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Am I unreliable and selfish?
My dad has his own youtube channel where he sings. He wants my brother and I to sing on his youtube channel too. My brother doesnt like singing and neither do I. It's not our thing and it's something really far out of our comfort zone. He's been saying that this is important to him and he would rather us sing it than a person he'd pay money to for singing the song. He is saying that we aren't willing to do anything for him when he needs it, but when we need something he'll do it for us. We would do other things for him just not this! Does this mean we're selfish and unreliable?
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Is this really your Dad we are talking about? If so, then he comes across as a kid in an adult body.
Kids and teens have these things to learn:
You can't get an idea and expect whomever you choose to be okay with it and willing to pitch in. Life doesn't work that way.
He is trying to use his position of being the Dad or a family member as a reason to attempt to get you to do what he says is important.
Using an example of having to pay someone else is an attempt give you a guilt trip or feeling sorry for him. I assume money is tight and he is thinking this youtube channel will make enough money to supplement the family income. Either that or he is into having this you tube channel for the fame and feeling of being important that it gives him. It strokes his ego. SO when you don't want to help, if he's immature enough, he may see that as you stating that how it makes him feel is not as important.
unreliabe would be if both of you promised him that yes you would do it and back out and then say count me in again and back out again. Thats unreliable which is not part of this situation.
YOu are your own person, and other than family ground rules you must follow, being told you must sing on a video or else, is not right because it is not a rule but a personal want or desire for him and parents can not and should not ever try to force their likes and desires on their children. But there are parents out there doing this every day. I suggest talking to your Mom and having her talk to him. If he is that tight on money, then Mom can work if not currently, or even you if old enough could get a p.t. job.
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I am with you on this one. You are not being selfish or unreliable. The fact of the matter is that is able to sing, write, arrange and perform songs easily as it is his talent. You and your brother can't sing worth a damn and do not want to embarrass him or yourselves.
He has a You Tube channel and is comfortable performing and having followers comment. You however, are not. Not only do you have to live with family seeing it but you have friends and people you don't know that can ridicule all three of you. It opens the door to bullying at school and online if you are terrible.
Your dad sees this as a way of including his kids and doing something memorable lots of people can see and enjoy and doesn't get why you don't take part. He's offended but needs to be shown why doing the video isn't a great idea.
I know he doesn't want to pay others to sing the song. However, if he did it would be a professional sounding piece. Perhaps, you can be in the video and part of the concept for a video but not actually sing a note of it.
Also, prove to him that there have been numerous times you have been there for him but that this is very uncomfortable for those reasons. He may not like it but if you show you are willing to compromise or contribute to the project in other ways that he will see performing and singing just isn't what you are good at.
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