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i have been sleeping with 5 guys for the last 3 months and they dont know about each other. Recently my best friend and i got into a fight and she told 3 of them about each other. Now i am 1 month pregnant and i dont know who the father is. The guys that know about each other now dont want anything to do with me and i am really hurt. I dont know why they wouldent want a beautifull sexy girl like me in their lives. Please help me in deciding what to do. (link)
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I'm sorry to hear that your life is falling apart, but if there is no father to take care of your child then you're going to have to face the facts and make a choice on whether or not to keep the baby. I'm sure that you are a very beautiful and sexy girl to have 5 men at the same time, but I would advise you to just follow your heart and let the guy do as they shall. If they want to leave you then maybe they don't love you enough to forgive your mistakes and you can't do anything about that.
~Joce
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Ive been finding less and less time to spend with my gf and i feel as if we're drifting apart....Things like school and sports(See why es). shes also always talking to other guys but when it comes to me she has nothing to say. I feel as if we're not supposed to be together anymore. What can i do?? (link)
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... I'm assuming that this is brent so I will not continue to answer this question. >__^v
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My 2 Best Friends Like the Same guy.. 1 is going out with him and the other is liking him and talking about him constantly... The one who is going out with Him is about to get dumped by him... and the one ISNT going out with him wants me to hook them up!! I know is Confusing But I dont know what to Do!! Please Help Me!! (link)
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Well, if the one girl's boyfriend is about to dump her then I'm assuming that there is a problem with their relatiopship, so you can just leave that alone; however, it is a good idea to hook your other friend up with him if the guy is into her. Still comfort your first gal friend if and when they finally break up, but remind yourself that things must go on.
~Joce
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i have a boyfriend well two actually the first one i live with the second one is just a guy im trying to see if him and i can work or not there are things lacking with the one i live with so im not sure about the second one but he is pushing me and he promised he would not what should i do (link)
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Well, first off, if something is lacking in ur first relationship, don't run away and try and find a new one. Talk with your first boyfriend about wat's lacking, and c if u can work it out. If u can't, then it was not meant to be, and u should move on to someone new. It may be the second guy, it may be somoeone else. Do wat U want to do, don't go into a relationship cause u r pressured to.
-AJ
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Im afraid to talk to a boy that I like because of nerves or something, like im afraid of messing up or embarresing myself. Even when we were going out I was afraid to talk to him in person. I would only talk to him on the phone because he is usually with his friends, and I easily get shy. He usually has a lot of girls around him because everyone thinks he is so hot and amazing. I need help with this... How do I get over my fear and go talk to him without it being through a friend or something? (link)
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It's quite alright. I used to have the same problem, but it should get easier as you expand your grounds for topics to talk about. Just remind yourself of things that you talked about on the phone and bring them up again. It should be easier to talk about things that both of you can relate to. Once you start getting a few good conversations going in a row and you both feel comfortable around eachother, ask him to go somewhere with you one on one. Just boost your self confidence and think of more things to say to him.
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ya like many guys i cant get a gf! ive tried so many people and i always get shot down. Should i keep looken or just stop cause i dun know anyone esle who i could see ma slef wit. (link)
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Now. I will point out one big thing that is wrong with this letter.
"ive tried so many people"
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i have a friend who likes a boy that we are both friends with she wants me to help her get them together but im telling her to get to know him more before a relationship developes now shes sad and doesnt know what to do me to!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! signed: help me before i explode im a female she is to and we are both 15 (link)
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Ur approach is a smart one. It would be better if she got to know him a little better. But, if she really feels like she wants to have a relationship with the guy, go ahead and help out a little. First off though, make sure she understands that she's still a human being without the guy, and she doesn't necessarily need to be with him. I made the mistake of thinking that i needed a gf, and my life was miserable then. Take it from experience, it's better to be single and indepedant, then together and dependant.
-AJ
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ummm this has nothing to do with sex....but most people look here(lol i wonder way)....
are humans at the top of the food chain(i noe the answer...i think....but i just wana make sure... (link)
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I would have to say yes, but actually my theory is that us humans have completely isolated outselves and other domesticated animals into a completely different food chain. I wouldn't really say that humans are at the top, because if you really think about it, humans are practically like a plague. We come, eat, demolish, pollute, and take up lots of space. We just keep on reproducing and our whole species has covered the entire face of the planet. We are the only animals who have not learned to live WITH our enviornment and no animals actually eat humans as part of their daily diet. So once again, Iwould have to say yes. Humans are indeed at the top of the food chain.
-Joce
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My 'friend' Danielle is so bitching. We were talking on the phone one night and the conversation went like this:
"Everytime I go out with you, I don't meet anyone."
I say:
"It's not my fault and if you want to meet someone than you should talk to them.Look what happened with chris he might have got with you but neither of you really talked to each other cause you both were too shy.You act like your the most straight forward person in the world."
"Yeah but...,(to herself)who can I talk too?"
"About what,me?"
"You won't understand. Who can I talk too?"
"Camille,Ketia,"
"No they won't understand"
"Tell me"
"No, see that's why they were saying in 6th period that--"
" Who was saying what"
For the rest of the coversation I kept pressuring her to tell me till I got upset and hung up on her.
The next days she wouldnt talk to me so I'm not talking to that yellow-ass bitch either.
I'm very mad that she's mad at me. another girl in our group gets on her nerves so after about 2 days she just jumps back into her life and jumps out (Danielle). I hope she doesn't think that she could do that to me(it's been more than 2 days so maybe she wasn't going to anyway.) also every time I call to find out why she's mad, they say she's in the "shower".Dawleen say's that dani said I'm annoying but Shantell says that she's mad cause i'm a hypocrite and she repeated our conversation. I'm always ignoring her because I don't want to feel like she's playing me. I don't know what to do to be her friend again but i don't want her to have the last say.How do i become friends with a stubborn girl without losing the fight. (link)
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Say the magic word. "Sorry." That's all you need to do. If she doesn't forgive you, it will continue to bother her. I know that this is practically losing the fight, but if this continues to go on, you may lose a friend.
-Joce
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I'm 24 and have been married for 6 years.My husband is 32.My husband has sex with me when I'm asleep.When he sees that I'm waking up he stops.When I ask him about it he tries to denie it.I've told him that it upsets me but he keeps doing it.I don't know what to do.He also watches porn alot and masterbates.He tries to hide that from me.I've tried to join him but he won't let me.Then when I say something he just denies it.I feel very hurt by this and I don't know what to do.Please help. (link)
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I'm taking a wild guess because I don't have a husband and I don't know your EXACT situation however I will try.
Your husband might be suffering from self confidence issues. He might be having trouble accepting his manlyhood and might be embarassed or ashamed of having sex with you while you are awake. He might have embarassing memories of his past love life that he might not be comfortable talking about. The part about masturbating looking at porn is perfectly normal and I don't see why you would "join him" but masturbating is one of those things that your husband probably likes to do alone. Try a different approach on bringing up this subject with your husband and if he still denies doing these acts, try to catch him in the act.
-Joce
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My friend told me that me an dmy boyfriend make a good couple but he never talks to me even though we just started goign out like a day ago.. But still.. Shouldnt he be talking to me, maybe he is juts shy like me.. Im really shy and I think Im gunna just talk to him (try) tomorrow anyways... but I needa know why he isnt talking to me.. !!! (link)
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You are probably right about your boyfriend being shy. Both you and him will get used to your current situation as "girlfriend and boyfriend." It may take some time to settle in but after the first week or so everything should be back to normal. Talking to him is a very good idea. He's probably too shy to talk to you himself. If I'm wrong and your relationship is suffering from any other problems, just mail me back.
-Joce
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i want to kill myself because my gf is breaking up with me and i dont know wat else to do.....
can u give me some advice as to what i can do....ive lost all hope
-box (link)
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hi brent! ^__^ gotchya again "box" >__^v
Anyways, if you're really having trouble with your relationship then pick out exactly what it is that is making you two drift apart. If it's not too late, you can try to make things right again. I know that your gf may be the most important thing to you in your life right now, but remind yourself that the world does not revolve around her. If she happens to die, you will still be alive. If you die she will still be alive. No matter how close two individuals are, there are no supernatural ties holding them together. You don't have to kill yourself if your girlfriend dumps you. Just continue to live life because there are many fish in the sea. "Just keep swimming"
-Joce
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Im 11 and I have a boyfriend.. honestly
people these days
sorry to bother u (link)
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Apology accepted, but it's quite alright. Not very many people bother me nowadays so don't worry about it. If you have any more problems just mail me!
-Joce
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I recently got hooked up with this amazing guy and I was talking with acouple friends and this girl asked if we ever talked and I said no.. it was only a day thought.. But I duno.. and then (My friend) says ya I know (My bf's Name) said.. and he paused.. then he said never mind.. and Now Im worried I was like what did he say?? and he was liek I cant tell you.. Im just so worried what do I do...@!!!!! (link)
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I woulnd't be too worried about it. However, if you are concerned that there may be something wrong between you and your boyfriend's relationship, then you should have a talk with your friend. It may have been a topic that was inappropriate to bring up around you such as your bf's manlyhood or something about his ex-girlfriend?
-Joce
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My brother is 11 years old. He is looking for a girlfriend. I know all of you are going to say "This isn't a dating service!" But he is really looking for a sweet nice girl. Well anyway, He lives in Florida, Boca Raton. He would really apperciate if you would answer me. Please he is very despreate.
Love
Despreate man and his sister~ (link)
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You should tell your brother that 11 is a very young age to be dating. He's still going through early puberty and he won't be able to have a normal relationship until he is at least 15. He shouldn't be looking for girls online because it isn't always the best way to meet people. Tell him to wait. There will be plenty of girls once he's in highschool.
-Joce
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My parents smoke pot and I've always known that but I have been taught in school that POT IS BAD. I want them to stop but I'm afraid to tell them. Is it really that bad?
~gir with pothead parents~ (link)
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Unless a doctor has actually perscribed marijuana for medical purposes, which does not sound like the case, then it is bad. They r actually rotting their brain out, and with enuff time, half their brain may no longer work, and they may not be able to remember somethin like ur first steps as a child. Approach them, and tell them exactly how u feel. If wat they are doing is scaring u, make sure they noe that. Hopefully, their love for their child can overcome their addiction to marijuana. Make sure u do it as soon as u can, cause it may take a few days for u to mentally prepare urself, but it only takes a few seconds for them to crash their car cause they were stoned, and die.
-AJ
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is forcing urself to ejaculation not healthy? (link)
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forcin urself to ejaculate......i'm gonna take a leap and say that u r talkin bout masturbation. It's perfectly normal.
-AJ
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hi really like this kid and i think he likes me but whenever i ask him out he says he likes me kinda as a grlfriend and he wont tell me yes or no (link)
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No offense to your friend but I think that he is either slow or he is either too shy to answer your question. This may just be an action to hint that he likes you too but would like to continue being just friends until the time is just right. Some guys are just like that. Wait until he asks you out; guys are supposed to do that anyways.
-Joce
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I have a friend and we like each other, but we both have relationshhips with other people. YEt, my friend talks to me and says that he can't stop thinking about me and he says other things too. But i love my boyfriend more. WHat should i say to my friend? (link)
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Just tell your friend the truth. Follow your heart and it will know what to do.
-Joce
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I know that this question is gonnaa sound a lot like Legally Bl;onde, but I think my dog (pug) is gay!!! (Help...me...) (link)
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You dog is not necessarily gay. Most dogs just like to hump anything or anyone that's around reguardless of gender. It's perfectly normal. Some dogs are just like that.
-Joce
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