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♥ My name is Kelly. I`m 17 years old. I live in a small town in Arizona. I`m a born and raised Christian. I love God, my family, and my friends. I have been through alot throughout my teenage years like from boyfriends, girl drama, loosing mediate family members, moving all the way across the country, starting new schools - making new friends! You can ask me ANYTHING and I will try my hardest to answer your questions. Please, don`t ask stupid questions because i will give you a stupid answer back. You can also email me at xstarbrightbabix@yahoo.com, IM me at xostarbrightbaby, Or my quote site. link is on the right module. =]

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my boyfriend is 3 years older than me!! our parents are okay with it
but is it really okay or baaaad having a boyfriend three years older than you??

no, age doesn`t matter. =) ♥

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I am a guy and have a really embassing question i dont want toask anyone i know and dont want to ask the doctor either but when i go pee it sometimes stings and when im done it seems to continue to dribble out of my penis for a while after . this ends up staining my undies. i am not sure why it continues to dribble for so long as well as stinging while i am peeing.

You should really see a doctor as soon as you can, it might be an infection. Sorry. ♥

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14/f.

Im a virgin and Im SCARED to death of sex. I know its silly because everyone does it, but Im afraid it will hurt. Just wondering, I masturbate and I know it makes you loose. So, does masturbating make the first time hurt less or affect it at all?

Depending on if you have popped your cherry yet, it might make you looser. Everyone is scared of loosing their virginity because of the pain and high chance of getting the consequences of getting a sexual disease or getting pregnant. Sometimes it will take a little while for your body to get used to sex and you may bleed even for the first few time. Stay a virgin, until your older and ready. ♥

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hey ok i got my period like umm about a year to a year and a half ago. i dont kno if that is necesarry to know but like now i have it again i got it last wednesday and today is Saturday. it has been really light where as i only need to wear like a really thin pad or whatever. but sometimes it comes out heavy for like an hour or something. now i was wondering like should i expect to have my period a little longer htan normal since its really light? or should i plan on it ending tomorrow like myne normally end?

You don`t know if it will end on time. But if your period always end at a certain time then it should end at that time. ♥

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So I started talking to my ex and we were getting along and we were just going to stay friends. Well, I see this guy I used to know he's a year and half older. He's a saufmore I'm an eigth grader. He hugs me and keeps flirting w/ me and hitting on me. He hints he wants to go out, but he's really perverted. I think I like him though. I don't know if I should go out with him, he's said some...umm bad stuff. My mom would kill me if she found out, but I'm not too worried, I'm not the goodie goodie type. I'm kinda afraid if I go out with him I'll do a lot more than I want. I mean one of the first things he asked me was how far I've gotten and what I'd say if he fingered me, and I said I dont really care {ik i'm so freaking stupid}. Now my ex asked me what I would say if he asked me out and I pretty much said yeah w/e no it's just bc you can't go out w/ this one girl and he said no she still wants togo out but nvm. Are all guys perverted at 15?? Is it ok? There aren't that many good guys that I really like. I mean he's nice and everything just really really perverted...please people my age answer this! I don't want mom's opinions sorry and all!

Sounds like he`s using you. yes, most guys can be perverted. No it`s not okay for a guy to be like that because once he gets what he wants he will leave you. Please don`t get into a relationship like that. I know you don`t want to be hearing this but it`s the honest truth and you will get hurt if you get involved. sorry. ♥

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hi,
i hav 3 friends that were my best lets say friend 1,2 and,3. i overheard them talkin about some one i assume is me. friend 1 said my name n then started whispering, friend 2 then said- i know with a dirty look and friend 3 kept on looking at me and then said- i don't like her either. i got upset and really really really really angry! i even start crying. my other friends were comforting me but im stressing over it, if i made a mistake because i stopped sitting next to them and talking to them.
about 2 days later(today) i was sitting next to friend 1(the closest) because i wasn't allowed to move and i passed her a note asking her wahat it was they didn't like about me and that i heard them talking about me. she just pushed it away . now i always hear them talking about me. it really hurts because i do care for friend 1 alot(not bothered too much about the 2 though).
they've started ignoring me completely.
i want to talk to them again but i don't want to
seem like a suck-up...help me please.
i kind of miss them...
yours stressingly
sad sad girl

They`re not your friends. They were talking about you and got caught by you. Now they are mad and embarrased. Give them time, they might apologize if not then find new friends. ♥

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how do you get rid of those yellow sweat stains on shirts?

Try stain stick. It usually works after awhile. ♥.

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14/f

I was watching the Tyra Banks show today and its about Teen Sex. They talked about something called Flyer parties but Ive never heard of that ever..what is it?

I`m pretty sure it`s flyers posted and handed out to people to go to a party. ♥

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Well I'm developing feelings for a girl, and I'm pretty sure she feels the same way. The problem is, she'll be moving off to college in a couple months. I don't really know what to do, I don't think I'm ready for a long distance relationship at this point in my life. Should I just go for it and make the most out of the time we have? I'm worried more about her feelings than my own.

20/m

Make the most out of your time. If you guys end up dating and having alot of feelings for eachother then go on to the long distance relationship. They are hard but have fun and good luck. ♥.

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Last night my boyfriend and I were laying on the couch and he was fingering me and we were having a lot of fun. We've been dating about 3 months now. Last night, he told me he wanted to have sex with me, but I explained to him that he should lose his virginity to someone he loves and to someone who is very special to him. Then he told me he loved me and that was the first time he's ever said it to me. After about 20 minutes of thinking and talking, I said I loved him back but I wasnt ready for sex. I know hes the one i've fell for the hardest and I do care about him and he's wonderful, but I'm scared im not really in love with him. I know he's serious about things and he'd never lie and he always says whats on his mind, so i know he does love me. How do I tell him that i dont know if we're in love or not?

If you have alot of feelings for him and you care alot about him then you do love him. If your not ready for a very serious relationship or having sex tell him you want to take things really slow and see later on if your ready. He should respect your decision to wait. He does love you, and he wants to go on to a physical relationship now. Just let him know how you feel, he should understand. ♥

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my the flabby bit of my vagina (i dont no the real name for it) is sort of split in 2 u can pull it apart sort of. Also its really dangly. I used to masterbate by rubbing my vagina on a bed post and it really felt like i was having sex. I am really ashamed of it and i dont do it anymore. could this of affected my vagina?? or maybe even affected the start of my period as i havnt started yet and im 13. And looking at me you would think i had. PLease help because im really worried.

I`m sure that normal; it`s called the clit. Masterbating will not cause your period to come or come earlier. Just be careful. Masterbation is normal. ♥

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hey im 13/f
k i wanna know how to keep my clothes from not shrinking when i wash/dry them. i buy like cute clothes and then like a month later they begin to like get a little smaller and its not becuz im growin if u have anything tell me.

Wash your clothes then hang dry your clothes buy a little rack at walmart or use hangers and hang your clothes up in the shower stall or somewhere where they can dry. =)

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13/f
okay well i want to get something done to my hair thats different because ryte now its just....normal its wavy and thick and long...and i hate it...so i was just wondering if any1 had any ideas that might look good?
thankss -rosemarie-

You can thin it out, or get some little layers because it makes your hair look thinner. You could also buy a straightner and see if you like it. Or dye it or throw in some highlights.

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i had sex with my best guy friend, and he has std's do i have it?!!!!?! help pleasee!!!!

You can; you probally haven`t started showing symptoms. You should go to the gyno. ♥

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Okay umm im 13/f and going into the 8th grade and ive never had a boyfriend while all my friends have. and this year there is an 8th grade dance that like a "everybodys gonna be there thing" im kinda shy around boys like to ask them out but not like just regular friends. its hard becase its embarrassing if someone asks you if youve ever had a bf and you say no. i really want a bf this year but i dont know if my parents will allow it. theyve never told me im not allowed to have a bf but i wouldnt go to them and be like guess what i have a bf cos theyd be like WHAT? but i think i can easily keep that away from them. can u just give me advice on what to do to get a bf or what to say to people when i dont or never had/have a bf. thanks

If you first met a guy you like, try a little conversation, introduce yourself. or have some friends introduce you to guys. Don`t push into a relationship right away. Talk to them become friends for awhile and take things slow. When the time comes and you feel like it`s ready to go on the next step ask him out or i`m sure he`ll ask you out! =) If you want decide if you want to bring up to your parents before or after you start dating, tell them you want to start dating or you met someone but you want to know if they can meet him or something like that. Also, if people ask you if you've had a boyfriend, tell them you haven't started dating and your not ready. They should understand. ♥ Have fun.

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Hey my name is Rachel and iam 17 years old and my family's moving and I was wondering what kind of theme would be good for a 17 year old's bedroom?

You can go with something like:
- Jungle look - get stuffed animals of animals i the jungle and pictures. Paint your walls different colors of shades. That`s what i`m doing for my room. =)
- Colorful- maybe one wall blue, another green, or pink.
- Grown-up - get a comforter set. Paint your walls like burgendy, darkish colors like purple or blue.
- or go to Walmart or something and see what they have for themes. ♥

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ok so here's my problem, I can't stop thinking about like death and when the world is going to end. Like, I always thinnk about what happens when you die..I mean like, do you become a ghost and stay a ghost forever and ever and ever, is your spirit just gone and like what happens? your just gone away and never return?!! and like the world ending. because like of the tsunami and then 9/11 and hurricane katrina. All those things were in the bible, and they happened!!I HATE IT! I always get scared when I think about it but I can't stop! Please someone tell me how to stop thinking like this!! Is it normal? Does it mean I'm crazy?! I want to stop!!

I do it all the time. I get scared knowing alot of things are really starting to happen to the world and that the end is near. But according to the bible Jesus will come back anytime, in one minute, an hour later, or tomorrow we don`t know. If you are religious and believe in God and Jesus your soul will go to heaven, it will live forever in God`s grace. Never fear death because it won`t hurt you, your soul will live on forever. Your not crazy, don`t think about it. Just live life to the fullest. ♥

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Question no. 1: Do any of you guys tend to compare your looks to your friends around you?

I do and I hate that. Because whenever I'm near a pretty friend, i'd start to feel like I'm very ugly because I dun look better than her. We have to admit that we do tend to compare people we see on the streets like for eg, this guy looks better than his friend beside him, etc.


OK case 2, there are 2 girls, one very good looking(A) and the other not so good looking(B). And the wierd thing is, there are cases in which people will not compare A and B and will actually see them as each having their own beauty, and both as pretty as the other.

Question no. 2: How do I get to the stage whereby people will not compare me and my friend and see me and my friend as each having our own form of beauty? Meaning to say, see both of us as equally attractive individuals?




Yes, i totally do it too. People just tend to judge other people by the way they look. I just ignore it because everyone is beautiful in their own way. If you guys dress alike, act like eachother, and do everything the same people will look at you like your the same. I`m not sure if your really want to be just like your friend, but don`t change your appearance to much or act just like her. That`s what makes friendships better because you look different and have different personalities. ♥

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hi i just have a question can u get pregnant by putting your vagina to a hot tub jet for like 5 minutes???????????????????????????????????????????????????? I hope not cause my friend did it and she is very scared. please write back.

hahaha. omg. =D ♥

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I'm 15 and there is this guy I've known forever (he's 16) because he used to go over to my cousin's house all the time and I would be there. I've always had a crush on him and just recently I've decided to do something about it. We went to his house and we were at his computer and he pulled me down onto his lap and put his arms around me, but then we had to go. Well, my best friend is friends with him too and she found out that he doesn't want to be anything more than friends. I just don't get it!! Does he like me or not, and if he doesn't then why does he lead me on?? I've tried talking to him, but he's never online and he doesn't really talk on the phone.

Your best friend might have said something to him. Maybe she feels that she will always feel like the 3rd wheel. He might like you, i`d try talking to him the next time you see him or even your best friend. Be honest with her ask her if she just doesn`t want you guys together. I don`t what else to really tell you, just wait till the next time you hang out with him and see what happens. Oh and i don`t think he`s leading you on. ♥

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