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im a girl dating this girl and i broke up with her a few days ago because i felt i wanted something else. now we are back together. a guy asked me if we had broken up like he was interested in me today. then we talked later on the computer and he was like 'i think youre cute and i want to have some fun(sex) with you'. i had a little crush on him before today. ha and actually thought about having sex with him. we both dont like commitment much. he just broke off a long distance relationship. he wants to have a relationship with no strings attached? what sounds like a rational response to this situation? go out with him and dump the girl or does he sound like a decent guy? i find him very sexy so its very tempting for me.
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I disagree with Abby. Having feelings for other people is completely natural and does not mean that you don't care about your girlfriend. Talk to your girlfriend about it. Communication is always the best advice! Consider an alternative lifestyle to monogamy. I'm actually polyamorous, which means I have multiple (committed) loves, and although it can be difficult, it works because of the high level of communication it demands. Never cheat on someone... that will always hurt people, including yourself. If you cared enough to keep it a secret, you should care enough to talk about it before you make any mistakes.
On a different note, be careful with this guy. I wouldn't expect a relationship, in fact, I would expect to be objectified here. If you really think, after talking about it with your girlfriend and thinking about it yourself, that you can handle a sex-only, no-strings-attached sort of relationship, then go for it. Just be really careful, and use protection!
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You're asking us if you should make a mistake. It's clearly a mistake, and it clearly won't last, and it's pointless. But if you want to do that then sure. Go for it. We don't know you, we don't care if you get hurt by him. Which will happen.
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It sounds like he isn't willing to date you, or ask you to be his girlfriend. So if you dump your girlfriend you will be completely single again. And if you fool around with him, you will probably end up being single again as well because your girlfriend most likely doesn't approve of being cheated on.
I think it doesn't seem like you like your girlfriend or care about her that much, otherwise you wouldn't have these strong thoughts of being with someone else. I think the fair and rational thing to do is break up with her so she isn't teased, lead on, or hurt. Then you can have no strings attatched fun and just let it be that.
-Abby
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