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My name is Elly and I am 18 years old. I live in Michigan and I graduated High School in '07. I'm currently attending a great college, but I'm home for the summer. It's too nice outside to sit on the computer all day, so I might not be as active on here as I would like.I guess a good way to describe me is experienced. I've discovered a lot about life and I can't wait to discover more... while having fun at the same time of course! ...BUT, like everyone, I have experienced things in life that I rather wish I hadn't. And I also feel that those bad experiences qualify me to help others with this column.
I have been in a serious relationship for over two and a half years now. I personally know that love is a difficult thing to nurture. It takes a lot of work. Life is NOT a fairytale where two people can simply love each other and everything will just fall into place. It doesn't work like that in the real world.
People on Advicenators are starting to disappoint me. Everyone says "ooh I want to help! I've experienced EVERYTHING!" Yet, I can't tell you how many questions I see with answers like "you could have googled that" or "we're not going to do your homework" or "I'm so sick of 'wow does he like me?!' questions." I used to sort of be like that, but now I realize how hypocritical that is. If I know the answer to a question, I will answer to the best of my ability without making you feel stupid for asking it in the first place. Advicenators is going to turn into a pretty nasty place if people just keep brushing off questions like that.
Rate or don't rate. I really don't care. But don't give me a 1 just because I tell you something you don't want to hear. Go to your mom for advice if you want sugarcoated answers.
I can give excellent advice on:
relationships/sex
friendship
family issues
anything about animals (i worked at a vet for several years)
college
advice
I'm going to be going to high school from 8:45 to 1:00, starting August 27th. Then, I will be attending Cosmetology school from 5:30 to 9:30, starting September 4th. For an hour or more after high school I will be with my boyfriend and working on homework for both schools. I wont be attending either school on the weekends. I'm going to be waking up at 6 every other day to work out for an hour.
Will this eventually overload my body and cause me to become exhausted? I don't get stressed out very easily, so I'm not worried about my mental condition, just my physical.
I think you'll be fine as long as you eat healthy and don't skip meals just because you're too busy to eat. Also, make sure to catch up on sleep on the weekends. If you feel overly tired on some days, it would be a good idea to take a nap for 20-30 minutes. You won't need to work out every other day. Three times a week should be plenty to keep you in shape.
The most important thing is not to skip meals when you are overloaded with stuff to do. When having a busy schedule like yours, its easy to just not eat, or maybe pick up some fast food on the go. DON'T DO THAT! Make a point of carrying granola or fruit bars in your purse when you're on the run.
hi,i wana get a pack of condoms and the sex clinic is just down the road but its shame of asking for a pack..do sex clinics give them out?..what can i say to get a pack?..thank you
Just walk in and ask for a pack of condoms. They are there to help you, not judge you. I'm sure they're just happy that you want to be responsible about it.
hi 14/f :D
any of you out there, did you ever have long distance relationships that worked out in the end?
if so could you tell me your story? opinons or anything would be awsome :]
Currently, I am in a long-distance relationship. I am up at college right now and I had to leave my boyfriend behind. The reason I feel that our relationship can stay strong is because we have been together for two years. We keep in touch through webcams and we call each other at least once a day.
I think that as long as the relationship is strong by the time one of you moves, it should work out in the end through trust and keeping in touch.
Ok, I love my boyfriend to death, but there's one thing that really drives me crazy. Every so often he gets on this big self-pity kick, whining about how hard his life is. How his dad is never home because of his job... how his mom can never do things for him because she has to work so hard to run the family... how his parents can't afford to buy him things... how school is so difficult for him and he has to try sooo hard... wah, wah, wah! Yes, I know his life isn't perfect, but whose is? And trust me, he's NOT that bad off.
I try to be really sweet and sympathetic when he gets like this, because I know he just wants sympathy. But then he brings me into it and tries to make me feel guilty. He'll say I can't possibly understand how he feels, because MY dad is always home; MY mom does everything for me; MY parents buy me whatever I want; MY grades are good because I'm so much smarter than him. And then he'll get mad at me for some random thing and we'll end up in a big fight.
I hate this! I really do love him, because besides this problem, he's really an awesome boyfriend. But this is so irritating and stressful. I know I can't change him... so how should I handle it when he gets like this?
Whenever he points out something bad in his life, remind him about something positive. For example, when he whines about his dad not being home, remind him that he is fortunate to have a father at all. Remind him that it is totally unfair (and uncalled for) for him to compare his life to yours. Everyone has different blessings. You cannot choose the gifts you are given in life. Instead of whining about the things he doesn't have, remind him to be thankful for the things he does.
Point out to him that the more he complains about his life, the worse things will seem. But if he looks at the positive side, he'll be much happier.
I'm wondering if maybe he is having other problems in his life. Perhaps he had a bad day at school and that caused him to be stressed out, thus causing him to complain more. Whenever he whines about his parents or school, ask kindly if there is anything else bothering him that might have caused him to think negatively all of a sudden.
Okaymy ahir is curly puffy and frizzy. Wha can I put in my ahir that will get rid of that in one night? Or by the 28th if I but it tuesdya or something? I want like a conditioner or a creame that I can put in my ahir and immediatly u can see the diffrence. I need this done by school.
Something I can get at walmart cheep/
You need some kind of silk serum to do the trick. The best stuff out there (that I have tried) is Biosilk and you can get it at most salons for around $30. A similar product that works just as well is Silk Drops and you can get it at places like CVS for about $7. Both will greatly reduce frizz. Apply the serum while your hair is wet and then style as usual.
I have a hard time inserting a tampon. I'm 14/F and I have a slim body. My mom bought me Slimfits but I only manage to get half of it in. Swimming is about to start and I will need to wear a tampon during my period. I was about be able to do it further a 6 months ago but now I have a hard time doing it! Plus, I have horrible cramps on my first period so I avoid trying to insert a tampon. What can I do?
It's possible that your body is tense while you are trying to insert the tampon. If you are inserting in correctly, you should just barely be able to feel it sliding in. It's important to remain relaxed while trying to put a tampon in. Maybe it would be easier for you to put in if you had one leg up on the counter and one of the ground so you have more room. Something else that might work is putting a little lube on the tampon. That should help it slide in no problem.
17/f
I was dating my boyfriend for about a year and half when he cheated on me. He didn't just kiss another girl or hang out with her but he had sex with her at a party after we had had a fight. He didn't even tell me and i had to find out from the girl herself. She didn't even know i was hius girlfriend and she asked me to give him his ring back.( the ring was a promise ring we gave to eachother awhile ago) up until this happened i thought i could spend the rest of my life with him. I haven't talked to him since but he is always with my brothers. I just don't know if he went so far that i should throw away everything we had. Where is the line of going to far to be forgiven? Do i just give up and say let's be friends?
I think it would be best to hear his side of the story. Don't tell him what you know, just ask if he would (or did) ever cheat on you. Give him a chance to be honest. If he lies to you, which he most likely will, it would most definitely be a good idea to consider maybe taking a break in your relationship. If your fights cause him to do such drastic things, your relationship won't last very long anyway.
Talk to him about it. Stay calm. Things will work out in the end.
15/f
so about 2 weeks ago I saw a dog walking down the street at about 2:30 in the morning. I went over to see her, and realized that she was REALLY REALLY skinny. So me my mom and dad gave her a bunch of food and water, she ate and drank it all. The next day the Animal Protective league Came to get her to give her any medication ect. she needed to get her better. They said she was 2years old and had been on the streets for a while. They also said she was an abused dog. They could tell by the way she was acting around people. But she is a VERY sweet dog. They told us she was a mix between a Coon dog and a Basset hound.
They said that we could be her ( my dad named her sara) foster family, meaning we can have her at our house to take care of her until they find a pernament home for her (i hope we adopt her), so we are her foster family now.
At first Sara went to the door when she had go to the bathroom. But yesterday she went pea on my carpet in my room,I knew it was her because I caught her doing it, then she bolted out of the room. I thought, "well maybe one of the other dogs that we have went the a long time ago and we didn't clean it up well enough". I said "NOOOO" really sternly to her a couple of times and showed her it by putting her nose close to it so she would know what she did. So, after I showed her it, I held her face up to mine and said, "NOO" sternly to her, I could see the fear in her eyes. I did NOT hit her. I thought she was potty trained .... the first 5 days went so well she was getting along with the other dogs and was starting to come out of her shell, she was playing and was always happy to see us.
So today it was raining in the morning and Sara REFUSED to get wet, so we had to wait till later to take her out. My dad did when it stopped raining but Sara still didn't go. He told me to take her out later. So I cooked some speghetti and ate. When I came down for about the 10th time between eating and cooking to check on her I smelled something, and it smelled like poop. I went in my room and there it was. I got Sara and did the same thing to her that i did when she went pea in my room. I cleaned it up and took her outside. She went pea. Then she decieded to go upsairs for the first time. Which if OK. Well I had just got done taking her out and she pead on the carpet upstairs!!!! I did the same thing agian, like I had done when she went in my room.
I did NOT tell my mom she has done all this either.
So is Sara going to hate me now, because she was abused, but I had to teach her that she can't go in the house. Otherwise my mom will send her back to the Animal Protection League. And I REALLY love her. (I'm an animal lover). Is Sara not going to be excited to see me anymore? Is she going to be afaid of me? I didn't hit her, so will she be ok? I want her to love me!?!
Please help...thank you SOOO much!!!
Just remember that your dog is in a new and strange place and she will act strange for awhile until she can get used to her new surroundings. There was nothing wrong with the way you punished her, just make sure that you only punish her when you actually catch her in the act. If you find the pee later and then punish her, she won't understand.
Also make sure to give her lots of praise when she does go outside where she is supposed to.
I'm sure that she will get over this habit, it might just take some time. Try and be patient, and maybe take her outside more often than you normally would to help her get used to it.
I don't think she will hate you at all. She's still learning about you and your family and she probably just isn't sure about you yet. Just give it time.
Just a tip, if you really want her to like you, make sure you're the one that feeds her everyday and she'll love you. :)
I have a 2 1/2 year old wire fox terrier.
Lately he's been scratching his face a lot, especially around his eyes and snout, until the skin turns red and sometimes starts to bleed. I have no idea why he does this or what to do to make him stop. He doesn't have fleas and it's not allergies because hes received allergy shots, and also takes allergy pills once a week. My mom thought it could be that his hair was getting too long, but we took him for a haircut and he still does it. Does anyone have an idea why he does this?
It could be a large number of things. Dry skin, bug bites, a rash, etc. I highly recommend taking him to the vet and getting it checked out. I also suggest in getting an e-collar for him to prevent him from scratching anymore.
any ideas ??!
I'm assuming you're talking about a college application essay. If not, disregard my answer.
Whenever you write an essay for a college, regardless of what it's about, it needs to have the following things: a wide range of vocabulary, correct grammar, no spelling errors, no contractions, in a five paragraph essay format (if you don't know what that is just ask), and of course something to keep the reader interested.
Colleges love it when you go on and on about how wonderful you think you school is and the ways the school will help you achieve their goals. While they're reading your essay, they're thinking "It's great you want to be a doctor, but why choose this school?"
Choose a topic that reflects a life-changing moment you've had or maybe write about why you want to do whatever it is you want to do. Write about how working towards your education at that particular college will help achieve your goals and dreams. Let's say you want to be a vet, then write an essay about that time you saw a dog with a broken leg and you wanted to be able to help it sooooo bad.
Really any topic will do as long as the essay is written well. Keep that in mind and you'll do fine.
Last time I was on here I asked a sex question and the Admin told me I couldn't ask it on this forum. Because of that I'm not sure if I will get an answer to this question but I need to ask anyway. I've no where else to turn.
I'm a 17/m and because of recent events I am at the crossroads of a potentially life changing decision. I'm a virgin. I've never been kissed or even so much as held hands. I've been on one date my whole life but I don't really count it because the girl didn't like me at all. I am an only child and live alone with my mother and father. I don't have many friends because I live in a small town and don't go to school or have a job (long story). I really never meet any girls for the same reason, but hopefully that will change when I start college in the winter. Anyway, my parents are leaving town in a few weeks and I have $200 in my bank account. I have been thinking of using this opportunity to hire and escort. I can't stand being a virgin anymore because I feel like a complete loser, but if the only sex I've ever had would be paid for I wouldn't exactly feel like the coolest guy ever either. I don't know what to do. Please help.
I wouldn't do that. Sure you might lose your virginity, but think about the diseases those "escorts" carry. Since you've waited so long for sex, what will a little while longer hurt? Wouldn't you want your first time to be with something you actually knew and cared about?
Your virginity is NOT something to be ashamed of. You will meet a lot of new people in college and you just might meet a girl you really like. I really feel that if you lose your virginity to an escort, you will regret it for the rest of your life.
There is no right or wrong way to lose your virginity. Obviously the choice is yours and yours alone. You just need to decide if sex means anything to you or if you're willing to waste it on a person you've never met before in your life.
What is the best shampoo and conditioner for these features
I want-
No frizz
Flat hair
shiny hair
smooth hair
smells good
repairs damage
any good shampoo's and conditioner that control these??
Oh and another question- Is it good to use 1 specific controlling brand for shampoo and then another brand for condtioner?? for example
Sunsilk de-frizz as shampoo and then Herbal Essences Dehydration conditioner??
is that healthy or good? thank you for your time
The Dove shampoo and conditioner for damaged hair is absolutely WONDERFUL. It smells good and it really helps repair damage. Mane and Tail shampoos and conditioners are good for your hair because they have lots of protein. Pantene Pro-V's smooth and sleek shampoos and conditioners work great as well.
For no frizz, smoothness, and shine, you need some type of silk serum. The best kind out there is biosilk. It's like a clear semi-thick liquid and it's awesome. It can get expensive, so you could also try Silk Drops (the brand name is Special Effects). It's cheaper and you can get it at places like CVS or Walgreens. Just make sure to only use it on the ends of your hair. If you put it on the scalp, it will be greasy.
I wouldn't suggest mixing different types of shampoo and conditioners just because they work best when using the same brands together. Instead of relying on just the shampoo and conditioner to do all that stuff for your hair, remember to use a good product too (like the silk serum) and it will look beautiful.
ok...So I'm getting ready to turn 18...August 14th to be exact and I still don't know what I'm going to do for my birthday...My parents wont let me have like a party but I want to do something big. I just don't know what to do...a lot of my friends keep asking and I just don't have anything to tell them...they're all...when is it? where is it? what are we doing? and I just don't have any answers! Please help..I could use some major party ideas
Plan a trip to your favorite theme park like Cedar Point or Disneyworld. Water parks are a lot of fun too! If you wanted, maybe go get yourself a tatto or piercing (because you're eighteen and you don't need parental permission! YAY!).
If you want to do something a little less expensive, have a day at the beach with your friends. Go swimming, fishing, roller blading, bike riding, have a picninc, etc. There are lots of things you can do at the beach.
I got fitted at Nordstroms today (bras on sale!) and I found out I am a 30DD (but they didn't have any there in that size) or a 32D (but it doesn't fit as well as the 30DD). I got 2 32D's, but I'm trying to find more.
Now we all know it's impossible to find 30's. Especially 30DD's. And its also impossible to find 32's bigger than B's. (I wear 32C's now and I only have 3 bras because theyre so hard to find).
I only went to Nordstrom because of the sale... but where can I look to find bras for my odd size that aren't insanely expensive (I am willing to pay a little more if I can find my size)?
I'm desperate!
You probably just aren't looking in the right places. Victoria's Secret would have them (I know they're usually expensive, but they have a sale going on right now that's 2 bras for $44), Torrid would have them, so would Kohls, JC Pennys, Sears... really anywhere. I'm sure Macy's would even have them.
There are web sites all over the internet that allow you to custom order your bra online. If worse comes to worse, just look in up on google.
Okay. I have a friend.It is not me, i swear on everything i own. She is in PlayBoy. She said she is scared to stop being in PlayBoy because her boyfriend. She says "He cannot live with out his sex every night. I am trying to help her get out of this, but she is affraid of him not loving her. I told her if that is all he wants than he is not in love with her, just in love with her butt and body.I dont know what to tell her. I am a little young to say stop. I dont know what to do to help her. P.S. She is a friend over the internet, so i dont know her address or phone number. Please help
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The only thing you can do is remind her that this guy doesn't really love her. And you already did tell her that, so there's nothing you can do. If she wants to throw away her life over some guy who just wants her for sex, there's no stopping her. I say let it go and allow her to learn from her mistakes. You tried telling her, but she wouldn't listen, so just let it go. She'll just have to learn the hard way sooner or later.
Can you go to the bathroom right after you take plan b or the morning after pill?
How affective is it..I need advice about people who have used it n if it worked for them. Me n my boyfriend had sex the condem broke, he pulled out he says he pulled out while it was going off while it was still in..so it wasn't like all the way. i need advice im freakin out
The plan B pill is very affective. The sooner you take it after having unprotected sex, the less chance you have of getting pregnant. I've only had to use this pill once, and I didn't get pregnant.
You can go to the bathroom after taking the pill. Don't worry about that.
As long as you took the pill no more than 48 hours after having sex, you should be just fine. Try not to stress yourself out too much over it because that can delay your next period even more.
14/f
I'm a little young to be thinking about college, but I am anyways.
I want to be a veterinarian.
which colleges would be best for majoring in animal husbandry (which is what you have to take to become a vet)
thanks!
Well those that want a degree in the area of veterinary medicine major in something like biology or chemistry. In order to become a vet, you need a bachelor's degree (which takes four years) in your decided major and then four more years of vet school.
There are lots of good veterinary programs. You did not say where you were from, but here are some really good vet schools:
Michigan State University
Fort Valley State University (north carolina)
Newberry College (south carolina)
Mississippi State University
University of Findlay (Ohio)
You have a lot of options. While you're in high school, take lots of science and math and volunteer at your local vet office. The experience will land you a spot in a good college. Veterinary schools are VERY hard to get into, so you have to really work hard and keep your grades up.
what can i do? i need about $1000 for school real fast how can i get them . this will be my first year in college can i stiill apply for a scholarship or a grant. i neeed the money real soon. thank you
First of all, for your college books, I highly recommend using www.abebooks.com. You can get books really cheap there.
You can get scholarships anytime of the year. Go to www.fastweb.com and sign up. They have literally thousands of scholarship opportunities. Some are really easy to get too, or some require an essay, etc.
Good luck!
How can i let my b/f no that i want to do a little more than what we are doing now? I dont want 2 have sex but just more stuff.. Without well like making him feel weird??!!!.... How do i no that he wants to do these things 2??... 14/f...!! any advice!?...
The most important thing is to make sure he is comfortable with going further in your relationship. You really need to sit down and discuss with him your wants, his wants, and how far the two of you are willing to go. It's important to talk about that stuff because 1) there won't be any accidents, 2) it will be less awkward, 3) neither of you will feel pressured, and 4) you will understand each other much better.
Communication is really important when it comes to stuff like this. If you aren't comfortable enough to talk with him about going farther, then you aren't ready to go farther at all.
Trust me, after you talk about him with this, you'll feel a lot better and you'll be able to get more out of the relationship and so will he.
I'm putting together a notebook with meaningful quotes and sayings. What are your favorite quotes and sayings? It could be about anything: love, life, death, happiness, sadness, friendship, etc. They can be from movies, books, famous people, songs, etc. Thanks!
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=498293
This exact question was asked a little while ago. Instead of typing a bunch of quotes, I thought maybe you could find those answers useful.