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Q: What kinda of sounds do you make when ur having sex or when ur gettin figered. like moaning but what can you say or are suppose to say.
P.S. ill rate too

It doesn't matter, everyone is different. Some people scream a lot, some people don't make any noise. You're not really "supposed" to say anything in specific. Just go with what feels natural.

Q: I like 2 guys and i dont know what to do because i dont know which one i like more! what should i do?

If you can't decide between them, then you don't love either of them. Be fair to them both and don't go out with either. It's normal to have multiple crushes, but really if you can't choose then just leave it the way it is...a crush.

Q: There is this guy and we always talk on the internet (AIM) and I always tell him to come up and talk to me at school, and he says okay he will and I say im gonna hold that up to him. When we are at school and I see him he never says anyting to me he just walks away. I wanna say somthing to him so bad about it but im shy too. I aways catch him looking at me what should I do?

talk to him, that's what I did when this happened to me we ended up dating for three years and we're still like, best friends.

Q: At a recent school dance, they had 2 grades there: 7th and 8th, and im in 8th grade. My friend billy was there (7th grade) and me and my friends were hanging out with him and his freidns who are also in 7th grade, a year younger than us. I was flirting like a tonnn with this one kid, steven, and it was really fun and he was being a flirt back..he's very nice and sweet, has adorable green eyes and is very cute. he's got a cute voice and cute hair and is my height too, which is a plus. Anyway, my boyfriend and i of 1 1/2 months just broke up and it was really hard for me. But at the dance, flirting and hanging out with steven made me realize how much fun that was you know? so like we became friends at the dance and then my friends and his friends were like hey i see a connection here! and they kept saying stuff so he asked me to dance and we danced together and talked and like...i really liked it. I felt comfortable with him, in his arms, and i just wanted to kiss him. It was really cool, but hes in 7th grade and im in 8th. People think it's weird to go out with a 7th grader when youre in 8th grade, and if you do, everybody talks about you and it alters your reputation. I don't really want people to think anything bad about me or get a bad rep from going out with a 7th grader. He's very cute and sweet and i think i really like him...but he's not "popular" but i cant see why..i'm confused on what to do..could someone please give me some advice? stay just friends or date him? Thanks!! and sorry it's so long!!

So what? That shouldn't matter at all. Anyway, when you get into high school there will be juniors with sophomores and seniors dating freshmen, it doesn't really matter. Don't worry about what they think.

Q: My ROOMATE is going through a seperation. She has a 4 year old daughter. From what I am told, There is to be no men around his daughter, and if there is, that could be grounds for him to take his daughter from my roomate,{He lives in another state} My question, If there is to be no men around his daughter and I live here to does that pertain to me also? I don't think it should seeing as how I am not part of there family. She takes care of her daughter, pays her half of the bills and I pay my half. Can me seeing my boyfriend at my house, with them living here be grounds for him to take his daughter from her? Also, what if she has a man here? Is her trying to rebuild her life and meet new people whom if she liked or got serious about one and wanted them to meet her daughter....Could her ex do anything about that too? ANOTHER THING, IS THAT EVEN LEGAL FOR HIM TO SAY THAT THERE CAN BE NO MEN AROUND HIS DAUGHTER? WHEN NOTHING HAS BEEN SIGNED STATING THAT?

THANKS, ILL RATE HIGHHHH

That doesn't sound legal to me, but I'm not a law student. But it sounds like something is very wrong here. If something happens, though, I'm sure your roomate can fight it in court. They usually take the woman's side. I mean, men are everywhere, so it's pretty impossible for her not to be around any unless you lock her up, which would be cruel. I certainly hope her daughter isn't taken away, and if something does happen just be there for her.

Q: hey, does anyone have any good ideas for a band name? theres like 4-5 s in it and all i thought of is "strength in scars" but it sounds kind of like my firends band so i dont think were gunna use it.. thanks so much [i'll give you credit or whatever if we do use it lol just give me your first name of somthing]

Third Estate, Nightwing.

Q: OK when i first learned about sex back in middle school...i said to myself "im waiting until marriage" right away. I want to wait..because i dont know if i can deal with the emotions..but then again i want to do it (not now..definately not ready) in the future..you know when i find a bf when im like 18 + ..probably more like in my 20's though. I dont know..i just cant picture myself only havving sex with one man..plus im only 15 and im so curious about it now..im scared that what if i dont get married til im 30? I dont know if i can wait 15 more years..it seems to distant. How do i know for sure if im going to wait? or if im not? Do any of you out there have premarital sex..or have done it with a few people? Was the emotion too much for you when you broke up ? Or a one night stand..was that too much for you? I'll rate 5's

It's okay to change your mind, you were very young when you made that promise and you're still young now, you have a lot of life ahead of you! There is no law that says you have to wait until marriage, you could simply wait until you are in a long term relationship with somebody. And it does depend on what you count as sex, like powertrash said. It's your choice and nobody is going to think any less of you for having sex before marriage. However, they probably will think less of you if you go out with a guy once, have sex with him, and get pregnant. Though it doesn't matter what other people think, be responsible and don't ruin your life with sex. Sex is a beautiful thing, but so are fire and knives.

Q: ok well,this is sorta a love life thing, but i dont know it has to do with singing. so i was alone after school in the gym and i was shooting hoops waiting for my boyfriend to pick me up and i didnt know my friend was behind me, so i started singing, and then i shot the ball and when it came back down and i got the rebound, i turned around and he was standing there, and i was like really embarrased, even though he said i was a terrific singer. the only person i can sing in front of is my boyfriend, who also says im a good singer. but i dont know, im really afraid to sing in front of people.

Don't worry about it. Atleast you can sing at all, many people can't. There is absolutely NOTHING for you to be embarassed about. Stagefright is normal, but you will get over this in a few days, it's really no big deal.

Q: ok the guy I'm crazy about is also a good friend of mine. And for the last week I've noticed he's been hanging around with B and I thought he liked her a lot. And today I saw him writing a note that and he was asking her out. Then after school I talked to him and said, "So did u give it to her?" and he said "yeah, but it's because I'm being forced into it." and so I asked him what was going on, and he told me that B's friend W has been driving him crazy trying to get him to go out with B, and he's sick of it so he asked her out and really only wants to be friends with B. (which made me really happy by the way... ) so my question is, what should I do now???

First tell W to get a life.

Then get B and your guy together and mediate a discussion between them, tell them to be honest with each other but not fight.

If W persists, tell him/her that he/she needs to get her own boyfriend or girlfriend and mind his/her business.

Q: Hi i love music. I was wandering what r some really good songs and cd's?

~please help!

~i rate!

Almost by Bowling for Soup. Anything by them is good.

Anything by David Bowie is good.

If you like Jpop, which you should if you love music, Gackt is good. I like his song "Papa lapped a pap lopped". It's beautiful.

Cat Stevens is awesome, I'm listening to him now.

Nirvana, of course. I like "Rape Me".

Q: How do you become confident

Just keep telling yourself that you are SUPER AWESOME and soon it will become true.

Q: hey everyone ok im gay for starters and i have been made fun of my whole life for it and now people at work are starting too and i think im going to kill myself so please talk to me.:(

Don't kill yourself! You are worth so much more than that! If you kill yourself, that's just proving to them exactly what they have been thinking, that you are worthless and don't deserve to live. Someone else said this and I agree, you should pity them. How horrible it must be to go your whole life trying to cover up your own insecurities by discriminating against other people? I can't imagine such a terrible existence.

Hang in there, and don't let them win! : )

Q: well i like this kid i hang out with, its totally obvious. when i go camping we hang out, theres like 8 of us, and like 5 boys, and i like the one. and well i was singing a song with this other kid, and he realllyy likes me, and well it was a romantic duet, and we kissed at the end, and the kid i like acted like he didnt know it was supposed to go down like that. it was really confusing. and just incase your wondering, we were singing because we do it for events over the week and stuff..

I don't understand the problem. Did he really not know? Was he upset? Does he like you, and he's jealous?

I'm sorry, I just need more information is all.

Q: I've been dating my boyfriend for about 9 months now (I'm 15/f) and things have been going great! We love eachother very much but lately he's been getting to protective of me. I'm sure many of you know what a "myspace" is, if not it's a site where you pretty much make/find friends. One of my friends that is a guy commented on almost all of my pictures telling me how beautiful I was and how lucky my boyfriend is to be dating me yadda yadda yadda. My boyfriend sees the comments and gets really mad because he said it's a "dick thing to do" for a guy to call another guys girlfriend "hot" and "sexy" and "beautiful". He said to me "I don't know what goes on in your school and I don't trust the guys there." So, now he's mad at me for not saying anything to the guys who were merely COMPLIMENTING me. I said to him that he should be happy that another guy is telling me that I'm pretty because you're the one that is dating me and you're the one who has my heart. He said that's not the point, he doesn't want other guys saying I'm pretty. He's driving me FREAKING INSANE! I don't know what to say to him! He's never been like this up until a few weeks ago! I can't convince him that there is nothing for him to worry about. What should I do? This is getting out of control.

He thinks you're his property. This is very common, I see girls in this situation all the time. They think it's "so sweet" that he gets jealous, but this is NOT a sign he cares. He wants to control you and doesn't want you to have any freedom, break up with him before it gets worse. And it will get worse, believe me. Best of luck! : )

In response to your comment: yes, I understand that, usually when a guy wants to control you that is how it starts, with him getting jealous when guys compliment you. Stay with him and it will get worse.

Q: Last summer I met a guy and we started dating. We broke up three times and I'm still not over him. I really love him and he doesn't feel the same. He changes his girl almost every week and I can't cope with it anymore. I can't get over him, I've tried but I can't. I don't know what to do about it, I love him so much.

He has a new girl every week? Wow, what a slut! He obviously has a lot of issues, too. It's hard but you really need to get over him, you don't deserve a guy like this. Trust me, there are plenty of other guys that are way better than him. It's possible you don't really "love" him, but are just lusting after him. Try doing some things that will help you be less obsessed, for example, play video games, have a party with your girl friends, go shopping, get your hair done, etc. Also, get a livejournal at www.livejournal.com

Q: I was wondering what skills and work experience, would be appealing to add in a resume, applying for a nurse position?

In our english class we are learning to write resumes and I realized that I don't have any accomplishment to brag so far, nor do I have any work experience! It is not common here in the Philippines to work before graduating from college (for the middle and upper class), but this summer I'm thinking of changing that (I think.).

If it's for school, just make stuff up. If it's for a nurse postition, say nursing school and first aid classes, experience as a lifeguard might also help.

Q: hi. i have a cold sore ..well sort of, thats kinda the story. i was scratching at it and i accidentally like..picked it off and now its just all pink. i really dont want it to scar! last time this happened i had a scar for a year and im really not sure what i should do. i dont really thing theres anything i can do about it but if anyone has any ideas please answer this!!!! i really dont want a scar when i go to our school dance next wk., and i really just..dont..want one someone help me please!

Bag balm. It comes in a green tin can and usually has a picture of a cow on it. It works really well.

Q: well im only 13 years old...and ive just recentaly lost my virginty to my boyfriend...and now that i did have sex with him he dosent call me that much or come and see me ....i think he might of just used me ...but im not sure??? what should i do?

Uh, yeah, he definitely used you. Forget about that slut.

Q: lets say me and my ex dated when we wre like 13 for 8 months then fought for a year then i moved cross county and hes talking to me nad im supposed to go back for a little while in 2 weeks do u think he still he wants sex or still has feelings or something like that

He probably feels guilty for fighting with you and he wants to be your friend.

Q: I was wondering what HIV AIDS are. Could you please tell me what it is.

HIV is a virus transmitted through blood, sexual intercourse, breast milk, or inheritance. AIDS is the disease sometimes caused by this virus, however if you have HIV it does not mean you have AIDS. What AIDS does is attack your immune system, so your body can't fight against what would be a normally harmless disease. Some people might say that you get this disease if you are gay, but that is not true. Anybody can get it very easily, and there is no cure. There is medication, but it does not cure the condition.

http://www.aidsonline.com should tell you more.

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