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My bf got hurt in a wreck last week and since I don't see him everyday anymore I don't have feelings for him now
My boyfriend got in a wreck a week or so ago. We used to see each other every weekend and every Friday. We were never apart. It was great. But now we barely see each other outside of school and I'm just not feeling our relationship anymore. This distance is terrible. I barely have the money and gas to go to his house and he has no car. We always said that the distance would never effect our relationship. I'm the first girl he ever felt strong feelings for and I never stop thinking about him, but not seeing him a lot makes me lonely and depressed. I try to hang out with friends and keep busy but I can't. How do I make these feelings go away? I could never ever break his heart.
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they say if you really want something or want to do something you will do it.. meaning you will find away. Relationships are about going thu good times and bad time .. bring each other up when there down and trying to keep peace around .. enjoy the time away from each other .. use this time to focuse on you and the things you like he will understand, let him know your reasons for not beable to be there but you both need to understand that things will only get better, he needs to focuse on getting health. The time you do see each other make the best of it, life is to short not to be happy. Lonely and depressed is the last thing your boyfriend needs .. he need you to be strong you need to be strong for your self he just got in a wreck be thankful hes alive .. when you start feeling lonely and depressed find things and people that you know make you happy, you have to know that being alone is time to get to know self and enjoy it.depresstion is a state of mine. so figure out what you truely want and live it out.
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Ever heard the saying 'distance makes the heart grow fonder'?
A lot of people say that you have to see your boyfriend everyday or talk to him everyday on the phone which isn't true. A relationship isn't based on physically seeing him all the time it's about getting through the hard times to make it to the good times. I know its tough now but you clearly have feelings for or else you would have just broke up with had you not felt anything for him anymore. Sometimes we have to accept the things we cannot change and right now your relaitonship has hit a rough patch everyone does. I've hit a rough patch, I had a problem at the beginning of my relationship with my boyfriend about seeing each other as well. As much as I love my boyfriend I don't need to see and talk to him everyday. I know he's thinking of and I know he loves me and thats all that matters.
Maybe write some snail mail for him to read that would be a cute thing to rekindle your relationship. I'm sure you can find someway to make the best of this situation and try to make a goal to see if there is at any point to meet up with each in the upcoming weeks. Good luck!
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Did he get hurt badly in the wreck? Maybee, him getting hurt in the wreck scared you a bit.. & made you afraid to have feelings for him. Because you're afraid that if you're in love with him, and something was to happen to him, you'd be alone?
For the distance thing, distance DOES make a relationship hard. I've been there, done that. But it's not impossible. If it's really worth it, then you have to push yourself to make the relationship work.
But you shouldn't try to change the way you feel. If you don't feel the same way you did about him before, then you can't help it. It's not meant to be. Maybe it's better to break up, and break his heart. Than to keep dating him, and try to change your feelings.. only to find out that you can't. Then breaking up with him in the end anyway.
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Distance really makes things difficult, but a lot of people can get threw it. My boyfriend and I broke up since my boyfriend felt the same way you did..because he became really depressed when he couldn't see me as much as he wanted to, but that shouldn't stop you from dating this guy.
If you don't want to break his heart, than don't. Stay with him, that will show him how much you care..and since he's been in this accident, you shouldn't want to break up with him, or lose interest in him, that's not fair.
Just call him and talk to him? Ask a friend to take you to see him? Couldn't you try that? Don't make a mistake and break up with him, he seems like he'd be a nice guy..and it's SO hard to find a decent guy now a days. I hope things workout! :/
Good luck <3
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Ok, first of all, I have to ask...was it him that you were into, or just the idea of being in a relationship? It sounds to me like you just miss hanging out with "a" guy...not necessarily "your" guy.
I could be wrong, but if it were my man, I'd find ways to get gas money. The longest I've been away from mine while we were together was 4 days. I'm sure it's probably been longer for you, but my point is that as agonizing as it was...my feelings for him never lessened. They got stronger. Do you at least talk to him everyday? It may not be what you want, but it's something that you can keep a link to him with. If you are really starting to lose interest, then it may be time to move on.
It's never easy to hurt someone, but the longer you wait, the more it will hurt. Of course, this is just my opinion. Yet, I assume that if you're on here, it's because that's what you're looking for (not necessarily mine, but someone's).
Best of luck!
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