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next step in a relationship
well usally theirs steps in a relationship and you usally tell your bf/gf that you want to go to the next step in a relationship as in my case french kiss or make out. but this person lives in another state. when they come to visit i'd like to take this step. so i was gonna tell them i wanted to make this step. but is that a good idea because i hardly ever see this person. i dont want to go to far and then not see them for a while and reck our relationship. any advice? thanks
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Well wow I was reading this question and it sounds familiar it kinda sounds like my girlfriend she asked me that question. Well kinda it was on a quiz she sent me and I answered it and then we were talking about it. But anyway it is a good idea to tell them because it would make your relationship a lot stronger then it is. You said that your bf/gf lives in a different state thats really cool that you can do that just like my girlfriend. Ironic! Well I think you are one of those people that really stick to a relationship thats really cool to see a person that is willing to do that and I'm sure he/she really appreciates that. Sorry its so late I did read it on the 30th but time got away from me and I had to work really hard in school. So yea I hope its not to late for this answer but I hope you have a great time at whatever you want to do either if it frenckissing or just making out with each other. Wow this is really ironic lol!!!
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What you do can not wreck a relationship. What wrecks relationships are feelings. Talk to your significant other and see how they feel about the idea. Then all of your doubts and all of their doubts will be out in the open. You'll be able to make a decision knowing all of the risks ahead of time. It might be a little awkward to bring something like that up, but once the conversation gets going, you'll be really glad that you started it.
I think that if your talk goes well that you should go through with it. Being in a long distance relationship with someone is hard. There's usually a great emotional connection, but the physical connection is very lacking. You can't even hold hands or sit together on the couch if you want to. When you finally get together with that person it's make-out city. You spent so much time on the emotional part of your relationship that all you want at that moment is to be able to connect with that person physically. All these feelings can be very stressful and you are right. Once you get your first taste of being physical with him, it will make you want it even more and put more stress on the relationship when you are separate again.
I think that this kind of stress might be good. If your relationship can't stand mild stress from not being able to express yourselves to each other physically, it isn't a very strong relationship and should probably end before it gets too serious. Making out isn't serious, relatively speaking. It won't cause as many problems as you think. Right now, your nerves are getting in the way of your judgement. Try to keep a level head, but know also that it's definitely okay to be nervous. Good luck. :)
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Okay. If you really like someone, I think it's good to take risks. The next time you talk to them, although it's going to be awkward at first, ask them if they're ready to take it to the next level. Think of it. What if they say "Sure! I've been thinking the same thing, but I was too nervous to ask you!". Think of how happy you'll be. If you really like this person, take a chance! Go for it! Good luck!
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call them and talk to them and ask them their opinion. I'm sure their on the same page as you. I know it may come off to you as emabrassing to ask them where they are but in the long run it will help!
-natalie
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