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how can i get my hair thicker, and longer like miley cyrus'??
someone please help me, i need some advice i want my hair to be longer faster! my hair grows hecka slow..
i rate!!!
please and thanks!!!!

x's and o's
hilary

She has extensions. You can try getting some clip ons or go somewhere to get it done. There's some hair thickening creams and shampoos made to thicken hair. Mane N Tail really thickens your hair, since it was made for horses. I know it sounds weird, but it's used on humans too and since it worked so well on restoring horse hair, it works just as great on ours. Now my hair is really thick and it's healthier and softer. Also, you can try getting a vitamin called Biotin. It makes your hair healthier so you don't get split ends= grows faster. [as well as your skin & your nails grow faster too] Don't dye your hair or straighten it all the time unless you have spray to protect your hair from the heat.

Extensions will get you want you want faster. I'm sure you can get some at Sally's. There's even single tracks you can buy. It doesn't come by cheap though. About $30 for the good kind. So just wait out in the long run. My hair was shorter than my chin last year but since I used all those shampoos & took that vitamin.. now my hair is to my boobs.

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Would you rather ask a girl out or have her ask you out?

And out of all the movies that are playing right now- which one would you most like to see?

thanks.

(please include your age in your answers if you don't mind)

I talked to some guy friends of mine.

They wouldn't mind a girl asking them out since it is a change. Just be like.. nonchalant about it, you know? "Do you want to see ___ with me? or "Hey, ___ 's coming out soon. Do you want to go see it with me?"

And if they say no or have other plans, don't try asking them again too soon. Maybe in a couple of weeks or try another guy.

^ that was from 15-17yr olds

If you aren't interested in action, then go for the horror films. You can't go wrong with that.

Try Saw IV!

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I'm writing a short story, and I need help picking names for my characters. These are my top 8 names for boys and girls. I'll have teenage girl and boy characters, adult male and female characters, and a 6 year old girl character.
Lettme know which name[s] you like best, and If you think a particular name would work best for a
character of a particular age. Thanks!
Girl Names:
Roxanne
Juliette
Isabelle
Natalia
Scarlett
Raegan
Annabelle
Jade
Boy Names:
Damien
Peter
Lukas
Blake
Aiden
Riley
Derek
Blaise/Blaze

Isabelle/Annabelle for a 6 year old girl.
the 'belle' part screams child to me.

Teen:
Scarlett, Jade [or Jayde]

Aiden, Derek

Adult characters:
Lukas, Peter

Roxanne, Juliette

I wrote lots of short stories and I used similar names with teens. Also watching some tv shows have effect on this...their image comes to mind.

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during your first time
how long usually does it take?
does he put the condom on?

Usually about 5-15 minutes. The guy should masturbate before he comes over, he may last longer.

He could put the condom on, so could the girl. Just so you know how and make sure the guy is actually wearing one, you know? Or watch him put it on.

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i have straight blond hair w/ a little wave but i wanted to wear my hair scrunched .....but i have no idea how to do it so if you could help me out i would so appreciate it...... also if u could tell me which is better gel or muse..i don't no how to spell the second word..lol...

thanx

first, your hair has to be damp and you put some mousse on to the roots to the ends.. grab a section of hair and squeeze, then push it up towards your head. It may work better if you can use a blowdryer at the same time so it holds better.

it depends on what you want of course.
smaller sections create more a curl.
larger sections, make your hair more wavy.


gel probably holds the hair better but it's hard while the mousse has a softer touch to it.

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15\f

my friend told me that having sex isn't even that pleasurable! It was her first time though...
I was just wondering; is she right? the first time doesn't even feel good? and when does it start feeling good?

thanks

Usually you don't know what to expect for your first time. It may not be as wonderful as everyone makes it seem. Since you may feel too tight or you never masturbated. To me, my first time felt good. There's a few possible reasons why it wasn't good for her though.

She could have been nervous and her muscles tightened up, causing discomfort. The guy was a virgin and he didn't know what to do exactly. Usually sex doesn't feel good for your first time.. since you don't know what to do to make it good. That's why you should try reading a book about it because I picked up some amazing techniques. [At one point, I said sex wasn't even that good, since I couldn't get an orgasm] But the only way for sex to become good, is to start talking to the guy. Tell him what you want.. or what you want to try. Also the guy might come up with a technique.. with thrusting, which may hit your "g-spot" or not.

It's good to start with missionary because the penetration isn't so deep. After you become used to it, you should try a different position. You go on top. If you lay down on top of the guy then yes, most likely it would feel good if he's hitting the right spot. Most women get pleasure from that then missionary. But since you have more control on top, you can move up more and a bit back to whatever you like.


It's different for everyone though. Some people's first times are amazing while others are painful. It starts getting good when you try new things or have sex for a few times. It may take awhile to get used to it.

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ok well you know how when guys get horny and stuff they get boners well what do girls get?

Girls get "wet" it's really unnoticeable sometimes. you may mistake it as discharge..

and it's true about nipples getting hard. But usually when you make out and have a guy feel the girl up.. not having naughty thoughts.

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say you've had about a year of experience with sex. and then you dont have sex for a year later. do you get tighter, like as if you were a vrigin? or would you still feel loose?

I think you FEEL tighter because you haven't had sex in such a long time. But since you already had sex, it's stretched out enough to where you are used to penetration. You won't feel loose. Going a couple of weeks without sex, may feel like you got tighter though. But I'm sure the only way you'll be "loose" is when you have a child.

Guys won't notice it anyway. He would only know if you told him.

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you know that movie 'thirteen' about that 13 yr old who tries to fit in, does drugs, cut, sex, ect.

well are there anymore movies like that anywhere?
i love movies like that! there sad but there so good to watch.


thanks in advance!=]

this is one of my favorites:

augusta, gone

http://www.lifetimetv.com/on-tv/movies/augusta-gone


there's a lot of other similar movies on lifetime. you just have to check it out. i've watched some amazing movies on there.

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When getting braces do they hurt when they are putting them on or does it only hurt after they are done putting them on? Also would they pull any teeth or would they be able to fix anything teeth that is out of place depending on how far back it is?

It depends on how well your teeth are, how badly they are crooked, etc. My teeth were pretty screwed up to begin with. I doubt it hurts but I had a bad experience because I'm very afraid of the dentist. If you take care of your teeth well, like brushing and you don't have sensitive gums/teeth, it's okay.

But since I took bad care of my teeth and I had to get 4 teeth taken out for braces, it hurt. I had adult teeth growing behind my baby teeth, that's why. So I doubt they will pull any of your teeth.

Also all they do is "glue" on the brackets and put a machine over your mouth to heat it. Your teeth may feel sore though because of the wire they put on and how they may tighten it. It works well though. My bottom teeth were really messed up and they got straightened in about two weeks.

Make sure to stock up on ice cream though, just in case your teeth are sensitive.

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What are some good fruits for diets.
I heard bannanas and grapes are with sugar
ishouldnt eat those rite..
what are stuff i should eat?
13/f

Eat your fruits. it's good for you. they contribute fiber and nutrients to the diet.

peaches, cantaloupes, bananas, mangoes, etc = vitamin A

grapefruits & other citrus fruits like juices, berries = vitamin C

dried fruits like raisins, prunes are a good source of iron and potassium.


even though they have sugar, they contain the highest natural concentrations of vitamins, minerals and antioxidants that are important for your body. that's why fruits aren't viewed as junk food.

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What kind of underwear are these?
[IMG]http://i12.tinypic.com/6glwu46.jpg[/IMG]

those are boyshorts sometimes they are referred as girl briefs. some of them have the style of briefs, so yeah!

they are comfy to wear but while changing in PE, those bunch up sometimes when putting jeans back on. Kind of annoying.

edit:

pretty much any store in the mall has some.

like forever21, anchor blue, hot topic, pac sun, macys. just look near the bra OR backpack/jewelry sections of most stores.

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So.
I wax my eyebrows! =D
Except, I have tan skin…and where I wax its really white and noticeable..
And I don’t want to cover it up with my eyeshadow…
Soo im wondering what to use.
A concealer? Some sort of foundation? …a bronzer…?

Please give me links =] thankssss

I had that problem. It took like 6 months for that area to tan haha!

Use your foundation to cover it up. You don't need anything fancy. Use liquid foundation for good coverage. You could always put a light shimmery eyeshadow on top to blend with whenever you're wearing eyeshadow.

A concealer might be too light and chalky, depends on the shade and what type, but possibly try this too to see what results you like more. Either liquid or stick. Since I don't use concealer, I can't help you out with what brand is good.

I used very little liquid foundation and a bit of powder to hold it.

Experiment! My friends liked using concealer sticks.

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im a really bad fingernail biter. reallly bad like since i was a lil' kid. i want to know if theres anything that will have my nails grow faster so i can get a nice manicure+pedicure.

I don't know what to tell you about biting.. Since I was the same and I still am. Just not as bad. I've always wanted those pretty manicures. So i would bite a nail on one hand while I didn't touch the other.. So those nails grew out and it looked so good. I could paint my nails easier too. You should try forming a new habit possibly. Biting your lip or biting a piece of gum.

Look for nailpolish by Sally Hansen. Buy ones that are made for strengthening, growth, etc. It's in a green bottle. You can buy it at Walgreens or Walmart. I used that for two weeks.. about 2-3 times a day on clean nails and it grew fairly fast.

Also, you should try getting a vitamin called Biotin. I used that to make my hair healthier but I noticed that it made my nails grow so fast.

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when i wash my hair i want it to be able to dry nice, so i dont really have to do anything to it. i have like big hair thats not curly or straight. my mom said i could get osmething done to it but idk wat i want...any ideas?

I had the same thing.

You need to get it cut. Maybe get some layers or get them redone. You'll need to ask to get it thinned out a lot. It will make a huge difference.

Do you have a picture? Maybe big hair flatters your face shape. You should try getting a perm.

Either the Japaneses straightening one or possibly a spiral curl. :]

If you can't get a perm, then you should try buying a straightener after you get your hair cut.

I have one similar:
http://www.hairstraightening.net/revhaiapp117.html

It works fair well for about $20 but you could go to walmart and pick any one that interests you. I wouldn't buy Conair's ones though. You should buy some frizz-ease products too to make your hair shiny and so the product in your hair keeps your hair in place.

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13/F

People are always insulting me and my friends about watching Naruto, Bleach etc... They say its a baby show. First off, it is not. There's porn in it, for God's SAKE!!!!!!!!! What do I tell peopel who tease me and my friends? I tried to ignore it, but now it's just pissing me off. I'm obsessed with anime. So are my friends, we shouldn't be judged should we?!

p.s if you're the matt guy who keeps insulting me on this thing, don't you dare leave any advice, cuz you're making me mad. See? I finally posted a question about your anime cruelty! You should be surprised I ain't got ninjas on yo ass!!!! ^/_\^
p.p.s not a threat, it's a joke, pth! ^/_\^

Well, the dub is aimed towards children rather than teenagers.. Since they took out most of the violence & blood from it. Americans think that anime is 'dangerous' for teenagers and younger, so they took out things that would influence bad behavior. I don't watch it, but my sister wanted all the originals.. and the dub of Naruto..seems so censored. I've seen some pieces of the show and it's just some nudity in it you know?

You shouldn't care. Once you try telling people what you think about it, they will dig deeper into hurting you or pissing you off. I was in anime club for 3 years, I know how you feel about being judged. It's extremely stupid because people are so ignorant. Most of them obviously have never watched any but they still go on.. "you still watch cartoons?" "You're one of the anime freaks, huh? You want cartoon porn!" They don't realize it's the same damn thing with adult swim's futurama and family guy. You know animations are a lot more interesting than ordinary tv shows. It keeps you watching. There's good violence, a story line, romance, some mechas, fantasy thrown in, and it's GOOD.

You shouldn't care or say anything back to them. Just don't talk about it to the people who dislike anime. Ignore what they say because as soon as they realize it doesn't bother you, they will stop. It's a waste of time and it's immature for them to say anything. Some people don't like it. Some people will judge you anyway. But there's many people like you that like anime, so stick together.

If you like it, who cares what they think? THEY ARE MISSING OUT! haha

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15/f if that helps.
ive been fingered before countless times and ive only had sex once but i have never bled.

is my cherry popped? or no?
thanks!

If you have had sex, your hymen is torn/broken so yeah it's 'popped'. But even before, you could have torn your hymen by tampons, playing a sport, or etc. I didn't bleed my first time OR the other times. Just some girls bleed a lot, some, or not at all. Really depends on the person.

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OK. Well I have a bf but am not planning on having sex THAT soon but I still have a question.

I have been hearing and reading [on here] that your first time hurts. And im wondering, does it hurt like REALLY bad, or is it worth it?? Because im kind of scared because I do not want it to hurt.

THANKS! any advice is wanted!
14/f

Your first time doesn't always hurt. It didn't hurt me. I never masturbated with an object inside of me either and I never played sports to tear my hymen. So it really depends on the person and how comfortable you are.. How ready you are determines how relaxed you'll be.

What I did was prepare for it. Mentally, I was ready to have sex but I had a little fear that I wasn't ready physically.. I didn't want to hurt. People on here made it seem like it would hurt like a bitch.. but it didn't. Just tell him to start off slow and tell him to stop when you need to take a breath.

You just need to talk to him when you want to get more intimate. I made my boyfriend finger me for weeks.. starting with one finger.. up to 3. If you let him stretch you out, it won't be that uncomfortable for you. You need to relax your muscles when you are about to have sex.. or it's just forcing and clenching your muscles inside.. which causes the pain. You also have to be wet.

Many girls hurt for their first time;
because they aren't ready
are nervous
not turned on/wet
too tight, not enough stretching
or because they lack communication skills.

You need to speak to him.. tell him what you want to do.. and when things happen.. tell him what feels okay and what does not. Communication really helps a relationship about sex. I made sure that my first time wouldn't be a horrible experience.

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Which side is the side you typically part your hair? (When doing a side part -- like left or right is all I need to know!)

I do it on my left.

It really depends on how you like it.

I was also born with a hairline that was receding a bit. So I tend to part my hair on that side more to cover it up even though it's barely noticeable.

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Well internets getting kinda boring
All i do is go on msn and i have an imvu website www.imvu.com and i like decorating my homepage and all but i get sick of it and please dont tell me to go on myspace and facebook and websites like that lol well i was just wondering is there any good sites to go on ?

You can try..

Xanga.com
Gaiaonline.com
deviantart.com
imeem.com
veoh.com
tv-links.co.uk

Can you tell us what you are interested in? Make things easier.

Are you wanting to play online games?

Try MapleStory or Gunbound.

It's very time consuming.

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