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how do i get this guy in 6th grade to ask me to go out wth him (be his girlfriend) if i know he likes me without saying anything tto him? (link)
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Well why can't you say something to him? It's not just a guys job to ask you out it can go both ways. I guess if you really don't want to say it to him maybe get some of your friends and his friend involved. That might give him a push to ask you out.
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Im sixteen and dead to the world have no friend no life and my perants dont trust me to go to school because thet thing ill get pregnant or take drugs and drink or whatever only as my older brothers and sisters did but im not like them im different i tell them but stll no iv been home schol for the last three and a half years im shy as hell and dont socilis in any way wat so ever they dont listin to me its like they put me in this place to make me feel bad about how i am and i dont think i can take much more of it so i my as well be dead
havin 10 sister and 4 brother should mean the world but right now in my life i wouldnt care if they all were dead because im so sad
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Jellyskin,
I don't think thats a fair thing to say about your brothers and sisters. When your parents are gone, your brothers and siters are the only link to your past. Why hate them because of what's going on with you?
A similar situation went on in my household only it was just my sister and I. From they day I learned to walk I alwayys felt like my mom had a microscope on me. I started to notice a bit more during grade school and middle heck even junior high. I couldn't watch certain shows that the other kids got to. I couldn't watch TV during the weekdays. I had a bed time. I had rules to follow that I didn't feel were fair and I felt other kids had a lot more freedom than I. My sister was brought up the same way as I. Things changed when I got to high school. My mom would always say no drugs, no drinking, no boys, etc. Again I felt my mom had even a bigger microscope on me when I got into high school. My sister however was the rebel she would go against my mother and I would always complain about why does she get away with 'this' or 'that'?
You really don't know how your parents punished your other siblings or how things were handled. My mother always told me 'worry about yourself instead of worrying about your sister and what she's doing'. You need to worry about you and what you are doing because you're right you can't be compared to your other siblings because you aren't them you are different. Your parents are trying to protect from some of the dangers in the world and they don't have that much time to. Once you're 18, to society your considered an adult. Maybe suggest to your parents that you want to have a friend over for supper or to watch a movie or maybe have a sleepover. That way they can meet your friend and they know whats going on. You are their child and as long as they can they are going to make sure your safe. And as my mom always says 'as long as you live in my house you're going to live by my rules'.
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Im 16 Female and am confused people say im like a boy because of the way i dress and have a deep voice and im more attracted to girls than boys although iv never kissed anyone so well as you can read i dont know who i am and have dreams about girl and iv told my sister she said you dont really know untill uv tried it i dont think thats true though and my da dont like gays so i kinna know in a les but dont know how to let any one know
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I'm not entirely sure what you're asking here. I'm assuming your scared what people think and about your sexually, right?
As far as what people think, who cares! Dress how you want to dress and act how you want to act. When I was in high school from freshmen to senior year I was always wearing sweatshirts, sweatpants, and jeans. That's what I comfortable in and so that's what I wore. It wasn't about anyone else but me. For a girl I have abit of a deep voice, so I was an alto in a choir I was in at school. I walways looked at that as bad but then I thought how awesome it was. Not a lot of girls can sing low so I embraced my voice and still do to this day. Learn to love yourself and who you are as a person heck go ahead and celebrate who you are!
As far as sexually, you would need to go experiment maybe go on a couple of dates whether it be with a boy or girl it doesn't matter. Just be honest and true to who you are! Good luck!
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I am 38 year old post graduate doing a good job in private sector having a marriage life of 12 years. My wife is graduate but my mother is only 4/5th class pass. She is also not aware of many things. There is a big difference in thinking and working of both. My wife doesnt like thinking and working of my mother and irretates every time with my mother. Also I am not fit for a proper sexual life since the starting of marriage life. But, my wife showed herself satisfied. Now, during persent days my wife quotes about this problem during hot discusssion regarding my mother. How should I manage relations between and with my wife and mother.
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Your wife is your wife but your mother is ALWAYS going to be your mother.
You're in a bit of a pickle my friend. It's understandable. What you need to do is explain to your both you wife and mother that they need to agree to disagree. When your wife married you she married into the family and that included your mother. She needs to respect your mother and her decisions. However, your mother needs to respect your wife as well. Your mother was the woman who raised you and made you the man you are today. Try spreading some positive light on the situation and if things get heavy you might suggest they need to work it out amongst themselves instead of getting you involved and bringing you into the middle of it. It's a tough situation! Good luck!
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I am a 45 tear old engineer who has been with the same girl since I was 16. I just found out she has been having a long term graphic affair with a co-worker. She got a new cell phone and I was going to use her old one. She left 700 texts on the phone and I am heart broken. I don't want to live anymore. It is as my entire life has been a lie. Instead of being remorseful she became angry and has blamed me for her affair. I don't know how to pick up the pieces. (link)
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Sometimes when someone gets caught they are in denial. At the end of the day you have the 700 texts to prove she was having an affair with someone. At this point the ball is in your court about what you can do. You can either fix it or you have to move on. If you want to fix it maybe go to couples counseling and work the problems that may be in your relationship.
As for the comment you made "I don't want to live anymore", I'm sure you may feel that way now but there is no reason why a person can make you feel that way. Yes she hurt you but don't punish yourself because of it. Relax and think about what you need or what you want to come out of this situation. Good luck!
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Few days ago, ever since I started working out in the gym, I've started to feel this on-and-off itchiness on my lower back area and I scratch it a little. The next thing I know, I started to feel these little bumps around the same area. It's kinda hard for me to see them very well since they're on my back, but they kinda look like several bug bites. I don't think it is a regular rash and it's probably not eczema either since I already have them twice. So I did some research on about my symptoms and I have come to the conclusion that it could possibly be either hives or heat rash. I heard that a lot of people would develop heat rash from sweating, heat, and exposure to other bacteria. As for hives, I just heard that people would get them from allergic reactions and that it could be a viral infection. Could working out in the gym be the cause of either one of these symptoms? Especially since I've been exposed to dust and dirt from the equipments and the either one of these symptoms could be the cause of I thought both of these symptoms make sense especially since I've been exposed to a lot of dust and dirt from the gym equipments and the gym floor? Plus I have been sweating a lot and did a lot of yoga.
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I'm not a doctor by any means.
You might be allergic to something and maybe that's why you are breaking out. If it's not an emergency (ex: no fever, no pain) than I would call the doctor and make an appointment. Tell the office what your symptoms are and they will base that on whether or not you need to come in for an appointment asap or within a week or so. For the mean time I would refrain from touching the rash at all but maybe apply a little bit of lotion to an area and see how that goes. If it helps I would continue to apply the lotion on the other parts of the rash. I hope you feel better and good luck!
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General question...
We fought a lot, we werent even "together" but couldve... anyway, we were both mad at each other, now he doesnt e mail... he didnt reply..
i feel i missed who i thought he was...
do guys mean what they say when they say they dont care, do they really NOT care? or like girls, do they still think of what couldve happened, what is she thinking...
why do girls think a LOT about situations, and guys seem to dont care as much?
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It all depends on the situation and who the guy is and how they deal with things. Everyone copes differently and everyone deals with things differently. A guy is least likely to show any kind of emotion where as a girl is more likely to get really emotional. There was a time where I've fought with a guy and he said he didn't care I wouldn't hear from him for months or even years and randomly they would either show up or call or text me randomly out of nowhere. And sometimes the guy would never contact me again. You have to understand whatever is going on now isn't important. If someone wants to be in your life they will be in your life. ANd if someone wants to walk away from you let them walk. Some people are meant to be with us in our future and others aren't and thats just the way it is.
It's hard to let someone go trust me I've been there but if they care about you and they truly love you they will come back. SOmetimes they come back at the right time and sometimes they don't come back at the right time.
like girls, do they still think of what couldve happened, what is she thinking...
why do girls think a LOT about situations, and guys seem to dont care as much?
I'm sure guys think of the "shoulda", "coulda", and "woulda" but in the end how does that help? Don't live in the past, as hard as that may seem it's not going to help you any. I know you are trying to find the answers and surfing on the web to see if you cna get some closure. The best thing you can do is take care of yourself and make yourself happy right now. Guys come and go, and I'm sure there will be another guy in your future and you'll forget what this one's last name was. As girls, we follow our emotions, sometimes its okay to and other times not so much. It's sometimes makes us look illogical because we don't think of the outcome or what could happen we just think how we are feeling in that moment. That one moment though can somehow affect much more. The myth I don't believe is that guys don't care, they care its just they don't show it as much as we women do. That's just how it is. Hang in there and try not to worry about it too much!
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Ok I'm 17/f
Me and my bother are very close. We can talk about most anything with each other. We both have a
boyfriend(me) and girlfriend(him.) Let's just call his girl friend Anna. My bother is 22. My boy friend is 18. my bother's girl friend is 20. Now me and his cell phone don't look the same but they are thee same shape.
I got this new cell phone case. But what I did not know is that he had gotten a new cell phone case. The same cell phone case. Now you think that I'd show him my new one right? No. Being dumb me a forgot. We were talking about something else. We found out the heard way that we had the same cell phone case. The phone got mixed up. And we found out stuff that I still wish I had not. Now from text that he sent to his friends I put to gather this: He had got mad at Anna and went out.And he chat on her. More then one time!In all he chat about seven time or more.I know. and all I can look at him now is a cheater. But he also found out stuff about me. I was once in a teen gang. We did the weed and all that stuff. I rob a few house with some so called "friends". My boy is a ex-gang member. He help me stop with all that stuff.
Any way one girls thinks he is the father on her baby. (he only think because she had a boy friend at the time and my bother know it) I said if he did not tell Anna I would. He said he would tell Mom And Dad. Help (link)
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As far as I'm concenred you both have what I like to call blackmail on each other and you both should just drop it and leave it alone.
His relationship is his concern and Anna concern only it has nothign to do with you. I know you feel strongly about it but they are a couple and you are not apart of that relationship. You have your own boyfriend and you need to concern yourself with him. You can't get in the middle of your brother's relationship with Anna because one it will create tension between you and your brother. Two what if they start fighting and drag you into the fight, you really want to be in that kind of drama?
As for you, you need to worry about yourself and stop worrying about what your brother is doing. You both need to come to a truths and just drop and don't go any further. What's in the past is the past and that's it.
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How to you tell when a guy is actually into you and flirting or if it's just his personality to be nice to everyone? Examples would be awesome! Thanks! (link)
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It's hard to say because each guy is different. Some guys are just well mannered and just nice guys. Some will go out of their way to show you they like you with maybe getting you a gift or asking you to hang out a lot. Another type of guy (ex: my boyfriend) will make fun of you in a joking way. Ever guy is different there is no exact way to figure out whether a guy likes you unless he comes out and says "hey I like you".
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Can a college see your twitter profile if you have it set on private? And do colleges even check Twitter? I don't have have a Facebook (deactivated it months ago) but I'm always worried that colleges will find a way to check my tweets even though they are private. I don't have anything serious on twitter, but a lot of my tweets are basically complaining! If colleges can see that, I'm ready to deactivate that too. (link)
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It's more likely that a job will check your facebook or twitter account than a college that you're attending. I mean can you imagine all the applicants that they are going through and all the students they have. They would have a lot of time on their hands to check every single students facebook or twitter everyday. I wouldn't worry about it too much if I were you.
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I've been friends with this girl for about three years now and even though she's always been immiture about certain things we've become very close. Usually we can have real conversations and have fun, but lately she's been acting even more immiture than usual. She makes everything about herself and if she doesn't get her way she throws a tantrum. She's afraid of just about everything and will throw a full out screaming crying on the floor fit if you try to get her to do anything outside of her "comfort zone" but once she does it she has fun. She refuses to compromise on things as simple as turing of the television or even turning it down. If you try and correct her on something she says she acts like you're personally insaulting her. The worst part is she talks about throwing tantrums around her parents (for things like not letting her play with dolls and what not) like it's something to be proud of.
I've tried talking to her about it, but I'm running out of patience, and it's not like I can just ignore her. She's homeschooled and I'm out of highschool (even though I'm still 16) and we are in a situation where we have to have at least a good working relationship.
I'd appreciate any and all advice, I'm just about at the end of my rope with her. (link)
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From your title I thought that your friend maybe be acting immature like a 10 year old or something. It seems to me your friend is acting mroe like a baby. There is no need for sotmping on the floor or banging your fist and crying to get your way. I would say get away from her and try finding a new friend. Have you talked to her about this and how it makes you feel? I would tell her and if she doesn't change I would definitely move on.
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I don't know what's wrong with me, but I ALWAYS seem to go after the guys who are either in a relationship, or in this case married. There's this married guy, only two years older than me, so it's not like he's old or anything, who has been giving me some pretty strong signals. We flirt all the time. And it's reached the point where I'm actually wanting to hook up with him due to all the sexual attraction. What do I do? I know it's wrong because he's married...but he's not making it easy on me to just forget about it. So what are some things that we can do to go beyond flirting but not full on cheating? (link)
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You should do absolutely nothing. You know what you are doing is wrong because if you didn't you wouldn't be asking this question. Leave the man alone he's married. How would you feel as his wife if you knew he was talking to someone else? How would you feel if you had a boyfriend and he did that to you? You wouldn't like it at all would you? I suggest ignoring him and moving on.
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19/F...
Okay, I am a week and 5 days late of my period.
6 days after my period was late, I took a pregnancy test, it came back postive. I was told it was better to take it first thing in the morning. I've been stressing about it really bad. My period is never late, and it has a good amount of flow.
Thursday, i noticed a little blood; it was really light and not alot. I took a pregnancy test Saturday night & Sunday morning and they both came back negative.
Just curious what this means?
I plan on going to the doctor Tuesday to get a blood test done just to put this whole thing at rest; but 3 pregnancy test, all negative, and NO pregnancy symptons, what is up with my period? Better yet, what is up with me? (link)
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Your best bet is to just go to the doctor and get the blood test. I'm a doctor so I can't tell whether your pregnant or not. It maybe stress related. Try not worry about it that much and try to take it easy and focus on something else. Good luck! I'm sure everything will be fine.
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My boyfriend got in a wreck a week or so ago. We used to see each other every weekend and every Friday. We were never apart. It was great. But now we barely see each other outside of school and I'm just not feeling our relationship anymore. This distance is terrible. I barely have the money and gas to go to his house and he has no car. We always said that the distance would never effect our relationship. I'm the first girl he ever felt strong feelings for and I never stop thinking about him, but not seeing him a lot makes me lonely and depressed. I try to hang out with friends and keep busy but I can't. How do I make these feelings go away? I could never ever break his heart. (link)
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Ever heard the saying 'distance makes the heart grow fonder'?
A lot of people say that you have to see your boyfriend everyday or talk to him everyday on the phone which isn't true. A relationship isn't based on physically seeing him all the time it's about getting through the hard times to make it to the good times. I know its tough now but you clearly have feelings for or else you would have just broke up with had you not felt anything for him anymore. Sometimes we have to accept the things we cannot change and right now your relaitonship has hit a rough patch everyone does. I've hit a rough patch, I had a problem at the beginning of my relationship with my boyfriend about seeing each other as well. As much as I love my boyfriend I don't need to see and talk to him everyday. I know he's thinking of and I know he loves me and thats all that matters.
Maybe write some snail mail for him to read that would be a cute thing to rekindle your relationship. I'm sure you can find someway to make the best of this situation and try to make a goal to see if there is at any point to meet up with each in the upcoming weeks. Good luck!
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I'm not too experienced when it comes to guys, so whenever I'm out with one I always tense up because I'm scared he's gonna think I'm a complete loser for being an un expierenced 22 year old. Are there any pointers to make sure a guy is enjoying himself and not suspicious of the fact that I may not know exactly what to do? (link)
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Just be yourself! Don't try to be someone you're not. The guy will like you for you are as a person and nothing else. Keep your head up and be more confident in yourself!
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Hey, 16/f
Okay so I've been friends with this girl for 5 years now, but now we've gone too college.
In one lesson two girls sit in between us. She has become really matey with these girls and ignores me, even when we're queing to go in outside.
It seems she only talks to me for the sake of having omeone to talk to. Like we're sisters on facebook but i'm thinking of deleting that. She lies alot of the time by overeggagerating, and she's very insecure and is scared to be seen on her own.
I want to be her friend but I also want her to stop ignoring me/using me. Any advice I'd be gratefull :) (link)
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Well if you're friends shouldn't you be able to talk to her? Maybe tell her how you feel and how you don't appreciate the way she is treating you. See if she makes a change and if she doesn't then you should move on. If that's the way she is going to act that is not the type of friend you want to be around! Good luck!
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im 15/F. okay me and this boy i know have been getting really close and flirting all the time and friday we we were out with our freinds and wen everyone had gone home we spent 2 and a half hours just talking then he walked me home and we kissed but now i feel bad about it as he is my best freinds ex they only went out for 3 weeks and the relationship ended well she has moved on and been with her boyfreind for about 9 months now but i dont know wether its okai or not for me to like her ex please help!!!!!!!!! (link)
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Your friend's exes are off limits. It's just the known rule you may like this guy but it was your friend's ex. If you really like maybe talk to her about it and see how she feels about it. If not then you need to respect her wishes and back off the guy.
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ok i have a boyfriend and i really like him and i like this other guy to i know thats weird but its true. my boyfriend dosent do much with me and we barely talk but the other guy i like we talk all the time and he likes me. im so confused what do i do> (link)
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Well you have to think about what you want and what's going to make you happy. You say you and your boyfriend barely talk is this recent or is this something that's been going on. Do you see a future with your boyfriend? Does he make you happy? I don't know if it's best to be thinking about another guy when are in a relationship. Also you shouldn't just jump from one relationship to another that's not healthy either. I think you should think about what's going to make you happy and take sometime to yourself to think about what you want. Good luck!
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My roommate and I got along fine at the beginning of the semester, but things got really tense around the time midterms started. She stopped talking to me, and started listening to music really loud all the time. I asked her what was going on with our situation and she first said that I was a "know-it-ass" and that I should clean up my side of the room, and then a couple weeks later complained that she didn't feel comfortable in the room because I had been sleeping in late (I had been sleeping in late due to anxiety/depression). She told me that she wouldn't have agreed to room with me if she had known I had anxiety. She also frequently turns my alarm off in the morning. We've agreed to both try to move out for next semester, but I'm wondering if there's anything I can do in the meantime to make things less stressful. (link)
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I have had some room mates from hell let me tell you. A girl asked me to room with her and oof course I had hung out with her for a bit and thought she was cool so I agreed. She became so selfish while living with her she got to pick out how the room looked and when to go to sleep and who was allowed in the room a lot. It made me feel isolated and I was very unhappy. The RA got involved it was a huge mess. I finally moved out because I couldn't even stand the sight of her anymore. I don't speak to her because of it either. Its a shame that things happen the way they do but maybe you could really sit down and have an honest conversation with her. You girls have a couple more months of living with each other so its better to make the best of it. You don't have to be best friends but maybe find a common ground and common respect for each other and how you live. Once you leave that room though and get another room mate its not always for sure that you are going to find another room mate that you can get a long with. Living with someone is hard and you have to make some adjustments and be respectful of the other person as well. Be the bigger person! Good luck and I hope everything works out!
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One of my managers is in his low 20's, as am i. We both have sexual attractions towards one another and have discussed if we would sleep with each other. Has anyone every slept with their manager? Do you guys think it's a good idea if no one finds out? Thanks (link)
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It is never good to have relations with anyone you work with especially your manager. I understand that you should keep work seperate form your personal life but it will get a little awkward. God forbid if someone at your place of work finds out and with some companies there is a policy about relationships as well. I would think long and hard about it and is it worth it. There was a guy I worked with once who kept asking me out and constantly flirting with me at work. It got very awkward especially because I didn't feel the same way. I don't think its a good iea I think you should seperate your work life and your personal life just bringing them together is going to make a mess.
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