Hello, call me Abby =] I'm eighteen and a senior in high school this year. I've always had great advice, I'm just not so great at following it =P Feel free to ask me anything, I'll do my best to give you an answer.
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hey, f/14
i go on xanga.com
a lot and i discovered
the thinspo blog and i wanna
be a thinspo girl but i have no
idea how to become one some help? (link)
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Don't.
Don't fall into the trap. It may look good in pictures, but you don't become that skinny easily. Those girls starve themselves. Lack of nutrition stunts your growth. You would have no energy. Just walking to your classes would be hard. Focusing in your classes will be even harder.
Girls DIE trying to be thin. I'm not exaggerating.
Besides, guys are attracted to healthy body types, not super skinny girls. I haven't met a guy who doesn't like curves.
Being fit and healthy is whats best for you, and looks the best on you.
-Abby
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I'm 18, and I'm pregnant. My fiance, he's happy I just told him not to long ago and he went from being a total creep to me, to being the perfect guy. Why? I don't know. He's just amazing. My Dad on the other hand..... Not so much, remember that saying your dad always told you when you were little. "I'll always have your back not matter what." Well what the heck happened to that? Me and my dad used to be really close. But now it seems that he can't stand to be around me. He keeps dropping hints that he wants me out, but for right now I don't have any where to go, or I would get out. I wish I knew what to do, I guess that is why I'm resulting to this. And not I'm not asking if I should keep my baby, I'm going to keep my baby. Deffinately. I love my child already. And so does the father of my child. My question is what the hell do I do about my dad? (link)
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Your father is probably feeling so many emotions right now,as you are. You need to have a good talk with him. Wait til he is calm and in a quiet place. You really don't want to start an argument.
Tell him you want to talk and have things to tell him, and that you also want to hear how he feels.
Explain to him your plan. If you don't have one, you need to make one. He may see you in trouble and as many other pregnant girls who aren't able to move forward in schooling/careers because of their baby. I hope you and your fiance work out a way to support your baby and move out of your fathers house. Telling him your plan will show him that you can now be responsible.
Tell him how you feel. Are you scared? Do you need his help? Be sincere.
Ask him how this makes him feel. He might feel a loss of control, since his young daughter has been spending time with male figures that aren't him.
Tell him you love him, and want to mantain a close relationship. Let him know exactly how important he is to you, and how you want him to be the grandfather of his baby.
I'm sure he loves you, and if he has supported you all your life he will warm up to this idea. It may take time. You also need to be prepared if you don't get a good reaction. All you can do is try.
Good luck,
-Abby
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Is it ok to cut the understrap off my lifejacket? Or not wear it? I'm not the best swimmer in the world, but it's uncomfortable and annoying. I thought that was a feature only on kid's jackets. It's USCG approved and fits my weight requirements and otherwise a great jacket. Thanks :-)
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I think its okay not to wear it if the jacket doesnt rise up when your swimming. If it stays snugly in place and keeps you afloat then you can not use the under strap feature, but I dont recommend cutting it off. You may want it at some point and I'm sure any directions or warnings that came with the life jacket say to always wear it.
Good luck,
-Abby
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Well Im Actually Really Short, Everyone says that plus dey allwaiz tease me bout it. So i wanna grow Taller but i dont know how, I've alwaiz wanted to be tall. If Therez A Easy But Effective Way to grow (female, teens), would you please let me know. I've tried lots of things, but now i'm desperate. If theres certain things i could eat/drink, or certain things i should do it would really help, plus if you have any ideas in how you can that would b a help too. Thanks (link)
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Your height is basically pre-determined by your genes, so there isnt much you can do. The crucial time is when you are a baby until when you hit puberty. A good diet is essential to maximizing your height growth.
If you are medically under the average, there are growth hormones doctors prescribe in some cases, but mainly for genetic diseases and they have to be used in a certain age group. I don't believe you need to go that far.
I know you feel self-concious, but try not to be. Your a girl, so your femininity isn't being challenged by your height. A lot of guys don't like dating girls taller then they are, so you probably won't ever have that problem. In fact, guys like small and petite girls.
You can ask your friends not to tease you, but they probably aren't doing it to mean.
Try your best to accept this, even though it may take time. We were all made the way we are for a reason.
In the mean time, get some heels! Unlike tall girls, you can wear super high heels without towering over everyone.
Good luck,
-Abby
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Yes, I am very interested in Electric Motors. And even more interested in building my own car, for that matter. The problem is, I can't find information on the subject.. If anyone knows how to build an Electric Motor used for an Electric Car - PLEASE LET ME KNOW!!!
THANKS! (link)
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Have you tried the library? They have books on EVERYTHING, I'm sure you could find something there that would help, or even talk to someone who can help you find info on the web. That's their job. My area's libraries have a web service that lets you email a librarian asking for help on finding info and they email you back with links. If I knew where you lived I wouldve done some research in your local libraries but I'm sure you can do that.
That's about all the help I can offer, I know a lot more about driving the car then I do about building it haha.
Good luck!
-Abby
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What is a fun and easy way to clean my room? I have ALOT of stuff like clothes, tons of small and big garbage, and toys, etc. please help because whenever i try to clean my room it takes at LEAST 2-3 days! (link)
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Invite some friends over to help and blast your favorite music while you do it. No matter what you have to dedicate yourself and just get the work done, no easy way around it.
Good luck,
-Abby
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whenever i masterbate (im a girl) i can only cum once. after i cum i cant touch myself there anymore and it kinda hurts if i do, like its a very not good feeling after. plus im not even in the mood to masterbate any more after i come, y is this?
why is this?
how do i fix it? (link)
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Most people don't have sex in intervals right after another. Genitals are sensitive and after rigorous activity to them like sex or masturbating, a woman can feel sore. After you orgasm, you release those feelings along with any fluids and like how a man has to become aroused to have an erection, you have to take the time to get into the mood and it wont happen automatically after you orgasm.
I don't think you can "fix" it, since nothing is wrong with that. If you want to increase your sexual endurance, well, all I can say is practice makes perfect.
Good luck,
-Abby
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1) Is DDR (on Heavy Mode) a good workout? Or am I better off just running?
2) What's a good exercise for my thighs? My thighs are HUGe and i hate them. (link)
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Getting cardio wherever you can is great. So if doing DDR is fun for you, do that. But I would do a regular run too, or a spinning class or some form or cardiovascular exercise to burn fat.
You can strengthen your thighs by doing squats and lunges, but to lose fat from them you need the cardio. Running uphill or on an incline on a treadmill, eliptical, etc. will help tone your legs as well. Swimming is cardio and tones at the same time. Try to mix it up so you wont get bored and you can work your body in different ways.
Good luck,
-Abby
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I sent the head of the advice column about some possible hackers. My name is lee ann leggett and i believe my advice column was hacked. I wanted to personally apologize for the question, the rude answer, and I plan to change your four to a five. I changed my password, deleted the question, and sending out apologies. I can't believe this happened. (link)
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Hacked or not, don't sweat it. Everyone's entitled to an opinion. Good luck to you with your books.
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Hi so I want to get a brazillian wax and I read that you need to get them every 4-6 weeks but I want a personal opinion on if it was worth the money. Like how long was it actually until the hair started to grow back even like stubble. im just so sick of shaving and always worrying about if I need to be that day so all I wanna know is if theyre worth it and how long it takes for even the slightest stubble to appear. Thankss!! (link)
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I haven't had a brazillian wax done, but how long it lasts depends on you and how fast your hair grows. Are you the type of person who can't go a day without shaving? I would say the results last from 2-6 weeks depending on the person.
I think trying it once and seeing if you like it is worth it, I definitely hate that stubble and how hard it is to shave that area. Get it done at a salon and see if you like it and then maybe you can try doing it yourself with drug store products to save money, because the costs can add up.
-Abby
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18/f. I'm a runner, I play tennis, and I'm at a normal weight for my height. But when I wear a bikini, it seems like my ass hangs out everywhere (even though I don't have much ass to begin with). It seems like squats and lunges haven't done a whole lot to tone up my posterior. So, if you've ever been in my position, what has worked for you? I'm looking for exercises that work... or if you can recommend a swimsuit that is cute and would actually cover my ass then that would be great too. (link)
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Continue with the squats and lunges, they really are the best exercises for your butt. Add more cardio into your workout to burn fat so the muscle you are building can show. It's like you could have a six pack but if your stomach is flabby you wont even notice it. Running/hiking outdoors is great for you because any incline builds leg/glute muscles. You can increase the incline on a treadmill to get a similar effect.
As for swimsuits, they have control ones that have a special material for sucking you in like spanx, but I don't think you need that. Try boy short bottoms that dont let any of your butt hang out.
Here's a link if you want to do some online shopping...
http://www.nextag.com/womens-boy-short-swimsuit/stores-html
Good luck,
-Abby
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Hi my name is Lee Ann Leggett, I am 23, and have published five books. I was wondering if you guys had any ideas on how I could promote them to increase sales. Sales are pretty good and I am being called "the next Stephanie Meyer" but I want to be able to do more. If you haven't heard of me then you don't read much. If you need to look at my work to think of ideas just type my name in the search engine at amazon.com and it will pull 4 of my 5 books up. The fifth was just released and can be found only at publishamerica.com right now. I already made a myspace and I am in the process of building fans that way of. It doesn't matter if you have experience or not, I take all ideas into consideration. I also have typed up letters to send to the film companies so they can review for film production. (link)
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I suggest having your own website, not just a myspace. It would be a good investment to have a place where readers can read a bio about you, info about your books, and maybe a blog where they can connect with you. As for advertising, maybe your publishers would help out there. That is partly their job. You could buy some web ads or offer to do signings and readings at local book stores. Word of mouth over the internet is powerful, so get a well known person to like your book and plug it on youtube or the radio.
And another tip, don't be too confident. You have to realize that after all of this vampire sucess with Stephenie Meyer there isn't room for another big series that sounds so similar. I haven't read the books, but the summaries make it sound like a dark spin off. People are already tiring of this vampire mania, and you need something unique.
Things will fall into place if they are meant to be, just keep trying.
Good luck,
-Abby
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I am a plus size women in certain places. My breast are a size 42GG but I don't have very large shoulders. Everytime I try to wear a V neck sweater it never lays down on me nicely. It always creaps up around my neck and I am always pulling it down. I really don't understand why this is. I have tried to use velcro on my bras to hold down the shirts but it does not work. Can you please give me some advice for this problem? (link)
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Boob tape! It's like double sided tape but stronger and meant for fabric. Place it where you want your shirt to stay and stick it down against your chest. This should help it stay down. If it doesn't, your shirt may be too small/short for you.
http://www.desire4mo.com/boclta.html
Good luck,
-Abby
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So I'm having this goodbye sleepover party since I'm leaving and I was wondering what kind of stuff we could do and what food might be good? I already bought oreas, cheesecake, crackers and cheese, coke, chips and marshmellows? I'm more about the activities? I was thinking something fun where we could video tape us playing so I can remember it later on. Maybe something like a card game where you have to like get caked or something? Any ideas! Just anything fun and memorable that will make us all laugh! By the way there's four of us altogether. I don't really want to watch a movie because that's kind of boring. Please help! It's tomorrow! (link)
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Games:
Dirty minds
Twister
Get a hat and write facts on it about yourselves that you think no one else knows and you have to guess what belongs to each person
Jenga
Food:
Decorate cupcakes/cookies
Popcorn
Activities:
Tape yourselves singing christmas carols or just songs you guys love
Dancing
Re-enact all your funny moments together on film like a movie
Make your own beauty products with stuff you have around the house
http://www.ultimate-cosmetics.com/homemade-beauty-products.htm
Do girly stuff like painting nails, make overs, facials, etc.
You could put temporary dye in your hair (Loreal Color pulse is a good brand)so you'll deffinitely have something to remember the night by
Hope that helped,
-Abby
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How do you know you are save? what about judgment day, only god knows who goes to heavan, we only have a hope of eternal salvation (link)
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We, as people, all have different beliefs as to a after life, God, and a judgement day. What some people think is wrong others think is right. That means there is no set rules you should follow to be safe if and when judgement day comes. I don't think any specific rules need to be followed. Living a good life and living a bad life are two easily defined things, and if you can say that you respect God, the earth we live on, and the people around us, and try your best to be kind and compassionate, you will be saved.
-Abby
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so me and this guy have been talking for a few months now and he says that i never show that i like him. how can i show him that i like him? (link)
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Smile, be flirty, give him a hug when you see him, just something to show that you treat him differently then any other guy. But don't go TOO overboard, or he'll think your too clingy.
Good luck,
-Abby
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im a girl dating this girl and i broke up with her a few days ago because i felt i wanted something else. now we are back together. a guy asked me if we had broken up like he was interested in me today. then we talked later on the computer and he was like 'i think youre cute and i want to have some fun(sex) with you'. i had a little crush on him before today. ha and actually thought about having sex with him. we both dont like commitment much. he just broke off a long distance relationship. he wants to have a relationship with no strings attached? what sounds like a rational response to this situation? go out with him and dump the girl or does he sound like a decent guy? i find him very sexy so its very tempting for me. (link)
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It sounds like he isn't willing to date you, or ask you to be his girlfriend. So if you dump your girlfriend you will be completely single again. And if you fool around with him, you will probably end up being single again as well because your girlfriend most likely doesn't approve of being cheated on.
I think it doesn't seem like you like your girlfriend or care about her that much, otherwise you wouldn't have these strong thoughts of being with someone else. I think the fair and rational thing to do is break up with her so she isn't teased, lead on, or hurt. Then you can have no strings attatched fun and just let it be that.
-Abby
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Okay... This guy asked me out yesterday... But he is a Coulerd and i am white. I really like him alot but he broke my heart a few months ago. He aked me out and then told me 3 days later he has a gf. There have been other Boys but none of them took his place and as soon as they said they loved me i backed out. I am 14 and he is 16 and i know my parents wont be okay with it if they found out(the skincolour). No one knows about it yet but soon they will start finding out. I dont know what to do now. Last time the whole school was gossiping about me and i sort of got a bad name. My best friend is black and worried i get hurt again. We always have to be on the lookout but he doesnt care who knows or finds out and i do but im to scared to tell him that... i like him but i am not so sure i love him. He said that he lovez me. Sumhow i trust him but i saw some of the letters him and one of my friends wrote to each other and he said he likes me... alot and i have a talanted body. i Dont understand or really know him and he thinks im really shy but he doesnt even look at me when he talks to me. i like him but i dont love him but i dont think i wanna lose him without even trying to make it all work. I dunno what to do... i am a 14 year old girl from South Africa. HELP!!! (link)
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It sounds like you have a lot of things potentially standing between you, but if you really like him, they can be overcome.
First off, don't worry about people's opinions. Teenagers talk, and if you wanted to never be talked about you would probably live a boring life. It's not them who likes this guy, and it's not them who would feel bad if you stopped seeing him just to keep the gossip down.
I know racism is very real and probably more prevalent in South Africa then it is where I live. Hateful comments may come to you but if you really care about this guy, it won't matter so much. Do you like him enough to deal with that?
Parents are hard to deal with too. I would bring your guy over and introduce him as a friend (maybe with a few other people as well) and let them get used to the idea. They treat your black best friend with respect, right? The age difference might be a problem, so I wouldn't mention his age right away...of course don't lie but don't bring it up.
Now is this guy worth it to you? Does he treat you well? If he only into you for the physical part of a relationship? I think you should talk to him and tell him how you feel. You could say that it's going to be hard to get your family and friends used to the idea, but you'll do it because you really like him. Tell him about what's worrying you. Ask him if he feels the same. I think it's important to realize you two probably don't love each other yet; you are both young and haven't been together long enough to know that. Some girls do anything for a guy who says 'I love you' and it's not fair to them. Know that a loving relationship is equal: 50/50 give and take. If he isn't willing to do that then it may not be worth it.
You can always start the relationship slowly and see where it goes.
Good luck,
-Abby
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ok so i was watching tv the other day and there was the 'ab circle pro' and i was reading a few reviews online and the majority of them said that it was poor quality. does anyone here have one? what do you think of it.
and i was also looking at a thing on the internet that said if you stick a broom or something over your shoulders and turn your abs without moving your hips helps alot.
has anyone tried that and thought that it worked?
and lastly, what are some other types of workouts that are easy and work well to get toned abs.
sit ups hurt my back alot so i dont really want to be doing them. but i will if i have to.
thanks.
oh and next year i might be joining a trampolining club so that would work too wouldnt it? (link)
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I wouldn't buy into TV gimmicks, especially when a lot of the best ab exercises you can do without an equiptment.
Here's a list of the most effective ab exercises...
http://exercise.about.com/od/abs/ss/abexercises.htm
If you have fat on your stomach, you won't see any results no matter how many crunches you do. You need cardio to burn off the fat. Running, walking, dancing, just switch it up and have fun! Using a trampoline is deffinitely cardio.
A strong core is really important and it's great that you're ready to put in the effort.
Good luck,
-Abby
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ok, so my boyfriend's sister's wedding's coming up this saturday and i was invited spur of the moment so i figured i'd wear this dress that i just purchased not too long ago:
http://www.modcloth.com/store/ModCloth/Womens/A+Trace+of+Lace+Dress+in+Cobalt
but since i've never worn it before, i'm not really sure what hairstyle would go good with it. i tried googling it, but it was basically half were for up-dos and half were for something down, so that didn't really help. i have chestnut/auburn or whatever brown hair and it's chest level and it's naturally wavy, but it straightens out nice and then i have side-swept bangs that go to the right.
any advice, i'd appreciate it! (link)
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I think a low bun would look really sweet with your dress.
http://images.eonline.com/eol_images/MyStyle/20080129/425.pompeo.ellen.012908.jpg
or you could even leave your hair down with a low pony:
http://img2.timeinc.net/instyle/images/2007/galleries/071107_lohan_400X400.jpg
or a high bun
http://www.starlagazing.com/weddingbio/Updo.jpg
You can leave your hair wavy and have some pieces hanging down that will look great.
Have fun!
-Abby
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