...Im shay, I love giving advice. I've learned a lot of lessons from myself and my four other siblings. If I havent been through it, my friends have, or my family has, I can pretty much solve peoples problems. I do it all the time, thats why I love giving advice. I'm a sucker for music, ask me questions about it, Im sure I can help you. I play guitar, I play tennis, I'm pretty atheletic.
Gender: Female
Location: CA
Occupation: student
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Member Since: December 1, 2003
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what things do some guy find amazing when a girl does something or what things they just find attractive about girls. also the same question for the girls. (link)
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What I find attractive in a guy is that he can start a conversation, hes not shy, hes funny, he likes things I like, and hes very cute. So there you go. Thats what I like in a guy and so much more, but I would rather not bore you with all of that.
-shay :-)
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i had a friend a long time ago. i last heard from him about six or seven years ago. he was living in japan. his name was Masaki Bando and is probably around 12 or 13 years old. how do i find him if he may be all the way across the world??? i miss him like crazy and i really want to send him an email or something. please help me find him! (link)
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Im not sure if you will be able to find anything on people searches. Searches wont lend out that type of personal information. Sorry!
-shay :-)
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I am 13 and tottaly confused because all my friends say this guy... likes me. but i don't think so! how do i know! cause i really like him too! And everyone at our lunch table is like all you guys do is flirt! I don't think we do unless i'm just not paying attention to it or something! I don't know if he likes me.
~Confused~
HELP! (link)
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I agree with your friends. I was in the very same position you are in now. Turns out he told my friend he liked me a little bit. So maybe he thinks of you of just a little bit more then a friend.
-shay :-)
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Hey, it's Here To Help...I was just wondering, what does everyone think of my answers and advice...because sometimes I think I'm doing very well answering everyone's questions and other times I think I'm slacking off. So, by observing my answers for other people and if I've answered any of your questions...do you think I'm a good advice giver? (link)
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This is a hard question to answer, only because of different opinions people may have, but my opinion is that I think you are doing good. Keep up the good work.
-shay :-)
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Ok, in health class, eighth grade, we have to learn a lot about the human body and what is good and what is not so good food to eat and stuff like that. Well, anyways, we were talking and there is this one pregnant girl in class, I asked her how she got pregnant and she laughed and said, "ask Joe" That was about a week ago, but I am scared to ask my health teacher because it seems as if everyone knows but, how do you get pregnant and is it true that when you have a baby it comes out as an egg then hatches?
Pregnancy Test (link)
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No! After the baby is in the stomach for a wile it gets too big for the small egg so it opens into the sack. Were not chickens! In a way, that sets us apart from the animals.
-shay :-)
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Well, anyway, There is this really hot guy next door, I think he is sooooo fine! I just need some advice. I think he likes me. The other day, he told me that I looked really nice at school, but we had to dress up for a field trip anyway. He also told me that he wanted to get together with me and catch a movie sometime. He is always giving me signs and stuff but I'm not sure what they mean. Please answer all of these questions. Does he want to go out with me? Does he really like me? Does he like brunettes? Does he really like other guys?
Gay Guy For the Straight Guy (link)
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1. It doesnt seem like he wants to go out with you. He just wants to go on a date.
2. Yes it seems like he likes you
3. I have no idea if he likes brunettes, but Im sure he does! Cause brunnetes rock!
4. I heard nothing about him being gay
-shay :-)
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so me and my boyfriend are at this hotel room doing you know what. well all of a sudden the door flies open and something falls into the bed next to the one we are in. well any who I jump up and see my parents. were they actually doing it? well my mom is screaming at me and telling me that I told her I wouldn't do it again. which is truth cus she caught me before. Well any who what should I do?
*caught in bed* (link)
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All I can say is to keep your promise and dont do it again. At least not until your married.
-shay :-)
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We haven't had sex for a couple months and quiet frankly im horny. Last time i asked him for some he told me i wasnt gunna get layed anymore unless i got a gigilo (male prostitute).hes my husband and i want his body?! i wonder if he finds me
do u think i should leave him or ask him to treat me better.
Mrs. iwanttogetlayed (link)
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Well if you love him you shouldnt leave him just because of this reason. Maybe hes got something to hide that he doesnt want you to know about. Talk to him about how you feel and let him explain his reasoning for his feelings about this. You're his wife and you have the right to know why.
-shay :-)
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My bra is bigger then most girls so apperantly, most guys wanna get with me. Now, there is this one girl with twice the size of my bra and I wear a D. She sits up perfectly straight showing them off to the whole world to see especially KYLE RAFFLE so, the other girls with only size B are like sitting up straight going like "i never realized how convienent it is to have a small chest" when i said it is hard to play golf with my 'ladies'. Soft ball is even worse. The bat hurts sooo bad. My question to you is how do I make my 'ladies' appear smaller?
Thanks a bunch hons!
Signed
Big Mamma D (link)
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I dont think you can do that. You could try wearing a tighter bra to make them smaller, but I dont think there is anything else you can do about your situation. Sorry!
-shay :-)
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The kid pooped on his finger and gave me a poopy-willie in my ear. I have no idea what to do i don't even know how to change a diaper. His parents are out of town for a month and i have stuff in my ear. What on earth do you propose I do? Should i
a. Clean it out
b. leave it for proof
c. Take a picture for proof
d. Call 911 and get to the emergency room
e. All of the above
One more question,is this hazardus to my health?
Thank you
Big Momma P (link)
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EWW! I hope you cleaned that out! Im sure if you tell the parents about what happened its not like they'll think you're lieing to them. But if you keep it in there the parents will think you're weird and never invite you back.
-shay :-)
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I work for a junior high school and there are plenty of good looking kids in the school. I am only 23 so I don't think it is wrong to like these students, not that any physical atraction would take place. But, there was one time, last week, were the most popular person in my Language arts third period class fingered and physically touched me! I was actually turned on! So, I told him to meet me at my house TOMOROW! I feel like I owe him either an appology... or a thanks. (if you know what I mean!)
What should I do
Master Bater
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Wait a minute! I thought you worked there. What was the whole "my third period class" about? Well either way you're too young or too old. A 23 year old person being turned on by a junior high student could lose your job and get you into big trouble. Or if you are a student there you shouldnt do anything you seem to young for physical contact. Maybe you two can talk or play a game.
-shay :-)
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I have dedicated this poem to my plant that will not grow.
little little fern why dont u grow,
little little fern i want to know,
i sit here waiting for you,
i just dont know what to do,
i put you outside i pit you inside,
but every since my cat ate u it died.
should i keep my fern?
Ms. Ferny Fran :) (link)
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Dont keep it, its only common sence. Keeping a dead fern in or outside of your home isnt what you would call "pretty".
-shay :-)
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What should i do if a guy forces me to have oral sex? (link)
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Okay nobody can force you to do anything. I think you should talk to your parents/gaurdian about that. Those are not the kind people you want to be around. Hope everything works out fign!
-shay :-)
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I've convinced myself that just because the rest of my family smokes, doesn't mean I will. But most people I know say "you never know if you're going to end up smoking yet"
I always tell them "I promise you I'm not going to smoke" and they tell me I cant make a promise like that. Hardly anyone believes me. A few people do but that's not enough. I could start smoking anytime...so when is the right time that they will believe me? When I'm older? I'm still young, and if I'm not smoking now...I'm not a smoker, so why can't I just stay like I am.....NOT A SMOKER. I know a lot of people say that they're not going to smoke and some of them end up smoking, but I'm not one of those people. I counted how much money my family would waste altogether with the money they spend on cigarettes all combined....and thats like 50,000 a year!
That's messed up.
I'm not going to smoke because I already see the way my family struggles with it. It breaks my heart that they're controlled by a poisonous stick. What should I do? Do you think I'm going to smoke just because the rest of my family does? I'm not the kind of person who gives into peer pressure...and I've already turned an offer for a cigarette down.
I'm about to take all their cigarettes and flush them down the toilet...that's how scared I am for them, and it's going to waste a lot of their money, but that will just teach them a lesson. (even though most people say that a if you take their cigarettes away, it will just make them want to smoke more, well I'll make sure they dont) Should I? I'm so confused...and sorry for the length. PLEASE HELP! (link)
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Believe it or not I know just how you feel. You dont have to listen to all of the negative people telling you that you dont know if you will start smoking or not. Who cares what they think. Listen and follow your goal. Oh and dont flush your family's ciggarettes they'll get real pissed and you'll get in trouble.
-shay :-)
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*ehem!* (Clears throat)
I am going to take you all the way back in to september, on the secound. . Please buckle your seatbelts and keep all objects and of course yoruself i the time machine, dont want any lose parts left behind in the past. . that would suck . .well anyways 9Presses the button and sets it to Spet 2, 2003 @ 9:15 a.m )
It all started the first day of school. . IF you believe in love at first site, well you better because this is it!
I was waiting in the gym. .lade da. . and I saw this really hott kid. . omg he was soo hott. . I just fell in love instintly, somethign about him made me want him instantly. . not just because he was hott. . because I dont know I think I knew how he was. . but I never met him before. . because i wa snew to the school . . They never called my name. . SO I had to go to the office,a nd obviously my mom left. . so I was crossing my fingers hoping I would be in his class (6th grade) And well I ende dp in hi class!! YAY! well if you think thats the happy ending your wrong. . I got to know him, like how he interacts with other people, hes soo sweet and really funny, hes liek the class clown/rebel he gets in trouble quite a few while im miss. shy/good girl lol. . well I really like funny pople, you know peopel with a good sense of humor. . and guys who r sweet and cool witht heir friends, not sweet like sweet liek umm like ehs not a freaking jerk .. ok. . I cnat believe his best friend tripped me! lol well anyways. . like a month later, they were switching classes around. . and guess what! HE GOT MOVED OUT OF MY CLASS! I was soo sad. . I ahte the dman teachers. . they probly new i liekd him and didnt want me to get tino touble with him .. because thye didnt think he was good enough for me. . well they r wrong! he is perfect and I wont stop likign him untill the day I die! hes the best thign that ever happened to me! I LOVE HIM AND I HOPE HE FINDS OUT BECAUSE I WANT AN EEN EBTETR CHANCE WITH HIM. . well i dont even think he lieks me. . well he does act stupid. . I do when I am arond him lol .. and he looks at me. . I see him Im not blind. . lol Well hes super special and all I want toknow is. .
AM I obsessed over him?
Do you think he is right for me, or do you agree witht he dumbass teachers??
And umm. . What if he does like me. . what should I do.....
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Well you know teachers dont move kids from their class because of relationships. Sometimes they move them because they are class clowns/rebels and they dont do well in that paticular envirement. So to answer your question you're not obssesed many people feel that way, but Im not sure if hes right for you or not. I didnt see anything in him that is bad from what you explained. If he doesnt like you there really is nothing you can do, but hope for the best. There is a bunch of fish is the see for you!
-shay :-)
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Today I got a new pair of pants from hot topic. . and I wanted to get another pair, but they ddin't have it in my size. . Im a size 0!!! I really like my new pants, but my mom told my sister she didn't like them, but she'd let me wear them anyways. . I don't know I just wanted to tell you guys!! Anyways. .
Do you think I should ask my crush out???
"I am in love with him so badly, but I just cant Im too nervous I cant talk to him, its horrible. . hes so hot, and well Im not. . he probly doesnt even like me . .so nvm, I mad eup my mind im not gunna ask him . .but hes so funny and hes soo cute and he has a greta personality, , UUUUUUUUUUUUGH! LOVE! it freaking sucks. . well sometimes. .
And I am poetic, and artistic, and I lvoe he color black, and my sn has Empty Soul . .and I think about suicide, no .. I dont want to kill myself, but I think why would they do that. . I wrote a poem for suiced, well kinda wanna hear it?!
My password omg its like so sad. . IM not telling u! dumbass. .
of course u do. . !!!
Its like you're not there,
Like no one cares,
You feel empty inside,
You feel its your time,
Suicide comes to your mind,
But is it the best you cna do??
No. . Turn tot he one you cna trust,
Always be true, and ignore the ones who make fun of you . . who ignore you too, who call you a loser, when you know you are the best. .
So why put yourself to rest??
You try to say your sorry. . That you will never do it again. . But its too late. . You've gone through. . and now you dont know what to do. .
But no one can be perfect. . .
(By me, but I edited them. . these rnt the dited ones) sry sry I will show u the edited oens laters. . im tured bye bye (link)
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lol! What was that? You know you can always just email a friend. Now thats my advice.
-shay :-)
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Is it wrong to wait on a person? I mean, if you're not sure that you would even end up with this person. I mean, there are things that make it seem like you would, or that there is a definent possability...Ah. Help. (link)
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No its not wrong to wait on a person. Just dont presure the person.
-shay :-)
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This always happens. .I was talking to someone directly, I clicked their name and sent it. . Now look what happened. . ugggh!!!!!!!!! I need to contact them right now. . cuz im gettin pissed. . !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! And no tis not cuz thye r rejecting it. . (link)
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lol! Okay, but why are you telling me this?
-shay :-)
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ok so im 17 and i was wondering i have read that guys prefer the girls to swallow there cum after oral sex is this true or would they rather us to spit everytime i ask guys they say either way but i want to know seriously what they prefer i know it would be different for different guys but what would most of them seriously want (link)
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Try to ask maybe a close guy friend. Guys you're close to always are a big help.
-shay :-)
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I'm 16. I'm mentally a tomboy. All my close friends are boys/men. I'm a heterosexual girl.
The problem is, I get along with men wonderfully as friends. Nearly everyone sees me as the perfect girl: I'm easy to talk to, pretty attractive, and considerate. Yet, as a result, I never find myself considering any male friend as even a 'prospect.' Sure, I find several attractive, but in my current situation I have enough male companionship/interaction to be completely oblivious to these needs and urges I'm supposed to be having.
I end up holding off from dating because I always find something not quite right, not necessarily with the person, but with the 'feel'. Not only that, but I'm terrified of short term high schoolesque commitment, as well as the whole 'social' "did you hear harry's dating sally? Jane's furious!".
Recently, I've found someone that I could fit well with (who has feelings for me), but I'm not sure if I should encourage this relationship any further because I might find something wrong within a few short weeks. It's not little, knowing myself, it's a huge possibility.
Is it fair to subject this wonderful guy to what's basically an experiment to see how long I can stay in a relationship (though I definitely care about him), or should I wait until I can manage to get out of this mindset?
~Only Me (link)
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You must know that nobody is perfect, but it never hurts to find out. Take a chance and get to know this guy who likes you. He could be someone you're looking for. You have plenty of time to find someone. So dont worry about not finding a great guy right yet. Just stay friends and stay kind to all people and someone you will really like will pop up when you least expect it.
-shay :-)
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