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Can somebody tell me everything that goes on in the movie in detail [or not] thanks a ton :-] (link)
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You can read hundreds of reviews and articles on Thirteen on Rotten Tomatoes site (www.rottentomatoes.com) It will not give you every detail of the film or the type of synopsis you are looking for though. It just gives critical analysis.
The film which is one of my favorites is absolutely brilliant for among other things the standout and star-making performance by Evan Rachel Wood in one of two lead roles here.
It's a very poignant film from I believe a first-time director and screenwriter Catherine Hardwicke and her teenage daughter Nikki who is the other lead actress in it.
It's best that you see the film for yourself and draw your own opinion of it. It's readily available on DVD at videostores and places like Best Buy for purchase.
I say this to you because if this is for a class assignment or to write an essay for class etc. your teacher knows the film inside and out and will know what sources you used to construct the essay and that there were things that were critical that you left out completely.
On the flipside, if you're just looking to know more about it so you can rent it hit the Rotten Tomatoes link www.rottentomatoes.com which will come up with a short synopsis of it and reviews to help you make a decision.
There is a Wikipedia link to the movie and it does give a ton of detail on it. If you head there and type in the title tons of info on the film will come up including a synopsis of events.
Trust me, when I say it's very much flawed and won't help you if this is for home work where you were expected to see it yourself. Let it serve as a guide to help remember points but not to influence a project/essay if doing one or your opinion too much if just wanting to see the film.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Thirteen_%28film%29
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This horrible horrible rumor started that the guy that I've been talking to tried to make me have sex with him, and my (ex)best friend started it. I feel so terrible, because I was the one that told my friend that we were talking and she just leaked it out and it became into this whole big thing. So people probably think he is a huge freak and he's not and I really want to do something for him, but I don't know what. Any ideas? Please help. (link)
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Do you have his phone number? If you don't that's okay too because you need to talk to him alone. Tell him that you had a falling out with a friend who knew the two of you we're talking to eachother and she started the rumor.
Tell him that you think it is best if you both ignore it and act like usual. Let him know you had nothing to do with it and are equally embarassed by it. The best thing you can do is become united in letting this thing roll off your back like water off a duck.
Unless you give it power a rumor cannot affect either of you if it isn't true. Most people are not that stupid or ignorant to believe a rumor told by anyone much less the recently ex-friend of someone else who has an axe to grind here.
All you need to do is talk to him and tell him what you know and the truth is you had nothing to do with it and still want to be his friend or whatever else you were leaning towards becoming.
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My grandparents usually take me shopping for my birthday and i get to spend 100 dollars.
well i use to really like doing this with them, but now im 13 years old and(i really dont want to sound rude and ungrateful) i dont really like shopping with them any more.
i know it sounds really selfish, but i would rather them give me 100 dollars so i could go shopping with my friends.
i really need help. thanks! (link)
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There will come a time when your grandparents are no longer around to shop with or spend your birthday with. I would definitely let that sink in that one day you will wish you could go shopping with them one more time.
Your grandparents get a lot of joy from doing this and enjoy spending money on you. While you feel embarassed about shopping with them I feel you should suck it up and go. It won't hurt you to do so and if your friends see you it's not a big deal.
At least you can say you are close to your famly and especially your grandparents. However, you could talk to your mother about starting a new tradition.
Ask your mother to talk to your grandparents and have them take you to your favorite restaurant for dinner instead of shopping. She can tell them a semi-truth that you're hitting a growth spurt and buying clothing, shoes, shorts etc. is not a good idea as they won't fit soon.
Have her tell them that when it comes to music there's not a lot of bands you are really in to these days and you download all your music rather than purchase CDs or burn them off of friends.
Leave the restaurant and a movie idea on the table as well as gift-cards. It's up for them to decide what to give you for your birthday. Although you might not like to hear this even though they are your grandparents they owe you nothing, not a gift, not $100.00.
They do this because they love you and hope and think you'll enjoy and appreciate it. Being seen with them at the mall is no big deal. Talk to your mother about this and let her determine what is right.
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okay first off im 14/f.
so i masturbate alot..
and i mean i can get myself "happy" (you kno what i mean) but i do not orgasim.
i mean its to the point were i kinda am and kinda not.
is there anything i can do//use to make it even better.
i mean i orgasim when my boyfriend fingers me and stuff.
but for some reasson cant give myself one.
anyone have any thing i can try (link)
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The thing with orgasms is that they happen on their own and naturally. You cannot force it to happen. It just comes on its own.
Thinking to yourself while engaging in this activity that you must have one or trying to push things so you'll have one won't work. It will make it even harder to experience one as a result.
We cannot give you techniques as that gets you banned around here for very good reasons. If you are able to have an orgasm when with your boyfriend try and think about the things you were thinking about when he was fingering you.
If you think about those things that turn you on in that situation and apply them here and forget about having an orgasm entirely you'll no doubt experience one.
The other thing is that a lot of people start/stop what they are doing when engaged in this activity before climaxing and that can help as all that tension that is backed up gets released in orgasm .
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i want to send this ASAP!!
i really want to send an email to my coach because i want to ask her things that i dont get a chance to ask at practices. i have a lot of trouble fixing things i do in games unless i know EXACTLY what im doing wrong and EXACTLY how to fix it. and im pretty shy especially on that team so im having trouble wording this email.
i just want her to know that i want to improve and im going to practice hard, at our practices and on my own, but i need to know specifically what to work on and how to practice it. how do i start off an email like this? how do i say what i want to without sounding like disrespectful or anything?
thank you! (link)
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First, start out by telling him/her who you are as they may not get that from your funky e-mail alias when they see it in the inbox. Also give it a subject "Our Team" or something so he/she reads it first.
Thank them for having you on the team, compliment their work so far and then tell him/her that you don't get a chance at practice to ask for one on one tips etc. and are pretty shy.
Tell them that you would love to acheive certain things in the future and ask them if they will help you as well as give you tips to get better not only in e-mail but in person when they feel its needed.
Tell them that you want to work to overcome things that are difficult for you and that your medical condition has improved.
It's not disrespectful to e-mail provided you aren't bragging, aren't arogant about your abilities (which you aren't).
One way to ensure you aren't disrespectful is to put in your opening sentence Dear X I hope you do not mind me e-mailing you about our soccer club because iwanted your help/support on something related to our team and my progress.
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ive had orgasms but theyre not like the good ones in movies where the girl is like screaming and like going like ''oh ohhh!'' and i want something to maybe make it like that? but i dont wanna watch porn or anything cuz thats bad....is there like a story or something that is really sexy and turns me on alot?.....but i dont wanna google search or anything (link)
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First of all, what turns one girl on will not turn another one and the same thing with guys sexually. If someone wrote you an X-rated fantasy storyline as you had requested (which against the rules and reason for permanent banishment) it wouldn't help you.
The reason? Everyone is turned on by something different. What you need to do during masturbation is to think of something that is sexy to you or a real turn on and use your imagination to build on that and think about your own personal desires.
As far as movies and porn go it's all fake and scripted or designed to look a certain way. As long as you are acheiving pleasure from this and enjoying this act you're fine.
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Does anyone know what state Glenoke is in??? (from the TV show 7th Heaven)
Thanks soo muchh!! (link)
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According to Wikipedia info on the series and the Eric Camden character Glenoke (a fictional town) is meant to be in the state of California.
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For the last few weeks I've been having some crazy mood swings. I'll cry for no reason several times a day and it's not fun. I went to the doctor and she said it may be a symptom for Bipolar Disorder. I know some general infromation about it from one of my classes but do any of you know anyone with it and if so, what are some symptoms for it. I would like personal insight, not something from google. (link)
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I have Bipolar Disorder (also known as manic depression). Severe mood swings are a sign of the disorder but it's really a combination of things you need to worry about and look for rather than just the mood swings itself.
Do you have thoughts that just continue non-stop to race through your head all the time? This is a significant sign of the disorder.
Are you super energetic all the time to the point it's difficult to even function or settle down or you can no longer sleep at all? Thisstage is often called hypo-mania. It's not really dangerous unless coupled with several other symptoms.
Are you experiencing delusional thoughts, seeing things that aren't there or hearing voices, telepathic thoughts, directions etc. That's called mania and it's when you are clearly in trouble.
Keep a journal of your thoughts, emotions, energy levels, what triggers your moods to change etc. and your family watch out for the symptoms listed above.
As long as you are connecting with your doctor and phoning her/him if someting seems weird you should be out of the path of danger.
If the mood swings and odd behavior/symptoms keep happening ask your doctor for a referal to a psychiatrist or visit an emergency room (which it is in fact an emergency at that point) and get assessed. Don't leave things to the point where you are in the manic state.
If there's anything else you want to know hit my inbox with your questions. I hope this helps you out.
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well im a quiet guy. 15/m by the way. and the other day me and a few freinds drank...a lot. and i got pissed, nd i started to pee on one of the streets, and according to somebody, a really popular girl from school saw me, and told her freind "he's(me) disgusting!!" so yeah, should i be freaking? and what do i do if she tells everyone!? (link)
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It could be a lot worse than it is now. Had someone else observed you drunk and urinating in the streets you could have been arrested and charged with public intoxication as well as urination in public. That would be far worse than what this girl saw as well as thought.
The best thing to do is not worry for now about what she thinks but take this as a lesson about drinking responsibly in public. If she says anything about what she saw just remark to people "I was drunk when it happened and I've learned from it since."
Once you say that people will stop bothering you about it provided she even says anything unless you go about making a big deal of things and getting angry over it.
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ok so i love my boyfriend he is kind sweet and does anything if i ever needed it. the problem is his friend. Now i dont not like him ive just got mixed feelings about him. NOw im not one of those girlfriends that are like you cant hang out with him anymore i just want to know if there are anyways that might help me deal with his friend. I also told my boyfriend that if he ever wants a guys night out its ok and hes cool with that too. im not sure what else to do. any tips would help thanks (link)
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You do not need to feel guilty here. Not everybody likes certain eople they are introduced to or who are their boyfriend/girlfriend's friends. Just tell your boyfriend that you don't get along with X and will not be accompanying your boyfriend when he's with X.
Aside from telling your boyfriend that and letting him have his time out with said friend you've done everything you can to handle this right. Just don't be in places where this person is and establish a rule that he cannot be invited over even to social functions without your input.
Nobody including your boyfriend expects you to force yourself to like or tolerate him around you. You handled this like a pro.
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what does farce mean (link)
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A farce is a comedic or dramatic play/film that involves off-the-wall characters and ludicrous and implausible situations (that's the dictionary definition).
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Im 14/f and im 5'10. I know I'm tall. I HATE being tall. Anyway, how do I make myself look shorter? And also, do you think people think differently about tall girls? PLEASE BE HONEST. I would rather you say people dont like tall girls. Thanks so much. (link)
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Your height is something you cannot control because it's in your genes. Most people who are short would kill to be your height and most tall people want to be short. You cannot make a giraffe look the size of a monkey nor can you make someone who is 5 ft 10 look 5ft 4 or 5 ft 6.
Do people like/hate tall girls? If anyone likes or doesn't like you based on height they are really shallow people as to be honest it doesn't matter at all what height you are. All that matters is if you are a decent person or not.
To most people it doesn't matter at all. They have accepted that height is something nobody can control and it's a non-issue with the majority of people as well it should be.
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I have a problem because I really want to be in all the theater things and plays my school and town has to offer, but i'm only a good actress, not singer. I am a HORRIBLE singer. THis is so anniong because literally ALL of the productions in my town are musicals!! When I audition I have to embarass myself by singing, and I don't get a part/get a horrible part. Is there any way to solve this problem. Oh yeah and please don't tell me to take singing lessons cause there is no hope for my voice! (link)
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Actually voice lessons could do a lot for your voice even if you don't think so. A voice teacher could teach you proper breathing techniques, annunciation and enough tips to make your voice sound suitable enough to get you a place in the ensemble but never lead vocals.
While you want to be in every play that is going off in town you have to unserstand that it's not always possible. You have to learn how to audition for plays and parts that you know you can pull off in order to avoid embarrassment.
Perhaps you aren't meant to sing at all and just to act. That's fine as there's tons of parts out there for you. A lot of singers are bad or mediocre actors. My point is whether you sing or not there's always a place for you onstage.
If you really want to sing get voice lessons as a voice teacher can make your horrendous voice sound suitble to casting people so you'll at least get in ensemble numbers.
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i have to draw. and i suck at drawing. i am not allowed to draw stick figures. i usually jsut draw oval heads like this
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with eyes like 00
any tips on how to draw better???!!!! especially bodies! i don't want it to look like REALISTIC like the mona lisa.. i suck at drawing like that (link)
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As a kid I had difficulty drawing but there's a writer who made it easier for me. Lee J. Ames is his name and he puts out a series of books called the Draw 50 series.
His books teach you how to draw all kinds of animals, famous buildings, boats, trains, aircraft etc. etc. The series is now 30 years old from what I just read online. The best one in my opinion is how to draw 50 Famous People and how to draw 50 famous cartoon figures.
Try looking for his books in educational stores, Barnes and Noble etc. etc. and in Canada through Mastermind Educational, Chapters, Indigo or Book City.
You are more apt to find them in stores selling educational toys and books for kids/teens or stores that sell nothing but supplies for teachers.
You'll be able to pull off Mona Lisa if you really want to with his simple tips and cheats. It's designed for kids, teens, families so it's not a difficult thing as he breaks it down step by step on what to do. Trust me, if it wasn't easy I wouldn't be recommending it to you.
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so my dad really worrys about me and my boyfriend.and like we've gone out before..but my dad wants to meet him.and is like oh he shuld be afraid,like i know he is kidding, but idk how can i make everyone happy? like my dad wants him to come over my house and stuff..its just weird b/c my bf is a little uncomfortble..but is fine with the idea? (link)
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Tell your boyfriend that your father is a very kind man and just likes to meet the boys his little girl dates.
Tell him there's nothing at all to fear and that your dad might just ask him a few questions about goals and interests, crack a few jokes and that's it. Tell him that your dad just wants to make sure boys have good intentions towards his baby.
There's nothing weird about this at all. It's very common and just two people meeting each other who both care about the same thing (YOU).
It will go just fine and shouldn't be uncomfortable at all because your dad knows he just wants to meet him and that this embarasses you and probably the guy. He'll make it short and sweet no doubt so you and your boyfriend can go about what you had planned.
Make everyone happy here and introduce him to dad who will meet him and then let you go about your business. In fact, tell your father how you feel and that you don't want your boyfriend to be uncomfortable and to keep the meeting short.
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f/16
My boyfriend came over last night to watch a movie(we werent planning on doing anything).
During the movie, we started to make out.
Then it came to me giving him a bj.
After that he told me how much he loved me & he asked if we wanted to have sex.
i said yes, and as soon as he was taking my undies off, my little sister (10 years) walked in on us. I didnt even know she was home!
She just kinda stood there, and i yelled at her to get out.
Right after that my bf had to go home.
i dont know what to do because shes probably going to tell my parents & i dont want them to know!
help please? (link)
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You never mentioned whether or not she has had sex education at school or from you folks. That's a HUGE factor here. If she hasn't you'll have to talk to her about everything and answer her questions honestly.
Tell her that when two people really love one another that they have sex and explain the machanics and ask her if she has any questions at all about what she saw? If so answer her honestly.
Then tell her that this is a secret and confidential that she can ask about this topic and get answers and nothing about that or what happened ever leaves the room.
Yelling at her may have given her a mixed signal that what she saw was wrong or dirty or frightened her. Tell her you yelled because you were surprised and didn't want her to see something she wasn't ready or old enough to know about or fully understand.
She is not likely to go to your parents as she's going to be very embarrassed by it. If she goes to anyone it will be you. She may not even have any desire to approach you as a lot of kids are either curious or unphased by it thinking it gross and don't want to bring it up again.
Others need to talk. She won't likely go to your parents because a lot of kids who have walked in on someone don't want to be scolded for seeing what they saw.
Go approach her now about it and be open and honest as you can. You might even want to get her a book on the subject and growing up etc. Talk to her and then leave her alone until she comes to you.
If she ever did tell your parents (which she won't) just be honest that yes something happened, you spoke to her about it and she's okay and that you use protection and will only do this behind closed doors to avoid further problem.
Your parents are not apt to be angry once they realize you were being safe and she walked in by accident. It could have as easily happened to themselves so they ought to understand.
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ok so my best guy friend has recently started holding my hand walking down the hallways and people keep asking if we're a couple. and no we're just friends but i really like him and i dont know if he likes me though. he doesnt know that i like him cbecause i never told him. i dont wanna tell him either. today he saw my bottle cap bracelet- like if a guy breaks it then you have to makeout with him. and he was tugging on it lol i think he was just playing around but what if he really wants to kiss me? ok so it started off with just hugging and then he satrted telling me he loves me and now the holding hands - on a daily basis in public. does he like me? and if he does whats the next step? is it kissing cuz i havent had my first yet and i dont know when its gonna happen but im pretty sure its gonna be really soon. ahh im nervous in a good way. thank you! (link)
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So, you want to skip the getting to know you step in favor of kissing? You have nothing to worry or be scared about as this guy sounds like a sweet person who is so incredibly in to you.
The holding hands, the bracelet incident and everyone encouraging you to become a couple are all great signs. The thing is as much as you both may try to deny it you're a couple already and just need to say something to confirm it all.
You have to remember he's as scared as you are about a relationship and being rejected etc. He's sending you signals that he wants to be with you but isn't confident about himelf to just ask you out. So, you're going to need to just go for it.
Tell him that you like the fact people think you are together and enjoy holding his hand but you need him to confirm whether or not he wants to be with you because you're ready.
Just be honest hon and don't hide it or fight it because you both know what you truly want but are both too scared just to say it. After you begin your relationship and get to know eachother then you can get to kissing.
All you need to do is tell him the truth that you've never been kissed before and ask him to guide you through it. Guys enjoy this and the practicising so it's no big deal. As long as you match his tongue movements and don't stick your down his throat you're okay.
Lick his lip a little and probe around like a snake would with its tongue in gentle flicks if you kiss open mouth. Stick with pecks first and build up to it. Once you've done it it's second nature like riding a bike. You'll be okay. Go after him though as he's a good catch.
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14/f. ok, well i have a boyfriend, but i dont really know him. its like, i know him but i never really talked to him a lot. and its weird, because when he calls its just like, "yeaaa" akward silences! im deffinatly scared i'll be uninteresting,i mean i like him a lot,i havent had a boyfriend befor, i dont know what to do! and cant think of anything to say, help, please?!=/ (link)
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Do you really think he would find you disintersting? He must find you interesting or he would not be dating you. You just have to let yourself go here and toss fear out the window.
All he's looking for you to be is the girl that first caught his eye in the first place. He saw something there obviously that he liked.
Just be yourself. Start talking to him like you would your very best friend. It's really not that different at all. Find out about his interests, favotite movies, passions, goals, family, bands etc etc.
Also, confess to him that you have always been shy especially around guys you liked and ask him to be patient with you until you become more comfortable with the relationship.
Let him know you like, him and want to date him. He will help you come out of your shell more if he knows this.
Just remember you are no less interesting than anyone else. Believe in who you are and in your head always remember that he must have found you attractive, apealing and interesting or he wouldn't want to be with you period.
All you need to do is tell yourself in your head that A) he's interested in me for a reason B)He cares what I have to say C) if I treat talking to him like I do anyone else I'll succeed.
Also, he's just as terrified of you as you are of him and talking to you and looking bad. Once you tell him about your fear he'll probably confess he feels the same way you do.
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i used to masterbate
and i dont know it felt weird like i was rubbing my hand against something like rigid
inside of my vagina
it felt weird like not painful but a very awkward feeeling and i dont know i just didnt like it like my nails would rub on the rigidness
and idk
is that normal ? (link)
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Contrary to popular belief the vagina's walls are not completely smooth and sometimes feel like a old washboard. This is 100% normal and there's nothing wrong with you at all.
Your real problem is with your nails. You need to keep them trim or you can cause cuts and scrathes, or abraisons to your genitals. You should be okay then if this is an activity you plan on continuing with.
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during puberty where I think about sex a lot, and kinda get attracted to it.
I kinda sneek into my parents rooms and look at their porno videos, its sooo BAD. But i can't stop looking at that stuff.
And sometimes I go to websites with pictures, bad pictures.
I wanna stop, but cant, what do I do?!
thx
kp:\ (link)
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There really is nothing to be ashamed about here at all. You were curious and turned to the Internet and videos, pictures to find out about sex and how, why people do certain things.
Every guy and girl or nearly everyone of both sexes has done the same thing you did with sneaking a look at porn, magazines, pictures and we all turned out fine. You will too.
But, and this is a major but pornography is meant only for adults aged 18+ and over and not legal to sell let alone screen in the presence of minors. Bottom line, you shouldn't be looking at it at all period but having already done it this will not permanently scar you for life unlike it would if someone really young who was just a kid saw it. That's why rules are in place as teens and kids are vulnerable.
It's also your parent's videos so you don't need the embarassment of being caught looking at them especially if they were moved from where they were kept and they suddenly cannot find something.
With the Internet you are also required to be 18+ to go on those sites. The disclaimers mean something and are meant to keep young people out so the site isn't liable.
There's also on a lot of them age verification info and clauses. If you lie and there's a problem where that's discovered it's bad news for everybody the site included as you are a minor accessing images you have no right to see/download just yet.
There's nothing really bad about the pictures though or what is in them as when it comes to sexual practices nobody defines what's normal.
It's normal sexual behavior on display in those pictures meant for adults only of course that many people view and are turned on by. It's all okay or considered to be fine by society.
It's DEAD WRONG if the pictures depict minors, rape, torture etc. as the people in them were coerced and forced to partake and that kind of picture is illegal, immoral etc. and can land you in a lot of trouble.
I know you're not looking at that kind of thing but I'm making a point of putting it here so others know.
The people in the pictures you are seeing online unless from magazines may have also been coerced into it or abused or have some really bad story.
What you need to know is that it's okay to be curious about sex and want to know about it or what things are or actually look like.
Just know that porn is not where to learn that (not at your age at least) and that it's also all fake and staged etc and often very degrading to women.
Stopping is hard but if remind yourself every time you want to look at it again that A) this is not for me to look at B) I don't want to be caught doing it and C) If I really want to know what sex is about I can get books about it with illustrations and diagrams and ask my parents or someone I trust these questions.
You just have to remind yourself when tempted over and over until you get it that you don't want to look at this again until I'm old enough until it sticks with you. Every time you are tempted do something else or go outside and play basketall etc. Find something else to occupy your time so you're never bored.
Also, with the computer understand you're getting traced and sites are sending you cookies too. Your parents if they are savvy can figure out exactly what you've been doing and looking at.
On the flipside, if looking at pictures is a problem you yourself can have someone you know from school or an adult other than your parents etc install Net Nanny for you and not give you the password to get around the pornography block.
I think you're pretty responsible though and can handle this by just finding other ways to occupy your time so you're never bored enough to dig into the porn again.
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