Gender: Female
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Age: 22
Member Since: November 23, 2009
Answers: 5
Last Update: November 23, 2009
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Long story short
The boyfriend and i are sitting in our apartment hosting a small birthday party, about 6 people, drinking a pony keg being fairly quiet and just hanging out.
My room mates boyfriend (whom also lives there) decides he is going to invite 15 people over. They are very loud and obnoxiuos, i go out and tell them to shut the hell up. All of the sudden they all run to the parking lot get in a fight. Cops are called, everyone runs into the apartment. We are all minors so we lock the door and get down to be quiet. The police say "were going to bust down the door" (they can not) but this scares some dumb ass kid into hopping out the window. ALl the police jump in the window we get on the ground. They confiscate my marijuana, pipes and all that. But inorder to do this they had to dig through my closet. They were there for people, not bongs. They broke my closet doors, my bed supports, my organ. Turned the AC down to 55 witht the window wide open for my cats to jump out and a robber to come in. My roommates and I were all arrested got procuring possession and parafonelia. My father is getting me an amazing attorney, but id like to know what exactly i am facing here. i turn 19 in two weeks. (link)
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The polices' actions are completely illegal! Without a warrant, or due cause, i.e they actually see marijuana from the OUTSIDE easily, without having to search for it. Your lawyer, if he really is good, should know this. You legally should not get in trouble for the weed.
The cops should be prosecuted. I hope you succeed in your case! Also, I hope that you took lots of pics after everything happened.
You never have to let cops in with out a warrant. No matter what they say. They are taught how to manipulate you and scare you into letting them in. Just say "just a moment", put away anything illegal, and come out CLOSING THE DOOR behind you. Don't answer questions, just ask "is there a problem officer? most likely you will just face a noise violation, with an accompanying fine. Keep the topic there, and be polite.
(Our campus lawyer actually gave a lecture in one of my classes about this. We've had some police brutality issues in my town lately)
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okay so l recently split with my on and off boyfriend for over a year. he's my first love and so he's the only one l've ever had sex with. when he had an erection though, his penis would bend to the side, not a whole lot but it was a noticable amount. l have my period now and l've been realizing that when l put the tampon in, it hurts until its almost all the way in and i feel it like sort of pop in not straight but kind of crooked. is it possible that by having sex with him could have bent me inside? lf so, then could it be fixed by sex with another man who's not bent. lf someone could help me out l'd really appreciate it. thanks (link)
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Most guys end up having a little bit of a tilt when they have an erection. It can even change directions. Much of that has to do with the position that their penis was in before it became erect, i.e., how he "tucks" it.
I really doubt that this had any effect on your vagina. Vaginas conform during the time you are having sex to the guy's penis, but they aren't open holes. They are highly elastic, and its unlikely that you would hold a shape.
Its actually perfectly natural to have tampons go in at an angle. It's probably painful to a tampon in at first because you aren't accounting for that angle, whether its forwards, backwards, or tilted to the side.
Also, try downsizing the size of the tampons you are using, or get ones with a plastic applicator. Those should slide in much easier (=painfree). Or try pads.
If you notice that it is painful to have intercourse, perhaps you should see a gynecologist. If you are sexually active, this is a good idea anyways! If you don't know where to go, planned parenthood is usually a good place to start, since most clinics accept people of any age.
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So I've been having sex with my boyfriend and everything is fine. We have done missionary or just me on top, and there have been no issues.
But if we try a position from where he is coming from behind, it's extremely painful! I feel like he's pushing into the front of my belly [like a painful cramp]. No matter if we go slow, fast, nothing changes. It just hurts.
Any idea why??? (link)
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Sometimes during different parts of your cycle your cervix shifts around. It's happened to me...for a few days or so I feel like certain positions that facilitate deep penetration cause him to bang on my cervix. That's because my cervix is "hanging low" at that point. It gives me the same feeling you are describing.
Also, whenever you are "turned on" your cervix retracts up, lengthening your vagina. If you aren't turned on, or don't stay turned on during sex (I know it sounds silly, but it def happens!) then sex can get painful, as again, it can hurt to hit the cervix.
Do whatever positions feel best for you. No point in continuing with something painful! It may change in a few days.
If it is something that continues, please consider going to a gynecologist. You could have a cervical infection, or polyps, or something that only a gyn could see.
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im a girl dating this girl and i broke up with her a few days ago because i felt i wanted something else. now we are back together. a guy asked me if we had broken up like he was interested in me today. then we talked later on the computer and he was like 'i think youre cute and i want to have some fun(sex) with you'. i had a little crush on him before today. ha and actually thought about having sex with him. we both dont like commitment much. he just broke off a long distance relationship. he wants to have a relationship with no strings attached? what sounds like a rational response to this situation? go out with him and dump the girl or does he sound like a decent guy? i find him very sexy so its very tempting for me. (link)
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I disagree with Abby. Having feelings for other people is completely natural and does not mean that you don't care about your girlfriend. Talk to your girlfriend about it. Communication is always the best advice! Consider an alternative lifestyle to monogamy. I'm actually polyamorous, which means I have multiple (committed) loves, and although it can be difficult, it works because of the high level of communication it demands. Never cheat on someone... that will always hurt people, including yourself. If you cared enough to keep it a secret, you should care enough to talk about it before you make any mistakes.
On a different note, be careful with this guy. I wouldn't expect a relationship, in fact, I would expect to be objectified here. If you really think, after talking about it with your girlfriend and thinking about it yourself, that you can handle a sex-only, no-strings-attached sort of relationship, then go for it. Just be really careful, and use protection!
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i'm in highschool, and i've never had a boyfriend. i've never even really had anything close to a boyfriend, like a guy i'm dating or something. i've kissed 6 different guys, but i dont talk to any of them. i barely even have any guys friends. i feel like complete shit about myself every single day because i think i'm so ugly because i never have a guy, and my friends always do. i really don't think i'm ugly, i just have some acne right now. but my friends are gorgeous, every guy is in love with them, they all have had boyfriends/dated and i'm so sick of being the only one different. i'm the kind of girl who is a hopeless romantic and i'm soo into all that mushy stuff, and i'm the one who's never had anything close to it. yes i realize i'm very young and it doesn't matter right now, but i still can't help but feel like i've been waiting sooo long and i feel so alone. ALL i want is to alwyas have a guy to talk to/ be dating someone.but i NEVER have anyone. well, i've had like 2 guys i remotely talked to for a little, and i become OBSESSED with them because they're the only guys that have ever actually acted like they liked me just a little bit, so i became extremely attached even though there wasn't much going on. that's how pathetic i am. i cry myself to sleep every night and i always feel sad, especially when i'm around my friends and they get soo much boys attention and i don't. i really don't think i'm ugly, but i must be, because i don't get what else is wrong with me. i talk normally in front of guys and try to have a personality. but nooo. never even any guy FRIENDS. every second of the day i dream about the love of my life and finding him and falling in love and being sooo happy finally. even though i know it won't be soon. i would be happy just having a boyfriend even if we weren't in love, or always have a guy to talk to, or always having guys want me. thats ALL i want. and i know it sounds so needy and pathetic but i can't help it anymore, i realized that i'm obsessed with boys but i don't have any boys of my own and allll i want is boys boys boys. but i have 0. every day all i think of is trying to find ways to have boys like me and get guys attention. i would seriously be soooo happy if as many guys liked me that like my friends. i always think somethings wrong with me and its soo unfair. i feel so depressed and soemtimes i even drink a lot because i'm upset about never having a boy or being alone. what is wrong with me and what can i do to finally change this? it's my dream and goal to have a boy, even a boy to date and hang out with and talk too not even a completely full out boyfriend, although that would be even better.what can i do to finally get this and to stop being so depressed about it every second of my life? it's all i think about. and i'm soooo jealous when i see girls that have a boy that loves them, or even a boy to talk to. i hate this :( (link)
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What I have found is that relationships tend to happen when you least expect them to. Usually when you stop looking. It might be less any personal flaw, looks or personality or otherwise, and more just that you are too stressed out about it. You don't want to be desperate... no matter how bad you want a boy now, you really don't want the kind of boy that will take advantage of you being "easy" for them. You really don't... its highly damaging. I know from personal experience. As hard as it may be, just try to stop thinking about boys. Find things in your life that you like doing, that you enjoy. Sports, art, music, whatever. Get outdoors. You'll find that in the end, a person who is passionate about the things she likes to do, enjoys life, and is independent is the hottest kind of girl, and you'll get the best kind of guy when the time is right.
You have such a chance to get the most out of life!
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