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WANT More Than now..
How can i let my b/f no that i want to do a little more than what we are doing now? I dont want 2 have sex but just more stuff.. Without well like making him feel weird??!!!.... How do i no that he wants to do these things 2??... 14/f...!! any advice!?...
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The most important thing is to make sure he is comfortable with going further in your relationship. You really need to sit down and discuss with him your wants, his wants, and how far the two of you are willing to go. It's important to talk about that stuff because 1) there won't be any accidents, 2) it will be less awkward, 3) neither of you will feel pressured, and 4) you will understand each other much better.
Communication is really important when it comes to stuff like this. If you aren't comfortable enough to talk with him about going farther, then you aren't ready to go farther at all.
Trust me, after you talk about him with this, you'll feel a lot better and you'll be able to get more out of the relationship and so will he.
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OK I'm not really sure what "stage" you are in... but in general, a good way to do more without making him (or you) feel weird would be to take it slow and always make sure he seems to be okay with what you are doing (reciprocating, doesn't look uncomfortable, looks like is enjoying it). You don't necessarily have to even be after going "further", as often it is just as exciting to do different things at the same stage as the other stuff you are doing. Run your fingers through his hair, kiss him somewhere other than the lips, trace circles on his body, or just on his hand... once again, what you make of this advice is obviously about where you are physically. You're still young so I think waiting to have sex or do other things that could potentially make either of you uncomfortable is a good thing.
Talking about going "further" might be an awkward conversation, but definitely it is necessary if there was a serious risk of either of you going out of your comfort zones (you can use your own judgment on this one). Otherwise, keeping it playful and going really slow on the things that you two may not have done before is my advice. If you were to try to do something different build it into the stuff you already do. If you take it too far, both of you will realize it, if you go slow enough. That way you get the benefit of a little experimentation without regretting it later (or making him feel too "weird =]).
On a side note, be sure that you have a solid friendship typey relationship as well. Make sure you do things with him that aren't just focused on the physical stuff. Both of you will feel more comfortable with this side, anyway, if you do this, and generally more comfortable around each other.
If he really wants to "do these things too" then he will initiate, but not initiating isn't a sign he doesn't want it. I'm not sure you could ever totally know; I'd say just do what feels right and don't force anything.
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Well..i guess it depends on what level you're on right now.
If you are to the point of making out..i think that you should try to initiate a "little more". Just because you're the girl doesnt mean that you have to let him do it all. Just try taking it to the level you want to be on..and watch his reaction.
You could also (if you're comfortable) bring it up in conversation. You dont have to be all serious about it..just make it a fun convo.
And believe me...if you two really think you're meant for each other..then he is definetely into doing more too. Boys will be boys and im sure he's just waiting for you to bring it up.
Good luck and i hope i helped!
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