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i like this guy and im just starting to get to know him. but when we talk i dont really have anything to talk about. any suggestions on how to get the conversation going? (link)
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When you're with a guy I tend to sit back and let him do the hard conversation work and find out stuff about you- then you can always reverse the questions he asks or get into a natural conversation. Just be prepared- have 3 things that you are passionate about i.e. photography, cheerleading, feeding the homeless... and try to work these into the questions he asks you. The most natural things for you to ask him are what he wants to be and what is he passionate about, or just what does he do after school to get an idea what his life is like. You can also adk about family or deeper issues but those really need to wait until a later time. Also if there is a lull in the conversation, don't rush in to fill it. Chances are you might just say something dumb, whereas by waiting he will be feeling like he should fill the gap and he will be getting nervous like the pressure is on him, so he will think of something good to try and impress you.
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i was wondering if anyone knew of any good over-the-counter skin cleansers that work really well? i have lots of blackheads on my nose (blahblah, gross, i know) and i get a lot of break outs on my nose. nose the skin right where my nose attaches is dry and itchy, but the rest is greasy and gross. suggestions?
thanks.
and by the way, i wasn't sure which category to put this in... and i know it's the wrong one. but i was thinking that if somebody was lookign for people asking questions based on people's skin because of their eating habits they might stumble across this one? i'm sorry though. (link)
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Please refer to the question I just answered about tanning to get a good answer to this...
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At this point in my life, I'm in love with a man living in another country, actually, an other continent. I probably shouldn't call him a man, since we're both just 17, but I hope you'll still take this question seriously.
We met once, and he was completely into me. He took all the initiative, he was the one calling and e-mailing, and sending gifts when we parted. Basically, he seemed far more interested of me than I was of him. But then -- we met once more. And suddenly it all changed. This time, when we parted, he had "no time" at all. E-mails, which were at first coming frequently, now only come once a month. He's stopped calling completely. And now I'm the one chasing him. What changed? Why does this ALWAYS happen to me? I always get admirers who would do ANYTHING (seriously) to get me, but after a while..I become the chaser. I become the bunny-boiler (not really, but you get the picture..I become the one obsessing and trying to make things happen)
I'm seriously sick of always getting to the first stage of a relationship, but never actually getting one. I'm sure I'm not the only one with this problem.
Answers will be appreciated.
Thank you.
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First of all I do think intercontinental relationships can work as I married a man who lived in Europe. However, the problem here doesn't seem to be the distance. I don't have enough information about you to tell you why your relationships don't work so this is just my theory... You are probably beautiful and have a lot going for you which is why guys are interested in you. However, you are probably very seet, understanding and would do anything for them, things that you have learned are a good thing and things that you expect will make the guy like you more. However, in a man's eyes until you get to know him very very well, he will see this sweet understanding side to you as weak and unconfident. He will think you are too easy and that you don't probably have enough respect for yourself which will make him lose respect for you and eventually interest. You have to show him from the beginning that you are confident and respect yourself a lot. You demand and deserve the best from yourself and from the first moment he starts to cross the line you stick up for yourself and call him out even if it really doesn't seem like a big deal at the time. You also don't fall madly in love at the drop of a hat as he has to prove himself to you - that he is worthy of you. By making him work for you he will love you more. By being too eager too please and too quick to like him, he loses respect and interest and likes you less. Good luck!
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Hey guys, is it true that tanning makes your acne go away? or atleast makes it so you dont see pimples and stuff? Because I noticed how everyone I know who goes tanning has perfect skin, and they where like !yeah tanning hides teen-acne" can anyone tell me if this is true?
Please know what you're talking about.
Thank you. (link)
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The heat in the tanning beds can help to kill acne and the darker skin also camouflages inperfections. However, it is true that overuse will lead to skin spots and wrinkly dry skin as you age. The best cure for acne in my opinion is to wash your face with 2.0% salicilic acid ( This can be found in some Neutrogeana products or in the product Murad) and to put Benzol Peroxide on it at night ( This can be found in some Oxy or clearasil medacines - read the label). Self- tanners can exacerbate acne by clogging pours, however, there are some great products out there that really make you look tan. If you get your skin cleared up with the medicine I would either go for a Mystic Tan spray or use L'oreal Sublime Bronze. Good Luck!
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i'm really shy and i keep to myself at school, because i lost a lot of friends last year, and now i feel like a big loser. and i'm also fat, so i feel socially retarded. y'know, y'know. but anyways. i have this friend who isn't shy at at all, but she doesn't invite me to her social events anymore 'cause i never knew what to say. i know it sounds dumb, but i can't be myself, because i'm afraid that if i say things people are going to think that i'm dumb, which is probably true. at home i'm just like the people at school, but that's because i'm comfortable.
so suggestions on how to become myself? (link)
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You need to gain confidence in social situations and if you're not comfortable opening up, school is a really difficult place to start as kids in schools can be very mean and quick to pick on others. I would suggest joining a church youth group or other organization where the point is to build each other up. I would also try a sports club away from school as it might help you gain friends on a team and shift some weight. As you're learning to open up to others in these social situations your confidence will show in school as well. I might also reccommend a Dale Carnegie book "How to Win Friends and Influence People." Good luck!
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okay so theres this boy and he likes me and i do like him to. but hes afraid to come talk to me in school n stuff. i mean hes a freshman n im a sophmore and he has no problem talkin to my bestfriend and i jus dont kno what to do. i really do like him a lot. but its jus bothering me that we never talk and were going no where. i truly though he didnt really like me. but since he told my bestfriend hes moved to a lunch table closer to mine and my friends say hes always sneaking looks at me. so i really jus dont kno wat to do and im SUPER confused
any advice would be great
ill ratte 5 for anythin!! (link)
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Don't make the first move, but subtly look hot, flash him a smile, and sit or stand near him and he will probably talk to you. This way he also feels like the aggressor and the more risk factor you are the more he'll probably like you.
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Well I am 16 years old. I just don't know what to do anymore.
Guy one said he gave up on me, though I wasn't sure thats what I wanted. (link)
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I would love to answer your question, but the only question that shows up in my inbox is this...
Which guy should I go for??
Well I am 16 years old. I just don't know what to do anymore.
Guy one said he gave up on me, though I wasn't sure thats what I wanted.
What was your original?
Thanks,
Tammy
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well i am having a baby and i got from when i got raped and my boyfriend said i will be the dad and i'll help buy things. i hope he does but i am afraid that we stay together and the baby sees him as daddy and calls him daddy then we breakup and what i will do to tell me child he's not daddy anymore (link)
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I'm proud of you for being strong enough to keep this baby and love it. If your boyfriend is going to be like a father to the child you can let him and this is really wonderful of your boyfriend. At some point in your child's life however they are going to have to learn that he is not the true father and for this reason it might be easier if he were called "Uncle" or called by his first name. It would be no different to a parent who had a divorce or had a husband die and was dating someone else when the baby was born. You can't worry about what will happen if you break up, just take every day at a time and focus on the love and attention the child is getting each day. Also, pray about it and let the child know that his true father is his "Heavenly Father" who was there for his from his moment of conception and will never leave him.
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Heres the story, I was dating this one guy he really cared about me more than anyone has before, but it scared me and he was pushing it on to hard. Taking everything I said the wrong way. He has liked me for over a year and a half. He was like my bestfriend before we dated. Now everything is awkward between us.
Then theres this guy that I have liked for over 3 years and I finally have my chance with him. I wanna go for it, but I am almost sure that the other guy would treat me better, but I want to try it with this guy cause I have liked him for so long.
I don't know which to go for. (link)
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If you are as young as this sounds, you need to date around and just tell guy #1 you're not ready for a serious relationship yet and you all are too close not to let something between the two of you be serious. Tell him you need to date around more, see what's out there and be young. Tell him that you absolutely care about him and respect him and are so sorry if this is hurting his feelings and that you know you can't expect him to sit around and wait for you. The line I like to give to guys is "You're welcome to be a member of the Tammy fan club, but I'm not ready to designate a President yet." Also, regarding guy number 2- if you think he would treat you poorly- don't go for him, but if you're just not sure as you haven't gotten to know him yet and he hasn't gotten a chance to know your true personality and to respect and care for you, then let him take you out. (However let me add- if I was wrong and you are much older and have already seen what is out there- I would probably give different advice.)
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ok so i met this guy in the beginning of the semester and hes super sweet we went out for a month & he broke up with me in the cruelest way possible. he felt really bad and due to the lack of me being able to stay mad at him i still talked to him. now that classes have changed i havnt really seen him for like almost a month. i think he still likes me bc we still talk on aim & we wanna hang out but i hear rumors & my friend told me he couldnt decide between 8 [yes 8!] girls. after that i was completely over him but now im wondering if i would consider seeing him again. hes sweet REALLY funny and cute but he makes me so upset. should i keep him as my friend or try to make it something more?? (link)
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He doesn't sound like he respects you very much, and you need to have enough respect for yourself to know that you don't want to be involved with someone like that. So he's a popular guy who is attracted to many girls. He thinks you're cool as well, but he's young and would probably love to "get with" all of the girls he thinks are hot. What makes a relationship work is when he actually respects you, sees you as good sweet and innocent, but confident enough to stand up to him and make sure he treats you with the utmost of respect at all times. It sounds like you were too infatuated, too "understanding" and didn't stand up for yourself when he was crossing lines the first time you went out. If you want to change the way he views you now, you will have some work to do, but start off by ignoring next time he trys to talk to you on aim or when he asks you to hang out say "you really were so rude to me before - i don't know if i should give you a second chance... how do i know you've changed, what are you going to do to make it up to me?", then sit back and let him work his butt off to get you to hang out again. And don't give in with sweet words- all of these guys are charmers. Demand flowers and/or romantic gestures!
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im a sophomore in highschool and the guy i like is a senior. he'd had a girlfriend for a long time. about 2 years i think. but they break up alot and fight alot. i really like him and i dont know what to do. should i tell him i like him? he is the most popular kid in school. everybody knows him even the freshman. i talk to him online but we only hung out once and thats when he invited me to come see him at his work. we have alot in common like the music and movies and the stuff we like. i dont know how serious he is with his gf. he always tells other girls their hott. plus they fight alot. how can i hint to him that i like him without actually telling him straight out? or should i tell him straight out? should i even tell him at all? (link)
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It sounds like he had a lot a emotions tied into his girlfriend/ex-girlfriend and that doesn't bode well for you. We all know that the harder we love the harder we fight. However, the fact that he has flirted with you and told other girls that they are hot simply means that he needs his ego boosted and probably would physically cheat on his girlfriend. I don't think he is ready for a real relationship and do you really want to be the cheap thrill that he "physically gets with" but doesn't really care about?
However, there is a chance he might be want to get to know you, and if you take it slowly and let him learn to respect you he might then dump his girlfriend because he likes you more. I would play it cool and act like you are pretty, popular, confident and could have any guy in the world so the fact that he kind of flirts with you is not a big deal. Also, if he does make a move towards you I would say "Don't you have a girlfriend, isn't that kind of disrespectful?" This will let him know that you are a good confident girl who demands to be treated right if he does ever want you and will also show him that you're not intimidated by his girl. That being said, there is nothing wrong with looking hot, being in the places he is, and smiling at him but letting him approach you and start hitting on you, but just make sure before you let him make any moves to clear up the girlfriend thing. That is emotional baggage that is his deal to sort out and you really can't be bothered with it. Good luck!
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I come on here and I always give advice but this time I am asking for advice. I have always been good at giving advice but as most people know for most people it is hard to come up with advice for theirself. There is this person who I use to date. The only reason we broke up is because we both got busy in our own lives. I love this person and their son with all of my heart and soul. They are my life eventhough we aren't together. Well about every couple months this person comes to me and tells me they still love me, they remember all the times we spent together, all the things we did together, how I used to hold them in my arms, how they held me and we took care of the other one when they were sick. They even said the dream about me. Since we broke up we have stayed in contact and we talk all the time. They do all of this even if they are in another relationship and the same goes for me. I have tried to be in other relationships, tried to love other people and just couldn't do it because my heart and mind is always on my ex. Both of us are always making comments about how we are both in a relationship why does it always work out this way. Well now we are both single but my ex says they are swearing off relationships. I guess my ex is tired of getting hurt eventhough I have never hurt my ex and have always loved that person and their son. My ex knows I still feel this way but still says they are staying single. So knowing how I feel and how they feel about me should I remain patient? if not, any suggestions on how to get over my ex? This whole thing has been going on for like over a year now. And I am heart broken because we are not together. I am a 24 year old female. I would appreciate any help and I am sorry this is so long. Thanks Fiesty (link)
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So let me get this straight, your ex and you broke up, he still comes around regularly and keeps leading you on, and he has told you recently he wants to be single? The reason it is easier to give advice as a third party is because the third party reads through the excuses that we buy into so easily ourselves. This is simply a matter a respect and being confident enough in yourself to know that you deserve better. In the first place you broke up. Now from my experience no matter what the excuse, a guy will not break up with a girl he is madly and deeply in love with ever for any reason. Secondly, the fact that he kept coming back to you was good for his ego, but it kept you in a yo-yo state and was disrespectful to you ( and to any other girl he might have been seeing at the time). In my opinion, he is using you as the "good for now girl", the girl who he likes better than any of the others at the moment but who he is not madly and deeply in love with. He will run back to you because he knows you will be there to build him up. And the more you let him run to you without getting any committment in return, the more you are showing him that you don't have a lot of confidence or respect for yourself to say "I need more and if you're not going to give it to me I'm going elsewhere." You can always love him as I think it is wonderful to love all of God's creations, but don't kid yourself, this is not a perfect relationship and you deserve better. I would totally break away from him, tell him you have too much respect for yourself to continue a "faux relationship", and move on. He will then most likely say that he loves you and cares about you...but he won't put an engagement ring on your finger, and unless he shows up with a bouquet of flowers, the keys to his apartment, and/or a ring- goodbye to Mr. Wishy-washy.
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Okay. To make a long story short, I've liked this guy andrew for about 6 months now. But for a while I had this boyfriend Ian...we broke up a while ago. Well Andrew has liked me A LOT for 6 months too and now my soposive best friend is trying to steal him from me. I don't want this. I really like...even love this guy and he's just...the most sweetest guy ever. I've had a really tough year this year and he just makes me feel so much better...he means the world to me and we wanna date eachother but my "best friend" likes him. he thinks shes annoying. but id feel bad datng him. WHAT DO I DO!?!?! (link)
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How is she trying to steal him? You can't force relationships and if he really doesn't like her, she will just end up getting herself hurt or rejected. If he really does like you I would just wait for him to ask you out or to do something with him. And don't worry about your friend being jealous, that is her problem not yours. She is the one who needs to mature and realize, why would you want a guy who doesn't want you anyway.
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15/female.... i told this 12th grader i loved him and hes my rly good friend. he has a gf that i want to run her over with a bus!!!he says he likes me kinda but its just too complicated because hes afraid of what his friends will think and next month it would be illeagle* and im not mature enough (sex) meanwhile i would do anything for him b/c i love him soo much. did i make a mistake or did i do the right thing. we are going to hang tomorrow or saturday! should i give up on him??? please answer ill rate!!! (link)
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This guy clearly isn't crazy about anyone right now including his girlfirend and you. He just wants sex from the prettiest/easiest thing around- and don't let that be you because he'll drop you in a heartbeat. I'm not saying he's nto a great guy at heart, but even though he's a 12th grader he is still young himself and apparently not ready for a relationship that would lead to committment. Be his friend if you want. Let him learn to respect and like you, but by telling him you love him you have dug yourself in a hole. He feels kind of sorry for you, kind of is flattered by you, and is kind of attracted to you, but he does not respect you or want a real relationship. Back off honey and wait for your time.
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hi my name is julie and this guy at my school grabs my ass every once in a while. do u think that is ok? he is kinda hott!!! do u think that is a sign of him liking me? cause i actually kinda like it when he does that is it ok or is that harrassment even though i like it?
julie (link)
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I know when you're young it can be exciting to have guys paying attention to you physically, but the truth is that even if you "kinda like it" you need to act "schocked and appalled". You see this lets him know you have confidence and respect yourself and your body and guys are attracted to confidence so he will actually end up likin you more. If you don't- he will think you are this unconfident girl he can take advantage of and he will flirt with you for his kicks, not because he actually respects or "likes" you.
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well i like this one guy we are friends but i like him and i think he likes me and today at school he was all like saying how good i look today and i just felt like giving him a hug and saying yiou are so sweet thank u!!! what do i do next time he does it?
thanx
julie (link)
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This guy sound like a flirt and you both sound young. Chances are, you do look good, but I guarantee you there are others that look good to him too that he says the exact same thing to. Your response isn't too bad though, because it shows sweetness and naivity, which guys like. However, you cannot let him know you "like" him. The best response I think is to say "Thanks, I know... you're not too bad yourself" or "Oh "guy's name" stop being such a flirt, I already know you want me (wink wink)"
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My boyfriend and I have been going out for awhile. And we have a certain group of friends that we hang out with. The point is that he spends more time with my best friend than he spends with me. They both say that they could never do something like cheat behind my back. I trust them but sometimes I wonder if they really could be masking my eyes with their friendly words. How can I just get over this jealousy phase? (link)
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Truthfully, if he's your boyfriend he should be absolutely pining over you and worshipping the ground you walk on. If he seems to be more infatuated with your friend than you, chances are you're right ( women's intuition). I would start being really standoffish with him and give him the idea that you're starting to dump him. When he gets worried and comes to you asking what's going on, tell him that you feel he's being disrespectful to you by spending more time with your friend than you and that you recognize he can do whatever he wants but you're not going to waste your precious time over someone who doesn't completely respect you and isn't totally into you. Tell him that maybe its just the wrong timing, and then sit back and wait. If he's cool with this or gets defensive- it was never meant to be. If he's a gentleman and apologizes for disrespecting or hurting your feelings, says he didn't know he was doing it, and begs for you back promising to mend his way, take him back.
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I was just "dumped" by my girlfriend of 4mnths. I feel rotten about the whole thing. I mean we were close. We were in love. My heart is shattered. I feel hurt. How does she feel. I know its an awkward question. But how do women feel after breaking up with a guy. And how do I win her back. (link)
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First of all, you sound weak and girls hate weakness. You need to let her know with flowers and a note, that you "apologize if you showed any disrespect to her, but that you love her very much and will always have a special place in your heart for her." Then you need to not call her, not find an excuse to be around her, get to the gym, go out with your guy friends and wait and see what happens.
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