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Hello. The name is Sarah. I am 16 and home schooled at the moment. I am expected to graduate class of 2005. I am in love with the Fiance, Brandon. He and our relationship mean the world to me and more. We are getting married June of 2006. You can send me questions and I will be sure to answer back.
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I forgive you and accept your love and your sorry. You are my love, my air,my smiles,my worries,my happieness, my world,my lover, and my best friend. And I love you. Can you take my hand and love me for the rest of my life and keep me as yours and hold me when im sad and bring me up when I am down?
Yours,
Brandon-Fiance
Dear Love,
I already have and I will for the rest of my life. I am so much in love with you and I hope that you can someday forgive all of the wrong that I have said and done. I am so sorry. I love you with all of my heart. Good luck, to us.
♥Sarah
when you delete the questions you asked out of "your questions", is there a delete box that shows the questions you deleted? If so, where?
Dear Oops,
That was a good question because I could not find a way to get back to deleted questions, sorry. I am assuming that once you delete a question, it is gone. For future references, I recommend making a copy of the questions you ask. Just in case. Good luck.
♥Sarah and Brandon
My ex boyfriend and I had been together for about two years, and now that we've broken up, he doesn't want to see me at all. (-there wasn't a fight, it was more of a 'this isn't working out, I don't feel that way about you' type of deal.) He's returned my things through a friend of ours, who gave them to me.
Well, I'm still kind of upset about the whole thing, and we were going to talk a little after we'd had some time apart. I still have some things of his, and was wondering if I should A. give then to our mutual friend, B. drop them off at his house/in person, or C. wait a week or two and then give them to him myself.
All of our friends are shared, so it seems that there will come a time when we'll be forced to see each other. I wouldn't cause a scene or push him to feel bad about our breakup if I did see him, but he seems to want to avoid me at all costs right now. When he'd broken up with me, we didn't talk at all, and it seems this still has to happen (not to get back together, but to clear my mind and his a little between us.)
What should I do? Should I wait it out?
Dear Return to sender,
You seem to still be upset over the breakup. Breaking up is sometimes so hard to do and I understand where you are coming from. To me it seems to be obvious that your still not sure what happened between the two of you. You feel that you are stuck in a position where you do not know what to do and it is so hard for you to move on and I feel your pain. Relationships are so hard. Love is so hard. I am thinking that you should face this before it really starts to upset you. Having some of his things still with you holds on to the hurt and the pain that came from the past and giving his things back might kill his ghost that lingers on within you. You need to confront him about all of this. You need to tell him how you feel about what happened between the two of you and how it is affecting you now. Give him back his things as soon as possible. Who cares if he does not want to see you. This is your life and you cannot put it on hold because of how someone else feels. Give him his things and do not look back. You will be just fine, promise. Good luck.
♥Sarah and Brandon
Okay me and my x b/f went out for like 3 months.. and even thou that doesn't seem like that long it really was.. we really had something.. but i feel like i screwed it all up bc towards tha end i wasnt really acting like his gf and stuff.. but now its been like 2 months and i still like him sooo much.. and i wanna know how he feels but i dont wanna ruin our friendship that we have by mentioning something so what do i do?? and i know that if we went out again then i would change everything.. but plz HELP!
Dear Changed,
Are you sure that you would change everything that you did from before? Yes? I have heard of so many people having something to say but not saying it because their afraid of the outcome. You never know. Do you want this relationship? Then go for it. You live once, right? People change and I am sure that if the both of you were meant to be then you will both accept each other for the way that you both are. Am I right? Good luck.
♥Sarah and Brandon
Sarah, what the hell is this and why havent you told me about this and why are you hiding it from me? You are lieing again to my face, you are making me get really upset and making me not sleep, i have been crying for a long time and i have been throwing up. So tell me wonder woman....What the fuck is going on? I thought you were looking at Ambercombie...LIE, Wheres my email?.... LIE. Keep them coming cause you are really messing up sweetie. Im getting really tired of the bullshit lies.
Dear Confused,
You and our relationship mean the world to me and more. You are such an amazing person inside and out. I apologize for all the wrong that I have done. I have been so dishonest and you do not deserve it. You are such an amazing person and deserve all the best things in this world. I hope that I can make it up to you. I am so sorry. I love you, Baby.
♥Sarah
Please Note: To the people looking for advice. This question is from Brandon, Fiance. Please do not comment on this because it goes past what you can see. Thanks.
I am only 15 and I already have a kid and pretty much my life is ruined.I hate bein a mom at 15 it really sucks.The father of my child is wonderful though.He helps and supports my child as much as he can although both of our lives are pretty much over.I can't stand gettin up every 2 hours to feed her.I really regret getting in bed with the father.It was the stupidest thing ive ever done.I now hate my life.I have a beautiful baby but a messed up life.I ruined my life to fast.I should have waited till I was older and well now I just don't know what to do.I love my baby very much but im just not so sure that i can handle raising a child along with going to school and working to pay for the expences of my child....Plz someone help me.I really need to know what to do.I don't wanna give it to an adoption center but that might be my only choice.I really need some advice so someone plz help.
Desperate for my life back and confused!!
Dear Mama,
Having a child is a blessing and you should be ashamed of yourself for all that you have said. What is happening right now is nobody elses fault but your own and now you have to suffer the consequences. I apologize for being rude; but I am appalled. I am 16, almost 17, and I would love to have a baby. You need to suck it up and be a better Mother to this child because this is the rest of your life. Good luck.
♥Sarah
I have been with my boyfriend for three years n still havent got pregant n it is really scaring me because I want a baby now.What shounld I do.
Dear Wanting-baby,
Please go to your gynecologist immediately. There might be more to it then you think. Good luck and God bless you.
♥Sarah
Is there a way to find out who has listed you as a favorite columnist? Thanks
Dear Lost,
You can go onto "Search Columnists" and it should say whether you are listed as a favorite columnist or not. Good luck.
♥Sarah
ok i love my boyfriend and everything but whenever well be on the phone and hell have to eat or something,..hell say ill call you back in like 20 minutes...and hell be like i love you so much ill talk to you in 20mins babe i love you...but then hell acll me back in like TWO HOURS!! i talked to hmi about it earlier tonite and hes like well stuff comes up i either have to leave w/ my parents or have to do chores or something and then hes doing it again right now!!....hes not getting the hint!!! what can i do??
Dear Boyfriend-trouble,
Why aren't you making the initiative and calling him yourself? Good luck.
♥Sarah
ok, well....for the basics..I have had sex with 2 different people in my entire life (and to make things worse, they tell people i did it with them like a WHOLE BUNCH!!!) , and now all of this persons friends call me a slut and say im sloppy seconds (because, i am now dating ther friend.)And, Im going to have to go to school with all these people next year...sooo, basically what im asking is how do i get these people to stop calling me names? I rate HIGH!!! please HELP!
Dear I am not a slut,
You cannot change what these people are saying about you. You can ignore and understand the truth behind the rumors and just get over it. Please note that sex is not a bad thing and that you should not put yourself down for having had sex with two different people. Wow, we are in the same category, sister. What you should do is learn from the choices you have made in boys. It is obvious that the two boys that you had sex with had to go and tell all of there little friends about what they accomplished. Here is a clue: find a person that is true to himself enough not to tell anyone about his sexual life and if he does once in a while, ok, he is male; but not lie about it. These people are immature and will get what is coming to them in the long run. Move on to bigger and better things, girl. Good luck.
♥Sarah
yesterday i was watching tv and i changed tha chanel and it was porn!! i didnt even bother to change it and i wanted to watch it and im 15/f is that normal?!?! i got really horny and i wanted to call my bf to come over! whats wrong with me?!?!
Dear Porn-fan,
Congradulations, you are a human being. We all slip sometimes and watch some porn. We are humans and we are curious. That is so normal. Good luck.
♥Sarah
Alright me and my ex are really close and we talk about having sex alot...I mean all the time..I feel ready and I think Im ready...I'm only 14...He is 15...I have never hasd sex before and I'm not sure if I should wait or what I should do??? I mean he doesnt push me into anything and never has and never will... Will someone give me some advice on what to do???
Dear Sex w/ an Ex,
Please do not have sex with him. I do not like to preach; but do not make this mistake. Please understand how serious sex is. Sweetheart, if you were ready you would not have wanted our opinions. Step back for a second and look over the possibilities. You can get pregnant or receive an STD. Could you imagine him being the father of your babies? Do you love him? I am not into the whole abstinence preach. If you want to have sex, you are going to have sex. Just wait until you find the right person. When you are a virgin, you believe that sex is going to be wonderful the first time. You think that there is so much pleasure involved and everything is going to be alright. No. If you do not have a special relationship with this person, you will get nothing out of this and when you do find that special someone, then what are you going to do? Please wait until you are sure this is right. Never feel pressured to have sex. Sex is meant to be special, not wasted. Good luck and use protection, if that is the decision that you make.
♥Sarah
(How many times has THIS question been asked?) Okay, my stepmother hates me, or rather, she hates my mother and takes it out on me. Everything I do is wrong to her. Once, my cousin and I were fighting over a pillow, and she tells me to stop pulling on the pillow or I'll rip it, and my cousin didn't get in trouble, even though he hit me several times. She insults my choice of clothing/music/accessories. She once told me my mother cheated on my father, and I know that isn't true. She used to go into my room and go through my stuff. It drives me insane. Does anyone have any advice?
Dear Wicked Stepmother,
I am going to give it to you plain and simple. You need to go to your step mom and talk to her about the problem. You need to voice out everything that you told us. Tell her that it hurts your feelings when she talks about your Mother. That is your Mother and no matter who it might be, you do not want to hear someone talking badly about her. That is so disrespectful. Also bring up the fact on how she insults your taste in style. What you wear and how you advertise yourself is expressing who you are on the inside. That is why when someone makes fun of what we look like we get so upset. Just talk to her like a normal human being and not like she is your step Mom. Keep in mind that by being calm and discussing with her your problems, you are being the adult. If she does not hear you out, go to your Dad. Your Dad loves you and he should be able to help the problem. You also have to respect that your Dad loves this person too, and you should not talk badly about her. Just confront the problem in any way that you can and all should go well. Good luck.
♥Sarah
Hey...I don't really think you can help much with this, but I'm curious to see what you think of it all. This is probably gonna be long. Sorry.
Okay. My boyfriend and I are really close in every way. We love each other completely, and we're technically engaged. The only thing is...he'd told me he was staying here for college, but then he went on a trip with his family to see the rest of their family this break, and all of a sudden decided he wants to go there for college. That would be a four year separation, maybe more, and I don't know how to handle it. He went away this summer for 2 months and it, like, killed me. I can't imagine not seeing him for a year. We're not going to break up or anything, and I'm not going to try to make him stay (though I'd like to) because he'd resent me, I'm sure, if I did. I don't want to make him stay here for me, but he's planning to go to tech school. Can't he just stay here? I would go with him, but there are absolutely no good vocal programs where he's planning to go, and I already got accepted into a college here that does. (I'm doing vocal performance as my major).
Anyway...I don't know what to do. I almost don't want to talk to him about it because I'll end up crying and making him feel bad, then feeling bad about making him feel bad. Lol. Plus, I hate for him to see me cry.
So...anything to say?
Dear College-Relationship Dilemma,
You seem to care a lot about this relationship. You are going at extra lengths to get others opinions on the choices that are being made here. It is obvious in black and white that you are stuck and you have no idea what to do, because if you did you would not be here in the first place. If this relationship is so important to you and your fiance, you both will find a way to make it work. He is your fiance, right? You both are lacking on your communication skills. This move will change the rest of both of your lives. Grab your fiance and sit him down for a little one on one talk about everything. Do not leave anything out. You might risk your relationship on it. Long distance relationships are so hard and I don not like seeing people go through them; but if it is true love then the distance will never matter. Good luck.
♥Sarah
Okay,everyone at school always calls me a slut and a hoe and a whore and i never even did anything! They won't stop and it's really getting on my nerves. I don't think I am, but when you hear it all day from all of your friends you start to believe it and that's kind of what's happening! But i don't know what to do! Please help! i rate
Dear Non-slut,
You have nothing to be worried about. These people that you are calling friends are not your friends. If people that should care about you are letting you down, then you do not need to depend on them. You know just who you are and that is all that matters. Besides, if you did not know who you were, why would you be here in the first place? You need to dump your friends and remember that a true friend is someone who has your back. Remember who you are because that is what will get you places someday. Good luck.
♥Sarah
My friend and i had a fight last summer. And then when school started she acted as if the fight never happened. Shes all like" Hey Buddy!!"
I dont belive she just be mad then be all nice.
She then made most of my friends turn against me. I'm not her friend anymore but she insists on being friends. How can i get her to leave me alone?
Dear Quite-Puzzled,
Your friend should have not forgotten about the argument, just like that. I am sure that she still remembers what happened; but is just getting over it because she realizes that holding a grudge is immature and wants to be your friend. I would recommend confronting her on these issues and discussing what you can make of the situation. You do not have to be her friend and if that is what you chose then that is your decision. Good luck.
♥Sarah