Solemnstar's advice column

Hello. My name Is Solemnstar.
I'm a fifteen year old (assumed) male-to-female Transexual.
I want to help, plain and simple.
I like plain and simple, I like to catergorize people, ptu them into nice little boxes in my head.
and I LOVE figuring out the ones that don't fit.

Chatspeak annoys me, It takes an extra two seconds to type the real words.

I don't anwser advice as often as I should. Mainly because of School.

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my boyfriends birthday is coming up soon. Im completely broke and have no money. what cheap, extremely meaning present should i give him? his birthday is a week before valentines day. i was wondering if i could come up with a great present that could do for both ocassions..any ideas? please help me. thank you.

I like scavenger hunts find a gift like a teddy bear or something and set a date for him to come over then have the hunt i dont know how old you are but my stepdad did this when proposing to my mom and she loved it maybe include a flower at each spot

Hoping for your best
Solemnstar

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okay i believe in god but i guess i doubt it somtimes, i get scared of "what if there isnt one" and is there a heaven :/ i think i should go to church to build up more faith but then again i dont get how that could actually help... I really get upset over this, any suggestions?

I dont belive in heaven or god myself so i cant really help you but my family make me go to church and it seems to help them so by all means go for it

bored but caring
Solemnstar

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What do you do when you someone tells you the guy you like will never ike you should you give up?

Signed
Should I give up?

no you should not plain and simple the person that told you to give up is a bitch plain and simple

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ok well i want my crush to notice me so..i was thinking of changing my look..i need so advice on what you think i should do...i have big blue eyes,dark dark brown hair a little past my shoulders,curly hair,5'4,not that skinner(more towards the fat side),freckles,im white kind of tan, and i have natural tanner shading on my eye lids..if you need more tell me..but please help

you sound a lot like a girl im attracted to so i dont think changing your image is right.
but if you want to try goth that really gets attention

Confused and helping(hopefully)
Solemnstar

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Ok well I'm in junior high but i still have no friends and the 1st semester is almost over!! Well, I have one friend, my best friend,a.k.a. my soul sista. I couldnt survive with out her!!! So the years half over and nobody wants to be my friend. I'm on the track team, I go to the basketball games and dances, and i'm in the school choir. So you would think I'd be miss. likable, righttt? WRONG!!!!!But nobody wants to be my friend. I'm not a dork and nothing is wrong with me....they just dont like me. I want to swich classes, but now that i think of it, no one in the other classes like me either. I want to swich schools, but i think it would be a hard transition leaving my best friend. What should I do plz plz plz help me i'm in desperate need of guidance right now plz!!!!!!!!!

STOP MAKING FUN OF US DORKS WE ARE GOOD PEOPLE (if it wernt for the sinus congestion).joking but dorks are nice people some of my best friends are dorks.as for your question maybe you need to be less quiet or observitave and just try to be friends with every body that seems nice enough and does not have a bad rep.also i reccomend seeing how you soul-sista is doing in the friends department and try to be friends with her friends

troubled and sorry
Solemnstar

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This person Ive been thinking of constantly is becoming one of my best friends. I think I like him because when I'm with my friend hes all I think about and i get this weird feeling when I'm around him. Valentines Day is coming up. I think I'm going to ask him if he wants to go out with me the day before but I'm wondering...What do I do if he says no? I dont wanna look like a moron or start crying or anything..

Listen NAME WITHELD so what if you mess up the person will forgive you but i recommend not worrying about what happens if he regects you after all there is probably another person out there for you but just try your best with this one first ok

hoping i helped
Solemnstar

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See i like this kid hes mad nice funny mad cute .. u kno ,, he got it all .. but i am in a relationship .. and i dnt no what to do ? what should i do .. thank you ! xoO*

I depends.if you care about your relationship then ingnore the other person. if you dont then break up then go for the other guy.If you care for them both then try to become friends with the other guy

confused and unsure
Solemnstar

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Ok im sorry if this is long but here is my problem....I dont think im attractive i think i am over weight...I always think my friends are mad at me and at times i can be a bit immature...I havent had a real boyfriend only stupid 2 week things and i think its time for sumthing real but i dont know what to do..all of my close family lives in Rhode Island so i never get to see them and my parents fight constantly..This is not how a 16 year old deserves to live...i am so stressed and its affecting how i work and my grades in school..Some times i just go driving around to clear my head...half the times i feel myself crying....On some weekends i tell my parents i am going out with friends and i take the car and i sit in parking lots and cry becuase i dont want my parents to think i have no friends and all i do is sit at home...but i truly have no friends...i am caring but i guess thats not good enough for some people...Please i am in desperate need of help...I wanna stop crying myself to sleep and when i tell my parents i am going to hang out with friends i wanna mean it...I rate! Thanks bunches....

YOU HAVE NOT HAVE A BOYFRIEND FOR TWO STINKING WEEKS SO WHAT?HOW ABOUT US PEOPLE THAT ONLY HAD ONE GIRL(OR BOY) FRIEND AND IT WAS FORCED.as for advice you need some serious help sister go see the school qwack and get your parents to a counceller but by that piont it is always too late to repair the lost love(if it ever existed)

feeling sorry and sad
Solemnstar

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My friend is a horrible singer and he wants to be fameus and sing on american idol but he sucks really bad.. i dont know how to tell him

PLEASE HELP ME !

STOP MAKING FUN OF ME.its not my fault i was born with bad pipes
anywho if he sucks then buy earplugs and then let judges insult him there you dont have to listin to him AND he reilizes that he is a lousy singer(just in case thought keep yourself avalible)

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I asked this girl out once before and she turned me down for another guy, but she said that she really liked me she just wanted to see if there was anything between them. They just broke up recently. I still like her. Should i give it a try?

DUH DUH A THOUSAND TIMES DUH.if you still like her than go for it stupid(sorry)

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i've been best friends with my best friend for a long time now. but everyone says that i'm a follower. i don't really follow her we just sorta hang out. but it really does seem like we go whereever she wants to go.and never what i wanna do. should i tell her about what i think? i don't want her to get mad at me cause after this year i'm moving and switching schools. i just don't know how to deal with this problem. please help.

it seems to me like you 2 have next to nothing in common but if you want to remain friends you should tell her that you feel that she is more in control of the friendship and that you would like to go somewhere of your choosing for once if you dont want to remain friends you have 2 options. 1 is to just ignore her and to be a complete jerk(do not pick this one EVER)2 is to just say that your friendship is not working out and it should just end your choice not mine really but i think friendship is more important than what people think.

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I've been going out with this guy for 5 months and i love him and everything... but i think my ex is hot and sometimes i even dream about doing stuff with him (i've dreamed at least 4 times in the past month me and my ex either making out, or having sex) and i love talking to my ex even though i don't like him anymore and my boyfriend kind of gets mad when i talk to him.. but i don't want to end things with my boyfriend.. what should i do?

well if you dont want to hurt him but you dont like him then you should probably just ask to be friends after letting your relationship die down a little and when he starts to notices then tell him about that you dont want to be b/g friends anymore

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my mom keeps getting mad at me for wearing make up....all i wear is eyeshadow and eyeliner... once i wore mascara and she blew up... so i stop wearing mascara, and she was fine, she didnt care about me wearing make up anymore... as long as i just dont wear mascara... after a week my aunt came in and said i looked like a witch becuz of my make up... my mom got so mad that she yelled at me and threatened to kick me out of the house, and slapped me... what should i do? i need help, she can't even live up to her pride and stick up for me.... she thinks that if people think you look bad than you better do what ever you can to make them happy about your looks... i told her not to care what people think because its just plain stupid to be liked by some one that doesn't like your looks... people should care about your character and smartness but not looks... i mean i even get good grades at school and i think thats enough.

If your mom did that is'nt it child abuse you should probably report it to somebody.and you are right If you want to wear make-up then you should i mean its not really doing anything and who said witches are bad people

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