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xO-sara
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Hi, I'm 13 years old, and i recently started cutting. Don't think " I'm a physco Freak " or whatever you want to call me. My Friend introduced me into it. She said it really helps. so one day i was really angry, i was crying and all, and i cut all up and down on my arm/wrist. To me, i felt better, but just the next day it hurted. From then on, i have been cutting myself all the time when i am mad. the last time i did was actually last night. I use " Scissors , Razors , Saftey Pin , or any sharp objects round the house " . my mom saw my arm by acident, and i told her i fell on a side walk. well my friends are so worried about me. they think im ganna end up killing myself, because i almost did. i really do hate my life even if i have friends and a boyfriend. i JUST hate it, and i think sometimes i was just a mistake, that i ruin other people lives. well i dont know, if i should continue, and and my friends upset, or not, and stay here. I DONT KNOW?! its just really hard to stop though, cuz im so addicted to it. EHH` . what should i do ? thanks . if you wanna i.m. me on AIM ; BlinkBabex33 .. or you can email me ; BlinkBabex33@comcast.net (link)
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well-- I know the situation you're in. actually I sort of know first hand. when it first starts. you think of it as nothing and just feel like it helps. and honestly I think it does, but then it becomes like an addiction. you need to do it to feel good or satisfied. it becomes a regular thing . but at that point you need help. whether it's just from a friend a parent or professional help. I was lucky I got help and support from friends. I'm not saying that I've completely stopped. I still get occasional urges.. & I know at first my friends hated me doing it. they even deserted me. but they started to understand and even accept it. or at least deal with it. and now they just love and support me. & this whole lying to your mom and making excuses.. she knows the truth. she's denying it to herself . but just don't tell a teacher or counselor if you don't want your parents to know. they will tell them. they have to. so I don't know. just don't kill yourself what ever you do. you weren't a mistake you were a blessing and god put you on earth for a reason. and I know it wasn't to cut up your body and kill itself. I'm going to tell you something my friend told me "hurting yourself is never the answer. it may help at the time. but in the long run your hurting yourself in so many more ways then you know. and every time your cutting yourself. its not just your arm your cutting. your cutting so many other people. and your not cutting their arm. your cutting their heart. your cuts will heal and you will have scars. but hearts are so much more fragile and do not heal as easily" I hope I helped IM me if you ever need to. just know it may help for your parents to know. they could get you some one to talk to. just to let everything out. or if your like me. they will make your life a living hell. I guess it just depends
xO-sara
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this is not good at all. one of my best friends (lets call her Sarah but thats not her real name) i think is a compulsive liar. she lies about everything...or so we suspect. her cousin told me that a disease like that runs in her family. but she lies about everything. here are some of the things:
-she told me she got raped and went to court for it. one time she told me she went to court at 8:00p.m but court isnt open that late
-she told me she has a boyfriend but nobodys ever talked to him except on AIM (and she has 2 computers so it might just be her) and yeah, she gave us a picture of him but its weird because i found the exact smae picture on BuddyPic and the names didnt match up
-when i talk to her on AIM she always says i feel so sick im gonna go make myself throw up im anorexic
-she told me she had a signature of somebody famous that i really like and she said i could have it. then next day she came in with it and it looked NOTHING like the real signature and it looked like her handwriting
there are more things but im just too stressed out. i DO NOT want to talk to her about it because one of my other friends confronted her about the lying and she almost commited suicide. she's really scaring me. she lied about getting RAPED...or so we THINK cause its not 100% sure. i tried to talk to my best friend about all this cause he knows whats going on with Sarah, but he told me that he belives her about all this because nobody else will. its freaking me out...a lot. i love her so much and i dont want to lose her. but i cant believe anything she says! and im afraid that if one day something bad really does happen, im not gonna beleive her. what should i do? PLEASE HELP! i have more info if you need it...just ask for my email. (link)
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maybe you should pay more attention to her. not to her lies but to her as a person you know? maybe she reely is struggling with something and she`s making a bunch of lies up to cover it. or maybe she doesn`t feel like she fits in so she`s trying to get attention or trying to fit in with certain people. or maybe shes trying to make people feel sorry for her.. dont just blow it off tho. your friend "sarah" may have something seriosuly bugging her and you should find out before u go on making any assumptions
xO-sara
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Okay. I used to go to private skool 2 years ago. Me and this guy really liked eachother and we went to the skool dance together. I now go to public skool and I like this guy. The guy from private skool sent me an email today saying that he truly likes me. But
I think the guy from the public skool likes me too. Which one should I choose?
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well you like them both so it is a difficult decision. i can`t tell you who to like. but if you think about it 1) you wont see the private school guy as often cause you go to different schools. 2) your not positive the public school guy likes you. so the decision is up to you. but if you find out the guy from public school reely does like u. go for it ! :)
xO-sara
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ok i have this friend. I have wrote one just like this but this girl lives in the same town as me. And all what she does is Drink and got Stoned. 24/7 that is all. And see i am really worried about her cause she when she get a drink in her hand so won't stop till it is all gone. She will even clean the house clean just to got a some. And she always says why do you care. Or just drop it. I try but i cna't cause i care about her to much. if there is tha can help me. Just wirte back. Michy (link)
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just try to explain to her that you are her friend and really care about her and that your worried.. thats about all you can do and if she wants to quit she will. but it`s not something you can force. if you want maybe you can try to "destract" her from it by spending time with her at a place that wouldn`t promote drinking or getting high
xO
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Ok, heres my story, im always getting yelled at, my brother and sister are always being obnoxious and screaming, my friends and my boyfriend are makin me choose who to be friends with, my mom wont get off my damn case about everything, especially school work, and im really stressed. Idk what 2 do.. im really sick of life. Is there anything I can do to be happy and be more independant at my house?? I dread weekends cuz i hate bing home nad im only 13 (link)
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i`m going through the same thing! i`m always dreading weekends and by the end of the day i`m just reely sad cause i kno i need to go home soon. the only thing i can tell you is to try to spend some time at a friends house.. just get away for a little bit you know?
xO
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hay i am 14 and single and i am a female. oneday i was walking in the hallways and this guy tapped by shoulders and was just like "hi" and i said hi and i just went along with my business. a few days later i was walking in the hallways and he said hi to me but i never replied because i never knew who he was talkin to. 2 mins later i passed back that same way with my friend and he was there with this guy i knew. and the guy who was he was with knows me and he was like hi sarah and i was like hi and then the guy was like "now i know your namme" and i smiled and walked to my business. the same day at my lunch the guy was behind me and he was like hi naiome and i said hi and dat was that. the next day i was going to my locker and he was going somewhere and he was like hi sarah and i said hi and i asked him why do u always say hi to me and he was like i think you are pretty and i smiled and then he said you are too young for me the sanme time his friend came along and asked who i was? and i didnt hear what the guy told him.and then i was like ok bye i got to go. then after i left he was still talkin with his frend and i heard them talkin and i think his friend was asking about me ... i didnt hear and his friend watched back and began smiling with me and i smiled back and then i went away to by business.does he like me ? does he want to go out with me? (link)
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yes he likes you! well yes.. i think you should talk to him more and get to kno him better
xO
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Hey! Does anybody know any sad/slow songs? My best friends birthday is next week and she wants a slow/sad mix! please help! thanks! (link)
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Broken--amy lee and seether
arms of the angels--sarah mclaughlan
your song-- ewen mcgreggor
lovely-- michelle tumes
concrete angel --martina mc bride
south side--lloyd ft ashanti
daughters --john mayer
heaven/heaven 911-- dj sammy
ooh yes and the ever so famous my heart will go on (titanic) --celine dion
xO
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My boyfriend live 1500 miles away. Weve been together what seems like forever, but its 8 months. We're so in love, even though its been a short time we really know each other and im close with his family. But everyone is like hes cheating on you. Hes a guy... I know hes a guy but im not stupid he did do stuff before me but not much and hes not like that. Hes so against cheating and would NEVER do that. But how do I get these people off my back? Even his losker room buddies say it. And I know they wouldnt know much bc he didnt really talk to them much. He never lied to me and I could easily find out. i know where he is at all times. Hes not cheating on me. How can I convince other people? (link)
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if your positive that he isnt just ignore what they say! who really cares whats they think? you kno him better then any of them do so how would they kno?
xO
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i used to love having sex with my boyfriend, but lately it's gotten boring. we're both in our twenties. any ways to liven it up, or toys or positions to do? Thnx! ill rate for good answers! (link)
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just suck a dick and do it good!!! experiment with things normal people dont do. ha
xo
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everyone in my class says this guy and i should go out! my friend talked to him and he said he liked me! i told him i liked him and now i'm waiting for him to make a move! what now? (link)
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relax babe. he likes you and you like him!! just chill back and wait for him to make a move. if hes shy or ur impatient, do it yourself.. or just hint at it
xo-sara
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ok, there's this guy that i really like, and after a long while (like two months) i finally got the courage to say somethign to him, but it turns out, he never even noticed me, and he thinks my best friend is like, the hottest thing alive. him and his g.f just broke up about a week ago, and he says that they are talking about getting back together. i see him every day at school and now it's just awkward. my friend doesn't even like im, but he keeps talking to her and not me. to be quite honest, that's the second time that's happened to me with her this school year. she seems to get all teh attention because she has a large bust. i'm not mad at her, because it's nto her fault, but i really just don't know what to do, i can't even get a second glance from practically any guy when im with her, and im almost always with her. erg...what should i do?? should i try to talk to him again, or should i just back off and accept the fact that im never gonna get attention when im with her...? this is sooo freakin depressing, i don't think i've spoken a word in almost two days... (link)
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i kno how your feeling. all my friends are freaking gorgeous and im average.. well maybe not even that. and guys always come up and talk to my friends and not me. as difficult as it may seem, you should try to stop liking this guy. i mean you dont want a guy who is just after looks. wait for a guy who will make you feel special. who will hold u in his arms and boost yur self esteem. its hard. but worth it. if you cant do that and insist on this guy, hang out with her when she talks to him. and talk to him when the chance comes up. with out being annoying u kno?
xo-sara
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is it true that after 16 a girl stops growing?? if this is not true then what age it is? (link)
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well my doctor told me that you stop growing 2 and a half years after you start your period and that seems about right.. but if it is then the age will definately vary. im 14 now. 2 and a half years after my period and i have stopped growing. so i dont kno if it is a certain age all girls stop growing. i think the sooner you begin to mature. the sooner you will stop. it makes sense
xo-sara
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I recently got dumped by my girlfriend. Surprisingly, I really didn't care. But anyways, my ex-girlfriend has a friend that's really pretty, smart, and funny. I guess I sort of like her, but I'm not sure. She's always been funny torwards me, always hitting me. My friend says she flirts with me a lot but I'm not sure. Any ideas?
Thank you a lot.
Signed,
Retard with a crush (link)
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okay well first i am extremely dissapointed in you because you didnt care when your ex girlfriend dumped you. but does she kno that u may like her friend. and that brings up my next point. you need to decide if you like this girl or not because you said you werent sure. once you find out if you like her, talk to her, see how she feels. she might like you, but as your friends say "she flirts with u a lot" it may just be that she has a reely flirty outgoing personality
good luck
xo-sara
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There is this guy at my school Rick who asked me out 2 years ago (and told me he loved me), and i rejected him. But now, I think I am in love with him. I have been in love with Rick from the moment I rejected him, and I don't know what to do about it. And if I go up to him and be like "Hey I love you" then that will just be really akward and he'll be like wtf? I talk to him at school sometimes, but never about dating or anything. It's just casual conversation. And the conversations usually only last about 2 minutes or so, because then we have to each start heading different ways for our next classes. (And I look forward to those 2 minutes every day.. they are the highlight of my day, they are what I wake up for.. hah i know that sounds corny but it's true!!) What can I say to Rick, but make it sound casual? And also, I'm not sure if he still likes me or not. Sometimes in the halls he will catch up to me and talk to me. But I can't tell if he likes me or not. Please help, I don't know what to do, but I know I need to do SOMETHING. Please don't delete this!! (link)
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i think u definately should talk to him. buecause a lot of the times that happens to people, they turn some one down and then start to like them. and then before they kno it, theyre basically in love with that person and he could care less. but. if this guy truly loved you ((by the way i dont believe you need to be a certain age to love)) then he should take you back. talk to him. tell him how you feel. and if youre too scared just send him a text. a note.. and im. or do it on the phone. something like rick- ever since you asked me out and i turned you down, i have liked you more and more and i want to kno if u still like me. or something like that..
xO-sara
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Well i like 3 guys and they all like me back and i am friends with them all. Well also they are all sweet but guy #1 will say he loves me and then stare at other guys my friends don't like him.he is not affection Guy #2 is in 9th grade he is so funny and nice he has also called me once and we talked for 2 hours but her likes another girl in 11th grade.And we dated once and kissed on the lips once and held hands and he ALWAYS flirts with me and waits for me by my next class and i know he still likes me and he said he will go with me too the 8th grade dance thing. Then there is Guy #3 he is in 12th grade which is so sweet and nice and he says he loves me and gave me a hersey kiss because he cannot give me a real one. my friends don't like him and he also like other girls after he says that. he and guy #2 are frineds and he wait for me too. So what guy so i date or wait for or should i forget them all? i am so confused. PLEASE HELP (link)
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i think guy number two sounds best for you because guy number 3 is waaay to old. & umm # 1 seems like he may like u, but he isnt too sure at this point if he likes other people too. hope i helped
xo-sara
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Over the past month or so, I have been cutting my arm. I never cut the inside of my arm near to my veins but on the other side. It started off as just a way of forgetting everything but now it has turned into something much deeper, that even I haven't figured out yet. What I am doing is hurting my friends very badly and leaving them feeling guilty and lost. They keep saying that they will go to a teacher and tell him and two friends already have. I know I am hurting them but I honestly can't help it. I don't want my family to find out and I am scared that if my friends go to the teacher then he will tell them. I have no idea what to do. I have tried other things as an alternative to cutting but they never help like cutting does. I know that before I think about stopping for good, I need to figure out what has caused me to do this. I am usually happy, flirtacious and confident but now I am always upset. I suspect that I am doing it because of various family issues but I think that it could be something else as well as that. I honestly do not know what to do anymore. (link)
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that exact same thing happend to me and has still been going on. i kno that telling you that you should stop will not help any because i am sure you have gotten enough crap from people. but just remember how your friends think about it now... because if you continue, theyre just going to get more and more "concerned" and eventually angry at you... and well ive always been scared my parents would find out. then they did it was a long story, but basically i thought it was the end of my life. but reely, considering your not cutting your wrists (yet) just your arm, its not as bad. (not saying cutting at all is good) but well, i cant say much more then that w/o knoing a little more about your situation. if you want, feel free to email me BeYooTiFulBabe@netscape.net. i reelty think i could help because your like living out my life.
xO-sara
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i cut myself today.... I cut bc my bestfriends mom is dying from a disease called lupis..and she cut herself reall badd bc of her mom... and her dad and step-mom treat her like crap... and now my teacher saw her arm and called DYPHS on her... and now she might get taken away and idk whut 2 do.... please help me.....
brent (link)
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i relate to what your saying, i cut & a teacher saw and told my counselor and it was just a big ugly mess, but at this point i dont think there is much u can do for your friend but just b there for them. & if you do that your already doing so much. believe me
xO-sara
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I never get this kid. I really like this boy and I have liked him for over a year now. We have went out before and things happen on and off. Well I have been talking to him recently and he told me he loved me and all, and I didn't know if he was just saying that to get some lol but then he was like I am being serious I really like you a lot still. He said he wants to have sex with me, but the thing is we aren't going out and I brought that up and he's like fine we will go out and then do it. I told him if we did that I was afraid he would 'hump me and dump me' you know. But I told him that I guess I would so he wouldn't keep asking and I was afraid he would get mad. He was happy and all. Then he told me he had to go and he would call me back in 45 minutes and he was like I love you Ryah, just like he would usually do. He never called me back and usually he would call me the next day, but he didn't and he hasn't called me yet today either. I don't know what is up, I saw him today in school and I smiled and said hey and he smiled back (we don't have enough time to stop and talk). He never really acts like he so called 'loves me' in school but we do act like friends, but on the phone it's different. I don't know why he hasn't called and I don't know why he only acts like that on the phone! Anyone have any ideas? (link)
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in my opinion, if he doesnt act like he likes you all the time, hes not worth it. you dont want to have to ::guess:: when he wants to be around you or not. i understand it would be really difficult letting him go because you have liked him for so long. believe me i understand first hand. but you will be hurting more if u think he cares for u but only acts like it when no one else is around. so as hard as it may be, i think you need to try to end things and move on. expecially if your worried he will hump you and dump you cause by the way you explained the story, it seems like hes the kind of guy who would do that
xO-sara
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this guy at school who i consider my good friend, has liked me FOREVER, actually he "loves" me (so he says) and he told my best friend that he's getting me this $100 piece of jewelry for Christmas (im not supposed to know). i think thats way out of control, and unnecessary, especially since we're not going out. well i dont know how to react to his present when i get it, because i think he expects this magical fairy tale ending, and... i dont like him as a boyfriend. i dunno what to do...? (link)
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i think that you should let him kno how youre really feeling. if you guys are close as friends, then maybe you should try to tell him your are just that. and while you may be tempted to accept a 100 dollar gift from him, its not fair if you kno that you dont like him in that way. it would be better if you talk to him about how you feel before he goes and blows that much money on a gift for someone who isnt going to return his same feelings. hope i helped
xO-sara
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