fair, i would see a councelor or something to talk about it because what im hearing is really not fair, and unteacher like.
hope i helped some.

--natalie

Q: how do you know when a guy likes you?
when you like him back, and you're not
in a relationship.. just acquantences I guess
and your not sure..

when your a 7th grade girl in middle school..

sometimes you can see it, if there either looking at you, act kind of shy around you, or actually come up to you and joke around and stuff. you could always ask one of his friends, or if your REALLY not shy ask him. but i wouldnt even do that. you could meet him and most of the times its pretty obvious. hope who you like likes you back.

--natalie

Q: does anyone predict lily allen music will be big here soon? i love her songs like woooah, and hope it will be.

NO WAY!! I LOVE HER TOOO!! !AHHHH hahahhaahaha god i love you. bahh so youve already gotten her single of the week? smile ( i love that song) but im sad to say i dont. i wish i did. so i could get ready for it. but i see any updates ill make sure to edit this answer!!!

--natalie

Q: I need advice on this guy that I like... The problem is that my other friends all like him and he basically flirts with every girl he meets. So what should I do? Forget about him? Still like him? Or ask him out? Or.. something else...?

I say go for it! If he likes you too then maybe he will cut down on the flirting and focus in you!

--Natalie

Q: my boyfriend and i were together for 6 months and i liked him for a year(it took us a while to go actually become a couple) well, i broke up with him a month ago because we fought too muchand when we first broke up i thought i should go out and have fun and flirt so i kissed two other guys and when i did i kept thinking about him and how much better of a kisser he was, how much nicer he was, etc..and ever since then its been off and on missing him insanely..to not wanting to talk to him(thats only when he wants to talk about stuff about him missing me and stuff though)to feeling like i absolutely love him..weve hung out since we broke up and on impulse i ran up and hugged and kissed him and felt SO HAPPY and i still find myself wanting to be with him..and other guys just dont seem to compare to him and i still always wanna call him when im sad and need someone..but sometimes i dont even think about him much and after the breakup i wasnt even that devastated..just felt empty..is this love or something im mistaking for love? im sorry its long haha i go into detail too much i gotta fix that i suppose

No problem. the long ones are the best. i would totally say its love. and you should so talk to him and see how he feels too. I really hope it works out for you two!!!

--natalie

Q: does anyone know any good songs that basically say "i wonder if you ever think about me?" or something like that?

Corinne bailey rae-enchantment. its pretty much all about the guy and saying how she enchanted by him, she also has some other ones that are good.
hope i helped.

--natalie

im sorry and corinne bailey rae's song LIKE A STAR. even better. =]]

Q: Okay. so i wash my hair at night. i wake up, straighten it, and put this thermasilk leave in straightenin cream. but lately my hair has been just so flat and peicey? are there any products i can put in my hair before i blowdry or before i straighten, or even after i straighten?
i think if i put anything in before i blowdry then i just sleep on it, and when i wake up, it doesnt help any.

so pleasseee just give me a routine that i could follow!

thanks!

try sunsilk antiflat. it works like a charm, heres the website for it- http://www.helenecurtis.com/products/

heres some tips!!
1-always keep oily hands out of hair, this will just weigh it down and flatten it all over again.

2-Bring on the teasing action. Begin an inch or two behind the hairline, take your hair in small sections and start teasing. Be sure to do this with a downward motion and count out strokes for each section (three per section usually does the trick.)

3-With all that teasing your hair might look like Bride of Frankenstein. But that's okay, it should! Just lightly brush your hair to your desired shape. Voila! Non-stop body.

Hope i helped!!

--natalie

Q: My friend has a cut on her face. I asked her how she got it, but she refused to tell me. I asked her a few more times after that but gave up because she said she couldn't say.

What I am scared is that she's cutting herself, or that her parents are abusive. I can't think of anything other than that, that would be so bad you wouldn't want to tell anyone (or be allowed to). I first thought it was her cat that scratched her but I think she would have told me.

OR.. maybe its really nothing bad and she's just looking for attention. But aside from all of that--what should I do? I am really worried about her and wish I knew why and how she got the cut. (Its a scrape, on her face)

You could either ask her and if she does tell you MAKE SURE TO TELL SOMEONE. if she is suicidal you NEED to tell someone because if you dont your friend could actually do it and she would be gone forever. she might be seeking for attention if that the case tell her that its a serious deal, and you shouldnt be worrying me by just trying to get attention. thats what i would do. but if she doesnt tell you then thats her problem, because you cant make her tell you.
i hope i helped

--natalie.

Q: hey i just asked a question about kissing guys necks. but i forgot to add something.

how can i let him know that i want him to kiss mine too? without actually saying it. ive kissed his neck many times and hes kissed mine once but for like 2 seconds. and i wanna get the same treatment! haha

thanks

You could always intensify the kiss to turn him no to do the same or whisper in his ear sexily my turn. so you could do that. or actually like tell him, but that would kind of be wierd. i hope i helped.

--natalie

Q: is it possible to make out w/ out french kissing?

yeah definitley!http://links2love.com/teens_kissing.htm
theres a site that has some tips!
i hope i helped

--natalie

Q: i have this kitten, she's about 6 or 7months old, i've had her since she was born because she is the kitten of one of my other cats. anyway she's always had good health but recently she's been throwing up all her food. this happened two days ago and again tonight. she also has diarhea, gross i know. i recently switched food but we always switch the food so i dont know if thats the problem. the other cats are fine with the food. but i was wondering if there was anything i could give my kitten to settle her stomach??

my cat had the same problem, we took her to the vet and the vet prescribed something to her and she was better in no time. so i would just take the cat to the vet! i hope i helped

--natalie

Q: Do they sell PSP's in stores? and can you go online on a PSP for free?

they do sell PSP's in stores, and yes you can if you have the right equipment.

Q: 15/f
How many grams of protein should I be getting a day. I swim for about 2 1/2 hours 6days a week. I'm 5'10" and 160 lbs. I don't know if that affects it or not but w/e. haha. Thanks.

um.. you should just take come vitamins a day, i dont know for sure how many grams of protien, but have a steak or something. im sorry this advice is kinda crappy.. SORRY!! =]]
i hoped i helped a little.

--natalie.

Q: i cant take it anymore.

its okay you can get through this. whatever it is. dont kill yourself. someone out there loves you and needs you. just remember all the people that are you friends, family, teachers, that need you.

bio

hi. my name is natalie, im 17 and im really good advice giver, all my friends say so. I've been through a lot so i can probably relate to you. Ask me anything, i wont judge or laugh just be honest.

I cannot give you the formula for success, but I can give you the formula for failure--which is:
Try to please everybody.

really just express yourself and dont care about what others think, its a waste of time and they're opinion is not as important as yours.

i truly hope i can help.

_natalie_