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Relations with wife and mother
I am 38 year old post graduate doing a good job in private sector having a marriage life of 12 years. My wife is graduate but my mother is only 4/5th class pass. She is also not aware of many things. There is a big difference in thinking and working of both. My wife doesnt like thinking and working of my mother and irretates every time with my mother. Also I am not fit for a proper sexual life since the starting of marriage life. But, my wife showed herself satisfied. Now, during persent days my wife quotes about this problem during hot discusssion regarding my mother. How should I manage relations between and with my wife and mother.
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Your mother is feeling a lot of insecurity and sometimes that causes people to lash out or become overly controlling.
Tell your mom, "mom, I love you and I'm glad to have you here, but I also love my wife and I would like have a more relaxed atmosphere around her for her to enjoy being with me. I know you're feeling somewhat insecure and shaken after dad died, but we're here for you, so relax because it pains me when I see two women I love not getting along."
That's about all you can do. This is a gnarly situation to be in. Good luck.
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Your wife is your wife but your mother is ALWAYS going to be your mother.
You're in a bit of a pickle my friend. It's understandable. What you need to do is explain to your both you wife and mother that they need to agree to disagree. When your wife married you she married into the family and that included your mother. She needs to respect your mother and her decisions. However, your mother needs to respect your wife as well. Your mother was the woman who raised you and made you the man you are today. Try spreading some positive light on the situation and if things get heavy you might suggest they need to work it out amongst themselves instead of getting you involved and bringing you into the middle of it. It's a tough situation! Good luck!
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