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Im a 15 year old and Im dating an older guy and I feel no connection. Can you give me examples on how to break up with him? PLEASE! thanks

Just tell him that you aren't feeling a connection with him and since you don't feel anything, you don't want to stay with him. Tell him there are plenty of other girls out there who, you're sure would want to go out with him, and who would feel a connection with him. Good luck!

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Hi my name is Jess im 13 years old and i like this kid who is 14 hes really hot and i love his personality. He likes me and i like him i asked him out and he said yes but he wants to get to know me better. so for the past 2 weeks be got to know eachother more and more. So now when i ask him to go out with me he smiles. What can i do to get him to say yes i really love him. Help

Maybe he's not quite ready to go out. Just concentrate on building a friendship with this guy. According to you, he already likes you, so thats a plus.

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Today this girl that I really don't like, but hang out with anyways, asked to see a note that my best friend had wrote me, that said stuff about her in it. ALOT of stuff. I said no because it was mine and she had no right seeing it, she took my purse dumped it out on the floor but I hid it in my desk, and then she randomly got into my desk and found it, I didn't want her to see it, and now I'm afraid my best friend's going to be mad at me, but I'm not sure because I really didn't do anything wrong, right?

No, you didn't do anything wrong. That girl had no right to invade your privacy like that. If it hasn't gone to your friend yet, my advice would be to tell her first, before the other girl goes up to her and confronts her about the things she wrote. Its always a possibility that your friend might think that you read the note, and then told the girl what she wrote about her. So you should tell her what happened and apologize that it got into her hands.

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ohkay, i hate my hair and im desprate to find a new look for it. I recently got highlights that need updating but my mom said i can only get it done every 6 months. so i still have maybe 3 months left. But my hair is maybe an inch or 2 below my shoulders.. for a picture.. go to http://advicenators.com/column.php?u=toXic%20x%20baBii%20x3 bottom line: what are good styles for my hair; if i get it cut.. should i do bangs, or something of that nature?

You have really cute hair! But yea, I think bangs would look cute (the side-swept kind). Or cutting your hair shoulder length with layers and side-swept bangs would be cute.

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ok well, i live in PA, and i was in new jeresy at six flags today. Anyway well i was on medusa and this kid kept staring at me while we were waiting in line. Then when we got off, my friend went the other way and i felt really sick. So i went over to a tree and dropped my stuffed animal i bought and started throwing up. So he came over even though i didnt know him and put his hand on my back and he was help my hair back and picked up my animal..and then when i was done i looked up at him and he was smiling at me. I said sorry, but its like, it's okay come here, and he took me over to where him and his friends were standing, and he sent his friend to go buy me something to settle my stomach.. then after thati left and eventually i was in line for nitro and him and his friends were like 5 people behind me and he came up and put his hand on my shoulder and he was like, are you gonna be able to handle this one? Then when we got off i was walking down the stairs and i was like stumbling and hes like, you okay there drunky? and we started laughing, and then we split up again and then later we went on this ride that sends you over the lake, and i ended up getting broken away from the people i was with and i had to sit with him, and the sun was setting and it was so pretty. But then anyway, we were leaving, and i said bye, and i had left my phone with him because i was afraid i would drop it in the lake, and i opened it and i was flipping through the numbers, and it said tony with a heart next to it and his number. Just wondering, what does this mean?

Aw, thats really sweet. You should call him sometime and thank him for helping you out that day you met him at Six Flags. I don't know if anything would happen between you two since you live a little far from eachother, but it wouldn't hurt to call. Let me know how it goes!

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I usually don't have much trouble with my love life but I honestly don't know what to do right now.

The beginning of this year, this guy in my Physics class, Mark, and I got really close. We were both falling for each other. Well, we kept getting mad at each other for stupid reason and we're both stubborn. So, stuff happened and we never dated.

About a month after we got over each other, he gets a girlfriend. This girl is one of my good friends. I was extremely happy for them because they make just about the cutest couple ever.

After they're one month, he and I started getting close again. We were still friend but we were starting to flirt and play around more (not sexually but like tickling each other and cute things like that). At first I thought it was harmless. It probably is harmless but he's starting to act like he did when we had a thing for each other. And well, I think my feeling for him might be coming back also.

I feel terrible because I am such good friends with his girlfriend and I'd never want to hurt her. I think she might have an idea about Mark and me because on Saturday, she tried to set me up with a friend of hers. We double dated but Mark and I were paying more attention to each other more than the other 2.

Any advice on what I should do?

Well, your friend and Mark are going out, so he's a bit off limits. Its cool to have a friend like that, that'll make you happy and laugh, but you have to draw the line, otherwise things will happen between you and your friend. I'm sorry. In the meantime, try to find another guy that has the same interests as you and maybe you two can hang out sometime. Maybe even with Mark and your friend.

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Okay...
I know this guy, and he flirts with everyone. We used to be pretty good friends until he became friends with this other guy who told my friend that I wasn't cool. However, lately, my friend has been talking to me more then he's been talking to his girlfriend. I can't tell if he likes my or not. He's always touching me, teasing me, and being so sarcastic (in a good way). Im a just a LItTlE BiT CoNfUsEd...PLEASE HELP ME! DO you think he likes me or not? I RATE HIGH!!
~*~Madison age 15/f

Maybe he likes you and maybe he's just a natural flirt. But he is taken and you shouldn't get in between them two. Just stay close by his side as a friend and don't cross the line.

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(13/f) im 160 pounds. I dont really look fat but i weigh a lot. Does anyone know how to lose maybe like 10 pounds in a week? what are some good foods to eat, certain excersizes.. and ill rate 5's to anyone who gives me a diet plan and excersize plan for the 7 days!!! 1's go to jerks!

10 lbs a week isn't safe, nor will you keep it off. The longer is takes to lose the weight=the harder is is to gain it all back. You should lose is slowly and safely. Here are some good tips: Cut back on junk--think like this, "Ice Cream? Do I really want it now? I can always have ice cream, it'll always be there when I want some". That'll help you to not eat things just because they're there. Eat when you're hungry, and eat healthy. Avoid the word "diet". As a former friend once told me "Going on a diet makes it seem like...once you lose the weight you want, you'll just go back to your poor eating habits. But eating healthy can last forever". When your mom goes shopping, go with her. And try to encourage her to substitute things for fat free or low fat items. Buy fruits and veggies, also. Another good tip my friend gave me was less food+more exercise=weight loss. So also, you should try to exercise about 45 minutes a day. Go walking, jogging, to the gym, swimming, whatever. Also, a great site to keep track of your weight and weight loss is http://www.toneteen.net. And for great recipes, tips, articles, charts, etc, go to http://www.toneteen.COM.

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