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Hello. My name Is Solemnstar.
I'm a fifteen year old (assumed) male-to-female Transexual.
I want to help, plain and simple.
I like plain and simple, I like to catergorize people, ptu them into nice little boxes in my head.
and I LOVE figuring out the ones that don't fit.

Chatspeak annoys me, It takes an extra two seconds to type the real words.


I don't anwser advice as often as I should. Mainly because of School.

advice

Okay. Well I like this guy but I have never met him. My friend has though. It's still weird though, likeing someone I have never met, but I really do like him. I dont know what i should do. Should I like him? Or am i just being weird? We talk alot. On the phone and on the internet. And its not like hes just some random person i know nothing about. He's friends with one of my good friends. It wouldnt be hard to go and meet him. But i just dont know if i should like him right now.

its possibel not weird at all its like meeting an AOL person you like it may be a Yes or a NO so dont worry much and go for it


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ok i have a best friend...that is a guy he is so awesome we get along so well...but i think i'm starting to like him...we have already talked about how it would be if we dated...that we don't want to ruin our friendship...i mean he did say that it would be cool if we dated we are just scared that things arn't going to work

but when girls sit there and say o i love you, your so hott...it really pisses me off he knows this becaouse i have told him...i just don't know what i should do about it...because i really want us to have something more...i'm just scared of our friendship

peopel will come and go so like 10 years from now if it does not work out you wont remember so go for rememberig his feelings as he may be still on the same lines as before.also most of those girls dont even know what hes like so ignore them but dont be rude

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I'm looking for some really great teen fictional books. Can anyone recommend some to me, or even if you can't, a great website that has a list of them? I'm looking for a book along the storyline of like love and romance.... but even if you have a book name that's not about that but it's a great book, thats good too! THANKS!!

i like the animorhs seires it has some romance its fiction and you can really belive the people exist but i reccomend starting with number1 as for romance i think that you should make one of those stories where you can put your name as the main charecters

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Ok, My friend she is sad and feels theres nothing left in life but friend's.See im trying to help her to see there is more in her life then that but she just dosn't understand.I try to talk to her but she just say's there no use because she knows this life of her's is pretty much true,but even though it pratcically is there has to be something that i can do to help her get over this sadness she has. and i just don't know what to do.plz help me to figure a way to make her happy again.

~SilentTears

did she break up with somebody recently?the problem may be(if that is true)that she is moping over something she cannot help but if not it may be depression from an eating disorder or something see if her family knows and see if that helps but you need to see who knows and help her regardless of the situation or she may hurt herself and others

Sorry for your friend
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okay so my boyfriend really want a picture of me that he can put in his room or carry in his wallet. well i have some pics around the house but i want ta get him a good one one from like a studio. would that b a good present for valetines? and then how much does that usually cost? if i cant afford it wut else could i do?

maybe make ca calender to give him with the pic a calender with your pic for each mounth

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they say theres somebody out there for every one but how do you know when you find that person and what if you never find that person?

you just know and not every body will it just depends

sorry if i did not help
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13-m---like on a regular day, what kind of manners do girls notice the most or expect to see. guys dont care but thats not the group im aimed at. (just like when ur doing regualr things not like in front of ur g/f)

KINDNESS pass her things help her out with life problems and give her help on homework

simple is best
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13-m What clothes should be worn on a regular day when ur trying to impress people.(im on a budget so no p diddy stuff.)

I wear a pair of jeans with a a sweater ( nice one like youd wear to church)if you go i have to but i dont enjoy it

hope that helped
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I've figured out that i am bi...but i am a christian..and i realize how wrong it is...and i hate myself for it...im trying to change myself.....but its hard for me to completely stop liking guys....but its so wrong...in the bible it says that doing stuff with another guy is an abomination..and they should be destroyed..that scares me..so i am trying to fight it off..i have a gf...and she's helping me thru it too...but my ? is...is it really wrong to be bi?..

why do you hate your self for what you are i have a bi friend but i do not care and no good and decent person should care you are you and thats all that matters i mean my parents are christan but i follow Magick

Saying the truth
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ok when ever someone asks me to do something i almost instantly forget it and they get get mad...what am i supposed to do?

maybe buy or make a braclet that you can write notes on (and erase them pf course so you can look at it to find put what you need to do

I have the same problem
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There is this guy that i really like. My friends tell me that he likes me too because of the way he acts towards me, and that its obvious that i like him, so i know he knows how i feel about him. But, i just want to come out and tell him how i feel about him, and i want to ask him how he feels about me so i know for sure...but im not sure how to do that with out making it all awkword and all...PLEASE HELP?

as faras ive been able to tell something like that is NEVER NOT awqard i think that just telling him the next time you are alone is best so you dont worry about other people hearing that often helps

hoping and willing
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I have liked a guy for a year now. And as we all know, Valentines day is coming up. My school is having a Sadie Hawkins Dance in honor of it. I really want to ask this guy but Im not sure how. Im so nervous...Im friends with him and some people say they think he likes me. But know one knows for sure. Please help. I rate high :) Thanks.

hey us guys normaly have to face uor doubts so should you so what if he says no its not like you will become the least popular person on earth or blow up or some other third thing.
so just ask and get it over with plain and simple

telling the obvios
Solemnstar(sorry about any spelling errors)

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okay there is this guy i really like, sam, i've liked him for a long time, yeah i told him, hes all like i like you alot but maybe we should star friends for now but who no's what can happen... well we are REALLY good friends now we talk all the time he always lylas which kills me!!!!!!!!!! it makes me sad anyway
valentines is coming up... well im not sure if i should get him anything... what do you think and if you think i should get him somthing what should it be?!?!? PLEASE HELp i rate high

first of all, DUH if you like him go for it silly person.also do not lose faith in what will happen i did and lost the chance to tell a girl how i felt so never EVER lose the chance at something really important

you should give him one of those personal teddy bears with a message or something that maens a lot to you both

i have always thought chocolates were way over done and jewelry can be expensive so personalized teddys are a great gift in my opinion

Hoping and helping
Solemnstar

p.s so wht if i used the same ending twice keep comments to yourself andie

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ok my best friend is dateing this guy that iu so totally had first and he kissed me and held my hand and then all of the suddenhe likes my best friend when i see them together i get so sad and she keeps on saying oh i will dump him and then she doesnt what should i do by lost and forgotten

that guy is a dirty rotten person you 2 were so close and he just goes with your best friend i say find someone else.also did your friend know about you 2 if she did shes just as bad if not oh well she did not know find another boy k

simple with stuff
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hi im really confused because me and my boyfriend got into this really big fight and its all because he thinks i like this other boy and i kinda do but i dont wanna hurt him by dumping him because i really like him two and theres these to other boys i also like so this makes four boys that i like i dont wanna like that many but i cant help it there all soooo hot i only want one tho what can i do to try to just like one boy???

ok im pretty sure i know who this is
First of all do not judge people by looks alone you may hurt our self. second if you are going out with him try to stay together and third do not cheat on him try not to even look at the others because that will really make your b/f feel bad and you will feel even more confused
bottom line do not date anyone else and try to forget about the other three

mean but true
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13-Male----everyone says im the nicest person in the entire school,(as in i get snacks for the bb games and i open doors and stuff),but still everyone is mean to me. they pretend to like me when im doing something nice but right after that its back to the mosters once again. and just to say this isn't one of those situations where uc an say, just igrone them. its about 50 something ppl.It might be that i was really wierd like 4 years ago but it hasnt helped. It's gotten so bad that I can't even try to get a g/f. help meeeeeeeee.

Same here dude. forget it the people are jerks and do not deserve your kindness so just find somebody that they pick on also and stand up for your self.If worse comes to worse DO NOT FIGHT thats even worse for your stich

see ya in the astral plains
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There's this kid named Brian, whos liked me since 2nd grade, and I've liked him since 5th grade. We're now in nineth grade. (freshmens) and There's this huge dance in April called Freshmen dance. He asked me to go with him, and I said yes, but he heard from my best friend Charles, that I was going with him, Of which I'm not. So Brian went and asked this 8th grader to the dance, and he PROMISED he'd take her. So now he's saying he'll break it off with her so he can go with me. I really don't know what to say. I'll feel bad for the 8th grader, but I really don't know. Should I stop him from breaking it off with the 8th grader? Or should I let him? Please help. Sry its so long!

first of all Brian promised and he will really dissapoint the 8th grader and why did your best friend say that to him if he knew(im guessing)that you were not going out with him i figure that Charles is jelous and that he likes you but for somebody to say that for that reason is just plain wrong and mean.UNDERSTATEMENT. maybe you should go alone to please the 8th grader and tellBrian thats it is o.k and you dont mind if he goes with her.but i think you should find out what Charles was thinking when he lied to brian

to sum up let brian go with the eigth grader and go find another date(thats probably best)but do not get upset if brian likes the 8th grader there are other guys right?Move on if thats happens

boring and cramped
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Theres a girl at my school that i realy like Im 13 and i asked her out about 3or4 monthes ago and she sayd "i dont want to ruin our frendship by going out so for now that a no"
i dont no wat to do should i ask her out again-does she even like me?-wat should i do?

sometimes you get caught up in the glitter of the reward, and lose sight of the risk-MR.feeny BOY MEETS WORLD

wise words to follow.if you get the reward you date a girl you like but you may lose your friendship you should savor what you have insted of seeking something that the other person affected will dislike

sorry for the truth
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OK guys please answer this.. girls u can help too...
for v-tines day i think im getting my bf...
sliky boxers... cologne... and maybe like a movie gift certificate?
is that totally stupid???
if so tell me... and also can you guys give me some ideas on somthing to get him!!
thanx in advance!!!!!!!!!
**Sammie**

in my opinion yes(sorry)it is kind of stupid I would prefer chocolates and some kind of horror movie(but thats just me) so a movie ticket is good i guess but he might think the cologne is because you think he stinks(stupid but some people do think that way.

not really helping but not on purpose
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I said yes to this guy when he asked me out. I felt bad for him that is y i said yes. My best friend sadi he would like litterly cry if i said no. So what the heck i said yes. I don't like him and i like someone else but we r going out. Is it okay to like someone else but go out w/ someone that u don't like more than a friend??
signed,
lost lovr

I dont think that is right but for the best intrest of the boy try and find somebody who does to make him feel better and explain that you went out with him because you felt sorry for him.this may seem wrong but it seems that you should not be going out with him when there may be somebody who does

concerned for your best intrests
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