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this guy

Question Posted Monday March 22 2004, 11:33 pm

i have a boyfriend well two actually the first one i live with the second one is just a guy im trying to see if him and i can work or not there are things lacking with the one i live with so im not sure about the second one but he is pushing me and he promised he would not what should i do

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lilattitude2004 answered Wednesday March 24 2004, 4:16 pm:
for of all don't cheat cause if you get caught up that leaves none 4 u but if you can get away with it then do what you wish. dump the second one he's not worth it. stick with the first one writ me back.

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alpha answered Wednesday March 24 2004, 1:20 am:
The second guy has probably figured out that you aren't going to get out of a bad situation on your own, and is trying to get you to do so.

You're asking for trouble if you think you can make things work with another guy before settling things with your live-in boyfriend. Like, big, fireworks, earthquake trouble. If there's any way you can see yourself staying with Boyfriend #1, then drop the second guy and focus on fixing things with #1 for a while. If you believe that the "things lacking" with #1 are ultimately a deal-breaker for you, then it's time for you to get out. Then you'll be free to pursue something better.

Maybe you're worried that you'll break up with #1, but #2 won't work out either, and then you won't have anyone... I hope that's not it, because that kind of fear isn't a good reason to stay in a doomed relationship. It's much better to be independent for a while, and then find someone who really satisfies you. Staying with someone you don't truly love isn't fair to him, and it prevents you from having really great relationships that you can focus on with your whole heart and soul.

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rilygurl91 answered Tuesday March 23 2004, 9:06 pm:
#1, you shouldn't have 2 boyfriends. If something is wrong with the one you live with, why don't you tell him this, instead of running off to this other guy. Stick with the one you live with, of course.

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Nevaeh answered Tuesday March 23 2004, 8:24 pm:
If you want to pursue a relationship with someone else thats fine! but break off the realationship your in with first. That guy doen't deserve that. **How would you feel if the shoe was ont he other foot and it was your live in man out tryin' to cheat on you?**

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lady_nell_07 answered Tuesday March 23 2004, 4:54 pm:
you should leave him be with the one you live with before he find out you got a man on the side and kick you to the curb. the guy that's pushing you around ain't no good

also try to work things out with yo man at home

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Girlwithamansname answered Tuesday March 23 2004, 12:57 pm:
Firstly,don't let the second guy push you around.He broke a promise and is trying to pressurise you into doing something you're not comfortable with.

Also, don't you think that you are being a little unfair to your boyfriend? Try to figure out what you think is lacking and talk to him about it. You're living with him so you made a pretty big commitment.

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DruidX answered Tuesday March 23 2004, 6:04 am:
I think you need to sit down with your curent and discuss with him what is 'lacking', not run straight into the arms of another. I also think you should be wary of any promises made by the 'other'. Good luck with what you decide.

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sp4rklingr4in answered Tuesday March 23 2004, 12:07 am:
Well, first off, if something is lacking in ur first relationship, don't run away and try and find a new one. Talk with your first boyfriend about wat's lacking, and c if u can work it out. If u can't, then it was not meant to be, and u should move on to someone new. It may be the second guy, it may be somoeone else. Do wat U want to do, don't go into a relationship cause u r pressured to.


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