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Hi everyone, 29/f.
The long and short of it is, despite my meds, it's dreary and I'm feeling depressed. The biggest problem is I have no energy (and caffeine triggers my anxiety) to DO anything to get rid of this feeling. Otherwise I'd clean my apartment, or something...
How do I shake myself out of the blahs? How do YOU shake the blues? (link)
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You cannot shake this off. It's part of your depression. The only way to feel better is to tell your doctor exactly how you are feeling and how long this has been happening with shift in mood. Does it fluctuate ever?
Keep a log book. The thing is maybe your medications need fine tuning and dosage changes slight as they may be for you to feel better. That can and does make a huge difference if you feel sluggish and lack energy to get up.
You absolutely must have some kind of structure in a day too. If you aren't working or at home alone the urge to sleep and do nothing is great.
Perhaps there are support groups, classes, moves, theater, libraries or places you can do and rotate around just so you are out and about as much as possible. Also, you need to exercise daily as that will get you your energy and focus back quicker.
You don't need a gym and walking or hiking will help. The pills will help only so much but once you add the physical it balances out and you feel better. Having a routine works. Talk to yur physician about how you feel mentally and physically. It's all related to each other.
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Hello guys, a not so close friend says come on, we're bantering and smiles? What does he mean by this? Sounds like he's flirting but I could be wrong. Thanks! (link)
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Have you ever watched a band on stage between songs seemingly killing time with jokes and perhaps not so gentle jabs at one another? This is an example of bantering. It's rapid fire and more like sparring back and forth. That's what he thinks you're doing.
With flirting it can at times be like banter but always done to attract someone to you. It's playful, often done with body language, amusing and of course not to sting. There's romantic stuff behind it where as banter wouldn't have that.
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My dad has his own youtube channel where he sings. He wants my brother and I to sing on his youtube channel too. My brother doesnt like singing and neither do I. It's not our thing and it's something really far out of our comfort zone. He's been saying that this is important to him and he would rather us sing it than a person he'd pay money to for singing the song. He is saying that we aren't willing to do anything for him when he needs it, but when we need something he'll do it for us. We would do other things for him just not this! Does this mean we're selfish and unreliable? (link)
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I am with you on this one. You are not being selfish or unreliable. The fact of the matter is that is able to sing, write, arrange and perform songs easily as it is his talent. You and your brother can't sing worth a damn and do not want to embarrass him or yourselves.
He has a You Tube channel and is comfortable performing and having followers comment. You however, are not. Not only do you have to live with family seeing it but you have friends and people you don't know that can ridicule all three of you. It opens the door to bullying at school and online if you are terrible.
Your dad sees this as a way of including his kids and doing something memorable lots of people can see and enjoy and doesn't get why you don't take part. He's offended but needs to be shown why doing the video isn't a great idea.
I know he doesn't want to pay others to sing the song. However, if he did it would be a professional sounding piece. Perhaps, you can be in the video and part of the concept for a video but not actually sing a note of it.
Also, prove to him that there have been numerous times you have been there for him but that this is very uncomfortable for those reasons. He may not like it but if you show you are willing to compromise or contribute to the project in other ways that he will see performing and singing just isn't what you are good at.
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i have the lowest confidence in driving in the world. especially with parking, you know, hitting a car? does anyone have any tips on driving confidence and parking? (link)
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Here's what I would do. There are driving schools out there that are operated and taught by former department of motor vehicles examiners and those who wrote as well as designed all the road and written tests.
They know how to take a scared driver and someone who isn't good on highways, parking, hitting things and getting them to become confident and excel. They may be a bit pricey but then again you want to be a good driver right? They usually have a package of lessons as they believe once you hit the end of your course that you will not be needing them further. I would look into this. Practice makes perfect. Perhaps an experienced driver you know with a clean driving record can also help with these issues too and what you aren't confident with.
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Hi guys, what does it mean when a guy says, he's had a good time with you today. also he said, you know what they say time flies when you're having fun in a jolly manner. does he mean anything or nothing at all or am I reading too much??
Cheers guys (link)
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Usually if someone says they had a good time with you it's to let you know they enjoyed your company and also to gauge how you felt if they aren't too sure. The time flies thing is a bit off-putting.
On the one hand he might mean that everything went by so quickly that he wished he had more time with you. Then again, he might be blowing you off and implying the date couldn't end fast enough for him. You know him better than we do so you probably have a sense by now if he's in to you or there wasn't reason for date #2.
You can always get in contact and see if he wants to go out again. If he doesn't that's okay but at least you'll know. If you want to be less bold ask him what he meant when he said the things above as you're confused whether he likes you or not. I think that's a legitimate question and going straight to him is the only way you'll know what he intended.
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So tonight I dyed my naturally blonde hair black for the first time. Ever since high school (I'm now 21) I've been wanting to dye it black because I have a light "porcelain" complexion with pink undertones, light blue eyes, and I'd looked up photos of girls with black hair and the same skin tone so I knew it would look pretty. However, people would tell me not to because they all said that people who aren't born with black hair and dye it that color always look terrible.
Anyways, This last weekend I had a mishap with my hair at a salon. I had asked the lady for light red low-lights in my then light blonde hair and for some reason the lady filled in all of my roots this nasty rusty red (she had me turned away from the mirror so I couldn't see what she was doing) and then did some very patchy looking low-lights. I was horrified of course and talked to her manager to have it fixed. Well it turned out they couldn't as the red just wouldn't lift even with bleach and a clarifying treatment. Turns out the lady was a fresh graduate out of hair school and didn't know what she was doing.
I left and let my hair relax for a few days and then dyed it all auburn red (which I had done years before and liked). Unfortunately because of the damage the lady did to my hair it was very porous in some places (from the bleach) and sucked in all the color, which resulted in very dark red hair on the top and crayon red hair on the bottom. It didn't look terrible actually, it looked like an ombre and I got a lot of compliments about it, but also a lot of weird looks and obvious "what did you do that for?" statements.
I have two formal events coming up as well as an internship search and I want my hair to look professional. At first I was scared because I didn't want to go to yet another salon to fix it and I didn't know how I could possibly fix it myself and then it clicked in my head to just dye it black.
Now the deed's been done and I'm afraid people are going to freak. It DOES look really pretty on me like I suspected because I have the right skin tone for it and know how to do my makeup to compliment it, but I know just the action of it is going to make people think I'm going through some kind of phase (especially because it's gone from blonde, to blonde with nasty red mixed in, to red, to black in a week).
I also feel a little sad because although I like it, I know there's no going back now. It'll be a very long time before I can go back to a lighter color especially blonde.
How can I make myself and others feel better about it? I don't want people to think I'm just some crazy young adult trying to be edgy. :(
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It's just hair in the end. Who cares what anyone else thinks? Consider the source. It's your hair and you love it and know that it looks great. That's all that matters.
You owe nobody an explanation or longwinded story about how you went from blonde to screwed up hair and then to black. That is unless you want to tell them to avoid X,Y,Z salon. Rock black hair and just go about your business.
If people like it great and if they don't tough shit for them. It's outright rude to tell anyone you hate something about their appearance. You cannot control what goes on in the heads of others or how they will perceive you.
If they think you're just trying to be edgy or crazy by having your hair a different color than what does that say about who they are? Don't worry about the social events or anything else if you love your new look wear it with pride.
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all the ways? because my crippling depression and anxiety makes my information/thought processing go very very very slow and my memory is the worst!! how can i improve those so i can become super intelligent so maybe i can actually go to college? (link)
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I think you need to stop putting enormous pressure on yourself to be absolutely perfect. That is part of your anxiety and depression right there.
You don't have to be SUPER intelligent to excel in life and at school of any level. You just have to try and do your best at something that interests you and you can earn a living at long-term.
I think what you are experiencing has everything to do with your medication levels being way, way off with your mental illness. Have them run your blood levels next time you see your doctor.
If the medication levels are off as I suspect (having experienced) than your thought process, recall and functioning all around will be sluggish or difficult. From my own experience in the past if your dosages are too high of an anti-depressant, anti-psychotic or psychiatric medication than normal thought process and recall definitely will be slow, you'll feel sluggish etc. I think it's as simple as telling your doctor something seems way off and have them check your levels and change it.
You are no more or less intelligent as you were before or after the illness came into your life. You can however, always learn new things, excel at them and become knowledgeable about them. All your talents, likes, dislikes and ability to think like you used to do are there. They don't go away and nor does personality. However, these drugs for a brief period may make it seem like that but it means that they are out of whack and are signs of that.
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Hello, long story short back in October I broke up with my ex of only 4 months. Looking back on it now I probably shouldn't have and I want to give things another chance. At the time I was with him I was still fighting in court with my ex before him, trying to get a restraining order if that tells you anything. I was going through that as well as medical issues, and having to move to a new city and start a new job. It was just too much for me with a relatively new boyfriend and he was also going through a bunch of crap that had him all stressed out and the combination was a bad one at the time.
Now everything in my life has cleared up and I want him back. I know how selfish that sounds, but I still think about him and think maybe. Since then I've tried to date other guys, but none of them work out and I think I made a mistake. At the time I broke up with him I assumed like any girl in her early 20's that it was just another stepping stone, but I really miss him now and feel like I blew it.
The issue is I know I broke his heart and the damage is going to be hard to repair if he even decides to give me another shot. Even worse, he's currently staying with his family for the holidays and I know they'll steer him away (which they have every right to).
I texted him tonight and he chatted with me for a bit, but we beat around the bush on why I had texted and just made small talk (Hi, how are you...how's your family...etc.). Then he stopped responding and I know I should probably give up and just move on.
On the off chance he does give me a shot and that he just went to bed for the night, how can I convince him that we should try again without being the crazy ex who realized she screwed up? (link)
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There is NOTHING wrong in admitting you screwed up or feel awful about how you treated him. That must be done with sincerity and NOT to try and entice him to come back. You need to right a wrong here.
You need him to see your head was not in the right place at the time and demonstrate a difference in behavior that is honest. A prior relationship with someone you have a restraining order on and being in court is going to make him, his family and any person question who you are and the choices you made.
His family may be happy and you have to prepared that this relationship was over after 4 months. They may see you as a mistake and hell he may too. You have no idea where any of them are at.
The fact he texted back may be because he doesn't want you to think he dislikes you. He doesn't want to blow you off. He may like you and he may not.
What I would do is take a break from dating and figure out who you are, where you are going and deal with past issues in life that have influenced the presence. After that pursue a relationship with right person.
There's a reason that you didn't have a successful relationship here. You rushed into one, didn't have your head clear and had personal issues on both sides impact the relationship. You really didn't know one another well.
I think what you have to do is have coffee with him and apologize not with the expectation of forgiveness or the motive of trying to get back together. Offer friendship and try to work through differences and moving forward. If he's not interested than that's okay. Be friends before becoming anything else as you'll see if there's anything there to build on.
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(F13) So, I like this guy quite a bit. I asked him if he wanted to go sledding with me, and he said yes. Our plan is to go sledding and what not. But I'm not sure if this is a date (We are in middle school) and if it is, or if it isn't, what do I wear? The temperatures will be around 30F but I'm not so sure about wearing my snow gear, because I am afraid I will look clunky if I wear it all. Furthermore, do we hang out at the sledding place or do we go to one of the others houses? Would it be weird if I brought hot chocolate to sledding? (link)
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You're overthinking it. Go with he flow. If you want your hot chocolate bring it. There's no real rules here about what to do and not to. Common sense dictates hat you would wear your clunky winter gear because he will do the same. You don't want to freeze your ass off after all. He's not going to judge your appearance based on your snow gear.
For now treat this as a situation that is more of a getting to know you and feeling things out kind of day where you're just hanging out and if something happened where you both want to do this again than think of dates. Unless you made it clear in your invite that it was a date he may not be aware of it being one.
If it goes well and you want to hang out longer suggest where you could go ie: house or something near by such as coffee or restaurant etc. Go with the flow and see what happens and above all relax and be who you are. That's what attracts people to you.
When it comes to guys this age they usually don't hang out with girls alone unless there is genuine interest in them as either a friend or more. If he didn't like you he wouldn't have agreed to coming. Odds are this is going in the direction you wish it would but at the same time you have to see what direction it is or isn't going in by seeing signs as things unfold around you.
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I have a teacher that I think flirts with me A LOT, but then again I'm not sure, I feel like he's interested in me but can someone please tell me some signs to look for? Or how can I really tell he's flirting with me, I like him a lot but would never do anything bad. I just would like to know. (link)
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The fact you like him is clouding your mind and making you think there's something happening that isn't. He may just be overly friendly. I promise you he has ZERO interest in you beyond you being his student. While it's normal to fantasize about someone you have to see that reality is different. He's an adult you're a child and it's against the law for him to have a relationship with his student. Chalk this up to a crush on your part as that is all there is to this.
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Today me and my niece got in a fight. Shes 6 years old. She stays in a different city and slept over by us. She kept having an attitude and then when i was geaching her to swim we got in a fight. She kept going on that my house is so boring so i said if shes so bored she can then go back to her dad. And we kept fighting. Eventually she started crying and said she wants to go home and we spoke and cuddled and we seemed alright and then she went home. I feel really awful about it because i dont see her much and i really didnt want to hurt her shes like my little best friend. Do you think she'll still remember about it tomorrow? Or not want to come again? (link)
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If you were the only adult taking care of her at the time and she did something wrong than correct it. If it was during swimming and you felt her behavior in the water or around it was wrong than tell her that and get out of the pool.
I wasn't there but people with experience around kids over time know what to let go of immediately and or make an issue of. Getting into a fight with her is a line as her aunt and not her parents isn't right. That's why you feel badly as it should not have reached that point.
If she has enjoyed being around you at previous visits and seems fine around you afterwards than in all likelihood she's fine with you. Perhaps it's a side of you that frightened her at first and wanted her parents out of being uncomfortable.
To be honest with you nobody can tell if she will remember it or is upset by it but her and or her parents. If there were a pattern of this kind of thing between you, their daughter and or other kids than maybe she won't be back in the same setting. I'm being honest that it's a possibility. When a parent gets offended over something like this that the child relates it can be like that.
However, I think this isn't like that. However, you need to talk to her parents tell them how much you love your niece but that something happened at the pool, she wouldn't listen and it became an argument. Tell them how awful you felt about it and don't want it to impact the future. It probably won't if you explain what occurred and that you want to correct it.
Tell them that you feel they aren't around enough and had been wanting to see her more and not drive any of them away. It should be fine for you would have to have done something so awful or said something that was to get them all angry or offended. I doubt that this is that situation.
Also, other columnists below mention that kids often express anger is HUGE fashion be it tantrums, throwing themselves down on floor, yelling or telling you they hate your guts. Minutes later if left alone they go back to being fine. In all likelihood it's a bigger deal for you than the 6-year-old in end but do have that talk with her parents and explain you know nothing about raising kids and din't handle this right. That's all you can and should do.
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Hello, I'm Laura, I'm 17 and I need a little advice. I've scoured the internet high and low and I can't seem to find anyone else with this problem. No matter who I'm kissing, I can't kiss their bottom lip. It's very hard to explain, but I can't really angle myself to be able to kiss it right? I've been kissing since 14 and I've kissed quite a few people and I still struggle with it. Anyone else have this issue? (link)
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My advice may not be exactly what you were looking for but do read on. I think you are obsessing about fixing what your partners do not see as being broken. If none have complained in the 4 years you have been kissing people you are in relationships with than don't worry about the perceived perfect angle or bottom lip too much.
It can be fixed with practice and experimentation but do relax or you won't be able to enjoy it which is the point after all. Don't worry too much as a partner can guide and communicate what they enjoy anyways and thus far no complainers on the receiving end of your kisses. Likely they are not concerned about it as much as you are if at all.
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So I am 16 and have recently discovered that I have a septate hymen. I've read about many options on how to get rid of it, but I don't know which is the best option. I don't want to tell my mom about it, but I want to go to my gyno. Can I still see my gyno without my mom finding out? (link)
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You really don't have anything to be embarrassed about. Your mother has changed your diapers and bathed you so in all likelihood she is aware of you having a septate hymen. However, she may not have been aware of the way to correct it.
I would talk to her about it and explain that it's difficult with menstruation and having what appears to be two vaginal openings. Let her know that a doctor can fix it and that you feel self-conscious and want to at least discuss medical options.
However, as the columnist below me mentioned at 14 you can see any doctor below in the U.S. to my understanding and ask them about this and get treatment. That said, it's a whole lot easier to deal with this kind of thing with a parent, guardian or adult you trust ie: older sibling, aunt, grandma who knows what this is like and feeling embarrassed.
Nobody you don't want to tell will ever know. Unless you are dying, delusional or of harm to self/others all is confidential between you and the doctor.
I would make the appointment with the gyno and either go with someone you trust to be in room to discuss or with mom knowing. She has the same anatomy as you do and believe me would understand what you are feeling and not judge. You would have an ally in her.
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I m a woman. I don t understand. I m now in my early 20s and seeking cognitive behavioral therapy to finally help me get my life together. I ve felt anxiety ever since I was young and had many bouts of depression, especially in my teen years. I have a lot of symptoms of ADD and even saw a couple of psychologists who suspected I had ADD, from my early childhood to my teenage years. But when I had a conversation with my mother about her interpretation of things, to her, I was just self-diagnosing. Even though I ve seen records of diagnoses and have also been told of my diagnoses. I don t get why my mother decided to ignore my problems all together and to this day is in denial when I m clearly still not a self sufficient, normal adult, because over years and years of not getting help, I haven t developed to be a self sufficient, normal adult. It hasn t just been out of nowhere. I ve tried and failed many times to try to get back on my feet on my own. I m now seeking therapy properly again. It s just sad and confusing to me that my mom would rather pretend I m just a hypochondriac or something. I m not seeking drugs. I know that I can change things in my life with practical advice. I had even been recommended to get cognitive behavioral therapy in my teenage years but my mother never followed through. Sorry to whine on here, this is part venting and part seeking others opinions, as, potentially relating to my untreated ADD, I have no close friends (and haven t in many years).
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You don't have to be crazy or delusional to be mentally ill. I am pretty sure that your mother means well. However, over the years she has probably heard one diagnosis or opinion of you that radically differs from doctor to doctor.
She was likely confused and in those days lets face it what we knew of ADD and childhood onset of mental health disorders isn't what it is now. As a parent she likely figured she knew you better than anyone else and didn't think your behavior amounted to X,Y, Z medical opinion and likely why she got several.
Maybe you are a hypochondriac in the sense that you have always lived as though there was something deficient about you or that you had an illness that amounted for behavior or you blamed for not being the kind of adult you wanted etc. etc. Perhaps you do and maybe it should have been looked into now. Your mother may know more than you have asked her about and why she didn't go with one opinion over multiple.
I think it's important to really live your life to the fullest and the way you desire to live it than in fear. Yes, common sense is to find out if you have any of these issues and seek treatment but at the same time don't let something you may not even have dictate what you do here and now. And that's what is going on.
The fact you are not functioning like a ''normal'' adult may or may not be due to a disorder. I'm not a doctor but you definitely should be discussing this NOT with a family doctor or run of mill therapist but a psychiatrist who can help you work towards becoming sufficient and in control of your life and work out obstacles seemingly keeping you from it.
The previous advice you were given is true that a psychiatrist is the ONLY person who can tell you exactly what is happening and what and if you have a mental health issue. Nobody else can treat or diagnose such an illness.
Even if you have a mental health problem it's not the end of the world and doesn't mean you're permanently crazy or whatever labels and stigma are out there and that means bipolar, schizophrenic, OCD, anxiety or whatever else. People just don't understand these labels among our society. You would be normal and having an illness just like Cancer or anything else you get helped for.
As far as ADD goes where I live outside the U.S. it is usually seen in schools as a learning disability and not psychiatric with ADDHD considered behavioral/learning and concerning the brain but not a psychiatric illness that they treat. I know this from experience how mental illness diagnosis is made and classifications having a doctor explain years ago.
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I had really bad flu a few months ago and it caused a lot of earwax in my ear. Over a while it got worse and worse and i got flu a few times after that. The first time i had flu thatbit started the doctor couldnt see my eardrum because it was too much and obviously its gotten worse over the months. We could only get an appt to drain it late january. Lately my ear has been hurting really badly and it gets blocked really quickly. Just lying on that side makes my ear blocked. I also have hearing problems in that ear.
Can to much earwax cause a burst eardrum? And also how do i help this until i drain it? Doctor said i mustnt use Eardrops or cotton swabs (link)
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Obviously waiting until the end of January simply ain't gonna cut it. The problem has become a lot worse and actually hurts since last the doctor looked. He may be booked solid until then because of Christmas. You should try his office in the morning explaining it's ten times worse can he at least look at it if not drain it?
If you cannot get your doctor to look at it and drain it than find another one explain you are in a bind as it's worse than before and nobody will see you until lat January at regular doctor. If that doesn't work walk into an emergency clinic in neighborhood and have them see you on spot.
If no success there walk into a hospital emergency room and explain you are there because nobody will treat you before the end of January and you tried for different doctors and clinics first. Explain what is going on and now there is intense pain in your ears and that you need them drained or otherwise fixed. Nothing wrong with that.
We are not doctors and do not even venture guesses about medical issues in the event we are wrong and people inadvertently get misled. That said, a doctor could tell you what you need to know about your ear drums.
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Tomorrow im sleeping at my boyfriend and his friend is dating my friend. His friend told my friend that mt boyfriend is planning on having sex with me. Im a virgin. I want to because im always horny. Can anyone give me tips and advice? Positions? (link)
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I have to tell you that I really think you are rushing into something that you are not ready for yet. Always feeling horny due to hormones is NOT a good reason to have sex.
You should never rush into it and at least not without more information, being on birth control, protection and totally prepared. If you have doubts, anxiety or worries about doing this than that's your brain telling you not to.
While he may not want to hear (and tough if he doesn't) that you don't feel ready and want to wait he MUST respect this and there's nothing wrong with telling him that this won't happen tomorrow and you want to be prepared and totally comfortable with the idea and if you aren't he needs to be aware. If he loves you he will understand. If he doesn't it means you are with the wrong person.
The other potentially bad situation is being alone with him and sleeping at his house. I don't know how wise that is or what your parents would think or if they know of the arrangement.
Sex shouldn't happen due to hormones and constant surges. That's a bad reason. There are many ways to deal with this that do not involve having intercourse.
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Hello, I have a friend who I made two years back, and she tried committing suicide today. From what I know she's fine but now I'm plagued by other worries. I'm afraid she isn't stable and I've let her quite a lot into my life. She's told me things like that she's had boyfriends that abused her and other stuff like that that I used to doubt were true but I just kind of ignored it. But now I'm worried that she could try something against me or to my family or something. I just feel like I was very stupid to let her into my life that much. I don't know for certain whether or not her stories are true or not but I'm genuinely scared now that I might've put my trust in someone dangerous. I feel like crying because I don't what to do. I'm even getting stomached because of the worry. (link)
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A suicidal person is NOT dangerous to you in any way. They also do not want to cause danger to you or your family at all.
Why would she want to say or do anything against you or your family especially if she has never been like that? A mentally ill person has to have a violent personality in the first place which she hasn't to act out in such a manner.
What she is is depressed and or afflicted by another mental health issue. The problem is that nobody has noticed and or have noticed and not listened to her stories or took what she was feeling and saying seriously. As such she has taken to bottling things up to the point she could no longer cope. The stories are the truth. You need to open your mind and heart and be there for her 100%. If the role was reversed isn't that what you would want her to do?
It wasn't at all stupid to let her in to your life or even dangerous. She's your friend and someone with a problem that you don't understand that needs you to listen and not talk to what is going on. You aren't expected to have answers and it's okay to be afraid but do not scorn her or shun her. This is not her fault and or choice. The illness is running her life until she gets help.
You need to tell your parents what she has told you and all of the stories and about her suicide attempt and that it has you deeply concerned. You might save her life that way by having adults intervene to get her the help she really needs. That's your responsibility to her and being a friend. A friend is one of the first and fundamental things she needs to know she has. There is ZERO reason to think she's dangerous or untrustworthy. This is not a character flaw. She's who she always was to you but with an issue you know little about.
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Hiya! I am 21 and get horny more often than normal but I can't seem to give myself pleasure. It just cringes me out every time I finger myself or rub, I can't seem to enjoy it. But I enjoy it from my partner? It gets out of hand sometimes as I don't live with partner so have to wait till we both free for me to stay over a night. (link)
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I'm not sure what the term cringed out means. When I read your question I thought you meant that you can engage in the activity and suddenly have to stop because the intensity was too much. If it's that than trying a different way would resolve that.
If in fact you are grossed out or feel weird about doing this than don't. Along the way you must have had an adult tell you "nice girls don't do that" or made you to think what you were doing is bad. In fact it's quite normal and statistically 77% of women of all ages do it and that number may even be higher.
They just aren't talking about it. You can be adults you know and friends are all doing it. Certainly you are far from the only one. As a child of course it's not a sexual thing but rather them discovering body parts like their nose and that this feels good and comforting. It can be like that for adults too. Even if you are "horny" that's a perfectly normal thing to feel and this is a safe form of release and of dealing with stress.
I cannot say why you enjoy partner sex and not this activity. What I can recommend is to relax here and instead of stopping if you feel uneasy or grossed out is to continue instead and see that everything is A-okay. Perhaps if you did that a few times any hangups you had would fade. If you have a therapist or doctor you trust you could raise this topic with them.I'm pretty sure along the line someone gave you a negative view.
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I take care of my cousin who is 25 that has Autism while his parents work. The thing is most of time i can get him to let me take care of him but when the days he gets upset he throws fits because he has the mind of a 4 year old. He will stomp his feet, hit the couch, scream and he is over 300 pounds . He wont let me fix him anything to eat when he gets like this or let me give him his medicine. Help!
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Here is something you need to understand. Autistic people do NOT have minds of 4-year-olds and ay in fact be brilliant and smarter than you. It's a fact. Just because they are non-verbal does not mean they are not smart. Give him a keyboard or paper to write on and you'll see how that view is incorrect.
Autistic individuals often are super sensitive to light, texture, sounds. You may be doing something inadvertently that others do not around him that is triggering such an adverse reaction. Try asking him to write down what is bothering him so you can fix it for starters. Don't be angry when he has this reaction.
Speak to his parents about this behavior and ask them how best to react. They know him inside out and how to deal with anything that may be bothering him. Let them know what you are doing when this normally occurs. It could be as simple as leaving him alone when this happens and let it run course or doing something that prevents onset. They are the experts on Autism and their son.
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I've had my samsung galaxy 5 for 3-4 years and my mother has said when I first got it I will be having it until my sister graduates the 5th grade and gets her first, which will be in 2 years, she is in 3rd grade currently. I hadn't been having this problem until about a week ago, when I upgraded it and I'm really regretting doing so. As soon as I did upgrade the battery went from being in the 50's to the 20's. I figured that was just because I installed upgrades but now it takes way too long to charge. I've been sitting here for 9 minutes and it didn't even go up once. One day it was at 100. I didn't even touch it the entire morning and it somehow went to 95. For two nights in a row it didn't charge overnight, just the opposite actually. Last night I left it at 57, woke up and it was 34. I don't know what is wrong with this, and I don't know how to stop it. any ideas? (link)
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Explain to your parents what is happening and that your phone will no longer charge and when it does it's pathetically slow. Older phones and their batteries do take longer to charge but this is outside the normal time.
You need to see if it's the charger itself and not your phone's battery. You can buy a universal Samsung adapter/charger from Best Buy, Tbooth or stores like that and try to run to a full charge and see how long it takes and how long your battery lasts once it is.
If it still does that you'll need to go to your provider and have them run their own battery tests and diagnose the issue. With your phone being 4 years old you may need an upgrade just to stay in business.
You mentioned that you did a required system update and then everything started acting up. You need to point that out to your service provider as there may be a way to set it back to previous settings and not the update.
One thing you could do is back up your data and anything you cannot bear to lose and g into your settings tab. Find factory reset or factory restore. Hit that. What that will do is set your phone back to how it was the day you bought it. It should work fine then as long as you stop it from updating to the latest software by ignoring that. For now that would be a solution temporarily.
Your phone is 4 years old. By now you should be eligible for an upgrade. See if that is so and look and see if there are any phones you can get with 0 down and or by paying a certain amount ie: $300.00 down and keep paying the same as usual for the plan.
What you really want is the Samsung Galaxy S7 Edge and usually with a plan like your family is on it's $300 down and you continue on same plan as usual. I realize your parents don't want to pay for a new phone but if yours is going to be unreliable it's the best option as let's face it the phone you have isn't meant to last 6 years to begin with. Four is stretching it.
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