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i keep trying to make this boy jelous so he will like me more...sometimes i feel he doesnt like me even tho he really does. should i keep trying to make him jelous..help me out!! (link)
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Hi, jealousy is'nt exactly how you do it. If you like him, then my tip is, is that a guy prefers a girl to say that to him, than them saying it to you. Just tell him one of these days. He might be flattered. Daniel.
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see i have a big problem im good at talking to people about there problems and they like talking to me but im not really good at talking about my feelings when they get really badn i mean talking baout boys is ok and things like that. but i found out recently my friend has cancer and isnt going to be alive much longer this persons haveing a really hard time and it jurts me so much i think about this person everynight and i cry to myself at night the person kinda had a heart attack the other day adn i feel that its a warning that this person wont be with me much longer they thought about ending there life and there was nothing i could do i was up all night in tears afraid that when i woke up they wouldnt be there anymore and this person means so much to me and sure its hard to deal with loosing the person but i guess i just need to have faith but its tearing me up inside i hide it from everyone. i know its not good to keep this all inside becasue its takeing me over but its so hard to talk about ive only told one person about the least bit that the person only had cancer and i stopeed at that maybe im just afraid to open up and face that im going to be in a great deal of pain soon. i just need help to open up and to stop keeping it all inside i so much think of calling my friend and telling her everything but i stop and just think i need to open up im hurting so much inside becasue im holding this all in and i guess i dont want the person to see that becasue it will put them in so much more pain but plezz help me if u can i ll rate 5'd if good advice thanxs so much
and srry for the wrong periods and stuff but im typeing fast and trying to get this done without backing out thanxs so much in advance (link)
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Hi, this must be a very painful time for you. It's good that you know that you cant hide this in any longer, but its not that good that your going through this alone. Just try and share it out amongst others who care about you. Close friends and family are good. What you need to do is spend really good time with your friend. Just spend time with her, it does'nt have to be quiet time but just do something together everyday if possible. It might only be a walk in the park. Try and make her laugh by being funny and sharing jokes and maybe watching stupid videos together. I know alot of silly videos that might make you both laugh such as, Austin Powers or Ali G. You've got to enjoy the time you have left with her, while you still have it. Tell her your feelings. Just because shes got cancer does'nt mean that you can't share your feelings with one another. If you show her what a great friend you are. Then your a golden star. You are a really nice person. Just imagine what a friend you are being to her. Please don't hesitate to ask me for more advice. I hope Ive given you what you wanted to hear. Daniel.
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what's a good way to keep your breath smelling fresh and oderless all day long? do listerine strips work well? i know that minty sweet gums don't.. so if anyone has any input,,please tell me!! thanks a bunch! (link)
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Hi there, maybe brush your teeth with listerine toothpaste twice a day and with listerine mouth wash. It might not do it for the whole day, but your breath should'nt like really smell either. Hope it helps. Daniel.
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Whats dry sex? I saw a question on here about it, and I wondered what it was? (link)
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Hi, Dry-Sex is, Sexual practise of minimizing vaginal secret by using intravaginal dessicants by wiping out the vagina or before other methods during intercourse. Is supposed to generate extra sensation for men during intercourse but is often uncomfortable for the woman. Its basically "dry humping" for pleasure. Hope Ive helped you. Daniel.
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I'm friends with benefits with this guy. I used to have a crush on him.
We agreed to just be friends with benefits.
We don't hang out alot and fullfill the friends with benefits but lately he's been calling alot just to talk and stuff. He comes over every now and again and we just talk.
He has never called me for a booty call. But lately there has been alot of chemistry going on between us, alot of flirting and such.
We aren't really friends (as in normal friends you know) so it confuses me as to why he calls so much to just talk. I know what friends with benefits is, and that's not what we are. I'm not sure what to do? He sends mixed signles. What is going on with us (link)
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Hi, I think he might have a crush on you. He might like you to be his girlfriend but is finding it difficult to communicate it so hes using body language. Signs of if hes interested in you:
1. Flirts and gives body language alot
2. Wants to be closer to you more than ever
3. Strokes something like his hair or a pen when talking to you
4. Face goes red and gets emmbarressed
5. Erect penis (don't look down there though!)
He might want more than friendship. If he does have a crush on you, then hes probaly going through a ruff time. He might be shy on asking you out. From what you've told me it sounds as though he really likes you. But Im not 100% show. Keep looking out for signs. Daniel.
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So this weekend I have a hockey tournament and Im playing 6 games in 2 days. But thats not the problem. It takes 1 hour to play a hockey game and I will be playing 2 games with only 10 minutes of down time. Yeah, and its tiring to play! I'm going to do this 3 times--- 2 games on friday, 4 on sunday with 10-20 minutes of downtime between each pair. OK. thats not making sence. But all I know is that my coach told me to get energy drinks. Which are really good ones that work pretty fast, like within 1 hour or so? I'll RATE!
Thanks
Cat (link)
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Hi, two common energy drinks would be, Red Bull and V. They both are suppose to have energy in them. See how them go. Daniel.
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I used to be more of the popular type, I was always out with friends. But latley, I can barely name 5 or 6 friends that I'm actually friends with still! All of my old friends went like .. emo, I'm sad to label them, but I can't hang out with them anymore, cause they just won't give me a chance. When I became captain of the cheerleading squad, they shut me out. I can't find anyone else at my school, who I can go shopping with, and just be true buddies. Please help, I'm so lonley! (link)
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Hi, they don't sound like they want to be friends anymore. There are loads of ways to make friends though. Here are some examples:
1. Group, sport, interest
2. School
3. Online
4. Party
The hardest part about friendships is starting a conversation with them. Just get involve in any groups and what have you, and see how it goes. You might make a dozen of friends. Daniel.
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I used to be good friends with Nick and Eric, but then Nick got into drugs and smoking, Eric started drinking, and they both began having sex with girls. Eric is only 13, and Nick is 12. ( I`m 13) I stopped hanging out with them because they're only around girls to get in their pants, and their so bad. Well, my best friend doesn't realize thats what theyre doing. They even tell her they only like her cause she's got a massive butt but she doesn`t listen. I don't want her to turn out like them, HELP! (link)
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Hi, your friend has a choice:
a) Listen to your advice
b) Go ahead with her decision
All you can do is give her some advice on what you think. All you can do to be honest is just tell her your point of veiw and make sure that she keeps safe, as a friend. I think 12 and 13 is a little to young for them 2 to be having sex, would'nt you agree? You have common sense because drugs and alchohol don't mix with sex. If drugs and what have you get too serious e.g voilence, then they could get into trouble with the law. Well done, good on you for seeing what was there in front of you. However it is up to your friend to decide who shes going to be friends with. All you can do is give her your opinion and be there when she needs you. Thats what real friends do. Get back to me if you like. Daniel.
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ok so im your tipical f/14. i have kissed a guy and all that good stuff but im not a slut. i kept some notes from recent years that i didnt want anyone to see. well i keep them in a box thats ALWAYS locked. one day i left it open and i went to school. my mom went in the room that was it and read EVERY SINGLE NOTE. now she has gone to far. shes done stuff like this before but not this bad. im about to either run away or just block her out of my life. shes pissed at me for not talking to her about "stuff" and im pissed at her for going through my "stuff" no matter what in my opion she should have never looked at any of the stuff it had nothing to do with her. shes made me so upset, i cried and my blood pressure is so high my face is as red as a tomato and has been like this for about 2 hours. i cant eat im so upset. i dont know what to do but this stuff is getting old FAST!
HELP before i go insane... (link)
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Hi, parents can be so annoying sometimes, I know. They invade our privacy and can look at things that hav'nt much to do with them. Just tell her that you would'nt mind a little more privacy around your things. She probaly wants to know that your O.K and not doing anything stupid. This is a very common situation for teens, PRIVACY. She will probaly always look out for you no matter what age you are. You need to let her know how you feel, and how much its upsetting you. Remember things like, boyfriends, and your love life and circle of friends is your buisness. But your parents might want to have a big say in your life until you are considered grown up to them e.g 18, 20, 21. Tell them how it makes you feel. Honesty is the best word. Daniel.
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my boyfriend and i have been going out for 2 months so far. And i really like him and all but hes like wierdly obbsessed? Idk. So he goes back to his hometown at the end of summer but hes staying depending on if things work out with me!
help me?! (link)
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Hi, I assume you mean he is weirdly obbsessed with you. Sometimes guys are like that. They think that theres nothing more in life but to have a girlfriend. Remember that you've only been going out for 2 months so don't rush into things. Do you want to give it a real go with this guy? Just be careful with this guy, I may be wrong, but some guys stay around girls just for the fun. If you know what I mean. Just see how things work out. Daniel.
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14/f here.
ok here is the deal. one of my stepmoms employes has a really cute son. the problem is he is 16. we hang out in 4-h and when he comes over to my dads house, but thats just about it. i really like him too. i really want to go out with him. WHAT SHOULD I DO?
p.s. the kid i likes little brother is in my grade and we arent exactly friends... would it be weird if i started to date his older brother (link)
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Hi, just ask him out on a date. Get him with you in a quiet place and say something like "Will, the thing is right, will I don't quite know how to put it, but, I like you, and would you like to go on a date?" You would have to do it when your in a conversation with him and slowly. Remember this, you have the right to date who ever you like.
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alright so im (15/f) and all of my friends have done stuff with boys. i havent. is that wierd? i think im just scared because once i find someone i really like i dont wanna be like hey yeah i dont know what the heck im doing! lol soo what should i do. (link)
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Hi, it is definately not weird. It proves that you have more self-control and you will meet someone perhaps one day that you would like to have sex with eachother. Have sex when:
a) You feel ready
b) Its the right time, right place situation
c) When you've sorted out contraception
Don't let anyone push you into sex. Having sex with the wrong person can be a bad experience. There are different types of sex, for example:
Intercourse: When the male shoves the erect penis into the females vagina and moves back and fourth till you both get pleasure.
Oral: Which includes, licking, sucking and kissing each others genitals for pleasure.
Sex should be done in a quiet place, were you both can't be disturbed. Of course not outside.
Just do it when your ready. Look out for the age of consent law in your state/country. Hope that helps. Daniel.
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If it is you and your partners first time having sex ever, is it even possible for one of you to get an std from the partner? (link)
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Hi, its only possible if:
a) His/her mother had an STD
b) If you don't use a condom and your partner has been with other males/females doing it
c) If you have been messing around with contraception
If you don't use a condom you could get things like, Genital Warts or other things like Gonhohea
(don't think I spelt it properly) and a sore vagina or penis when you wee. If it's your first time, then things should be alright. Use a condom though. Daniel.
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When ever my boyfriend and I become "mutually excited", I get really into it for the first hour to 45 minutes but then I just lose interest. This has happened with all of my previous boyfriends. The reason I ask now is that my sudden change in enthusiasm seems to upset my current partner, and I really care about him. What can I do to keep myself from losing interest (this happens no matter how much pleasure i am in)? what is wrong with me?
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Hi, maybe your not that ready yet. Some people just can't get excited were as others get excited even if they see someones bum. Try something new each time you meet. Is there anything that really turns you on? If there is then you can tell him what it is that turns you on, and try and relax. Maybe your just a wee bit tense and not opening yourself up to him. Discuss it with a Counsellor or someone you trust. Maybe your Boyfriend is a good person to talk to about it. Maybe if you would like, try and get a bit more active in your sex-drive. Like I said before, what turns you on? Answer that question, then discuss it with your Boyfriend. You can't go wrong. Good luck. Daniel.
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I'm 14/f and i'm getting my belly button peirced tom.
I really love to work out my abs so i was wondering after i get this done am i still going to able to? and if so how long after should I star again?
Thanks,
Becca (link)
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Hi, your tummy is going to feel a wee bit sore I should think. Give it a week and see how that goes. Daniel.
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What is the age that guys usually bring their girlfriends to their house to like, meet their parents and have dinner and stuff? (link)
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Hi, there is no right or wrong age. Only when you 2 feel ready. Maybe when your relationship gets a bit more serious. Daniel.
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tonight, my boyfriend invited me over to his house to watch king kong with him. we`ve been together for about 2 months now, and we`ve done everything up to making out. the last time we did, he bit my tongue and it bled. but, that was his first time making out, so i just shook it off. but tonight, i think we will again. so my main problem is, what are some good ways to make out for beginners? (link)
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Hi, heres a list of things you can do. Remember to check it out with him of course.
1. Hugging and cuddling
2. Kissing around each other
3. Stroke each others hair
4. French kiss (exploring each others mouth)
5. Just lie next to each other, maybe kiss
Them are optionnable but are quite popular with others. Give it a try. You might both enjoy it better with more practise. Daniel.
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ok so long story short i go to this party and i met a girl and i thought we were just friends until she started kissing me and i never knew i was bi or gay until this happened now i like girls and i find it weird did she turn me bi or was i already like that ???
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Hi, how do you feel? Do you feel more attractive to girls, than boys? Or are you neutral? The answer is, is that you are only gay if you WANT to be bi. This is your decision. No one elses. If you feel very strong to the girls, and might be very sexual towards them e.g Intercourse, making love. Then you are probaly are bi. The question is, do you want to be bi? Think about it in your own time. This is 100% your decision, theres no right or wrong answer. Do you feel as though you want sexual pleasure with the girls?
If you answered yes to these questions, then you are likely to be bi. Don't sweat about it. Daniel.
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ok i like this girl and i find it werid because i never knew i was gay until this party but at the party she started to hit on my and i went along with it because i thought she was really cool but what i didn't know is that she had a girlfriend well later that night things happened and we both fault bad about her girlfriend so my heart broke a little but we deceide to keep this between her and i and obviously that didn't work because people found out some how. Then we started to hang out but everytime we hung out i started to like her more and more and she became to be on me more and more and everytime she would tell me that she's going to break up with her girlfriend but she doesn't and now i'm hurt inside because of all these lies i've tired everything from trying to ignore her to trying to talk it out with her nothing works ... what should i do ?
-From a broken hearted girl
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Hi, you really need to talk to this girl about how you feel. If you leave it to long, then you will feel even more worse about the situation. Tell her of course somewhere were its quiet and the conversation wont get over looked by anyone else. Get back to me if you like. Daniel.
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Does anyone know of any good websites for girls..
I already know-
myjellybean.com
seventeen.com
beinggirl.com
Thanks! I'll rate! (link)
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Hi, hmmmm I think I know one site thats good. Visit: www.smartgirl.org it has things on, will you know, girl stuff. Look through google, type something like "girl websites". It might come up with a very good list. Hope that answers your question. Daniel.
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